the town where I live sends out notices
Posted By: to all local residents - SM on 2007-08-02
In Reply to: I don't believe I mentioned that AT ALL - sm
by mail when someone on the sex offender registry moves into town. So, if this were my situation, the man registering the little girl would have received one at his home as well. Do you think I feel worried about how he would feel about his face being plastered via 70-80,000 mail boxes in town? Nope. Every mailing lists the offense, the date, the age/sex of the child along with the sex offender's 5 x 7 picture and his current address. Two live on my street, share the same community swimming pool as my family. It is also posted at the police stations and post offices.
Yes, his child is involved, but SO IS MINE. I can be just as compassisonate about his child as I am about mine and every other child in that school. I can understand the OP's concern. I would want to know and be proactive towards everyone's safety.
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Now that I live in town -- 3
We've only been living in town for about a year now. In that time, I've only had to borrow an ice pack from the 1. We have also asked another neighbor to dog-sit for the weekend and my other neighbor I've known since I was in high school and would think nothing of asking her if I needed something (she's also my stylist). I'm literally right around the corner from the grocery store, so it would be very hard for me to ask for an egg or milk, etc.
When we lived in the country, we only had 2 neighbors, but I the last things I borrowed from them were lemon juice and eggs.
When I first got married, though, I used to live right beside my grandma and just across from parents. We used to always call one another for a roll of toilet paper. I don't know how we always ended up in that situation, but we did. I guess it was just part of the newlywed process for me (don't know about my parents and grandparents).
I used to live in a town of 200, but now (sm)
I live in a city in the southwest that I believe is close to a population of 1 million or will hit 1 million shortly. It was definitely a shock coming from a small, midwestern town of 200, but I love the big city! :)
that i'd never live in a town again.
i grew up in the city, married and then lived in the country for 20 yr. Said now one'd ever get me to live in town again. Then we moved to another state and couldn't afford a place in the country, with prices higher here. But its a tiny town and though i'd rather live in the country by far, its not that bad...
live in a town of <150. No zeros.
that's less than 150 people, 13 miles from nearest grocery, in the middle of the USA...and i grew up in a big city in CA. but whoohoo!! now we have a cell tower too. turkeys roam the yard every day. sometimes deer, right in town :) and we've been upgraded to high speed I/N as well. Living is good!!
Since you live in a small town
and you say people know your dog, perhaps you could leave your new address and phone # with several people. If he does show up, surely someone will contact you. Wishing you the best.
Thanks. I thought it might be a small town. I live SM
in south central PA, so the drive would be significant. It would be so wonderful to see him and to see him as a minister. 
I met my husband in the small town I live in...sm
I was 17 years old and me and a friend were out cruising the town one weekend night. He kept following me and my friend and flirting and waving. Finally we got up the nerve to stop and didn't get out our car. He came up and introduced himself along with his twin brother. They flipped a coin to decide who would ask for my phone #. I gave it to him but it was about a month or two before he called. I actually had forgotten him. He called and refreshed my memory and the rest is history. We began to date and a couple years later married. We have been married for 11 years now.
I live in a very small town (pop 8000) and
each year, the muncipality I live in sponsors a kids camp. It's run by college kids and is usually held at one of the parks. Check with your local borough/municipal office to see if they'll be doing anything like that.
Our churches also offer free kid programs during the summers, usually 2 to 3 days a week. Check those out as well. Is there a softball summer league she can join? Check with the schools to see if they're offering any summer programs.
I know how hard it is to keep 'em busy during the summer. I have 3 and working from home isn't always easy. If it's not too expensive, maybe she could join the community pool.
When all else fails, put 'em to work. Give her a daily list of chores to do and offer her a small allowance for completing it. That should give her some spending money and mom a little break.
I live in Louisville and restaurant owners all over town are
applauding him for having done it. The restaurant he went to right after that was just around the corner and the owner there said he didn't have guts to not serve him.
I live on the East Coast, definitely not "small town America"
Again, you shouldn't make excuses to spoil your kids and you absolutey shouldn't make assumptions that I live in "small town America" as that's definitely not the case. I was extremely careful driving because I always knew that if I got any kind of traffic violation, I was going to have to pay for it with my insurance rates going up. I grew up with a lot of kids that were spoiled as they "had" to have the most expensive clothes and shoes and, of course, couldn't pay for anything else and then mommy and daddy would foot the bill! Absolutely insane!
