the funeral thing could be entirely new thread
Posted By: skunko on 2009-02-02
In Reply to: That reminds me of when my - MT in PA
At times like that the kids are a good reminder that life goes on, and that we live on in our kids, grandkids, etc.
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Also to YOU: Fead the whole thread. Do not jump in in the middle of a thread:
You will experience the bad side effects of Xanax, when you try to stop the intake of Xanax. Honestly, don't you notice that you are increasing the dosage on your own?
It is not a sleeping pill, it is an anxiolytic, it is supposed to lessen anxiety.
What are you so anxious about?
Try not to take it this evening, you'll see that you cannot or don't want to.
It is a highly addictive drug.
Another addicted person?
Read the whole thread, not Fead the whole thread, ..oops!..nm
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funeral
I think the Harley guys are actually Vietnam war vets. We had the same thing happen here - the Kansas group is not making many converts to their way of thinking.
Funeral
I know they keep saying if you do not agree with a post...DO NOT RESPOND..... so they have to BLACK to grieve.....
Funeral
Not flaming you.....very good post.....
oh wow! why protest at someone's funeral?--sm
How about a little compassion for the family of the one who was killed? my goodness. this is not the place to hold an anti-war protest!!! Most of these soldiers probably had no choice in where they were sent while serving out country. I am against the war too, but as much as I am against it, I would leave the families of the departed to grieve in peace. how rude! How do the bikers get involved in keeping the peace??? sorry, I just really don't know about all of this.
Not worse than the funeral I went to
NM
Missing funeral
Male a donation in the girl's name to the Natinal Kidney Foundation or some other kidney charity with a nice note.
funeral protester
Is it that same woman with her 8 kids that were picketing the soldiers funerals. That woman is a disgusting disgrace and they should arrest her for disturbing the peace. That ugly SOB. All she wants is media coverage and she should be arrested for child abuse for making her kids learn all this nonsense she is spewing out. I would like to see the people take it upon theirselve to knock the crap out of this woman and have he police just stand by and let her get the crap beat out of that scumball.
There is a funeral in our area this weekend for ...
a soldier killed in Iraq and just found out those wonderful people from Kansas are planning to attend. 
Song not any worse than my at the funeral I went to
Cousin knew she was dying from cancer. My 90-year-old father there and unbelieve, she was always something else, started off with Ole Timey Rock and Roll and the end of the funeral was Somewhere Over the Rainbow. My father said, well I never. I had not either but her choices.
maybe the funeral home has an on-line
site to offer words or comfort to the family. I've seen a couple of these. What to say? just what is on your heart, "cannot find words to express..", that your heart hurts with them...you care...
I keep dreaming about going to a funeral and in the middle SM
of the service the deceased gets up and falls on ME! No kidding. Two nights ago TWO of them in one night! What the hay does that mean??? I need your wisdom and guidance!
Pianists out there - I need music for a funeral
for a friend who is dying - the Irish tune, Danny Boy. He has asked that it be played at his funeral. Would anyone be willing to send me a copy? I will pay for postage. Thanks.
can people say goodbye without a funeral?
I think i will be faced with this predicament before too long. Husband says he does not want a funeral. Yet i wonder if his kids can say their farewells and be emotionally okay without one? anyone with experience or thoughts on this?
My mom ddnt want a viewing or funeral
I tried to uphold her wishes but her one sister did not have "closure" without some sort of pomp, so five months after mom died (was cremated), I held a small service at the cemetery (didn't want to, but wanted the aunt to have her "closure." She never showed up!
Both hubby and I are not going to have a viewing or funeral and the kids know it. I'm getting cremated, while he wants to be buried the regular way 'cuz he hates being hot. LOL
You can have closure without the above. In fact, in my case, it just brought all the sadness back to the surface and it took me another couple months to get back to normal again. Think of it this way, as mom used to say: "I want people to remember me as I was, not as I am."
Hope this helps.
A funeral is not the time or place for your friend to take a stance over something done 10 yrs ago.
I don't mean to sound harsh, but for your friend to even "think" about saying anything right now would be selfish and inconsiderate. He has had 10 years to deal with this issue. Why now??
I really tried to look at this issue from all angles and to be honest, just really don't "get it." I can't understand why anyone would feel the need to change a name they have had for at least 18 years. If my daughter changed her name, I would be absolutely devastated. Unless she was in the Witness Protection Program, I would continue to call her by the name she was given after 26 hours of labor and delivery. I'm not sure I could call her by another name even if I wanted to. It may not sound like much, but your friend is really asking a lot from people. Old habits DO die hard and this is so much more than just a habit.
