we used to do something similar when I was a teenager sm
Posted By: Dip lover on 2008-08-24
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(back when the earth was still cooling,LOL). We took a block of cream cheese and poured Tiger Sauce over it. Sure was good!! Don't know if Tiger Sauce is even still available but it would probably be along where the hot sauce is in the grocery store.
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as a teenager those were the best sm
I just remembered that it really sucked waiting for the dough "to rise". Never really saw any difference but my BFF and I loved them. We also loves Pizza rolls, couldn't get enough of them.
this isn't about you, and your're not a teenager
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Yes. Make your teenager responsible for as much as she can pay for.
and maybe a little more. Don't make it easy. Make sure that she has to work a little (not so much that grades suffers), has to budget, and plan and take the responsibility of driving seriously. This is more than likely the most dangerous thing your child has done so far her life. Make sure she understands that. It's not a social thing, a drive-around-with-your-friends thing. Preparing a young person for driving responsibilities is life and death.
Unfortunately, in the last three yeas, I've been to three funerals for teenage drivers -- all of whom were out of control in every aspect of their lives. Our state does not allow children to become licensed drivers until age 16-1/2. Our house rule was age 17. We did pay for the driver's ed, because it was pricey, our sons truly could not afford it, and we wanted our boys to have ever chance to learn to drive safely. Even though we taught them ourselves, as well, sometimes kids hear better what total strangers say to them! Also, I had a rule during permit driving sessions with my boys. They were never allowed to argue with me while we drove together. I was the teacher. I knew more than them. No arguing over anything, or else I terminated the lesson, car was pulled over, I drove home and that was the end until I felt we were ready for another driving lesson. That rule drove home how serious a responsibility driving is. I only had to do it once to one of my sons.
My oldest was lucky enough to inherit is grandfather's pristine 1991 Toyota (38,000 original miles) when pop-pop no longer could drive. It's a decent, dependable car. My son pays for repairs and gas. We pay for the insurance at this point, simply because we live in a big eastern city, and insurance is sky high. But, our son is also paying his own college tuition, so I have no problem helping him out with the insurance on his car.
This is a big deal. Make sure your daughter grasps the gravity of the responsibility. Don't argue with her about anything. These decisions have to be made by the parents, because it's a health and safety issue for your daughter and everyone else on the road with her.
comparing yourself to a teenager makes you look...
and you don't know how to put "no message" on outside of your post, so we don't have to waste time clicking to open your message just to see there is no message!
I think she said in her post that it was a teenager in her neighborhood.
My daughter would do it for that amount just for spending money. I wish I could have someone come in just once a month to do major cleaning. My daughter and I with the help of my husband do cleaning every Saturday with of course spot cleaning during the week, but just once a month would be great to do the things I hate doing.
Need advice on teenager vehicles......sm
Okay, it is time to get my 16-yo her own vehicle. I intend to get her an older vehicle (less than 10 yrs old), pay cash for it as I don't want payments for she or myself. How does everyone handle with kids what percentage you make them pay for etc? I want her to learn responsibility and appreciate the vehicle, just by my preference would prefer to pay in cash (less than $5000, hopefully). Do I make her responsible to pay her own insurance or half of it? By her own gas? or should I make her buy the car from me? Not sure what everyone else does so I would like some ideas as I said, I don't want to just give her everything in life. I want to make her earn it, take care of it, appreciate it, and be responsible, but don't want to go overboard either. She is in 10th grade, A/B student (Currently 11th place in class and working towards bumping up to be in top ten by the time she graduates). She is very well behaved, never a troubled child. She does have a lot of activities that would prevent her from making much of any income with an after school job. She is varsity cheerleader (off season just now, but will practice all summer), plays tennis, basketball/baseball manager, takes tumbling classes 1 night a week. So she is very busy in a good way. She would also be driving siblings to school for me and running errands occasionally. Anyone care to share what you do/have done or have any ideas/suggestions?
