we were born to mothers who smoked and drank
Posted By: anon on 2008-06-24
In Reply to: I don't think I would allow it. - Chele
our cribs were covered in lead based paint. .And we turned out okay. . Your MIL would not EVER knowingly do anything to harm your child. . but 9 months old seems a little young - if she were older and could sit up and hold on, and MIL drove real slow, maybe it would be okay. . My dad used to take my daughter rides on the tractor - I worried but never said anything - it didn't happen often. . I think she should have asked you first.
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my mom and dad smoked and my dad drank sm
it played a big role to me. i never picked up a cigarette in my life and i don't drink. not sure why you took that post so personally.
Smoked country ham and smoked turkey with
dressing, hash brown casserole, green beans, broccoli salad, pretzel salad, homemade yeast rolls, chocolate pie, chess pie, etc. etc. Plus all the fudge, candy, and chocolate homemade chex mix sitting all over the place. Probably rice crispie treats and chocolate covered marshmellows for the kids, etc.
you said it...but I never drank and others are cured..
Steve Tyler (Aerosmith) shared his info last year, that he completed Rebetron and was free of disease. So, this is a good thing! They are coming up with all new things of late, and this is great!! I'm just happy I'm pretty healthy and I have had it for probably 35 years...I have to pinch myself to remind myself I have it.
went to dinner, drank alcohol, went home...
took a Vicodin for pain, fell asleep, got up, stumbled, fell down, unconscious and friend tried administering CPR....to no avail while rescue was on their way
as it turned out, he had stopped taking his BP medications the 2 weeks prior, so that's the reason he died....we do believe......... but the combination of vicodin and drink contributed we also believe....
:(
If I drank tea in middle of night, I'd pee 3-4x before sun up. A quick shot puts me right
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mothers day
how sweet. I have some of my kids friends, who send me gifts for mother's day and they are so sweet. They have given me pics framed of a special tie we spent together or they have given me certificates for Spa day, (my favorite one yet),and then I had one send me flower basket, I am sure whatever you decide it will be special
Mothers!
You are known by the company you keep.
Do you want a whipping? ( o h, of course I do!)
mothers
you know, I didn't take it way. she said she is doing for her mother, I just assumed she needs to let it out and it would be better here than at her mother.
Ladies, please tell your mothers this
If they are in the midst of a divorce after all these years, they can get a very good lawyer and have most all their husbands have made or have. I know this for a fact, happened to my cousin. A wife after this long of a marriage (could be even less) gets money from not only what he brings home but can got after any homes (they have to either be sold and money divided or she might even get), they can go after any IRAs the male has, any savings, bank accts and even insurance money- say a guy has a 500,000 insurance on his life- in case of his death the longtime wife can even get half of that! A good lawyer gets good money for the wife- do not sit back and let them accept pennies- they can come out smelling like a rose. I have known scorned wifes who have sued for alleniation of affections in courts (old, old terms but your mothers probably heard of it) and won millions against insurance carrier of people involved. Ladies, please tell your mothers about the above, don’t let her settle for crumbs after all these years!
Helicopter Mothers
My friend was talking about helicopter mothers today (I like the term!) and I asked her if her mother was like that. She said NO! Was mine? NO! Then we tried to think of childhood friends whose mothers were like that, and we couldn't think of a one. But we both know several women our age or younger who seem to hover over their children, small or GROWN! I feel sorry for those kids.
Are you one, or do you know one? Was your mother one? Did your childhood friends have helicopter moms?
Stay at home mothers
Dont you just love this. Just saw an article on stay at home mothers and how much they should be paid for their work week, think they said $183,000 plus- get this- they were saying how much time they put in each week for their work, how hard it was and the interviewing showing scads of mothers with their children at the play grounds, swinging, running around, just seemed to be having a good ole time to me. Ah, just to be a stay at home mother, nothing like that hard work!
Mothers Day gift ideas
Also try www.vermontteddybear.com -- I got one for V-day from my SO and he is darling and ordered 2 for my aunts, one who was diagnosed recently with cancer and another for her b-day -- cute little tropical girls :) and their delivery is WONDERFUL!!!!
I think that women have issues because of their mothers.
