venting and angry
Posted By: sugarbaby on 2007-11-30
In Reply to: Oops, sorry, I see your - desperado
My daughter had this same problem 2 years ago. I finally called the doctor, and the nurse asked me if we have animals. I told her that we did, and she said that they need to be treated as well. So, along with treating my daughter, bagging all her stuffed toys, vacuuming and steaming everything else she had been in contact with I bathed the cats in a shampoo for animals that helps treat lice. We didn't have problems with them again. Maybe you should find out if this child's family has pets, and if so, make a suggestion that they treat them as well. I know this is a frustrating and expensive problem, but as was stated earlier, I think educating the child's mother is the Christ-like thing to do. If she gets angry about your help/suggestions, then you know that you did your part. Hang in there!!
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Venting sm
I just need to vent a little here.
I drive an Explorer that's pretty much on its last leg (9 years old). We're waiting until next year to get me a new vehicle. My husband, on the other hand, drives the newer Taurus (only 2 years old).
I drive my 7-year-old daughter to and from school every day and also to jump rope class, etc.
We plan to get the Explorer fixed next month. In the meantime, I have asked my husband if I can drive his car (the newer one) on a couple of occasions, but he basically ignoerd me and I always ended up driving the Explorer. Well, yesterday I told him I need to drive his car until the Explorer is fixed. If I didn't have my 7-year-old with me, I probably would continue driving the Explorer.
He finally left his car for me to drive today, but he is so upset about it. I don't understand it. Shouldn't he want his wife and child to be in the safer, more reliable vehicle?
I don't think I should have to beg him to drive his car, especially since I'm driving our 7-year-old all around the city. I also don't understand why he is upset.
Somebody help!
venting about son
I am so sorry about your son. I know how you feel - I have been there too. My son is now 31, has schizophrenia, lives with us at the current time. We started with the problems in about 4th grade and went through counselors, doctors, hospitals, etc. forever. I know how hard it is to make the decision to place your child somewhere. Absolutely no one can tell you when the right time is. My son has been in the hospital several times, some short term stays and some long term stays. The longest time was when he was 15-16. Eleven months in Topeka, KS at Menninger Children's Psychiatric Hospital. We live in IL, so it was quite a trip. He did well there, but relapsed immediately upon discharge. Most of these kids with severe problems do need 24/7 maintenance to stay on track. It will get to the impossible stage for you both emotionally and financially, as well as physically. There are good group homes and there are bad group homes. If you go that route, check them out thoroughly. My prayers are for you and your little boy. Children like this will always be "our little boy/girl" to us. God's Blessings to you today and everday. Email me if you need to vent or just want more information. I have taught a class for NAMI and would be glad to listen.
venting...
I am not in the exact boat you are in. My child is 9. But my husband is as messy as a child. LOL!
If I had a 26-year-old daughter a home she would have to help out. I mean she has a free place to live so why shouldn't she help? I would tell her certain things she has to do. Like cook a few nights a week. Help clean even if it is on weekends when she is off. She needs to help you. As for your husband ask him to help you our with cooking sometimes and just pick up after himself.
venting to
Probably the next time your husband complains about not being able to find a job, he should not say anything in front of your son.
It would seem that your son perceives he was raised in a way that was unsympathetic, and so he is not feeling much sympathy for you either.
I am not sure if that requires an apology, but you can always request that a kid shut up and keep their opinions to themselves.
Venting update sm
Thanks for all the support and input.
I'm happy to say my husband is no longer upset about us switching cars. In fact, he told me I can drive his car as long as I want. I don't think he realized how unsafe it was for me to drive the Explorer.
He's really a good husband/father, but we just had a problem with this car issue.
Thanks again! I love this board!
My mom and the kids- venting! (sm)
My mom came to visit and watch my kids while I work - I am paying her because she needs the money. My children are a 10 year old boy and a 7 ytear old girl. They are generally well-behaved, never get in trouble at school, get in trouble sometimes at home for the usual kid stuff, but they are basically nice children. My mom has a tendency to joke and play around with them a lot, but then gets offended when they try to play back. Yesterday they were feeling comfortable with her (only see her a couple of times a year) and they both dressed up in "spy" costumes and came out to spy on her. When she "caught" them, they pretended to do karate chops and kicks - which they do with me regularly, very softly, never to inflict pain. They did this to her and she is very angry, saying that my children "hit and kicked" her and that if they are bad again she is going to spank them. Also, she has varicose veins on her legs and my daughter asked her what are those "cracks" in your legs? So she is offended about that and therefore when my chubby son walked in without his shirt on this morning she asked, "what's wrong with your belly or is that just fat?" She has also been arguing with my son trying to convince him that there are ghosts and demons on earth (even though I asked her to stop) and when he said there were not, she got out the Bible and was trying to show him passages to prove it until I came out and made her stop. Is everyone's mom like this?? Do they just forget that children are young and don't think like adults??