My kid's school sends us home a note - sm
when 1 kid gets lice. It is sent to the parent's whose kids are in the same class and on the same bus; that is it, and I am fine with that. At least I am aware there is a problem and can be on the lookout. A friend told me that these critters don't like dirty hair and to put hair mousse in the hair as it deters the lice. Figure it cannot hurt, so I did it this last "outbreak" 2 weeks ago and we have avoided it again (3 outbreaks this year to date-1 was in my daughter's class, ick). I just hope I never have to go through it, one with the pain in the butt aspect, and 2 my DH will go totally nuts/ballistic if it ever happens.
Our school send notices home when they - sm
are doing eye tests, hearing tests, etc. Permission is not needed. Obviously they expect the parent here to advise them of any issues in advance.
My father-in-law sends my daughter presents, calls her, etc. BUT
pretty much ignores my son. My son is 16 and my daughter is 8. They are both his grandchildren. He will send a gift to my son on his birthday, for Christmas, etc. same as he does with my daughter. But the presents are usually not equal in price. Then he will call and talk to my daughter and not ask to speak to my son or even ask about my son. He will send postcards when he is on vacation and address them to my daughter with my son's name squeezes in as an after thought out to the side. When he is in town visiting his mother and sister, he will bring my daughter little gifts and call and ask to see her, but usually never asks to see my son.
I don't have a very friendly relationship with my FIL as I divorced his son and the divorce was not an amicable one. However, when my son was little and I was still married, my FIL was very close with my son and treated him similarly to the way he treats my daugther now. It seems as my son has gotten older, my FIL has simply decided he doesn't count anymore. I think some of this has to do with my son being a teenager with a smart mouth who has been very vocal about the divorce, my ex, and his grandpa. My son doesn't get along with his father and he took my side in the divorce.
I really, really, REALLY want to tell my FIL off, but then he'll stop having any contact with my daughter and she's too young to understand everything that's going on. She loves him to pieces, but I'm also afraid that the same thing will happen with her as it did my son -- as she gets older and starts to figure things out and understand and become more opinionated, my FIL my just shut her out too.
It is really just a crappy thing my FIL is doing. If I confront him about he'll just feign innocence and act like he didn't realize he was treating them differently. So maybe my anger is just fruitless anyway.
This town has been through so much. The same storm that hit the town of Enterprise sm
the high school where 15+ kids died when a tornado hit their school, destroyed this hospital in Americus, GA. The town was devastated. Please see this local news link to help them win an MRI machine. Thanks everyone!!
http://www.wrbl.com/index.php/news/article/sumter-regional-hospital-enters-contest/3057/
I did a lot of research! Basically, I scoured the public notices in the local paper. SM
You know, the ads that say a certain property will be auctioned off on the courthouse steps on a certain day at a certain time. Well, I learned quickly that just because you've read the public notice does not mean the property will actually get sold when advertised. Like the person said below, a lot of times the owners rehab and pay back payments right at the last second. The trustee selling the property is usually an attorney hired by the bank or mortgage company that hold the loan on the property. You can call the attorneys and find out if a propert is still being auctioned off which I did a number of times. Once you find out who holds the mortgage, you can contact the bank or mortgage company directly and make an offer.
For my particular house, it was a waiting game. They actually listed it with a real estate agent and wanted $80,000 when they first listed it. I called the real estate agent they listed with after it had been on the market for about three months. They were asking $60,000 at the time I looked at it. I thought they were crazy cause it was a 2 bedroom that needed a lot of work. Just so happened that at the time I walked through it I was stilling bickering with the insurance company over my settlement, so I wasn't quite ready. Then, three months later I'm at the grocery store (I live in a small town and it is wonderful!) and someone was telling the cashier about a little blue house that had been for sale for a long time and nobody was interested in it because the basement was a cinder block basement which scared people off. Anyway, long story short, the person said they were now asking $45,000 for the house. I had just settled with the insurance company and thought nows my chance to get a great deal!
