to raising my granddaughter
Posted By: marilynslagel on 2007-12-30
In Reply to: I know a lot about this - hope this helps - raising my granddaughter
Thank you for all the information. I may email you as this thing goes along. What a mess for the kids. I wish the mom would get some help, but she is perfectly happy in the drug world and doesn't see a thing wrong with it. Thanks again for the info.
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My granddaughter is only 2-1/2, but I already
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Tell me some about your granddaughter,
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Does my granddaughter count? nm
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Sad letter to granddaughter
My GD has started college now. This is son's child. I have posted here before but for years I was always put on the backburner, her maternal side of the family always came first. I tried, really tried, took the entire family on wonderful vacations, bought clothes, gave them this and that but hardly any visits (passed me by on the way to the other GMs home) - always calls though from DIL but I so wanted to speak with my own son some. Oh, I could see and talk with him when I paid to have work done around my home (although on the maternal's side, GM and great-GM always had yard cleaning, painting, whatever done as freebies.) It really hurt my feelings. My DIL's family have no outside friends, just family and thick as thieves so I was the outsider. I remarried about 7 or so years ago and have wonderful man for a husband, spoils me and we have, in our golden years, much to be thankful for, jobs, travel, wonderful relationship. After my son wanted to give me a tongue lashing about what he perceives me to get in money from my father's estate, I had enough and basically threw in the towel. Just too much to take any more abuse, verbal or otherwise. I get letter yesterday from my GD asking me why did I give up "blood" for my present husband? I could not believe what she said. She said saw her great-aunts more than she does me or even communicates with me- This went on from the time she was born and it was due to her mother basically taking the kids around her family more than me. I used to cry, I was sad but finally just gave up and I mean no visits, no calls, no nothing. I cannot tell her why- she probably would never believe me and why should she? She is her mother's daughter and extremely close to the maternal side. I wrote her back and told her unable to say why, would not be believed anyway- would only cause people to feel worse towards me (I never explained to anyone there why I stopped coming around- just stopped). I have been passed over all these years, just basically ignored when it came to the kids and now this?? I told her I would be the fall guy and to believe the ones she has heard for years, I would have nothing more to say. My father (prior to his death) had given the GD and her brother both $5,000.00 in their high school years to buy their clothing until they got out of HS- her mother spent that but does this daughter know? I kept that a secret- never said anything, would not be believed probably but yet this GD says I bailed when times got tough? My father also gave the GD and her brother (both my g-children) $20,000.00 several years ago for their college- I have no idea if any of that left in the bank as after father's death the parents of these children had access to the accounts- and yet I am to blame for bailing so to speak? I could write a book on this. My heart has been heavy for years but no way could I find to squeeze into their lives and now this. The no visiting and so forth started way before this marriage and now I have a DH who loves and adores me and yet I am catching flak for dropping out. My GD says the bad thing is that I seem to be content with things as they are- I have had to learn to live and accept things as they are if I could not change them and I am content now .Anyone else have a similar problem? Oh BTW, I moved to my new home in 2004- son who lives about 15 minutes away has never been to my new home nor even called.
Well, have a granddaughter, similar situation
never hear from her, in same town, no calls, no visits. She graduated high school this year- I got invite - did not go, my gift nada. Why should I put myself out if others don’t seem to care about me??
Young Frankstein is my granddaughter's
favorite movie of all time!
When I adopt my granddaughter in a couple of years
it is not going to make a difference to her dad - he could care less about her (literally). With my daughter, though, our relationship is already nonexistent so I don't think it could get any worse when I change her daughter's last name to my maiden name. She is more upset that the child has become accustomed to me being the one "playing" momma and calls me that sometimes. I don't refer to myself as "mamma" to my GD, but she choses it to use it from time to time. My daughter thinks she can spit out a kid, walk away from it, and still take all the credit for success at potty training, dance recitals, the child's extensive vocabulary...all the while not visiting, only calling once every few months, not paying court-ordered child support, send presents on special occasions...
A name is just a name. My 4 yo GD told my daughter she was going to call her "sissy" now instead of "momma." My daughter started crying and the child said, "don't cry. We'll find a way for all of us to be together somehow." Out of the mouths of babes. Think my daughter actually heard the child was saying she wanted all 3 of us to have a relationship? Nope. Too wrapped up in herself to listen.
I think people overreact to names. I think it is the relationship that counts, and if the family of Heartbroken doesn't see that, it is the child's loss and that is who I feel sorry for.
3 yo granddaughter got super-glue in hair,
at her other grandma's house. Is there any way you know of to get this out and same from cutting her beautiful hair off ?? thanks.
Just because you are not raising someone
does not mean that you are not spending time with your grandson. Of course you are going to see pics of them together. She was in his life, but she did not raise him.
Yes, ANS had problems...no doubt. She had PROBLEMS though. I think all the bashing everyone does is pretty sad.
