there is a patient advocate or ombudsman in every state...
Posted By: Kendra on 2008-12-08
In Reply to: Need advice on a situation. s/m - penny
whose job it is to deal with things like this. the nursing home can give you the number and it MUST be posted somewhere. If you ask for this number, chances are, they will find the ring if at all possible because they do NOT want to deal with this type of mess, but you should definitely get in contact with him.
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Totally agree! which is why I advocate
providing one's own happiness regardless of whether you are in or out of a relationship.
high 5!
I did try to get a consumer advocate involved
but no luck. Called 1 day and would not take my call, guess he had more important ones that day. I agree totally with you about getting a news channel involved, I just decided maybe if I went the court way might would stand a chance, knew I could go after their banking acct or garnishment if the courts on my side and it turned out that way. The price they owe me has gone up over $100 just for my court costs and now they owe those in addition to what it was in the first place. The courthouse steps is the way the county does where I purchased the furniture. We could have it at 1600 Pennsylvania Avenue, just as long as I retrieve what is owed.
Just to play devil's advocate...
there are many women who LIKE to play the victim, poor me, I sacrifice all the time role. IMHO, this is a lot of psychobabble designed by women to further their status as the downtrodden gender. No one can MAKE you not take care of yourself first; you choose to do that to yourself. It doesn't take a genius (or Oprah) to figure out that if you do for others all the time and are not taking the time to take care of yourself that you are eventually going to wear thin and fall apart. Too many women on anti-whatever drugs (anxiety, depression) who can't figure out how to go through day to day existence without mother's little helper pill. It only stands to reason that if you try to be perfect you will fail; something will be neglected in the long run. Deal with it, do the best you can and don't be a doormat. If you fill your face with junk all the time and are fat and don't exercise, that is nobody's fault but your own. If you try to do it all and don't ask for help, that too is your own fault. Women today have it much easier than other generations did. My mother-in-lawr raised 4 boys, worked on the family dairy farm, cooked 3 meals a day and cleaned every day and never thought twice about it. We are spoiled compared to that!
Perhaps I'm playing devil's advocate or maybe I need a
But, I just don't get it.
If things are this dire and it sounds as if what you have posted about him is true, it sounds like you need to spend EVERY POSSIBLE MOMENT getting out of this situation to protect yourself but, most importantly, to protect your children.
What I don't understand is, if time is of the essence and you're taking all of these steps to extricate yourself and your children from this situation...
Why are you wasting precious time soliciting the opinions of virtual STRANGER on an internet forum, and wasting hours arguing with posters?
I dunno...I've never been in an abusive situation, but it seems to me soliciting advice and sympathy from strangers on the internet would be the LAST thing on my mind.
Best of luck to you. It's 2008. If you really want to get out of that situation, and get your children out of it, you can and will.
I am a CASA (court appointed special advocate) and I personally see nothing (sm)
wrong with mothers working at home while their children are there. For goodness sake, the mother can get up and check on them, the children can come to mommy with a problem. They are not unattended. If I were investigating a case as a possible neglect situation where the children were at home with mom working I would have to laugh.
I have seen many more neglectful moms who were doing nothing, I mean nothing except talking on the phone, watching soaps, napping, engaging in all sorts of sexual behaviors, using drugs or alcohol, etc. These parents are by far the more neglectful and causing more harm to their children.
The children of MTs are observing mom multi-task and yet they still have the advantage of having her there to break up an argument, put on a bandaid, etc.
With all the horror stories of day care anymore how can you even suggest they are harming their children.
Precious! Many places will have state-to-state drivers form a chain
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Think you can go to dot.state to get h'way conditions, but here in lower NY state, we've been
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If I were the patient I'd....sm
never be comfortable with what all this midwife is trying. It appears to me that the midwife is trying to play doctor - we've all seen it at times with nurses & PAs trying to be something they're not.
My OB group uses midwives and prefers that the midwives deliver all vaginal deliveries; however, I have insisted that a "real" doctor see me on my visits and deliver my baby when the time comes. I'm paying for a full MD service (i.e. they don't charge the insurance company less if a midwife sees a patient and/or delivers).
Be patient
I know it's driving me crazy too, but if I wait about 20 seconds or so it finally comes up.
The English Patient
What can I say except I adore Ralph?? :-) Sigh...
Patient - every time!!!
It was so bad that I even put it in my auto type and I even spelled it wrong there!!!!