I called the mortgage company and offered them $36,000. I low-balled because I was prepared to negotiate. They countered with the full asking price. So I countered with a $40,000 cash offer. I said they would be crazy not to take it because I was a cash buyer, didn't have to wait for financing, and didn't require a mechanical inspection. My brother-in-law waterproofs and pours basements for a living. I had him look at the basement and told me that it was a dry basement and he would get a bobcat from work and dig out the dirt around the foundation of the house and waterproof it from the outside and that should make it solid. I have cousings who are trim carpenters and roofers, although the roof was in good shape, no leaks. So I felt safe not having a mechanical inspection especially because I have all this help should something go bad.
The mortgage company decided to sweat me out and didn't give me an answer for two weeks. What they didn't realize is I wasn't sweating because I thought they'd be crazy to pass me up. My waiting paid off. They called the Monday after the 4th of July holiday and said it's yours if you still want and I said "I do."
I bought the house As-Is. Also this was a foreclosed property which means the owners that were foreclosed on cannot rehab the loan and take back the property. It's mine once we close.
So that's how I did it and I can't believe I did do it because I actually felt like I didn't know anything when I started. I just prayed a lot and feel like I had some divine intervention for sure!
I do live in Arkansas - my parents live up in Branson so I'm in Missouri quite often!
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Calling all you animal lovers - live and let live or intervene? - sm
I have a dilemma. I am an animal lover and have something I cannot come to a conclusion about. At a restaurant where I eat lunch every Friday with a friend of mine, I have noticed a young male kitty hanging around outside looking for food. This past week he ran up to my friend and rubbed her legs and quietly meowed. I purposely did not try to pet him because I knew I would get attached and ignored him. Well, ever since then I find myself thinking about him and wanting to rescue him. Meanwhile, I already have 4 inside cats (2 rescues, 2 Maine Coons) and hubby really does not want another cat in the house because a few years ago I promised we would never have more than 4 (had up to 5 at one point previously). I actually have a huge screened deck he could stay on indefinitely because I do not believe in letting cats run loose for their own safety. I could provide plenty of food, a warm place to sleep, and veterinary care. At some point I would even probably work him into our household, but I just cannot do it at the moment. Just not sure I would be doing right by that kitty because I am sure he would be upset and confused for a good while as to where he was and what was going on, but is that better than being hungry and cold? I know there are lots of animal lovers out there. What does everyone think?? 
I'm a live-and-let-live person but had to draw the line
after I found HUGE holes in the walkway between my house and barn. I thought they were just little mice stealing grain, but then I spotted one and it was a HONKIN RAT! My poor olderly cat was out there with me at the time and saw it, and he hissed at it and ran away!
I asked for advice on what to do at a local agricultural board, because I have other animals and didn't want to use poison and conventional traps weren't working. They advised putting a large pale of water out with some seeds floating in it, figuring the rats would go for the seeds and end up drowning. That was a no-go because the water just froze up solid. I wound up reluctantly going with Decon because I just can't have my house destroyed. I haven't had seen any more rats or evidence of them stealing grain, so I'm guessing they have died. The guy at the grain store promised me the rats would not die in the building and stink the joint up, rather they would crawl off and die outside. I don't know if I believe that, as it is still winter here and decomposition would be holding off until it warms up. We'll see, but at least the destruction has been halted.
Good luck and I too say have no mercy, because you just don't need them destroying hour house or causing a spark chewing wires and burnin' the place down. It is war!
 (How un-PC is this emoticon?!)
What to do when you are going to be out of town
of someone whose mother and grandmother are past coworkers?
We live in a small community and they live also in my neighborhood. This young girl was only 20 years old. She has been sick off and on all her life with kidney problems and even had a transplant a few years ago. Her father had given his kidney and then he passed away from an accident a couple of years after that. So tragic for this family and their losses.
What could I do for this family. My mother is going to visitation and will pass on why I couldnt be there.
What do you say to someone who has lost a child. I cannot find the words.
Are you in my old town?