Just venting somewhat about depressed parents sm
I feel the need to vent a little about my parents. I talk sometimes with my hubby but he doesn't give much input. I'm close with my parents (I'm 36 they are in their mid 50s). My dad has always been controlling and negative (causing stress on our family). I'm an only child. I'm not going to go into deep details about stuff. My parents are not financially stable. My mom is a hard worker, always has been. My dad hasn't worked for almost 9 years. He rehabs houses when he has one to rehab. They are down in the dumps I think because of money. My mom gets stressed out with her job and then not having financial help from my dad, that stresses her. My dad is a negative person. He lost his mom when he was in his 20s and I'm not sure if he believes in God. He doesn't have faith at all. He gets jealous when my kids stay the night with my in-laws (my parents like my in-laws). There's no talking with my dad. The one time I tried to talk to him about something he said to me that hurt my feelings (I was 30), he didn't talk to me for a whole week. Sometimes I feel guilty for being happy. My hubby and I are fine financially, with our faith. I wish I could sit them down and talk with them, but there would be nothing but negative talk coming from them. I know that really you can't help someone unless they are ready to help themselves. It's really hard to say exactly what I feel. I love my parents, I want them to be happy, but then I feel like YOU are the only one who can change your life, or what makes you happy. I don't want disconnect from my parents (they live a mile from us). If my dad would just go get a job, I believe he'd feel so much better about himself. Anyway, I'm really sorry for rambling on like this. I just don't have anyone to talk to. I sometimes feel responsible for my parent's happiness/unhappiness. But growing up, I could never do anything right to please my dad, so I guess that's why I feel that way. There's so much I could type about, but not going to. There have been numerous times I thought to myself that I wish my mom would've never married my dad. Anyway, thanks for listening.
Every year same old, same old at tax time Venting-
My husband and I never fight ----- until April. Then it's constant for about 2 weeks. 
My hubby is self-employed. We've had a couple of rough years and for the past 2 years were unable to pay quarterly taxes. When tax time rolls around, bang! We're fighting like cats and dogs! He complains about how much he has to pay in every year I really don't blame him, as it seems like in his line of work, a lot of deductions are not allowed and it sucks.
In reality, we gotta get on top of the quarterlies again. Then it wouldn't hurt so much. He said he didn't make any money last year, but we still have to pay in over $8000 to the IRS. I really don't know how this could be either. Then he threatens to sell his equipment. Now for the next 3 months, all I'll hear is the complaining (putting it nicely).
It upsets me when we fight, but I'm tired of hearing it all the time. I wasn't even going to tell him how much we owed but I didn't know where to get the money to quietly pay off the IRS.
Anybody want a wonderful husband for the next month or so? Just until he gets over it, then I want him back. (only kidding---he's a real keeper ).
Thanks for listening. Any suggestions on how to get around this crappy tax thing, please let me know.
Since when is venting spiteful and immature?
You obviously have some bitter feelings on this topic. I suppose you were in a stepfamily that was all love n' peace?
Sick of the stereotyping... Not bashing just venting a little
I am the VERY PROUD mother of a well rounded well behaved 16 yo daughter. She doesnt make all A's but she does well. She has more worked more community service hours in the last year (as well as the past five) than any one we know of. BUT she is given hades by teachers, parents, and just about anyone who does not know her because they can tell just by looking at her that she is TROUBLE. The judge her because she wears gauges (ears only) likes baggy jeans (always wears a belt) and band T-shirts (usually black) and big hoodies or jackets- very similar to the boys in the pic. People are SOOO JUDGEMENTAL her friends have to sneak to be around her because their parents think she is a bad influence yeah my non-drinking non smoking baby girl who was home on prom night by 1030 because the "other kids were getting crazy".
Please before you judge kids think about how you would want others to treat your child. To quote my daughter " I am an individual! Not some mindless twit that just follows to belong!". So just try and remember how you would like your child/teen to be treated before you judge/react to someelses child.