When I was a teenager my mother had mono
My dad and the doctor (IMO) ingored the problem until she had such a high fever that she was halucinating. At that point I informed my dad that he had two choices, take her to the hospital or call 911. He took her in and they were all amazed at how bad she was. I know they gave her some kind of antibiotic.
I could have shot my dad. He is a total hypochondriac and yet he would let her go that far.
When I was a teenager I loved babysitting
There were a couple of incredible kids right across the street that I often babysat for. I had them one New Year's Eve and I had planned games and made cupcakes for them to decorate. We had a blast.
There was a family behind us that had a 4yr old daughter and 2yr old twin sons. I only babsat for them once. I took my purse with me when I went to their house and one of the kids tried to get into it so I put it on top of the fridge. Walked into the kitchen a couple of minutes later and found one of the kids standing on a chair trying to get to my purse. Found another kid in the upstairs kids bathroom with an entire bottle of shampoo poured out all over the throw rug. I finally got them calmed down and was reading to them while sitting on the floor in the den. I have no idea how this happened but within a matter of a couple of minutes I was "accidentally" poked in both eyes. I spent 3 hours with these "kids" and got $5.00. After that every time the mom called I was busy.
When I was a teenager, my Dalmatian chewed
both of the rear tail-lights off my dad's new Lincoln Continental. She also once ate an entire, 6-foot leather leash. Taking her for a walk was like going out with a vacuum-cleaner with legs!
You sound like a little teenager with your response
You were the one who was giving a free ticket to a man freaking out after a childbirth. There is not that much freaking in the world. Grow up! You should have listened more closely to the adults when you were smaller. Your post was ridiculous.
I wish to share with you my experience as a teenager.
Hi T: Your story sounds a little like what happened to me as a teenager. Well really I was a virgin until 17, but after that I went through a period when I declared my independence -- or at least I thought I was. You are so right though about girls waiting and they should not just go for sex with the 1st boy they meet. I really feel sorry for girls who get caught up in this lifestyle, thinking to be popular with the boys, they have to do this. Where are their mothers and dads who should guide them and give them enough confidence that they can just walk away and not worry if they are popular or not.
I find this behavior very sad and disappointing for the girls involved. Of course now that I am much older and I realize how foolish this was for me. But there is still a hypocritical element to our society and boys want to get as many of the girls they can, but in the end they do not respect them. What a vicious circle it is as a teenager. I am just glad that is all behind me, as I am up in age near retirement.
If I had a chance to talk to the young girls, I know what I would say. You must value yourself and avoid any young men who would degrade you in any way. I just wish I had a mother to be there for me at that very difficult time in my life. That would make all the difference in the world.
P.S. T do not be too harsh on yourself. I think I know where you were coming from (mind set). This is a painful part of my past, which I have always wished to cover up. It is healing to bring it out in the open.
I wish to share with you my experience as a teenager.
Hi T: Your story sounds a little like what happened to me as a teenager. Well really I was a virgin until 17, but after that I went through a period when I declared my independence -- or at least I thought I was. You are so right though about girls waiting and they should not just go for sex with the 1st boy they meet. I really feel sorry for girls who get caught up in this lifestyle, thinking to be popular with the boys, they have to do this. Where are their mothers and dads who should guide them and give them enough confidence that they can just walk away and not worry if they are popular or not.
I find this behavior very sad and disappointing for the girls involved. Of course now that I am much older and I realize how foolish this was for me. But there is still a hypocritical element to our society and boys want to get as many of the girls they can, but in the end they do not respect them. What a vicious circle it is as a teenager. I am just glad that is all behind me, as I am up in age near retirement.
If I had a chance to talk to the young girls, I know what I would say. You must value yourself and avoid any young men who would degrade you in any way. I just wish I had a mother to be there for me at that very difficult time in my life. That would make all the difference in the world.
