wait, we could be dealing with an islamic hubby
Posted By: let's be careful how we post *L*.....sm on 2007-03-24
In Reply to: Good answer! If you have to make up a reason.... - mteagle
 different strokes for different folks, eh? like Muslim husbands and that culture and other cultures that think differently than most Americans do...
My own (ancestral) culture, i.e., how I was raised, insists on 2.8 kids - too bad for most of the family that I was (and still am) such a rebellious renegade...that the sound of the *different drummer* just ALWAYS spoke to me since teenage years louder than other things, and I heard and I listened, and I still do decades and decades later....(thank goodness for this!!).
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And dealing with the kids is piece of cake compared to dealing
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Spending a romantic weekend in Atlanta with hubby. Leaving at noon. Can't wait! nm
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Now I know who I'm dealing with
It's terrible that responsibility for a decision like a procedure on an infant would be placed in your hands. Terrible.
Dealing with it on the opposite end...sm
My middle daughter is dealing with weight issues on the skinny end of this issue. Kids are just as cruel when the child is extremely small and skinny. My daughter is going to be 10 in September and weighs in at 45 lbs. She is also very short for her age. She was a premie baby and has just never caught up with her age group. We are trying to add weight to her without stuffing her full of junk. I suggest talking to your pediatrician. They should be able to help you with guidelines and safe ways to encourage healthy eating and weight loss. It just seems kids find anything to pick on...but weight is a big issue even at 10. My daughters best friend is overweight, so the two of them together make quite a pair! They are able to relate to the same hurt they feel when being made fun of, even though one is skinny and one is overweight.
would love to see you dealing with
teenagers. Write a book already! or better yet, let me know the title of the film.
The advice below is not dealing with the issue at
hand - these people popping into your lives uninvited. I can relate - bunch of games designed just to torture you and your kids. I would totally go for the jugular to end this once and for all. The hutzpah of these people to sit in front of you and not talk to you at YOUR kids' Christmas play! Good Lord. I would go to a lawyer, any lawyer, and pay $100 or $200 bucks for a cease-and-desist letter, stating that they are NOT to attend YOUR kids' functions as they are not invited, etc., and are causing irreparable harm to YOUR kids. There will be those who chime in that this is a free world, etc., but its NOT a free world for grandparents to screw with your kids' minds. YOU are the parents and are in charge of your kids' welfare. Its a school, and its PRIVATE in that regard. Any old bum off the street cannot attend when it is AGAINST the wishes of the parents of the children in the play. As Dr. Phil would say, take your power back. Put YOUR foot down as their mom and draw the line forever. Your kids and your husband need you at this point. Go for it. I did years ago, and have never regretted one day WITHOUT my sick inlaws. My kids are in their teens now, and just last night were sitting around talking about the sick games that their grandparents used to play, and how happy they were that we put an end to it. Go for it! Let this be the LAST CHRISTMAS, or last day, ruined by these creeps. And I love the analogy someone gave below - your kids are nothing but Christmas turkeys for them to play with - do NOT fall for the tales of woe and love. Baloney!
Honestly I think I am dealing with both issues with him (sm)
I think he has a girlfriend and a drinking problem
Open for suggestions on dealing with a defiant child...sm
Our 3rd grader has been really giving us a hard time this school year with not behaving at home and at school. Some of the defiance is things she's picking up from other kids at school, i.e. talking back, but she's getting into trouble at school more often for not following instructions. So far talking to her, giving her restrictions and setting goals isn't helping turn this around.
So.... for you parents who have dealt with this, what things did you try to get your kid to "get it" on how to behave appropriately?
No wait, wait... 'mere Mom, me and my friends
can all drink it too. Come on guyz... my Mom won't mind, have a drink and have some fun. Bring the chocolate syrup! Doesn't she have big nipples. "My Dad likes 'em too and my baseball coach! 
Don't wait.
The attacks will definitely become more frequent and more sensitive. Even limiting your diet to bland foods will eventually not be good enough.
The pain is from the stones trying to pass into the biliary duct. It can be devastating if that happens.
I had open gallbladder surgery. It was painful, but I had no complications. I'm glad I had it done.