Take care and have a MERRY X-MAS and dont forget to hug your teen.
Hope venting made you feel better...
The thing that struck me the most in your post is that you help a friend by listening to dictation. Is this during *your* work hours? If so, try not to answer the phone. I know, it sounds so simple, but if you have kids, this can be tough. Anyhow, if the friend asks why you are not answering, tell her you need to focus on getting lines so you can pay your monthly bills (stress this!). Maybe she will get the hint. I had to do this when a coworker called me constantly. I'm a sole income earner so can empathize. As for the friends working when they were asked not to, well, unfortunately, it is a supervisors/manager's job to handle. Hopefully s/he will take care of this. Good luck.
I think if you were not angry
you would not be human. You did the right thing and she did the wrong thing. Try to hold your head high and remember that instead of being angry. I have learned that MOST OFTEN, people who ask for money are wasting money and they start to think of your money as an easy backup source if they don't feel like pinching pennies. This is America and there are resources out there for emergency situations. The trouble is, the other resources that are in place for emergencies require some effort on the part of the one needing help. It's a lot more convenient to go to a friend for help, especially if they learn they won't have to pay it back.
It is much better to give money rather than to loan it. But now you know you were taken advantage of. Lesson learned. You are a good person!
You are right to be angry (sm)
I would talk to him, probably by phone and say in as calm a voice as you muster up, that your daughter has dyslexia and that she is already sensitive and struggling with that and that by calling her lazy, it really hurt her feelings. The reason I would do this nicely is because if your daughter slept over there, she must really like the other child and you wouldn't want to alienate them from each other. I have issues with a neighbor but because my children like to play with hers, I have to step gingerly when I talk to her about things - if it was just me I was thinking of I would be happy to just give her a peice of my mind! But in my children's best interest I choose my words carefully. I am so sorry that he treated her that way though, and you are 100% right to be upset.
not angry, just sad
I don't know when this started, or why. I guess I didn't notice until I had my child around the time my sisters had theirs, and there was a big difference in how often she saw each one. I have talked to mom about this before, and it goes nowhere. She gets all guilty and cries and apologizes, and then nothing changes. She means well, but actions speak louder than words.
"If you love something, set it free. If it comes back to you, its yours. If it doesn't, it never was." I guess that pretty much says it all.
Have you ever seen anyone more angry looking?
It's a picture of a local prostitute. She was arrested for pimping out her own daughter.
Who are you angry at?
Not me because I think Susan was a jewel of a find. I also happen to like Simon and did not find him in any way condescending or the like. I guess you would have to know/like him in the first place to realize this.
You are one angry lady!
I'm not sure what your problem is.
I'm not the OP, but I can certainly tell you that every doglover in the world has the right to have their pet in their own space. Not in mine, though.
Public places that are not designed for dogs include shopping malls, etc. (except pet stores where that is the entire focus of their business).
Perhaps a dog is the only thing that can be nice to you with that attitude of yours!
Calm down!!
me2-cannot stand Jen and was angry she got HOH
You're right to be angry
I would have pointed out to her that as proud as you are of your daughter for making the team, you feel that putting family first is a higher value for you and your husband.
I hope you have a wonderful meal with your father-in-law. Your child is lucky to have parents like you and your husband.
Don't stay angry, instead get EVEN.
been there, done that. no need to be in a hurry, either. if you take months or even years to get even, you have just that much more time to come up with something truly memorable.
or, you can do something swift and simple, like blocking their emails on your pc as spam.
I am the OP and I did not mean to get people angry here. SM
I have not turned my kinds against my husband, in fact I have always defended his actions to them, but now they are old enough to make up their own minds based on his actions. He is not a bad man, but he is just all about him and can be very demeaning and hurtful to me and my girls. Seems like he always has an alterior motive, which is usually something to gratify himself and his needs.
He just does not make me happy and I don't wish him any harm, in fact I want him to be happy. I just don't think I am the person who can make him happy, really.
I am able to financially support my children and I know that without him in the picture, none of us would have to walk on eggshells anymore. That's all.
And the need for adding the little angry icon is???
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I was so angry Gina went last night (sm)
Before last night it just seemed like a silly stunt that was being pulled, between Vote for the Worst and Howard Stern, but last night because a really talented person left before Sanjaya, it went too far and really angered me. I agree with the poster below about Howard Stern being a hypocrite, and the VFTW website seems to be run by some lame people who have nothing better to do. They don't seem to realize that in the process they are actually hurting Sanjaya, not helping him, but they don't seem to care. They just have their own agenda. Something needs to be done, but I can't imagine what because we do have free speech in this country, which normally is a great thing. There, I've had my rant!
