update on teen drama
Posted By: keeping my mouth shut on 2009-01-06
In Reply to:
I posted before about how my son's ex-girlfriend was sabotaging him receiving an invitation to Sadie Hawkins dance. The girl that "changed her mind" can't find another date because it is too close to time.
So she follows my son all over the place, but she has to be loyal to the "Queen Bee" and doesn't seem to have the courage to ask him again.
Four years is a long time to be incarcerated in high school. Maybe he will get an A in chemistry instead!
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I'm done with drama, am better now; the less you say/do, better off you are.
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Sorry, the drama has just stated again
in the Bahamas so here another 24/7 coverage for anyone who wants the updates. Oh, forgot to mention her mother has just filed another suit in Florida for disposition of the body! My goodness!
My romance/drama novel.
I have been in medical transcription for 8 years and since our hospital sent us all home I have taken up writing in my spare time. I would like to invite everyone on the board to check out my website for my small publishing company and read about my romance novel.
Did you ever just wake up and be done with the drama?
I am 40 years old and have always tried to make everyone happy but lately I have had the attitude that I am not everyone's mother and it is not my job to make everyone happy. I have friends that I have cared dearly for and tried to help and they just will not step up to the plate and stop the drama. I am tired of the drama and I feel like I just am not putting up with another minute of it. I know some feelings will be hurt in the process but I work hard to keep my own life stable and I am tired of getting sucked into other people's dramas. My resolution is that I am not being anyone else's mommy unless they are actually a child!!
Me, too. It's just not worth all the drama.
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wow...talk about drama, sm
First with the phone calls, I would use an answering machine and screen all calls, or maybe unplug the phone while you are working. Can you get one of those cheap pay as you go cell phones, give your dad the number and then change your home # and don't tell him?
It sounds, at least to me, that your dad needs immediate psych help. Is there a Baker Act or something where you live? Does your mom have a restraining order on him (it sounds to me like she needs one). There's only so much you can do for someone that doesn't seem to want help. While I loved my parents immensely, I would have sent them to an MD or shrink if one of them started doing this. Sometimes there's a role reversal in parents and adult kids where the parents are acting more like kids which leaves the child to be the adult and make them do stuff they really don't want to. I've had that happen to me while my parents were sick, and while it wasn't any fun I knew I had to force them to do things (take meds and see MDs) they didn't want to.
Good luck. Hopefully someone else might have a better solution
I don't thrive on drama at all...sm
There is nothing more I would love than to be left alone and not have to see or speak to him ever again. I am living on his property. He has a big barn on it. He comes and sits out there at that barn near every day. If I walk out in the yard to feed my dogs --- here he comes. I cannot avoid him. I have told him to go away. I have been ugly, rude, and just downright said don't come back to my house. I live on his property. What can I do? Yes I can move. That would cost a lot of money though. Money I don't have. I live in a mobile home and sure it can be moved but that costs a lot of money and you have to pay to have all the plumbing and air conditioning hooked back up plus the actual costs of pulling it. I have 2 dogs I do not let roam free. I have to have my fencing moved and everything. I would go through the hassle gladly to get away. But I don't have thousands lying around to do it. I keep my doors locked and don't answer them when he knocks but you know he will sit and wait for you to go somewhere and meet you outside. I can move on my mother's property and we are probably gonna have to just get the money somewhere and do it. We have looked to see if we could find an acre of land for sale to buy but there is no small tracts of land around here for sale.
The sheriff and my dad are friends so that poses a problem. He doesn't believe my dad is like this. Daddy can hide his instability when he wants to. I am going to talk with my husband and tell him somehow we have to move. We have to.
She is the drama queen but she does - sm
have a good voice (or at least I think she does, and they must too or they would not be putting up with her again).
Favorite Doc Drama
Well, it was Chicago Hope for a long time (I adore Mandy Patinkin), then nothing. Now, it's House but I have to wonder how in the world he got to be as good as he is, when he constantly misdiagnoses the patients for the first 45+ minutes of the show. LOL.
Drama Queen- for asking a question that...
I was looking for intelligent answers to? It's a big assumption to assume that I am an immature drama queen with a very active imagination! A bit extreme to make that type of judgement over a person asking for opinions, nothing more nothing less. I was not looking for hateful assumptions about what type of personality that *you* think that I have! Don't be so hateful with your posts! And since you are sooo big on making assumptions, allow me to make an assumption about you- You are not used to receivng attention from the opposite sex, you are having a hard time understanding my post because you have never been noticed before?