P.S. T do not be too harsh on yourself. I think I know where you were coming from (mind set). This is a painful part of my past, which I have always wished to cover up. It is healing to bring it out in the open.
Bulemic teenager - advice needed...sm
I've suspected for a while that my soon to be 16 stepdaugher is bulemic but her dad doesn't believe it. Right after she eats a meal she goes to the bathroom and stays a long time. She has lost about 40 lbs over the past year. Today while doing laundry I found a note that she wrote and says:
Eat & Die. No eat for a week (in & out) Lose 10 lbs. Eat again.
I am going to share this with my hubby when he calls while on a lunch break from work. Perhaps now he'll believe me. I've called the pediatrician's office and left a message for them to call me with the name of a psychologist treating eating disorders to take her to.
Any ideas of how to handle him if he still is in denial? I'm sure the stepdaughter will deny the eating disorder... she did before when I asked her about it. Overall she & I do have a good relationship but this is an area I know she's not being honest about.
i would take this opportunity to educate your teenager and her friends sm
on cycles and ovulation. you can only get pregnant during ovulation, which is usually 10-14 days after they start that time of the month. educate them at least and give them info to research and educate themselves. of course abstinence or protection is best, but education is better compared to kids having kids too.
teenager vomiting each month without menses
Hey all. Need some advice. I have a neice who has started vomiting violently every month, but has yet to begin menstruating. We are thinking it may be related to her period/onset of her period. i have heard of this somewhere, but for the life of me cannot remember what I heard. Any information/advice?
Also, anyone here that can recommend a good ob/gyn in the Lexington, Kentucky area?
Thanks in advance.
HC
she absolutely can be judged harshly; any teenager should be for this reason
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My teenager has learned a text messaging lesson...sm
A couple of weeks ago while at drama practice one of her peers asked if she could use her cell phone both days of practice as she didn't have her cell phone with her. My daughter let this other kid use her phone and didn't pay attention to the fact she was staying on it the entire time of the practices (the other kid only had a couple of lines). When my daughter walked over to her her phone she saw the other kid texting - and we don't have text messaging as part of our plan.
The bill arrived yesterday and this other child ran up $63.40 in text charges because there's a 20 cent/kb/message fee. My daughter isn't happy that she has to pay this bill out of her babysitting money but I reminded her that her phone is her responsibility and I'm not paying her bill. She swears she'll never let anyone use her phone again. I do hope she's learned her lesson!
As a teenager, I worked as a waitress...it sure was a school of hard knocks. LOL.
Waitresses have one of the toughest jobs. A good waitress deserves all of her 20% tips. Not enought money, IMHO.
Our teenager learned a valuable lesson today about cell phones....
She got a new cell phone last month and downloaded a bunch of ringtones, even though I reminded her that each one costs money + the transfer fee, which the system prompts you for as we don't have the internet plan for the cell phone (don't do text messaging either). Well, she ignored the prompts about the 3 cents per kilibite fee and size of the files alert when she accepted the downloads she selected. To make a long story short..... her bill for her downloads is right at $60.
She is crying that she has to pay this bill but I'm not working overtime because she ignored my telling her about the costs and accepted the charges. This will teach her a lesson on responsibility. She was expecting the bill to be about $20. She'll be babysitting up a storm this next month to pay this bill!
can buy 4 items for teenager for same price buy 8 items for younger.
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they are not rough looking; they are just skateboarders; all teenager skateboarders I know
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These, or something similar?
http://www.sendliquor.com/id100234list42product.html?ovchn=OTHER&ovcpn=FindGiftWine&ovcrn=FindGiftWine&ovtac=PPC
http://www.redenvelope.com/re/gifts/product_display/product_information.jsp?nc=1&oid=20650259&pcd=PERFORMICS&mptc=BPER&src=clickserve.cc-dt&cm_ven=Performics&cm_cat=Affiliate&cm_pla=FindGift.com&cm_ite=DDI%20Link
http://www.sienajulia.com/cgi-bin/shop.pl/page=item.html/auto_id=5214/department=01/category=01027/page_number=1
I can't vouch for any of this stuff, these are three items that came up when I searched findgift.com with "Spanish" as a search term and narrowing with "wine".