Sounds good, then just be patient....sm
and please let us know when you are 6-8 weeks into using it....I so hope it works for you, it worked for me and 2 of my friends (they had lost their hair to chemo), one of whom finished chemo in November and has nearly 2" of growth all over her head now and thick!! (post-Fermodyl)....
patient care - did you hear about this one?
June 13, 2007 — A woman is lying on the floor of a Los Angeles County hospital emergency room. She is throwing up blood. Family members say hospital workers ignored their pleas for help, so they called 911 from the hospital frantically seeking help.
A half an hour later, Edith Rodriquez, 43, a mother of three, was dead, leaving the family reeling. The county supervisor is outraged, and it's all been caught on tape.
At 1:43 a.m. May 9, Rodriquez's boyfriend, Jose Prado, placed the first call to 911 from a pay phone just outside the emergency room at Los Angeles' Martin Luther King Jr.-Harbor Hospital.
911 Operator: "What's wrong with her?," the 911 operator asked.
Prado: "She's vomiting blood."
The operator then questions why hospital officials are not helping Rodriguez.
Prado: "They're watching her and they're not doing anything. Just watching her."
Rodriguez had been to the emergency room on three separate occasions. Each time she was released after being given prescriptions for pain.
This time, she lay on the floor of the emergency room for 45 minutes. A security video shows staffers and other patients standing by as a janitor cleaned the floor around her.
Eight minutes after the first call, another call to 911 apparently comes from another person not related to Rodriquez. "There's a woman on the ground of the emergency room at Martin Luther King and they're overlooking her," the female caller says, "and they're ignoring her."
The operator asks the caller what she wants him to do and informs the woman to contact hospital personnel. The conversation then becomes tense as the operator lets the caller know he cannot send an ambulance to the hospital.
"I cannot do anything for you for the quality of the hospital there," the operator says. "This line is for emergency purposes only."
"May [God] strike you too for acting the way you are," the caller responds. The operator says, "No negative, ma'am. You're the one."
The county coroner ruled that Rodriguez died of a perforated bowel.
After listening to the tapes, L.A. County supervisor Zev Yarovslosky called the hospital's actions a moral and human breakdown.
Last week, federal inspectors declared that patients at King-Harbor were in "immediate jeopardy" of harm or death and gave the hospital 23 days to correct procedures or lose certification. It was the fourth time in less than four years that the hospital had received the warning, according to The Los Angeles Times.
"I hope it's a lesson to the rest of the community that when somebody's in trouble and the appropriated reaction is not to turn your back on that somebody," Yarovslosky said. "It's to put your hand out and see how you can help."
The supervisor of that second dispatcher said his tone on the call was inappropriate. The medical director of the hospital has been ousted for his handling of an unrelated lapse in patient care.
You're a very patient woman
I was too when I was younger, but not anymore. Good for you for teaching your daughters what not to do.
I think you deserve better. I doubt he appreciates you.
I have a couple of nieces who smoke and their houses never smell bad - they use air purifiers and anti-cigarette candles, but I'm not sure where they get the candles. They smoke, but hate the smell of stale cigs. Go figure.
just a liaison between the patient's and families...
and the nursing home, so if they are not addressing your needs, this is an appointed advocate--not employed by the nursing homes--whose job it is to address your concerns.
Hands down....The English Patient
Absolutely the worst movie I have ever seen.
Talk about a patient's privacy being intruded upon.
And who is paying for these ultrasounds? Are these lawmakers going to support these children. I think we've fought long and hard to make it our decision as women. It is our body. I'm sorry if I offend people who call it murder or whatever, but that is the choice a woman has to make, not some lawmaker. Also, which health care provider (doctor/imaging center) is making the money off of this one? Will the woman that is with child have to pay for this herself?
Yes, dad was in the picture. He was kind and generous and patient.
He took her abuse for 30 years, and then he died. He wouldn't leave her. He and I were very close. My father gave me a great gift. He gave me self-confidence. I could write about him forever! But I can boil it down to this: A father who loves and cares for his daughter, and builds her up, increases the likelihood that she will have great relationships with men in her life. I've always had wonderful men in my life -- very good friends -- and especially my husband. My father had a lot to do with that.
So thanks for saying I'm a good seed, but my father was also a good gardener!