If a friend of mine did this and it meant THAT much to her, I suppose I would try to make her happy. Without knowing all of the details, it's hard say for sure. One thing I do know is that if your friend is going to address this, he needs to wait for the appropriate opportunity. The timing he chooses could have a significant impact on the outcome.
Do you mind me asking why your friend did something this drastic?
I personally think the funeral is what makes you an emotional wreck.
Funerals compound the grief for me. The dark lighting, the sad music, the morbid displaying of a dead body in the casket! No way for me. I hope to God my parents don't want funerals.
Memorial service, no problem.
I think the traditional funeral service is antiquated and just makes things worse.
What a fun thread!
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well, there is another thread concerning AI--sm
up above that seems far more abrasive and negative, to me anyway. Guess I just don't get it.
There is a thread further down about this.
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Thread stopped. (SM)
We're not going to fight over religion or Christmas or Santa or Christ on this board.
Everyone is entitled to their own opinion.
Goldbird
On another thread on this board....
someone made the comment about giving girls a false sense of security and not getting PAPs and physicals because they got the vaccine. That was something I hadn't thought about previously.
I was talking about this with a friend of mine and we got on the subject of DES that was given to prevent miscarriages and preterm labor in the 50s and 60s and the side effects that came from it. I googled DES and the one website has a copy of an old ad that states "recommended for routine prophylaxis in ALL pregnancies" with a picture of a smiling baby above the statement. We all know how that turned out!
States have made all kinds of vaccines mandatory for admittance to kindergarten, but there are ways around it, such a religious exemption. I have another friend whose kids have had NONE of their childhood immunizations. I'm not saying I agree with anything that drastic, but her kids are in school.
it was? I see the thread below...admin says
The administrator just the other day (somewhere below in the threads) said we can talk about anything here except *MT work, politics or religion* and said *anything else is fine* in subject line or name line.
I'm not the one who started the thread but
I posted a reply on another thread about infidelity. I told the poster that what she was doing was wrong, to take a cold shower and pray about what was doing.
Regina (yeah, she uses her name in her entire email address) emailed me about how wrong I was, don't have a conscience, and stuff.
I saw her name here on this thread.
I'm just telling her to STOP EMAILING ME.
This thread or the shedding?!
LOL!
This will start a thread about who does not like her
but I was reminded when I saw your post about seeing Sylvia Browne in person 1 time. She said if someone toxic, no matter who they were, your own son, you should exclude them. I truly believe this to be the case.
right now, that former thread is on page 2
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Confessions thread....
I think i'm depressed.
Downer thread
This happened outside the movie theater we went to on yesterday.
The guy tied a rope around his neck and the other end around a pole.
I have never heard of anyone doing it that way!
http://www.ci.castlerock.co.us/News.asp?NewsID=1016
What happened to just doing it in your garage?
As I posted in another thread,
I just love old cars, especially ones that are funny, unusual, or just pretty. I don't care about engines - I am a girl - so it's all about looks, and a little about the funny old-fashioned sounds they made. But still - cars! So while I would be happy to collect little toy/model cars, I have had to control the urge because I'm supposed to want to collect pretty dishes and glasswear or teapots or something, and none of that stuff interests me. I don't care what it's worth if it doesn't capture my imagination.
I do sort of collect books on gardening though, and they must have many, many color pictures.
Regarding prayer thread below (sm)
For those who responded about it being wrong to pray and that they were going to know have to have a Bible beside their Dorland's....how closed minded are you? We have freedom of religion in this country - should we take away our freedoms now? If two people of any religion want to pray in this country they are free to do so as long as it does not impose their beliefs on anyone else. Asking a Transcriptionist to type "we prayed" is asking him or her to document the happenings during the office visit just like everything else is documented. I am sure the doctor already knew of the patient's religion and they were both of the same religion - the doctor did not impose anything on this patient. I believe everyone is free to worship or not worship as their own beliefs dictate....you cannot take away that right - this is America - right now we still have freedoms here that many countries don't have the luxury of having....please don't try to take our rights away!! I would gladly transcribe any report mentioning any religion if that is what the doctor dictated because being fair and having freedom means that we don't judge anyone's religion, whether we believe they are right or not. If you are not religious, that is also your choice. I recently typed a chart where a woman was using the alignment of the stars to determine the best time for her to have surgery....I typed it like the doctor said it, because that is my job, and I did not judge her, because that is not my right.
seems that is why they are all here on this tired old thread.
it's come here or turn on each other !!
NOW THERE'S A VISUAL. LOL
Let's start a why do they thread!
Why do they make spice jar openings to small for a measuring spoon?