I am jealous. As soon as we can we are going back. I miss people who really care and are genuine. We live in a "transient" town, growing continuously, construction everywhere, drugs, alcohol, plastic people, and Stepford Wives are everywhere. Gambling is legal here and all that goes with it are all around you all the time including those who live for it to the detriment of themselves and their families. We went to the DMV yesterday, could not get in, could not even park there after an hour of cruising around looking for a spot. It appeared that only one other person was an American that we saw the whole time. Most were illegal aliens. We have lots of casinos, construction companies, hotels, and lawn services who apparently are unable to properly "screen" them and isn't it great that they have all that cheap labor? Can't go to the DMV tomorrow, it is closed for Vets Day. Can hardly wait to try again. Hope there is at least one other "grandma" there when I get there.
We have one nice neighbor next door on one side - normal, kind, helpful, sharing, caring with a darling little child. Our other neighbor on the other side is a nut-case (and I am being kind here). He speaks to no one. He has a girlfriend now, thank goodness. I say that because before she arrived he removed all lawns, all plants, and just let ugly weeds grown in his yard about knee high. He landscaped the front now and there are flowers on his porch. He still sprays Roundup over the totality of his back yard every season, which is huge, about an acre, so dirt blows over here constantly. For years he just drove off to work (he uses a remote and cruises out, closes the door, and disappears. Like the Burbs. When he leaves he wears a wig (seriously)that is in dire need of thinning and styling. When he comes home it is the same with furtive looks left and right to see if anyone notices him. He is drunk a lot. We know that because then he starts going outside and spies on the neighborhood and he is then without his wig. Whenever we have a family yard project he gets on the roof and watches us. Barbecues in our yard or swims in the pool are not private either if he has been drinking. He likes to "watch." He yells at kids who are unfortunate enough to trick or treat at his house or go there to sell tickets to car washes for the school, etc. Cusses and threatens, they tell us. Says he does not want any rotten kids in his yard. He hates all animals and has been approached by the sheriff for shooting cats and shooting at dogs of our good neighbor from across two fences (my husband was in the line of fire one of those times and the jerk almost got him). He wouldn't answer his door and hid like a woman when I became enraged and banged on his door after that incident.
I want to move so much that I can almost feel what it would be like to drive off from here. I thought the old creep would "move soon" so we have never relocated to get away from him. That is obviously not going to happen and it is 20 years later and here we all are. We have to go outside with all our animals constantly out of fear that he may harm them. I guess he got into serious trouble for is escpades because he now tries to keep his animal hatred down to simply trapping any living creature that comes into his yard and then he has the pound come and pick them up.
I would give a lot if I could live in a community filled with people like yours and the funny part is that when I had that I don't think I appreciated it, just took it for granted. Enjoy your Thanksgiving with them and never move to a place like this! I can't wait to get out of here! Save me a spot for when my husband finally retires. I want three horses, chickens, a couple of cows and a pig. I will bring my three dogs and sit on the porch and be thankful for the friendly feeling!
Yes, my town does have and I have thought
about this also. The deputy police this morning told me he has served them before and also when swearing out warrant told by a person in the court had others that this company did same to. If no money in the morning, will definitely see about the television stations. I know I can garnish if I could only find out where they bank.
But you know, with Ms Little Flit Around Town
this probably will be bad for her. Now you and I would not be able to tell the difference as we work from home and stay home a whole lot, but her?? How will she pose from home - will they bring the red carpet to her? Oh, I really feel sorry for that poor little rich girl.
As kind of the new kid in town....
and a very rural town at that, I introduced myself to all my neighbors in walking distance and let them know who I was, gave them my phone number if they ever needed anything, and let them know I was gonna be bringing in some stinky animals and told them I would be doing my best to ensure they wouldn't stink up their joints. I couldn't believe how welcoming everyone was! People were genuinely happy to have farm-y neighbors and admitted they were worried when they heard we were "from away," as they thought we'd be tearing down the little house we bought to put up a McMansion or something. Neighbors even came by with carrots for the animals and asked if their kids could pat the horses and stuff. One family even invites us to their home for Thanksgiving every year because they know we don't have any family nearby and really can't leave the animals for any length of time. They give us hugs and welcome us into their home like we are their family. I can't describe the feeling--it's just awesome.
Now, when we lived in a condo in the city--out of about 100 buildings we knew maybe 3 of our neighbors. Imagine, packed in like sardines and we never talked to anyone. Rush rush rush, keep your head low and don't make eye contact. Darndest thing....of course hardly anyone spoke English as a first language there, but it was still weird to check your mail and have a bunch of people nearby and no one spoke--very icy. I'm so glad I reverted to bumpkin-like livin'.
