that's why I mentioned what cops said
Posted By: dnt on 2009-01-31
In Reply to: You say you are 50, then by this time it would seem - Janie
about 99 out of 100 people answering the door in the middle of the night. I was absolutely horrified myself that I had opened the door and the cops said it happens all the time. Hopefully people reading all these posts will wise up.
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you are so right, not just cops.
I noticed an ag teacher here has a truck provided for her and probably gas, too. She rips up and down the highway several times a day while I am sitting here making a list so I only go one time a week and try to hit my errands in a time and gas saving mode. aggravating. Of course, I haven't seen anybody taking the keys away from the teens yet, either, and we all know how they can run the roads. My youngest had my truck for awhile and the oldest said, "Mom, don't know what to tell you about your truck, it's just a blue blur up and down the highway"!
Always, always call the cops sm
My husband was nearly killed by a tractor trailer driver who changed his story a dozen times, the medics were called but unfortunately, the other driver went his merry way and was not cited until days later for following too close, reckless endangerment, speeding, mistake in log book, and a laundry list, first he said my husband going too slow. Reconstruction said no way, but while my husband was in hospital having his scalp sewn back on, this guy ran away. Had to hire a detective to find him, went on for years before we got our bills paid, he got off with heavy fines and warnings he would go to jail if it happened again. It had happened in another state previously but could not bring that up in court. My sorrow - I should have had him arrested right that moment but I was not there. He should have been tested for drugs, etc. He went from saying husband's fault to that he dropped his coffee and was picking it up off the floor and then changed it again to something else. He still drives and my husband is totally disabled. Please get the cops involved the minute something happens - don't wait. I had no choice, I had to travel to another state to the hospital. I wish my husband were conscious enough to have him arrested right there. You did the right thing calling the cops, everyone should do that. Believe me, she could have killed you or someone else later. I hope you scared the pants off her.
Most of the time I'm with the cops when it comes to -
tazing those big, belligerent crack or meth heads that are going berserk or have already tried to assault the cop. But STILL: I took exception to this one. The lady is like half the guy's size, and attitude or not, he could've managed her easily just by hanging onto her shirt collar. Also, throwing a 72-year-old down could've resulted in a hip fracture (and lawsuit), or even cardiac arrest and/or death. How would he know she didn't have a pacemaker?
I think the dude was a little too eager to play with his taser-toy.
Call the cops - it can't make it any worse!
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Are you harsh posters cops or parents?
A little late to post, but here's my idea as a mom of 5. Get her out of the house, some place public, Starbucks or the bookstore - a place where she won't storm off and you'll both be civil to each other at least for a few minutes. Tell her you love her, be understanding and really talk to her. Ask her what is going on in her life, is she stressed about something in particular? Don't alienate her. There is a lot of life ahead for you both and this is not a permanent condition for her. If ALL you do is punish you risk sending her off in a bad direction. At the end of the conversation it may seem you got nowhere, but she'll think about things and hopefully be a bit less impulsive. Please post back and let us know how things go.
She says if she calls the cops every time he shows up ...sm
he will just be gone by the time they get there. She did pick up the phone several months ago when he put the gun to his head. She said I am calling 911 to come take you to get help. He immediately stopped and sat down and said no please don't call the cops. I am not going to kill myself. I won't do that anymore. Now if he was serious, he would have not cared. He would have said hey I will be dead before they get here. He knew he wasn't going to do it and he didn't want to get hauled off for psychiatric evaluation. THen he started threatening this again on the phone one time and she said ok I am going to have you committed then cause you need help. He said oh no I am not going to kill myself. And for a long time he did not bring it up again. It is for attention.
Visit the station rather than call the cops...
Don't call the police. Rather, go to the police station and ask to speak to a detective. (You can call and make an appointment if you don't feel like spending an hour or so in the waiting room.)
You absolutely must get the law involved. You heard this kid threaten to kill his mother. Obviously, his mother is intimidated by him as well.
You can "file" reports without them showing up on the public blotter. By filing reports and keeping the detective involved, you just may be saving your neighbor's life. The cops will surveil the neighborhood on a regular basis and even keep an eye on him. (He's probably getting into no good elsewhere too.)
Also, you and your family could possibly be in mortal danger from this whacko kid as well.