Why to they pkg 8 hot dogs and then pkg 6 buns? you never catch up!
Why does yellow mustard opening plug up and when you shake it, it squirts yellow oil?
Why do credit card cos send blank checks through the mail, forcing you to open all of it?
okay next?
You came in late on this thread so I
do not expect you to understand what was said. The person said they had no work at her full time job but sitting waiting on it? Then there was a part time job and finally full time school. Well, duh, why starve to "wait on work to show up" or stay full time in school when you can put together 2, 3 or 4 jobs and then there is full time pay.
Then why did you post on this thread below?
Why not just ignore the post? Most folks were just talking about what the OP asked about, and not really bringing politics or attacks into the thread. You incited an attack typical of ones on the politics board, which is exactly why many don't go there. For a lot of people, tomorrow is about more than politics for a variety of reasons.
The thread about the inauguration??
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This whole thread is uncalled for
and you are no better than the ESLs. In fact, they are doctors and you are just an MT.
I posted in your thread below too, but
you need to get to a lawyer NOW (they will set up a payment plan, don't worry about that right now. If not, they will refer you to someone who can help you cheaper or free. Just GO.), and you need to file for divorce first. And you need to STAY PUT in the house with your kids. They'll make him leave, not you. He's freakin' nuts. You're married. It doesn't matter if your name is on the house or not, it's half yours. I've been where you are.... prepare yourself & be proactive.
See the thread below about businesses that are and aren't
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They moved your thread and not my answer
I think it is Vanessa Carlton. Can't remember the name of the song now.
Because the rest of the thread was compromised & only the OP
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From reading the whole thread, I now feel
very sorry for you and your family. I wish you had posted all your thoughts at the start. You are honestly one of the lone MTs who work at home for - no reason other than to stay away from coworkers, really is the sum of your logic. You obviously feel children are worthless burdens, along with housework of any sort, or caring for your family. So go out and earn the big $$ - guess you couldn't hack competing with the men in the corporate world. Obviously. Seems a pity, as you get to sit at home and hate everything related to home and family, while other poor humans drag their tired selves out the door every morning to earn a living, counting the minutes until they can return home, exhausted, and catch a minute or 2 of their kids and family life before passing out from exhaustion. Such is life...
LOL You think the person who started the thread
LOL
Bringing up the thread on NY bagels
before it gets * pruned *
I have a dumb question - - - - what makes a NY bagel so great??? I would think it is just bread dough formed in a circle....like I get at Albertson's or Safeway or Ralph's.
I'm so glad you started this thread
As I'm off today and can look up my comfort stuff and share and I know you'll like this one:
In C.S. Lewis's novel "Til We Have Faces," a character on the verge of meeting the "god of the Mountain" reasons bluntly with another, "Do you think it all meant nothing, all the longing? The longing for home?
For indeed it now feels not like going, but like going back." Elsewhere Lewis reasons similarly, "At present we are on the outside of the world, the wrong side of the door. We discern the freshness and purity of the morning, but they do not make us fresh and pure.
We cannot mingle with the splendours we see.
In the distance between what we see now and what we shall ONE DAY see is the longing that reminds us of home.
Some day, God willing, WE SHALL GET IN!
answer to your query is in this very thread....
Ahhh yes. I just posted in the thread below actually
about my experience freshman year of college. I went off to college, my boyfriend from the spring/summer went off to a different college (me to Illinois, him to USC!). Didn't take long before he bought a motorcycle, snuck back to Illinois on it, dropped out of USC, starting going to another school only an hour from me. One thing led to another, we kept traveling back and forth between our two schools and barely went to class, I had the experience I posted about below, and ended up leaving school. Twenty-eight years later, we have been married for 24 years but have big, big, big regrets about how we handled college. Boy, it would have been so much better to have not had that attachment when going off to school. This is the time to explore all opportunities, so I would say a broken heart right now is probably the better choice. It will heal, new opportunities will come along. If the relationship is meant to be, they will find their way back to one another down the road, but they both need to realize the importance of college and not let anything come in the way of that.
did you read the thread below "I feel bad for him too but (sm)" by OP nm
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Here here! Great thread Luv to Laugh! Thanks!
 
The OP stated below in the thread that started this whole
conversation that he says he has told her "everything" he knows. If that's the case, then why not tell her about his education. She loves him, for Pete's sake. He does sound like a wonderful man. I just don't understand the secretiveness. It's not like she is a casual acquaintance. This is the person he has chosen to spend his life with, so why not share his life with her. My husband didn't even finish high school but he didn't mind sharing it with me. Maybe we're just strange, but that's the way it is at our house (been married almost 30 years). 
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