Don't wait. Infection can set in; necrosis can start.
Wait!!!!
I have the thickest, curliest, kinkiest, frizziest hair going. I was ready to pull it out when I saw something on the Today show. They said sodium laureth sulfate causes hair to be frizzy. I went out and bought organic shampoo and you would not beleive the change. I use Frizz Ease spray leave on conditioner and only wash it about once a week. I am sooo much happier with it now. I personally am too scared to make a change because if you don't like it, there is nothing you can do. Good luck whatever you decide. You could try this first and see if it helps.
No, but can't wait to see it!
And he may be targeting the pharmaceutical companies next. That ought to be good, too:)
N/T - Can Wait
LOL. If you to talk about the show or the new season, please feel free to email me privately (as can the rest of the posters).
Thanks. Cannot wait to here from him. nm
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Oh boy could hardly wait to add my
doggie's picture to the forum
Meet Pinkie, she lives in Hawaii right now.
Oh, BTW, that's my grandson Cameron with her!! Luv him a lot too!!!
Thank you very much!!!! Can't wait to try them out! NM
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Please wait
Please see a counselor before any sort of meeting with the other people! I'm not sure that it is a good idea. I know you have a need to meet this woman, but I'm not sure that it will be good for you in the long run. Please reconsider! Best wishes.
Can't wait to see it!...nm
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oh, wait....
Thank you, I am going to just wait and see
if there is an appropriate time and I realize that may never happen. This is something so personal, I just want so much to share in their joy without judgement. When it happens it happens. I am just sooooo glad there are people out there that don't judge. We need sooo much more of that in this world!
You can't wait until he is better....he will never
Your whole life is passing by and he has purposely isolated you from your family. He does not own you - you are not his possession. You have and have always had the right to come and go as you please and have your friends and family members come over any time but he has denied you that right. He is insecure and jealous of your sister. He wants you all to himself....he is treating you like a possession. He doesn't get to tell you "no" your sister can't come. It is not even his right to do that. I feel so sad for you that you have let all these years pass letting him tell you what to do. It will be hard and there will be arguments but you have got to stand up for yourself before your life just slips through your fingers like sand. You sister should have been welcome each time she wanted to come. It sounds like he is afraid you might care about someone other than him. Please let your sister come and see you...tell him if not, you are going to see her and you are staying for two weeks! or three! Your life is passing you by and he is keeping you from living it.
but wait!
who is the male lead? or should I say male leads; at least, I assume they are male!
Even if that wait......sm
meant a delayed diagnosis of a potentially treatable disease had you been given the CT scan, say, 6 months earlier?
You might just say "those are the breaks" but I would want diagnosis and treatment in a prompt and timely fashion rather than waiting around for 6 months for a diagnostic test, only to be told that I could have been cured 6 months earlier before the disease progressed to the point of no return.
Wait it out..
Not only that, but to cash it out you have a penalty...so say you cash out $5,000...after penalties and all that, you will get a bit over $3,000 I believe.
Just know if you cash it out, you will have to claim it as income on your taxes and pay a really high tax amount on it.....
I, too, have had to wait it out...sm
until they were old enough. Same here. Never helped with sick kids, never got out of bed to help when I had 3 babies at home...newborn, 1, and 2. NEVER NEVER GOT OUT OF BED TO HELP. No matter how tired I was, no matter if I was crying, he didn't give a crap. Yes...I, too, have been told he will fight me for full custody. In his words..."We'll see who is the one who will have to pay child support." So this for him is not about wanting the very best for his children, it is not wanting to have to pay me child support. I know he has severe mental illness...bipolar and paranoia. He follows me everywhere, he calls me wherever I go and then hangs up when the phone is answered even though my family has caller ID and knows it was him, he tells me he is going to go to my family and ask my sister's husband why they are allowing me to b**w them. I could go on but I think you get the message. My children are very unhappy.
thanks. He's only 9; I can't wait to see the look
One hour to go!!
thanks. He's only 9; I can't wait to see the look
He has a palatal expander, which is also uncomfortable. Thanks for the kind comment.
One hour to go!!
Can't wait, too!