Good luck!
I had a similar but now use sm
Wolfgang Puck's open face grill, buy on HSN.com. 1200 watts, get to 550 degrees. You can actually GRILL a hamburger or steak. The Foreman ones only kind of steam food, very inadequate.
Something similar here sm
I also live in a small town and we have many Indian docs and they usually bring relatives here and to run hotels and motels they have purchased. I know of one family that did this 25 years ago. A Comfort Inn right up the road from us is owned/operated by an Indian family that live in our neighborhood. Truely some of the nicest people I have ever met.
OMG! I was going to say something similar... sm
Same timeframe and same team, but off by 2 years in age. Unfortunately, my brother was home from Penn State and I gave him my Game 6 ticket. After all these years, I still slap myself on the forehead when I think about that. I was in Philly with the other million or so revelers the next day, though!
I'm doing something similar..
I live in Florida also and am planning a little weekend gettaway for myself. I know it sounds weird, but this way there will be no computer and absolutely no way I can be conned into working. I picked a fairly cheap little resort place that is right on the beach. It's not very fancy, but it has a kitchen. I want to wake up and hear the water and see the sunset at night. I did spend a little more to get a place that had more of a private beach so it would be a little quieter. Just think about the things you want to do and what is more important and then decide. Will you be at the beach more, or golfing more? Do you want more peace and quiet? Or do you want a place where kids can run around - if so golf course probably not a good idea.
Anyway, whichever you choose, have a great time!
I might have something similar
but do not really know your symptoms well. I sleep on elevated pillows (and people also told to elevate the head of their bed with reflux), know which foods bring on this such as coffee, chocolate, spicy, white rice for me, and some cereals but 1 thing I will say, the gastroesophageal reflux disease symptoms are not to be taken lightly. An ongoing problem with this can cause esophageal cancer, Barrett's esophagus is a precursor to this. I would do any and all I could to make sure this is under control.
I went through something similar...
Except not on me, on my son, who I think was like 4 or 5 at the time. They wanted to put a white filling in a baby tooth, and make me pay the extra for it. So glad I didn't let them, found another dentist who put in a silver one and shortly thereafter, the tooth came out. So sorry this happened to you, but unfortunately you'll probably do more harm than good by not paying the full amount, cause they will try to ruin your credit.
maybe similar
i keep getting toe pains in one that is almost crampy-like, and really slows my steppin'. it comes and goes. I'm just afraid its arthritis, but haven't been checked...is yours crampy? would like to know if you get it figured out.
I tried something similar with my cat.
I just wanted her to stay on the deck though She did really good for about a year and then slowly stated creeping down the stairs and eventually started jumping over the side to go on a bigger adventure. Going over the side was when we had to stop letting her go out because she was so quick about it. At first we used a harness and leash and then a water bottle and would squirt her when she came to the edge and that worked very well. We just had to be out with her.
I have also seen cat runs in magazines before. They are long tubular shaped cages or enclosures (not always metal) and some you can even put up to window height so you can leave the window open or add a door so they can go freely when they like. I am not certain where I have seen it but it was one of those magazines that are full of stuff that no one really needs but make great Christmas/Birthday presents for people who have everything. lol I'm sure you could find them on the internet somewhere.
I actually have one similar to this sm
I live on my own. My house is not too big, only about 1100 sq ft. Truth is, I live in my bedroom and my livingroom, where I work. I use the kitchen too, of course. I don't use all of it all the time. My house is well insulated and the furnace runs about 4 times a hour in the dead of winter. I am heating a whole house I don't use. The only place I need warm is around my desk so my hands don't freeze up. I can't stand really bulky clothing either, though I do dress warmly. I have a space heater by the desk. It keeps the whole livingroom warmer, as a fact, but not the whole house. I keep the thermostat on the furnace kinda low.