And perhaps you are getting a little carried away with being hateful so you probably should not answer serious questions if you have a problem with being respectful in your posts.
Thanks for your comment anyways, even though it was totally off base and not much appreciated!
i have 2 girls, 10 & 13, both are drama queens
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Even if she wasn't a drama queen, that
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It makes it hard to have other plans, but drama is
She's only a teenager once, and there's only one spring drama performance? How many weeks could this last? I wouldn't sweat it too much. We love to go "up-to-bat" for our children, but we need to pick our battles. If she is a teenager, you do not want to give the impression that you are not supportive. We found the same thing happening with baseball practice for our son last year, so we just planned on the "not knowing". He'll only play baseball for a few months, and then it's over :( Hang in there, she'll be driving herself soon... YIKES! I don't even want to think about that. Be glad she's involved in drama and not "other things"..... if you know what I mean... Good luck on the performance. I'm sure she'll make you proud! 
puleeze-you never met a male DRAMA QUEEN??
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Obviously some people have enough substance in their lives to see that this is a drama queen looking
who happens to have a very active imagination and is extremely immature.
Drama mama- judge ordering Paris
back to jail. Supposedly a rash was the cause of her getting out but now they report it was she nearly had a mental breakdown. She should follow the fricking laws just like you or I do and maybe little miss twit wouldn’t land in the slammer. I feel no sympathy at all. I think, as well as probably millions of others, she is no better than anyone else. The judge is ticked she was let out, GOOD FOR HIM.
LATEST BREAKING NEWS ON BABY MAMA DRAMA
Howard Stern has just testified in court in Florida that he and Anna Marie did not have an exclusive only relationship- well, that did not take a rocket scientist to figure out with all the possible daddies coming forward, huh?
Teen Sex
I understand your pain Mom; however, your "baby girl" is a young woman who is sexually active now. These are the statistics for teen sex today:
 Students who have had intercourse in highschool:
 40% of ninth graders
47% of tenth graders
57% of eleventh graders
72% of twelvth graders
Keep the lines of communication open. You cannot "regulate" your daughter's sex life. If you try, you will be fighting a losing battle. They will sneak around and find places to "do it." Encourage your daughter to have a female exam, Pap, and testing for STDs because that is the responsible thing ALL sexually active people should do today - not because she is "bad" or needs to be "taught a lesson about the seriousness of her actions." Trust that you have done a good job in raising her. Continue to be there for her.
Lilly
TEEN DRIVING
I just dropped you an email.
teen fashion
OK, I have a teenage daughter who tells me "shaggy" hair is in for boys--nothing too clean cut. Clothes wise, American Eagle and the Buckle have trendy stuff. T-shirts with graphic designs, artsy, music related, kind of off the wall bands are popular--check out Target or Kohls for these, too. Hemp jewelry, dark-colored sneakers, pants that don't show your ankles when you sit down. Sagging is NOT hip, but not skin tight either. Don't tuck the shirts in. Just neat, but casual.
Hope this gives you an idea what to look for. Good luck!
teen clothes
For boys (my younest son is almost 16) - American eagle is hugely popular around here. My son also likes Abercrombie but they are so ridiculously expensive. Dockers shorts - lots of good shorts at Kohl's if you have one near you. Also if he has a favorite band/bands - order some of their graphic T shirts online, let him express his personality. Kids that age love those kind of T shirts.
Those of you with teen drivers....
...how did you handle speeding tickets, punishment wise? Take away their keys for XXX amount of time, ignore the first offense, ground them, etc.
teen drivers
I made my son pay his own ticket which for him was the punishment. I have to admit I speed so we didn't ground him or anything. Hasn't happened since.
Teen driver
I made my son pay his own tickets as well. He might have had a couple, total, but he soon learned. He's 21 now.
Thank you to all; I have a teen here in my complex who wants to do it.
Thank you.
teen driver
When my daughter got her license I gave her my older vehicle and she was responsible for gas and insurance. She paid for her repairs, but I helped if they were very high. My insurance agent told me to put her on her own policy so I would not get sued if she had an accident and my rates would not be affected by her driving record. By her living in my home she was able to get my discounts, ie., two car discount, different safety features on her vehicle, and home being insured. This was a wise choice as she had two small accidents within a year and is now paying high risk and my rates didn't change, but my insurance would have gone from $300 to $2600 every six months if she were on my policy. She hated having to pay since all her friends' parents were footing the whole bill, but now in college she appreciates it because she knows how to pay bills and budget her money while her friends are always bouncing checks or calling mom and dad for money.
Teen Troubles
Can you say, "Dr. Phil?" If you are that desperate, I would definitely consider it.