I saw Liz tell Christian he should be putting his affairs in order. Is it a threat, a prediction . . ? Tuesday can't come fast enough!
You could wait until it's really dry, then
try to scrape off as much as you can. My daughter did this with red nail polish on the living room carpet. Scrape off as much as you can - it may take a while - and then you may have to use scissors to snip any leftovers. We eventually had a spot where the carpet was a tiny bit shorter in that spot, but it was definitely better than a fire engine red spot!
Wait until you see how he/she looks like and then name him/her...nm
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WAIT...
I just realized you ARE the OP, lol! When I saw the 'a different one', I thought you were another poster who had a similar experience.
Anyway, what I've experienced and how I acted out are probably the exact types of things you're going through.
Chaos is indeed an addiction but it's curable. You'll be fine ;-)
I think everyone should wait at least 3 months.
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ooooo - cant wait to see!!!
You are right, but I think it's good to wait .... (sm)
a while before adopting a new pet after you lose one. I got my new kitty only 4 weeks after losing my former cat, and must guiltily admit that it took about 4 months before I stopped constantly comparing her to my former cat. Her way of showing affection is TOTALLY different than my former cat, and for the longest time I didn't think she would ever come to truly like me. As it turns out she DOES truly like me, she just has a totally different way of showing it! I got my former cat after losing the one before him to cancer, and much more time passed between having each of those two pets, and I think that made the transition period (which one always goes through with a new pet) a whole lot easier.
I am SO excited, can hardly wait
to see your part of the country. I live in the south and the weather here now at almost 9 p.m. is 70 degrees. We saw a bit of "spitting" snow this past week, the weather is crazy! I love the animals and the scenery must be gorgeous there, like a kid at Christmas with my upcoming trip!
Or maybe they could wait a few hours
before coming to the board where they very well know the east coasters want to be talking about it.
I wait until spring, too sm
I figure the dead leaves and stalks offer a little protection from the cold. The bed where I have the hydrangea stayed iced over for more than a week this past winter, and I thought I had lost the hydrangea. But in the spring I could feel that the branches were still supple and smooth at the bottom so we just cleared out the dead leaves, trimmed off the dead tips, and it came back beautifully. It has blossoms all over it that are getting ready to burst into bloom.
We just moved into this house last summer and I planted the hydrangea in a place where I thought it would have enough shade, but we had a bunch of 100+ degree days I was afraid the heat had killed it....until the cold came along and then I thought the same thing about the cold. But it is definitely "the little hydrangea that could"!!
can you wait a few days
and call your X? Do you know any reason why he might have called it off? If he has been ok with it before..maybe there is a reason? Does he have a new gf or soemthing? Maybe you could offer to go there? Who knows what goes through men's minds sometimes. Can you reassure him that your son wil be back home at the end of summer? If you do not want to go through litigation again, call him back in a few days. Is he just being a bulley trying to punish you?
Wait a minute...
This bride is 65, second wedding, and I assume wearing white? I wonder. Also I believe etiquette says a bridal shower is not proper for a second wedding and probably especially not for a couple in their 60s ! which poster mentioned. Also, etiquette says the bride and groom or family should pay to put the guests up at the hotel if they have to come from out of town which poster also mentioned.
This old gal is obviously not Miss Manners, herself.
: )
Cannot wait to hear what he has to say
at 11:30 EST. He better take responsiblity for this and not try to blame someone else for this. I heard in one report they are saying he had a difficult childhood and that this is why he has acted in this manner. GIMME A BREAK. Sorry do not buy it.
do not wait - do something now -- report her
Before another family or child is scarred by this counselor you need to write a letter to the principal and to the school board documenting everything that has happened. If you let it go, it will continue and harm other children. I am all for making children accountable for their actions and sometimes feel that parents do coddle too much sometimes but in this occurence -- do not and I really urge you to do something about it and report it. If you stand by and let this continue then you are partially responsible -- more of us need to become involved and do something about things like this. Let us know what happens. Just document in writing everything that has happened and does happen.
I agree. We will wait and see. But
in the meantime, Utah would be an interesting place for setting a new CSI.