I had a patient's name a long time ago, Ima Piggee..nm
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Dear Mother of an Adult Patient
Stop calling me to request prescription refills for your son. If he needs something, HE should call, not you. He is forty years old and fully capable of calling. Also, don't call me on Friday afternoon and ask me to put a Rx up front and then call me this morning and ask if I faxed it to some pharmacy. That's not what you asked me to do. And again... HE should call, not you. Also, calling me three times a day to ask if a company has called me to authorize your son's Rx is annoying. They won't call me. They will....Oh yeah. CALL HIM! Your voice annoys me. It's like screeching birds. In case you didn't get it, which you don't seem to, PLEASE STOP CALLING.
Thanks!
Be patient, kind, loving and understanding . . .
sounds to me like he is missing you and your mom/family life. He is probably hurting right now and needs you and for some reason he finds great comfort in being with you. My dad died 13 years ago and I loved having him around. I know your situation is different, but be the comfort he needs right now and I am sure this will end in time. He is looking for reassurance for something. Who divorced who? He is probably hurting a great deal right now even though he does have a new girlfriend. You won't regret being there for your father. Trust me.
Patient had heartburn after eating a "hot met"
this was in a report I transcribed a couple of days ago. I left a blank because the client allows 2 blanks, but it has just been bugging me ever since. It was an account in the southern US, so I wondered if it was something specific to that region (I've lived on the west coast all my life). Can anyone satisfy my curiousity and tell me what a "hot met" is?
Just did MRI on tinnitus patient. See Message regarding acoustic neuromas.
Acoustic Neuromas:
Acoustic neuromas are small, slow growing benign tumors that press against or invade the auditory nerves. If your tinnitus is only in one ear, you should see your physician to rule this one out. An MRI will probably be required for a definitive diagnosis, but one contributor's ENT felt that an MRI wasn't warranted unless frequent dizziness was present. Acoustic neuromas are removable by surgery but involve a risk of hearing loss. Doing nothing should be considered an option by elderly patients since these tumors grow so slowly.
I hate the phrase "the patient expired"
I have never liked that phrase...makes me think of spoiled milk or something. We don't come with expirations dates!!
Mainly speaking tongue in cheek, but he could remove patient info and let me listen.
:P
The State of Arizona is opting out. Anyone else's state opting out? NM
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When a patient has a russian name they speak with a russian accent, then - see message
the next patient has an italian name and they speak with an italian accent, then the next patient was a child and they spoke with a goofy (disney character accent), etc, etc. It's been like that ALL day. That's why I said I like to type the report in wingdings and see how they like it. ha ha
Must be that state of the art leg
she just has to program it and it does the cha cha, disco and rumba all by itself. The other contestants don't have a chance this year.
In my state . . .
Not sure about this, but I think the doctors in my state do an ultrasound before any abortion procedure anyway just to see how far along the mother is. I guess the mother is not required to look at the monitor? I don't believe in abortion for myself, but at the same time I do not thing anyone has the right to tell you what you must and must not do. It is a woman's body and she must live with her decision. I will say this-both times I was pregnant seeing the babies made it all seem real. I knew it was real, but seeing it really hit home that I was about to be blessed with a small wonderful new life.
LOL. Well, he was at our state
fair and we were going anyway, so we figured we would just go the night that he was going to be there. I was absolutely crazy about him when he first came out, then it faded! It was really good last night, though
#1 what state are you in....
I'm curious as to what state you're in and if this is public or private school (I didn't read the entire thread). I want to add that writing something 100-200 times was outlawed in many states years ago - this just makes kids STOOPID (more stoopid). As I know it, also paddling was outlawed DECADES ago in many states........so I'm curious if you're talking about public vs. private school. PADDLING FOR BEING LATE????????? OMG......they better find another way (the schools)........
gee, the censor here said I had to change the spelling of stoopid (bad word apparently).....
What state are you in and
what's growing in your vegetable garden right now?
Broccoli (ending), snow peas, onions, garlic, spinach, red lettuce, dill.
Just planted yesterday: tomatoes, sunburst squash, bush beans, with much more to come . . .
Well I do know that our state is 50-50 (sm)
so 50% of the house is mine but so is 50% of all debt. Regardless of whose name it is in. I have talked to mine about it in the past but not recently. He told me not to ever mention it again unless I was ready to go. As far as family, mine lives 8 hours away and is in no position to help anyway. All I have is God, my kids and my friends. But you know I am very grateful for all of them.
What state are you in?