Now, when I have company, or when it is my day off, I have a space heater with fake flame. It has a blower and blows heat into the room. It is pretty and really puts out heat. If I run that for the entire evening, the furnace doesn't run at all, even though the thermostat is 20 feet from the heater, because the room is toasty. It is electric heater versus gas furnace. The end result was that gas cost me an average of $75 a month versus $110 the year before. The electric bill went up, but not more than $20 a month. The net savings are marginal at best. The comfort increased, however.
Now, I am a little crazy sometimes, I admit it. I bought a CD with fireplace sounds. I play it as a loop (75 minutes long) when I run the *fireplace* and sound makes it feel warmer! I run the sound low enough that the TV or stereo is audible, but you'd be surprised what the sounds effects do for added warmth. I got laughed at, until I had company...
I just went thru something similar - sm
I was the one back in late August and then back on Oct. 13 or so----I had racked up a ton of debt on his and my credit cards which he knew nothing about. I finally confessed to him, he reacted pretty well considering the bomb I dropped on him. He does not want to divorce over it thank God but some amazing miracle. Obviosly your situation is a bit more complex. My DH is not that controlling. I was/am the one to get the mail, and would decide what he would see or not see, though he had no scruples about reading my mail, he would get upset if I ever read anything personal sent to him. As I know it is nothing to get bent about I let that one go. He has never cheated and even confirmed that when I confessed my deceit and financial infidelity to him. Luckily he still loves me enough to keep it together. He is trying a little more, though he has backed off doing a few things he used to around the house, I have taken on more responsibility around here, the price I have to pay I guess. I did 85% of it before, now, 95% (he used to cook dinner....now it looks like I get the pleasure of doing it from now on as he has not done it once since the 13th. Granted any reference to buying anyting is , we cannot afford it....which we can, but yes things are going to be a bit tight for the next five years, but we will manage. I have not done it yet, but Monday going to get the wheels rolling and do CCCS for my debts. His will be taken care of soon as we are selling off a bunch of mutual funds from the 401K (loan) so no penalties though with the economy we will have to sell more than we would have a few months ago which stinks. ---He is willing to economize now that he knows there is an issue though (he makes about 4x what I do). You will have to bit the bullet and confess as well. It is not easy. I wrote him a note and then left the house for a short while, then came back and we talked it all out. I figured my marriage would be over, but I think for the kids and still some feelings for me he wants to keep it all together. We have a good life together for the most part and he knows that. We do things together as a family, still have enjoyable sex once a week (took him 9 days after my confession), and are in tune with each other and the kids. Considering it he has been so good after it , you never know your husband might surprise you like mine did. He has not really made any comments for a week now, which is amazing in itself. My DH generally is the type of guy who blames everyone else for his mistakes and takes no responsibility for anything, so that is why it was such a shock that he is handling this all so well. Generally he acts like a 3-y/o and holds grudges. So it is possible your husband can be a standup guy. I guess it will depend on how much he cares for you, keeping the marriage together and not becoming a part-time dad or having to give you the house or a ton of money.....I am sure that all factored in in my situation. All I said was that no one would win in a divorce. He has been divorced before so I know he does not wnat to go thru that again, sees it as personal failure. But I feel so much better for telling him, a huge weight has been lifted. I still have a lot to get thru but the worst is over. I know my streess is still up there some, but I know longer have to worry about him finding out, etc. So you need to formulate a plan, maybe set aside some ready cash, and and tell him what is going on. You can email me if you want. I hope it all works out for you.
Very similar
to the one my family and I make:
1 bag of hashbrowns
1 can cream of chicken soup
2 sticks butter
salt and pepper
2 cups shredded Velveeta cheese
1 sleeve crushed Ritz crackers
Melt 1 stick of butter in the casserole dish. Mix everything together except Ritz crackers and 1 stick of butter. Spread in casserole dish.
