we tore down the wall, sm
Posted By: LMT on 2007-03-12
In Reply to: Redecorating a mobile home - suggestions....
we had a double wide though and wanted to fix it up to sell. we tore down the wall joing the kitchen to the living room and made a bar just like you are talking about. opened it up so much and looked beautiful, actually what sold the house. didn't make a difference at all in load bearing, but not sure it would be the same in a single wide. also, may need electrical help (my brother did this for us as he is an electrician), cuz wires were hanging all through those walls. so be careful of hot wires if you decide to attempt it.
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