Teen fashion emergency! :) SM
OK, please help if you can. My son and I are clueless when it comes to "cool" fashions. His friends sorta teased him today and said he is really uncool (uncool haircut, clothes, shoes). They jokingly said they were going to do an extreme makeover on him. I laughed at first, but then thought, "Hey! That's not half bad!" He is starting high school in the fall, and I would like to help him with a makeover this summer. He is a nice looking kid, just got his braces off (so has a really nice smile), a little bit on the husky side, but his clothes and shoes are Walmart specials. He is just a basic "boy" hair cut.
What is "cool" for boys? Where should we shop? What kind of haircut is cool for a 15-year-old boy? I'm so clueless!
Any advice you can give me would be greatly appreciated!
 Chickadee
I too met my "father" as a teen/adult.
I had always asked questions. My mom was always very honest when she felt we could handle it about why they broke up (he was abusive). He contacted my brother and me when I was 16. I met him, found out he wasn't my "dad" since that was someone who would have at least been there for me when I needed him or to even know so I consider my "father" as a sperm donor. I am glad I did meet him and have closure (like someone else mentioned) because I think I would have always been curious but I didn't pursue a relationship with him. My father-in-law has been a real dad to me but my blood relative father is not a dad.
I agree with what someone mentioned too that your mom may not have been totally honest, wanting you to not want to pursue meeting him. I was lucky, my mom never badmouthed him when we were growing up even when we had all these questions about him, why they didn't stay married, what it would be like if they had stayed together and everything else. I realize now of course my mom was smart to have gotten out at the beginning. Once an abuser always an abuser so I'm relieved now. If you want to talk about it more let me know and I'll send you my e-mail.
JMO, but having been a very wild teen at one time...
you really should intervene. Your sister has a right to know, it is her child after all, and to turn a blind eye and pretend it does not exist does your niece more harm than good. Take it from one who has been there, if someone would have done the same for me I would have been angry, but looking back now it would have changed my life tremendously. A lot of young girls today really need some direction, look at the role models they have out there, most of them are nothing to brag about! Good luck to you, you sound like a loving and caring auntie!
I have two teen drivers on my insurance.
One is away at college and is not allowed to have a car on campus. Since he's paying for, or has earned scholarships for a good portion of his tuition, we pick up his car insurance as a secondary driver on a very old Toyota that he inherited from his grandfather. My second son has had his license for only two weeks. At the current time, as he is a good student, responsible and working very hard at school and on some extracurricular activities, we pick up his insurance as a secondary driver, as well. So far, so good. No one has had any moving violations or dings. In fact, I'm 46 and have never had a moving violation and have only gotten two parking tickets (deserved).
We're very serious here about driving responsibility. The boys know that one speeding ticket and we drop them from our insurance like hot potatoes. No insurance, no driving, no car. No warning. Mess up once, and they don't get back behind the wheel on our dime ever. The boys also know that their father and I mean what we say. We're not rich, but we are happy to be able to help our sons as they work toward their futures. But we won't pay high insurance fees because of their stupidity. More importantly, we've been to too many funerals for young people who died in accidents caused by speeding. I think that because of this, our boys seem to have taken their driving responsibilities/privileges very seriously.
Teen Heart Throbs
Who was your celebrity teen heart throb?
Mine has always been Donny Osmond. I really liked David Cassidy too.
Teen heart throbs
First was probably David Cassidy. Too many more to mention. LOL.
I've had 2 teen boys and my suggestion is to
take him to SuperCuts where for really cheap you can get him a hip cut. Have him look at the books/magazines and then ask the stylist for her opinion depending on his face structure, hair type, etc. Next, I would go to Target for his clothes - they are a little more expensive but classy - WalMart is pretty well hated by all teens.... he would probably rather have fewer shirts and pants and have them be a little nicer...... and shop for some bargain shoes - Famous Footwear - or check sales and don't forget the internet!! JCPenney is great also - almost forgot about them!!
Great teen stores. They are owned by the same ... SM
establishment (for lack of a better word LOL). Gap is the more expensive, higher end, clothing. Old Navy is less expensive and is what the kids around here wear the most of. Either is really good but Old Navy goes a lot further in your budget.
Maurice's is good and not so high priced, if you have one of those nearby. And don't forget about the old standbys like Macy's, Penney's, Sears, and Belk's if these are in your area of the country.