I agree/always seems very negative and angry.
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You sound angry in your response saying whatever
But it is such a beautiful day will just think you are probably just having a bad day. Anyway, this police did not eat even half the sandwich; I have seen a picture and looks like it could have been a couple of bites. Enjoy the rest of your day, take some time for yourself!
I am angry when I hear something this ridiculous (sm)
But not having a bad day at all. It was more of an eye-rolling thing. He should have taken it back and showed it to the manager and either gotten his money back or another burger. If the girl did anything wrong she should get in trouble with her manager, not the police. If she did indeed go to her manager first, they should be the one in trouble not her. We have all gotten so petty - so focused on petty things that we miss the important ones.
Norb and Dag - the Angry Beavers
Even DH likes them. They are so funny.
Bugs Bunny and Tigger are right up there, too.
Probably should not waste your time being angry or
hurt - she sounds like a loser - and better to just use this as a lesson learned and not share anything with her in the future. Be the bigger person if you can and put behind you - but take a lesson from it - she is not your friend. Praying that you get your dream home! Hugs!!
Nanny 911 would say he is angry about some injustice once
she ruled out hypoglycemia. Is there competition or jealousy. Do you subtly favor the 11 yr old or does anyone else and make it obvious? Fairness between siblings is so important - it levels the playing field. Take him out alone and have a talk with him. Ask him what is upsetting him so much. Tell him it is important that he tell you because it can be fixed.
I know this will make people angry and ...
I do not know everyone's situations, but I see women on here whining and whining about stupid things. Enjoy the person you love. My husband is at war and I miss him terribly. All of these stupid little things that women deem "selfish" and such are usually nothing more than selfish women wanting things their own ways. Like I said, not every time, but come on, you have to give some, too. If you think your man sucks, there is really nothing he is going to do to make you happy, so you should probably cut him loose to find someone who can appreciate him.
Sorry, not my year of birth? Why are you angry?
NM
yeah..okay...now I am nuts, paranoid, angry and need a
psychiatrist. like I said, you are not overweight so you DO attack overweight people. I only eat one meal a day because that is the only time I get hungry, like someone else said about ONLY eating when they get hungry. I am not intentionally starving myself. I just have no appetite for hormone infested, pesticide ridden, additive stuffed foods. I am not being paranoid. I have researched this subject fully, and if you think the govt would not do this to unsuspecting, naive people, you are more naive than most. Remember the cigarette lie? What makes you think they wouldn't do it to your food? why are american's the only obese people in the world? think about it. oh...and I am not nuts, angry, paranoid, nor do I need a psychiatrist or therapy. I am not blaming every one else for my weight problem, other than the food we eat. You did not do this to me...I am not blaming you, but you are also thin and have no compassion for those that DO have a problem. I will not continue this. but this is my opinion only. I HAVE accepted responsibility for my whole entire life, including my weight. Oh...and I am not a liar either. thank you for all your compassionate support...must make you feel better to attack the overweight when you brag about being a size 6. I bet you are in your 20s, as well. hmpff.
It is as if some men get angry if their wives are sick or hurt (sm)
He does it every time too :(
I wouldn't want to. I'm angry that our system is set up so that this innocent man could not b
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grammar mistake above, typing while angry again!
Gotta learn to count to 10.
The weather has been HORRIBLE just about everywhere his Winter!!! Mother Nature Angry! :-(.....nm
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The weather has been HORRIBLE just about everywhere his Winter!!! Mother Nature Angry! :-(.....nm
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you may not be bitter, angry, or uptight, but you are RUDE rude rude!
You talk about being attacked when you are the one calling names... yes someone called you Doctor to start with, which was pretty childish, but they were saying so because you acted so matter-of-factly about diagnosing someone saying they were just having vivid dreams, and then going off on a tangent about their Xanax use...
Xanax affects EVERYONE differently so just because your husband is a certain way does not mean that is the same for this person. I take Xanax to fly... guess what it is a LIFE SAVER! I never take it to sleep nor do I ever take it for anything else...
maybe you are being rude because you are reacting, but my guess is you will have a response to me pointing this out... and it might be rude. just a guess.
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