I know I have some, but try to realize what I am doing.
no, the smoked ones are different,
and i haven't tried them...but i might have to.
Mothers of HIV children and news I got this morning
My daughter is now 35. My daughter has had HIV since 1992. She is a grown woman and she makes her own decisions; however this morning as I was asking her about how to pack meds for a trip I am going on as I figured she knew being as she had gone last year on a vacation, she advised me that she has not taken her meds since the year she was married, 2001! To say I was shocked was an understatement. I know out of those years I had asked if she were seeing her doctor and some time in those years slipped by without the visits like I thought she should be having. However she tells me this morning she does not tell me everything, especially if she thinks I might fuss at her. She had stunned silence this morning when she told me and we could not talk om depth as she was at her job but she did tell me she would talk with me later about this if I wanted to. She tells me the medicine is really toxic and her numbers have been fine during this period of time. I am wondering, are there other mothers out there like me with a loved one who is not taking their medicine and how are they doing? I know she is grown and I do not tell her how to live her life nor do I tell her about she should take her medicine- that is a person's own right but I am concerned, of course.
Another country heard from...guilty mothers
who think only material things make their little one happy, have to get affirmation and praise for every decision they make...your poor husbands!
My mom smoked for 63 years. She
always had healthy lungs. After she broke her hip the first time, the doctors kept telling me to get her off the cigarettes. She would not quit, but I finally got her to quit 2 years later by telling her I quit, because she also started falling asleep with lit ciggies and burning things.
Three months later, she was in for another broken hip. After the films came back from her chest x-ray, the ER physician pointed out a nodule in her lung...not sure if it was the start of lung cancer and wanted to keep close watch. I hate to say this, but thank heavens she never came home. I would have felt very guilty for making her stop and she might have gotten lung cancer through not smoking.
My husband's mother died from lung and back cancer. She had smoked all her life and quit. A year later, she was gone.
Makes you think and wonder about it.
I smoked for 20 years...sm
and I quit a little over a year ago, 11/15/07. It was hard...so hard, and I still want to smoke at times. I used Commit, and could not have done it without that. I still use Commit sometimes. But I feel SO much better since quitting! It can be done! Think of it this way...are you more afraid of quitting or of dying from smoking? Me, I'm more afraid of dying from smoking. Good luck to you! Just know it is absolutely possible!
I'd say it depends how long you have smoked - sm
and how old you are. A friend of mine quit and went about 8 months or so, is now back to a 3-4 cigs a day due to stress, brother died (accidental drug/alcohol OD--plus he had diabetes and hepatitis), then mom got lung cancer (was still smoking at 78, 50+ years smoker, 2 heart attacks), I don't know if she quit but she had stage IV so they knew she did not have long (3 months or so). My friend is still doing the 3-4 cigs a day though she felt so much better NOT smoking. Yes she gained some weight, but she had a 3 floor walk-up apartment so that helped her some. I am hoping she will quit for good here soon. Her stress level has dropped as she moved back in with her dad (though he is not the easiest person to live with)...he wants her to have the house when he dies which is probably soon....he was terribly affected by his son and wife's deaths. Smoking sucks, plain and simple. I am a nonsmoker. I hate the smell, cannot understand how anyone can deal with stinking all the time, having a smelly home, smelly clothes, car, etc. We just stayed in a hotel last weekend, a nonsmoking room....I smelled the cig smoke the second I walked in the door, wanted another room but it was fully booked. It was not too bad but still annoyed me that I had a room, that had a balcony, where someone smoked where they were not supposed to. Sorry, ranting. ---Unless you are over 55 or so and have smoked for 30+ years I would not worry about lung cancer. My DH quit before I met him, had smoked for 12 or so years, pack a day. He is in great shape, lung cancer in his family too. He has been smoke-free for 20 years now. His lungs get sore when around lots of smoke though, and he did have pneumonia really bad right before I met him that I think did some damage (he was seriously ill for 3 weeks) to his lungs as they are very sensitive now as I said. But other than that he is healthy as a horse. Quit. Set aside the money you save and take a nice vacation next summer. You will lose your chronic cough, smell tons better, get your taste buds back, get rid of that stain on your teeth and fingers, and once all the nicotine is gone add a few years BACK onto your life. Good luck!
i like smoked salted almonds
is that the same thing? lol
I used to buy them in bulk
but it's almost like they dont fill me up, even though they do.
i guess it's that they aren't satisfying even though i like them, you know?