Mix crushed Ritz crackers with 1 stick melted butter and sprinkle over top.
Bake at 350 for 1 hour.
It is a great side dish, goes with anything. 
We did something similar
but it was a local theater gift card instead of the netflix. I didn't know netflix did such a thing. That's a great idea.
A smore's kit is nice to make or homemade marshmellows (they are not that difficult to make as most people think) with homemade hot chocolate mix and some cute mugs.
Also made fleece throws for everyone for xmas one year. YOu can get the no-sew fleece and just cut a fringe around the edge to finish it.
Offer up a free baby sitting night to the parents, all you need is a card. Tuck it in the tree with their name on it.
If there is something special that you make that someone likes you can make up a basket with many of the ingredients and include the recipe card. If it is cookies or something nonperishable you can include a finished version in the basket.
Or a little bit of a different but similar take
try 1 jar of chili sauce and jellied cranberry sauce with a squeeze of lemon juice. sounds similar to the above receipe but this is also wonderful!
Something similar
I agree with most others on this post.
My situation was a little different but also similar. My husband had been married before and had a child. He told me up front he would NEVER get married again. I told him I was not ready to marry and be a "mom." But after 3 years I changed my mind. I needed the committment, the security, and yes the old fashioned man to take care of me feeling. I told him that by 5 years together I wanted to be married, period. I started making the plans for marriage and it was a "now or never" decision and he knew that.
5 years is a long time to be in a non-committed relationship, not to mention your 10. I think you need to tell him how you feel once and for all and lay it out there. I like the idea another poster had to "date" for a while, him and this other man, and anyone else you want, and to have time to yourself. Don't let him just come over when he is lonely and needs you...maybe he needs to feel the loneliness you have felt for so long. It takes a while to change habits like picking up dirty laundry and rinsing off dishes...NOT hanging out with friends, staying out all night, etc. That is attitude and what you want to do. I know this isn't what you want to hear but you can't love someone for a lifetime if they don't love you back. Which is what this situation sounds like to me. Yes men are selfish and inconsiderate at times, but this sounds like more.
And just for the record, my husband and I started as friends. I am a bit younger than him, not ready to settle down, not wanting to marry someone married before or with a child...but our friendship just went towards love on its own. Given the chance, your friendship with this other man may go the same way. It sounds like you have just halted it where it is as a friendship and wouldn't allow it to go into love at this time if that was where it was leading.
Good luck to you. Take a day and watch "You've got mail." There's a good lonely love story of enemies, friends, and love evolving.
similar situation
I had a similar situation not too long ago with my mother in law. Everyone thought because I worked at home I could take my mother in law to her doctor appointments and grocery shopping and anything else she needed to do. I informed everyone that I started a job with a new transcription company and I could no longer come and go as I please during the day. I told them I am logged on to the new company's computer starting at 8 AM until 4 PM every day, and I have to be there when work comes through or the company would know I was gone and I would lose my job. It really has worked. No one bugs me during the day anymore. They finally think I have a "real job". 
I have similar problem
with dryness and flaking. I have found that using some sort of exfoliator (scrub, mask, etc) helps more to get rid of the flakes and then apply the moisterizer. Just using the moisterizer didn't help me either, flakiness and dryness still there.
My son has similar issues right now...