Her mom was no saint though. To say, oh she raised Daniel for 6 years so she must not be too bad is just crazy.
Honestly, you cannot base any of their characters off anything because none of you lived in their life, none of you knew them personally and knew what went on behind closed doors and not just what our twisted media decided to show you....not even I can judge their character because even what I know is limited!
Let yourself be the one on the other side of that lens one day and see how it feels to have someone judge your character. Don't believe everything you see/read....especially the crap that comes from our "news."
Raising.......... sm
We had "raising" in those days. I think that is something that seems to be disappearing from society today at an alarming rate. I can remember my mother giving me the big hairy eye if she even thought it looked like I was hinting for something. Kids today just come right out and ask for what the want....or demand it.
raising my hand too..sm
and personally, due to the amount of money involved in ALL professional sports, I cannot help but think that most of it is one big set up and the public is being ripped off by feeding in to it, sort of like the professional wrestling teams. that is just a thought though, and not meant to stir up any one's irrational emotions about sports. I also think they are TOO competitive and families are pushing their youngsters into sports WAY too young, just to bring in the big bucks later in life. Part of my work is for a pediatric orthopedist and a youngster of 3 years old suffering sports injuries, in my opinion, is WAY too young!
OK I have exp with raising beagles...sm
My husband has 10 hunting beagles in kennels. I do most of the taking care of them. I also have a pit bull and a beagle inside.
You are in a predicament. The dog definitely deserves and should be treated the best that can be provided. First of all, is she getting fed and all? Make sure she has food and water. Look on the internet and look at the pics of dogs with sarcoptic mange. Just a few months ago one of our beagles got it and looked awful. She lost her hair and scratched and had bleeding spots on her from the scratching. Some just lose spots of hair. If it has this I can tell you how to get rid of it and make the dog look like a different dog. We treat our beagles a lot ourselves. If it has mange it would need ivermectin but the problem is if it has heartworms and you wouldn't know unless you take it to the vet to check then the ivermectin would kill it. The test to check is about $30. If it does not have the heartworms then you give it a shot of ivermectin 1/10 of a mL for every 10 pounds. Make sure not to overdose. You give it once a week for 4-5 weeks. It kills the mange and most everything else it might have. But you have to be very careful because an overdose is lethal. Also to help grow the hair back you put on NuStock which can be bought at a feedstore for around $12 a tube. It has instructions on it. THe ivermectin can be bought at the feedstore too. This is for cows. That is why you only give it a very small amount. It is 30 something dollars for a thing of it. This is how I cured my husbands beagle and it worked and the dog looks great. Regrew all the hair and is very healthy. But make sure it don't have heartworms first. And weigh it to see how much to give. This is a alternative to vet care and I am telling you it works.
I was raising kids then...
And I remember the Reagan years as being good. Very good. I remember the ketchup-as-a-vegetable debate, but most people remember those years fondly.
Used to do the seatbelt thing, too, till 4 yr old granddaughter told me "Nana, we don't take o
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That's good to know, in 25 years of raising
show cats,I have never seen stud tail in a neuter, but then it could just be my breed.
latchkeying is not raising children, as you put it
latchkey children are not raised by their parents, so what are you talking about, besides the fact that you're laughing about it, which makes you sound immature as well.
Me raising another person's child?
Someone would have to be out of their minds to think (don't care if my own child) that I would raise another's child- the only way would have to be the parents no longer on this earth. I raised my 2, worked really hard to do so, working sometimes multiple jobs at a time and I be da.... if I am giving up my golden years to be blanketed by babies/young children/teenagers - not this lady.
I am single mother, raising my kids on my own, but not
by choice, because my husband died at a very young age and because of his illness we weer unable to get life insurance, so I am left to support them on my own. I really am upset that would even look down upon a single parent in such a way. If you want people to be open-minded to your decisions in life, I suggest you not group all single parents into some sort of welfare classification.
Maybe it is..but tonight's whole show was about raising money
and DOING SOMETHING... and motivating us... and making us realize how bad things are out there for some people.
don't agree w/U - she's 45, raising kids..regular lady..
Remember when we were talking about goodsearch.com and raising money sm
for your local charity? Well, our local news broadcast got in touch with me and they want to interview me about using goodsearch! haha
I was like, "here? At my house?"
I guess they want to come over and watch me do it and show them how I use it to search for medical terms and then show how much money I've raised so far for our local charity...I'm so nervous! I would have to CLEAN like crazy, clean my desk. Ugh! I don't know, I haven't committed to it yet........But I'd like to get the word out about my charity!!
Staying at home and raising us kids worked for my mother
Hmm. It should be okay with me right? Oh, wait, that puts me in the welfare line which you think everyone takes advantage of.
You don't live in your mother's time. I wish you did, because the internet didn't exist then.
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