:)
Both of my parents smoked two packs a day inside.
Dad has COPD and asthma now. DH smokes but only in his garage and less than a half-pack per day. I have asthma now that's aggravated by cigarette smoke. I can't even be around it in an enclosed space. I've never allowed anybody to smoke inside my house because of my kids.
I used to smoke and NEVER smoked inside the house. nm
No message.
marry someone who smoked or couldn't sing sm
He smokes and won't be on American Idol anytime soon but isn't completely awful lol
All I can pinpoint is that my son smokes and maybe a vet/tech smoked??? nm
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Please understand, being that you are younger than how long I have smoked, docs
used to ENCOURAGE it - I am sure others can remember. Doc sitting with a pack of cigarettes in his shirt pocket and suggesting it for best stress reliever. Do I blame them? No, not at all. I truly feel that cancer is such a huge money machine that medicine would be hurting poorly if a cure was actually found (or disclosed). And, as you have not smoked before, you are entirely correct in that you cannot understand.
I quit (I am still fairly young, so only smoked 8 years), but
I feel so much better. Even if someday I get lung cancer despite having quite, I am thankful to not wake up coughing every morning and to have clothes that don't stink and to be able to tell my kids not to smoke without being a hyprocrite. I can tell them why I quit. Mostly, I just feel better for the time being and that is enough. Plus, I save A LOT of money because cigarettes were darned expensive in Washington state.
a friend's b/friend died last year, drank, took vicodin...
Wonder if they would take my first born?
I was gonna hold back, I think someone above said 20%, but after seeing your post may hold back the 30. I have already taken money out of an account to redo my house where I live, about $20 thousand (that counts as income)and with this upcoming closing, I will just set the 30% aside. I detest the IRS but also fear because I do not want them showing up at my home!
I was born 10-26-62, ...
dh was born 10-03-63
My dad always used to say I was born in the -(sm)-
wrong century! Actually, I would like to travel back in time to around 1915, so I could attend the Panama Pacific Exposion that was held in San Francisco. The only remnant of that amazing, year-long event is the Palace of Fine Arts in the Marina District.
Well, lets see, I was born in
1943 so I think probably around before most on these posts and lived through a myriad of history and information. What I said was if Merck did not make the profits, another drug company would. That is all. Millions, trillions made all the time on drugs. I am sure all pharmaceutical companies lobby for their drugs. If not 1 drug company, just will be another. I have no children that would require this and I do not live in Texas but if they are going to be mandatory in Texas, probably coming your way before long.
the baby did ask to be born
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Born in Korea, but.....
I would say the guy definitely Americanized during his 15 years here. After all, he spent 2/3rds of his life here. Now honestly, look at our society over the years - what is more American than using a gun to solve your problems? Gun violence is NOT part of the Korean culture.
No, not illegal, born here but
from the getto part of town. Don’t assume about things, ok? We are talking about a person who has never held a regular job, has lived off welfare, gotten food stamps and besides that, it is no where close to slave labor. OMG. She has been around so long she does what is the basics and then watches a lot of televison. Slave, she usually calls me and asks if I have anything for her to do.
why could not have I been born rich
instead of goodlooking? 
for me, they have to be born 1966 or later...
Born and raised here but.......
I have never had sweetbreads or like you call it organ meat, not in my lifetime either unless starving. I know of no one in my family nor have I ever met that eats such. Oh BTW, my big chain grocery carries liver (as I suppose most stores in the US do) but have never seen the other organ meats you speak of so I guess in the south maybe not so popular?
Nov. 22, 1990 my son was born. sm
He was due on that date, kind of unusual for a baby to actucally come on their due date. I went into labor about 10:00p.m. on Wednesday night while watching "It's a Wonderful Life". So, labor all night long with really bad back labor. Found out about 5:15a.m. he was feet first (went to the doc on Tuesday and he was head first). So had a c-section and he arrived at 6:13a.m. I didn't get the turkey and all the trimmings but something so much better. Of course his b-day doesn't always fall on Thanksgiving but it did yesterday. It was fun visiting with all the family and hearing their take on that day. My mom's first thought was who will make the broccoli casserole? LOL!