My son has similar issues right now with very dry skin. Under his bottom lip area is very dry and chaffed. We have tried vasoline and other creams, but nothing is helping really good to the point that the dryness goes away. It is a very dry area, but it has not developed into an open sore of any kind...yet. The pediatrician said to just keep it moisterized and that it will go away soon, but it is just not going away. Any advice to this skin problem is greatly appreciated too! :)
Similar problem..sm
I had a similar problem with feet swelling (both) and pain from the swelling. First I tried elevating the footpedal and that foot. It helped with that foot, but then the left foot still swelled and hurt. I tried elevating that foot, as well, but this is uncomfortable throughout the day. I determined that the reason this was happening to me is that I am very short, particularly from the waist to the feet. MOST chairs are designed for people with obviously longer legs and I found that the chair seat itself was hitting the backs of my knees and affecting circulation. I purchased another chair ($100) with a shorter seat part, but after a month or so of using it, I was no better and perhaps even worse. The reason for that, I discovered, was that the seat had a plastic cord sewn around the seam of the seat, and even though the seat was shorter, the plastic cord was cutting off my circulation. I gave the chair to my son and went back to my original chair. I tried many kinds of seat cusions, as well, but finally found something that seems to have worked, at least for the past month. I found a cushion that is designed for people who are wheelchair bound. It is for the *back* of the chair, not the seat. it is fuller at the top, for leaning back, I suppose, and less full at the bottom. So what I did was turn it upside down so that the fuller part was at the bottom, thus pusing my hips forward enough so that the backs of my knees are not touching the edge of the chair seat. I still keep my pedal elevated about four inches, and elevate the left foot only when I begin to feel any swelling. This seems to have helped mine quite a bit. Now I only get some minor swelling when I have sat in the chair for about 14 hours. Otherwise the symptoms have abated mostly. I wish you luck in finding a solution to your problem, as well.
I have a similar story -
my girlfriend's husband was put in jail for 5 years because he was a "victim" for receiving child pornography. Says he opened up an Email and it snowballed from there.
Of course it was all a lie. He had his own website out of the UK and was filming himself masterbating. I did some research and it was amazing that almost ALL men that are busted say the same thing --- they were innocent and all they did was open an Email! Hope he rots in jail.
just had a similar experience
Your complaint would actually be through Paypal if paid by Paypal. There should be no delay required in filing this. You proceed through the complaint steps but when ebay questions that you paid via Paypal you will be redirected to the Paypal complaint process. I was not even given the option to file an Ebay complaint.
Beware though, if you should at any point withdraw the complaint (as I did - the seller promised to send me the item but said he could only if I withdrew the complaint) you can absolutely not ever reopen it.
something similar happened to me (sm)
Everyone just loved my husband, even though he only went once in a blue moon. But me and the kids, we were there for everything, helping out, participating, and yet it seemed like all anyone ever said was, "Where's your husband." Eventually, I got tired of answering the same old questions, not being appreciated for what I contributed to the church, and left. So sad that people act this way, but I guess it must just be human nature?
Happy New Year Y'all!
Only that this is strange, because a similar
feeling has come over me. I had a fling years ago that lasted a couple years. We never committed, would just meet up every couple of weeks or so. We both had a *relationship* but we were still in our early twenties. I wound up getting engaged to and marrying the guy I was in a relationship with, dumb move, very young. When this guy heard I was engaged he dumped the girlfriend and asked me not to get married and I guess finally wanting to commit to me. It broke my heart, but I didn't want to break my fiance's heart. Anyway, that was the last time I saw him. Wound up divorced after only 2 years and moved about an hour away from there. Heard he had married too around that time.
Now, I find myself thinking of him all the time and just learned he moved too and lives about 10 miles from me. I'm with my 2nd husband now for around 10 years, but c'mon is anyone really still feeling those butterflies and excitement after all these years? The answer is not usually. Why do you think affairs happen in the first place? And I do think this is probably a very common feeling especially if it was someone you were crazy about. You kind of think maybe you can start up again where you left off at a point in your life where let's face it things are not all that exciting. Let me just mention my husband is a great guy but lately we've had some major disagreements about things which I believe has made me start feeling this way. You however mention you are *content* in your relationship and sorry but something has to be wrong somewhere. Maybe the bedroom? I do however agree with the other posters that it would only cause more problems. I have given this a lot of thought myself and decided not to contact him unless I end up divorced first and I find out that he is no longer married. And for now I guess I can only imagine. :)
I've had similar. sm
Had my first miscarriage at 7 weeks. Second baby made it to about 16 weeks. I also had an ultrasound very early on with my second and subsequent pregnancies. I hope the sonogram was wrong. :hugs:
Read something similar like this,
under mouse elbow, believe it or not, sorta like tennis elbow but those who use the ole mouse. I also am bothered with some hurt around this region and only started after I started using that with my computer. Might check out and see if it sounds similar.