Get this one, ad running here in town
It is a person supposedly in medical field and she is saying got a job at XYZ and says "see what X college have done for me." I want to call the place, tried to find a number- is that the way you want to be represented? Terrible English.
I am in a small town between
Abilene and San Angelo called Ballinger. My husband has relatives in Abilene.
also being from a small town...
I would call and speak to the principal directly about what you heard. You can do this anonymous if you want, just don't use your phone as they very often have caller id now. I think it is up to the principal to decide if the comments of your child/friends have any merit. The principal should have ALL information and he/she should go from there. To me, my first and foremost priority would be my child. As for this child being falsely accused of something...well...maybe his parents should have taught him to be prepared to deal with the possible consequences of his actions. All kids make mistakes but sooner or later this individual will have to answer for his remarks and take responsibilty for himself - from my point of view, the sooner the better. I would definitely want to know if my child was speaking to others in this manner. I would not want to jump to conclusions but if your gut feelings say to keep your child home from school, do it. Missing a couple days from school is not the end of the world and I am certain he will not be the only one.
In a town hall
In Denmark by the mayor of the town.
small town.
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In my small town
He was a city boy from 12 hours away living with a cousin for a while. I was a small town country girl. We met one night after I got off work and met up with my best friend to go "riding" around. He was with a friend of mine who was his cousin's girlfriend. We got into her car and rode around together. He was asking my friend about me that same night. He finally called about a month later after some misinformation that I was seeing someone and we've been together ever since. I was 16, he was 19. Married 12 years this year with the three best kids in the world!
Make them live outside? This is so funny! Ours live outside, where they WANT to be. sm
Not all dogs want to be in "indoor" dogs, mind you. They have plenty of space to run around and play, fenced, and if they are brought in during bad weather they whine at the back door to go back out! So before you comment on outside dogs, you really need to get your facts straight. Seriously. Not all dogs are made or want to be inside all of the time.
Did you grow up in 1 town or move...sm
and if you moved, how often and are you glad you moved? As for me, we moved every other year due to my father's occupation. There were 2 places I was very glad that we moved from and 2 places I would have loved to have stayed, the others were OK. When people ask me where I was raised I tell them "everywhere" because that best summarizes it.
What about you? Do you have a home town?
Nevermind the gift - take her out on the town.
Give that same gift of getting out once a month. Think of something new each month - and get her back into the swing of things!!!! Songs are just reminders of what she has just gone through in my opinion! Spend time with her. Call her when she leasts expects it. Make her do things that single people do (even if you are married explain the situation to your husband). I'm sure he can respect that you are helping a friend in need at this time. She'll get through it with your help. 
I agree. The footage I saw in a town in
Kansas was horrible. The tornado was 3/4 of a mile wide and wiped out a whole town. Horrifying.
I'm very sorry for those who lost family members, pets, homes, churches, and businesses.
This mother saying too big a town for driving through yet
I honestly can understand this as when my children first started driving we were living in a huge city and all the freeways around, not some small town where everyone knows everyone and I bit my nails to the quick. The mother probably just wants the child to get more experience under his belt before he tries such a trip and the son is lying to her and making this trip regardless. He and the girl both sound like they are too much into each other for things like school right now. It happened to me- son just did not want school after high school. Sad when it is handed to you on a silver platter.
Howdy! I am from a small town
between Abilene and San Angelo called Ballinger.
Maybe the small town gal coming out in me,
but I'd help as much as I could. My mom's that bad with a computer, and after I got it straightened out for her when it was really bad..most of the time it's something really simple. She'll say something like that where her email won't come up and it's just that she's hitting the wrong button or has her number lock key on or something. I guess maybe you could ask yourself if you or your hubby were away and something happened, would they help you? If the answer is no, then by all means let them fend for themselves. Like I said, might be the small town gal in me, but we help our neighbors any time they need it and we're able to.
its school vacation in my town nm
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We have the best Goodwill store in my town
Lots of rich people in my area who donate their clothes to the Goodwill store. Designer brand clothes still with tags on or worn maybe once or twice. I usually have better luck buying stuff there than I do at any retail stores. Most of the shirts, skirts, pants are $4 or $5. Bought my daughter a J. Crew hand-knit sweater there last year for $12, originally was close to $100. Don't think it had ever been worn. My daughter is a shoe-aholic and buys her shoes at thrift stores. That skeeves me out a little though.