Thank you. Will just wait until they are ready. nm
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I'm on my way! Have to wait for break! NM
xx
And just wait until they start using your DNA sm
to profile everyone for genetic health risks. I see that day coming. Some states already are proposing creating a "DNA databank" for newborns....
I think I would wait until the dinner
before getting so upset. I understand there is obvious issues with your SIL and if it does pan out the way you have it in your mind right now, then you can be upset but I think it's a little premature to get that upset about it.
By the way, I'd call your daughter anyway!
I think too many people would not be able to wait until the day is over. LOL
That would be nice. Maybe on a board like this it would work, but in real life I don't think it would. Too many people thrive on anger, confrontation, and oh how they do like to judge. I don't even think they know they are like that. My friends mother for instance lives in the victim state. Everything is everyone elses fault. She never did anything but all her problems and situation is someone elses fault. The problems she has are usually her kids fault. If she didn't have so many kids she would have been able to do so much more with her life. It's her husband's fault she had so many kids (she has 6), and its someone elses fault she never finished college (which by the way her whole college tuition, books, room & board, meals, clothes and I mean absolutely everything) was paid for in full and she would have not had to pay back anything (wish I had that opportunity). But after a year she decided to drop out and move away from her home town. Anyway...back to my thought...people just thrive on blame, hate and judgment (among other negative emotions).
Reading the post the first thing that came to my mind was a movie I watched called Demolition Man starring Sandra Bullock and Sylvester Stallone, where he is put in cryostasis and comes out of it in the future and they all talk and end sentances with "Happy Happy Joy Joy" and everyone is overly polite to everyone. It's an amusing movie and I love it and that's what this reminded me of.
So I'd like to say to Ms. National Be Nice and Friendly Day I'd like to say... Happy Happy Joy Joy, and be well. 
Wait a minute...
Excuse me, but my son just turned 8 and this girl is almost 8. I have since found out that she did this to another boy last year (not as hard) and my son also said she will walk up to him and hyperextend his finger back and twist them, as well as flicking him with her pencil when she gets mad. I know of yet another student that had problems with her last year (an older boy) who felt bullied by her.
To me it just seems there is a pattern here that is only getting worse. It could have been his eye. Would you say it was no big deal then?? Where is she getting this behavior from?
And yes, I think she needs special help in the classroom if she has behavioral issues. This is way different than kids fighting over a ball on the playground. This is a private Catholic school and they don't have the funding for extra programs for behavioral and special needs. In addition, their code of conduct that they recite everyday after prayer and the pledge of allegiance is that they will "uphold the sanctuary for themselves and others."
Wait it out - the market did this on 9/11 also
Or the Monday after when the markets opened anyway and the market came back. Leave it in there now and the company that manages it can buy the stocks cheap and you will get a larger return for your money in the long run. Watch the financial shows on TV, they all say leave it in there, and I agree.
You are not selfish at all, but I would say to wait (sm)
Wait until you know if you want children or not. You really should not get married, no matter how much you love this guy, until you know the answer to that. Because it is a very important factor. If he wants children and later you realize you do not, that will be a big, big, big stumbling block in your marriage and one that neither one can honestly give in on. For me, I was late 20s and suddenly every time I saw a Pampers commercial I would cry because I wanted a child so badly. LOL! I don't think that happens to everyone who wants to be a parent though! :) Just picture yourself 10 years from now...do you want to be pursuing your career heavily? Do you want the responsibility of children? Do you see them as a job or a gift? If you can visualize yourself 5 or 10 years from now, you can see what you want. Meanwhile...go to a nursery at church or to a friend's house who has babies and spend some time with them, hold them and play with them and see if you feel the urge to have some of your own. If not, it is not selfish at all, it is just how you feel and what you want. But to marry him knowing that he wants children when you are not sure if you do would be definitely a selfish thing to do. Try to figure that out before you tie the knot. Best wishes to you :-)
We had been at 6.5 from 1998 had to wait - sm
until it was worth our while to refinance, at least 2 percent, took a file back then for that to happen....what is funny our bank sold the loan not even after a month to a mortgage company, took the fee/settlement money and ran since interest wise they were not about to make much off of us. We pay only $135 a month in interest right now.
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