My female cat does something similar...
She acts like she is wiping her feet like that in the same spot in front of the TV. Every time she walks past that spot, she does that. I have no idea why.
I have had a similar experience
in the past and what I did was confront the person when he hit is kid and asked him if he needed a little help just so that he knew that I saw what had happened and that it wasn't acceptable. I could care less if an adult goes off on me as I can handle myself. I feel for the children who grow up like that. The mother has likely experienced the issue before with the man, but why make it a tattle-tale issue...instead confront the bully calmly and firmly. He would have probably been embarassed at that point and would maybe think twice about smacking his kid in public, but I doubt it would keep him from doing it at home. Would be nice to just smack him upside the head with a closed fist and see how he likes it. Whatta jerk! I understand no one saying anything though. People were probably in shock that he did that to such a young child or any child for that matter.
Have a similar problem myself - sm
Had someone local check it to see what it would cost to have them refinish it (Ethan Allen heavy/clunky/chunky coffee table), he quote $600. I bought a tablecloth for $10, problem fixed. Once I get done about a million other projects I may attempt to sand down the top and refinish it, we will see. It is in horrible shape as my kids have destroyed it basically; until then the tablecloth will do the job quite well.
A similar situation (sm)
I also read your post from below and now I feel compelled to respond. My sister went through a very similar situation. She has always been overweight and her ex-husband married her that way. He gave her grief in the entire relationship about her weight, threatened divorce, the whole bit. He, too, was very picky about how the house was kept, how his meals were prepared, etc. Like you, she did what she could to make him happy, but it never seemed to be enough. It seemed the more he ragged her about losing weight, the heavier she got. He just couldn't understand that (he never had a weight issue). They separated at one point, she moved out, only to move back in several months later to try to make things work. Guess what...it didn't work. She finally made the decision to leave for good, now she is remarried and very happy. And she is still overweight but her current husband doesn't mind (he's heavy too!). I saw my sister spend many years unhappy and it is so good to see her happy now. She and her first husband didn't have children together, but her current husband has two sons that she absolutely loves.
I know the thought of divorce must be extremely scary, and I know there are children involved. But you need to be happy, and your children need you to be happy and healthy. It doesn't sound like things are going to change in your situation. I think you know you have been there long enough to figure that out. You need to do what is best for you and your kids, and if your husband can't accept and love you for who you are, then he doesn't deserve to be with you. Just my opinion!
Best of luck to you. Keep us posted on what you decide to do!
I am going through a similar situation...
My husband said the same things about me. He left 2 years ago, then cried and came back saying he made a huge mistake. He tried to be happy for the last 2 years and a month ago, left me and our 3 kids again. He was never happy. He said he did not feel anything for me except contempt basically that I have kept him from doing the things he wants to do, fish, hunt, etc. He says he will always feel a fondness for me and the time that we were happy and the fact that we have 3 wonderful kids, but he cannot be happy with me. If he does not like who you are, then let him go. Or you go, whatever you need to do. Especially since he hit you. That is one thing you should not let go. My husband never hit me, but he was getting to the point that he hated me. I still love him, but I think the best thing for us is to not be together anymore. He is being selfish (my hubby and yours). Go, and find someone someday that will love you the way you are, flaws and perfection. That is the hope that is keeping me going, that there is still someone out there who will treat us like the goddesses we are. Hang in there!! You can do it. It will not be easy or happy, but in the long run, you will probably be better off.
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