My town has 25,000 people but when I first moved
here 23 years ago, it only had 5,000. We had a Tastee Freeze and a Chicken Country and that was it. Our town has gotten to big for our liking but the school system is excellent so I suppose we'll just bear with it for a while.
Walmart only game in town sm
I live in a poor rural county and Walmart is the only place there is to shop and is also one of the largest employers. This may be because they came in and killed off other businesses, but there is also Family Dollar and Dollar General which seem to be going strong. When I'm in there, which is probably 2-3 times a week, they are always telling employees to take breaks and I see the same faces I've seen for the past 7 years. I can't afford to shop anywhere else and if I could, don't have time to drive at least 1 hour one way to shop at Target, Kohls, etc. which is what I would have to do.
Unless I lived in the tiniest town, I would get
Unless everybody in town knows everything about you and all your personal business...(I live in a large city and would be mortified to receive anything like this), hire a private investigator.
Here's mine and NKOTB were just here in my town
Mine are the Backstreet Boys, although it's not much of a secret among my close friends. I've seen them 3 times and even met some of them. Also, disco music, especially the BeeGees, 70's music in general, and Barry Manilow.
Small town isolation
I have lived in small towns for nearly 40 years. Newcomers are not welcomed very well. I had a person at church tell me thank for coming to their church after being a member for many years. They are not a bit backward in ignoring you at pubic events.
Does your town or city have a noise ordinance?
I am sorry, but I hate when people reside in one home, yet they feel they can just run the neighborhood. My parents had neighbors that cursed all of the time.
We just had (live in a townhome) construction workers building a new store in our town "squatting" in the townhome attached to us. My husband was furious. He called the landlord that owns the home. Now, we have at least better neighbors!!!
OUCH! My husband is out of town so he asked me sm
to go to the pool store, take them a sample of our water and then do whatever the pool people say to do. So, our ph is down in our pool and we're supposed to add 10 pounds of alkalinity to it. No problem. Our pool is quite large - 20 x 40. I never add chemicals to them. That's his job, but we wanted to be in it by Memorial Day so I figure I could at least go and get whatever chemicals and then add them. No problem. Mind you, I am a huge klutz - accident just waiting to happen!
I begin walking around the pool pouring in this big box of chemicals. I go over the diving board, around to the other side of the pool and then I'm almost done. As I round the corner of the pool all of a sudden something horrible happens! My left leg completely fell into this huge hole and I go flying! I think I broke my left ankle! My husband forgot to put the cover back over the pool filter! What was he thinking?? So, there I was, all alone on the pool sidewalk, foot stuck inside filter, cannot move, elbow all scraped up and it is painful!!! OMG! I could not believe it!
So, I finally pull my foot up and it is completely torn up! It looks like it was stabbed with a knife in a couple of places. I'm not sure what it hit that made it look and feel like that.
I'm contemplating going to the ER because if it isn't broken it's at least sprained, plus 2 huge lacerations.
My husband, who has a sense of humor, will call me an idiot for not watching where I was going. But, who's the idiot who left the filter cover off? Not me! I'm glad it was my left and not my right so I can at least work while I heal....
My daughter never wanted to go to college out of town,
thank goodness! Live in large city but still less than 30 minutes there and 30 minutes back. Blessing!
Our family does that. So many are out of town and addresses not readily available. (nm)
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Is there a grief support group in your town?
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I grew up in the town of Catskill, right next to the river.
I miss thoore brisk mornings.
I just Googled my town and webcam, that should work nm
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Sounds like small country town
whereabouts was this party? It seems more folks further out than city folk smoke now days, that is a lot. I used to smoke, glad I stopped because if I had not, present husband really antismoking and he probably would not want me sleeping in the same bed. People who smoke not aware of their breath, clothing, hair, etc. smelling like it does. It is easy to smell once you stop smoking but I absolutely don’t give my yea or nah on others smoking, not up to me to tell them.
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