She is just beautiful and was born on my b-day
I have vacationed at Myrtle Beach many many times. I had a friend from high school move there a couple of years ago and she loves it there. Being a resort town you just have to deal with a lot of tourists certain times of the year and right after graduation look out for the teenagers. That is where I went right after graduation (and hey, I didn't end up in jail! LOL)
Thanks - I love it too - was born there sm
My parents moved to Jacksonville but I still go to Amelia Island/Fernandina Beach almost every year.
It says she was Brazilian born - nm
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meant to say "baby did not ask to be born"
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Do you think the ONE world leader has been born yet? If so, who.
nm
I was not born rich but over the years
I have had untold wealth given to me, quite a bit. I think where this comes from is the fact that I always and I mean always think about the underdog. I give from my heart to things whenever I can, when I hear a story that I feel I should try to give, animals, people in distress, you name it and if the story says I should try to help a particular cause, I do. I really have tried to impress upon my children and grandchildren IF you give from the heart, it so much comes back to you. I have not run out of money giving, in fact just the opposite, had wealth literally fall in my hands and I think this is why. What a person needs to understand is I give because I really want to, not because I have to and I never look for a return but there always is. I cannot count the times when giving and here money comes back. This is how I try to live my life.
you'd bet your first born on an anonymous post
I think YOU might be ill and need a therapist. I'm not that poster but I think your response here is assumptive and presumptive and you *seem* so much smarter than this.....you cannot assume anything on a public board online....and you said YOU'D BET YOUR FIRST BORN on your thoughts about that poster.....I think you need to recheck your priorities...........
JMO..........
Born and raised in Ewa Beach,
have not been home in almost 21 years. I think I like Bermuda better.
depends on how the kids were born...
How do I know this? My hubby and I have Hep C (in remission) and our child was born via vertical C-section (she was in a posterior-transverse lie, almost breech). She never got the hepatitis because she was not born vaginally.
There's so much online to back up what I'm saying, just check it out - Google for the issue. She has been tested twice and is totally negative. *happy*
BTW, specialist hepatologist told me I'll never die from this disease, I have that mild a case my entire life (since my 20s)...and have remained at Stage 1 all these years....
I, too was born in the 40s. Sure you heard of disrespect and
bad kids and teenagers, but there it was never, ever to the degree we see it today, and all sorts of new problems like the drug addiction, animal cruelty, arson, carjacking drive by shootings, constant robberies, etc. In my home town a chain of convenience stores was hit about 5 times in the last few weeks. They say they caught the four who were doing it. Also on today's news was the report they caught the murderer they have been looking for. . a youth who killed someone in my home town over drugs. We had our problems back then, but nothing like this. It is totally out of hand.
Was born and raised in WV. Now I live
just across the state line in VA. Am still a WV girl at heart. Can't think of a better song to sing. Would rather sit in the sun as opposed to raking leaves though! LOL!
Oh, so it's better to abort a child then let it be born
You have a right to have an abortion obviously, but I don't think you have much room to judge someone else accidentally getting pregnant since you obviously accidentally got pregnant too. I guess you're judging her decision to give birth to the baby then - not the fact that she got pregnant. interesting.
This reminds me of one of my sister's friends. She is a catholic (no offense to catholics - it's just what she is), and she has had 3 or 4 abortions because she cheats on her husband and doesn't want "2 different kids from 2 different men." Yeah, she judges people that have kids from 2 different guys, yet she just aborts babies left and right to avoid having the kids! The interesting thing is she just had a baby that was supposed to be her husband's but the kid looks NOTHING like him. She disgusts me. I can't figure out why my sis is still friends with her!
I was so tired after my children were born (sm)
I wanted to be left alone because my house and myself were a mess. I was exhausted and did not have enough help from family, but the kind of mess you don't want your friends seeing. I should clarify that I had a c-section each time, so was recovering from that. I would maybe bring her food and give it to whoever answers the door with a note that says "I know you're still exhausted - I'm here if you need me - call me when you're up to it." And leave it at that. Just be patient. Unfortunately some of my friends abandoned me too and a few weeks later when I needed them, they were unavailable.
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