Oh, I would be road-kill if I brought home another kitty though.... *whine whine whine* :)
in my state...
I can call my contact person at the child support agency and they can draw up the papers to have the child support increased. No cost to me. Or, call the legal aid in your town and see what they suggest.
Please use state boards. NM
Goldbird
I do not think underpaid here in my state
nice that the person won, however as far as putting up with the children, most teachers would never have to do that if the PARENTS did their job now days and taught the kids to respect, mind their elders, share, get along, in other words prepare them for life once they get through school. I think the parents are failing, not the schools.
Once again, depends on the state.....
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Sad state of affairs when he is in the top 2
because if people are really thinking they are voiting for talent, far from it. I think the vote is the cutesy vote, not anything close to anyone with staying power nor star power the likes of Carrie. Oh, could be a shooting star, flash across the night and then gone. He is really 1 of the weaker singers I have ever seen on this show and watched it each and every year. Malinda will do very well. She is strong and will probably outshine most on there this year. I hope people will come to their senses and at least vote Jordin in.
ummmm, D, it looks like CNG is a no-go in my state. SM
Sounds like some fraud and duress has been going on.
Here's a report I found: http://dfi.wa.gov/consumers/news/2006/check_n_go.htm
Wow that's great, what state?
xxx
I don't, but there are individual state
boards too, see State Boards right under Word Help.
Sad state of children
Good for the boys who have been guided under your scout leadership. They will truly have a gift to pass on to their children some day. My boys are 8 and 10, both cub scouts, the oldest crossing over at the end of this year. Most of the boys at school feel that scouting is just for those who are not popular and laugh at it. Fortunately, my oldest son is assertive enough to smile and let them know that he is proud and feels fortunate to belong to scouts, even stating that some day he hopes to be an Eagle Scout who will become President. He has learned so much from scouting--including the true meaning of RESPECT and practices it on those who do not even deserve it. We have to keep plugging away to keep these values in our children, so many kids are lost with parents who are lost. Thank you for your years of dedication and teaching....maybe with one child at a time we can turn this sad trend around.
You state below that you done know if you can make it - sm
or let him go, etc. You never "had" him in the first place. He responds by saying, "you are strong...you will make it." From that response I deduce he does not care, as long as you go away quietly and don't cause him any trouble. I cannot relate unfortunately as I have never gotten involved with anyone over the internet and don't ever intend to. You have made your "relationship" with him into much more than it really is. He says his wife is a "good woman" , that alone speaks volumes and the fact that he is sweeping you under the rug and you can only contact him at work, which is conveniently ending soon and he is cutting you off so his wife doesn't get PO'd. Email and speaking on the phone does not totally tell the whole picture about someone. You have never met him, you have no clue his idiosyncrasies, habits, etc. All you know about him is what he has told you, which is not much from the looks of it. If you cannot handle your "breakup" on your own, then go to a therapist, cleryman, trusted friend, or someone who is close to you and can help you through this. You vested way to much in an unattainable man, which as pointed out below is a definite issue and you need to find out why you did that. Concentrate on the positives, you say he has helped you become a better person, well w/o him try to continue to be that better person and go out and do things, get involved with and organization and keep busy and try not to dwell on this "wonderful guy" who lied to you about being married, and tosses you aside when he deems it unacceptable to continue being your "friend".
I DID state my opinion. Where do you see a
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You can state yours w/o criticizing someone else's though (nm)
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me too (lower NY state)
had to go out for son's teacher conference
Gas prices here in NY State
It's anywhere from $3.19-$3.25 a gallon. We're going away for a few days next weekend and I can only imagine how much it'll cost to fill up (Usually around $60.00).
I think I would tell here you just could not afford it, and state what
you can do, i.e., the week after. He is not obligated to go, especially if it is a $2000 trip with all things considered. If she cannot accept that, that is her problem. Be gracious, but just tell here there is no way to afford the trip. Or, why not just move your trip up a week, go for the entire week, and if there are not enough tickets for everyone, then your DH can go to the ceremony and the rest of you meet them afterwards.
That's the thing - they don't take out for my state.
just one of them things i guess!
Find out what state he is in as he
may not be from your state. Refer him to the suicide hotline of his state. Please be careful, Craigslist has had a lot of problems with stalkers, a woman was killed answering an ad, pedophiles, etc. You sound like a very caring person but please realize he may be lying. Think with your brain and not your heart in this type of situation. It can be very, very dangerous!!
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