I feel like if I don't change the course now then I will have problems when he is a teen (sm)
I am hoping if I can find a way to alter his course, maybe it can go in a different direction. I know everyone has their own personality, but I think as parents it is our job to do our best to raise them to be the best adults they can be, and to give them a chance at having a happy adult life. If I just ignore it, I think I would not be doing my job as a mom.
When I was a teen & my sister was 10, my parents banned
We got around that one pretty easily. At 10:00 or so, we'd each yawn, say goodnight, and go to bed. Our parents usually followed not long after. At 11:30 I'd get up, wake up my sister, and we'd sneak back out to the living room to watch it with the sound way down. My parent's bedroom was back at the other end of the house, so they couldn't hear it or see the light from the TV. We never got caught, either! Hehe
Well, I was not on a teen-role model, not in the public eye
no one was looking to me and I got myself into trouble and had more sense than to know I wanted to nor could I raise a child at my age(by the way, not 16, older). I assumed responsibility because I took care of things, did not regret then nor now and never have. She, from what I hear, did not tell her mother until well past the time she could have gotten an abortion, sounds like she wanted to be pregnant. I have absolutely no regrets about things I have done in the past.
I'm not a teen, far from it but I get SVT a couple of times a year sm
I usually get it in the middle of the night and it usually lasts about 4 hours. I am prescribed 40 mg of verapamil, which I take 1 at the onset and then 1 every hour until it eases up. I usually end up taking about 4 or 5. That works for me, but then I'm usually wiped out for a few hours afterwards.
My first experience where this lasted more than a few minutes, I went to the ER and they gave me 6 mg of adenosine which converted me. They were able to see the SVT on my EKG, so the cardiologist was able to correctly treat me. They have offered me other treatment options, such as electrophysiology ablation, but since I only get it a couple of times a year, I'm not at the point where I want it treated surgically.
Good luck.
I am not letting my young teen marry an old man.
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Next door neighbor's teen having parties
I am sooo sick of the next door neighbors. It is a mom and 2 teenage daughters. They have been having a party going on 5 days now. Tons of cars over partially blocking our driveway, loud talking and laughter, underage drinking, throwing their litter (beer cans) onto our side of the yard...etc. I just want to sit out on my porch and not have a gang of teens a few feet away. What kind of mom lets this kind of thing go on and these kids (boys and girls) have spent the night every night. I am sick of it. I thought it would end with today being Monday and the holiday weekend being over. But they continue to hang out over there. I just want peace and quiet like it is usually here. What would you guys do? I would love to call the cops on them but have never done anything like that before. I just feel like this is ridiculous especially since we live in apartment homes and not houses so our duplexes are very close together. 
I think what you are experiencing is all normal teen behavior. sm
I can't think of anyone that I hung around with in my teens that didn't run away. Trust me ---- they ALWAYS COME BACK.
OMG, we did that with our teen kids one year. Unavoidable. Miserable
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I'd give the teen whatever you spend on shirts for the younger one &
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Aqua-Teen Hunger Force's Ignot and Err.
I could never explain the cartoon...it's something you have to see to believe and have an incredibly warped sense of humor to enjoy.
Then I probably wouldn’t post about teen having okayed premarital sex
on this post. Everything is game when you post as far as I am concerned. Keep it to yourself if you don’t want others to comment. sex at 16 is statuatory rape in my state and if it had knowingly happened with my child, I would not buy them BCPs, rather had taken a legal course. I really can say what I think, thank you.
My teen daughter has this, too. We're trying the dermatologist next. OTC stuff isn't cutting i
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Teen girls accused of setting kitten on fire (sm)
This article made my stomach roll. Maximum penalty (yeah, right) is 3 years in solitary confinement. Personally, I think they should be publically whipped until they scream and then whipped until they stop screaming...but that's just me.
"A boy and his friend said they saw the smoke and heard the cat shrieking while the girls laughed."
http://www.nbcsandiego.com/news/13708685/detail.html?rss=dgo&psp=news
(cut and paste into your browser to read article)
Hubs did window cleaning as a teen & always got swamped w/folks wanting them
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Thanks for the update. I'm sorry about
your brother and his family. What a shame. I'm glad Sasha had a good day. It must be really hard for you, because you probably want to pour your heart out to your brother about Misha, but you probably don't feel comfortable doing that with his loss, too. Well, I'll be thinking about you and sending up prayers, now for your whole family. I hope tomorrow is a better day, and so on, and so on. 
Thanks for the update
Hi Stephanie. Glad to hear that your trip to the doctor was helpful. I know I really need to
get into the exercise too. Never was that big on exercise before, but now with the pain and fatigue, it is really hard to get motivated. I will just have to force myself. Yuck!!!
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