From what he's said and done so far, you can expect this to escalate far beyond your wildest dreams/nightmares. He's not going to give up until you and your family are gone...one way or the other.
Think about it for a bit, but be sure to act quickly.
When I was younger, there was a similar episode with a neighborhood bully where the parents had no control. A bunch of the bully's neighbors ended up taking his parents to court on what I think was a 'show cause' complaint. The nonsense stopped after the court appearances.
However, times are more violent now, and within the past decade or so, these bully types have been blowing away people in alarming numbers. So, don't put your family at risk.
Good luck.
Definitely stress. Cops said once that Xmas eve with alcohol & money
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Call the cops every single time. Don't give into bullying.
You can bet he'll get tired of being visited by the cops every few days... And cops are required to follow up on complaints, so they'll go out there, and cops are adults with neighbors too, so they know what it's like. What is wrong with some of these parents now days?!
I saw that too and mentioned
to my hubby afraid really the nipple about to show, very revealing, not just low cut but almost out like you are saying.
I don't believe I mentioned that AT ALL
I only plan to show the page to the principal and, in case he is unaware, give him the website to find this information. I stand firm that the employees of that school and any other school should be very aware of who is entering their doors. Where did you get the notion that I was going to plaster posters all over? Naturally I am very concerned about that little girl and, from what I understand, counselors are involved.
This is just want I mentioned
in a previous e-mail - unbelievable! A few posts above I spoke of a story I just read about a wife whose husband was diagnosed with Asperber's at age 60 after leading a full functioning life.
I would have mentioned about...
Sex of child/teacher and age. I need opinion regardless of age and sex. Does it suit a teacher to use word honey and sweety? ethical?
Like was mentioned above, it is all in what
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I did not see mentioned that your
grandmother wrote a will. Why did she not write a will?
Also: Why is the 'nephew' only your sister's nephew?
How is the relationship?
If your grandmother did not write a will, that means she died intestate, then the State takes over the distribution of your grandmother's assets. There are strict inheritance laws which will be implemented.
I doubt that this 'nephew' can take your inheritance away from you, since you are the grandchild and he is only the child of a grandchild. It seems that your grandmother's lawyer will be the executor, unless your grandmother gave a power of attorney to somebody else. This is the person who sees to it that all heirs get their right shares.
I have also 1 question, like the other poster:
What happened to the 'children' of your grndmother, namely the 'parents'?
They are the first in line according to succession.
I think like you mentioned in your other post
you just HAVE to wrap that and give it to him as one of his gifts for Christmas (unless he thinks of it first) LOL!
just trying to point out that the OP mentioned--sm
specifically that the franchise she was talking about began with the letter D and the above poster said "if you are talking about Pizza Hut..." shows how much they read these posts. lol.
Funny you mentioned that because
my favorite chair was the 1 they clawed to death and I put in an unused hallway until I got the time to spend making sure they loved the catnip more than my new leather. I hear them in the hallway going after that ole worn out chair. I would have had it recovered but once the scratching started, figured they would go at it again. I am doing cleaning this morning and this afternoon will have the time to put their catnip out and take my covers off. Does cutting their nails help any or will they still scratch as much as they do?
If this hasn't be mentioned before (sm)
Chances are the school has a policy regarding this. If not, the child/parent may have some recourse.
Generally school policies supercede general law and rights, i.e. search and seizure regarding lockers (they can go in them as they please).
I'm thinking if they imposed such a stiff penalty, they can back it up lawfully. It really matters not if we think it is right or wrong. If it's school policy (approved by the school board) and stated in the handbook every student gets at the beginning of the semester, then that's the bottom line.
you mentioned how blessed
if you believe in blessings, i would (here goes this word again) "assume" you believe in forgiveness also. i think you should be the bigger one and try to contact your son and make an attempt to straighten things out. at least you will know you tried and then the ball is in his court. :)
I'm glad you mentioned that
I had actually forgotten all about him. When he said three children I thought three, who's the third? He was on a few weeks ago, but they never talk about him.
it wasn't much mentioned or
talked about, but after Katrina, other countries DID send money and supplies and I remember right, a lot of money was given to the 911 fund. I wonder about the supplies turned away Burma a couple of weeks ago. I am afraid that instead of actually reporting news, we are dealt the canned versions and have to suffer through many of the same reports over and over.
I know I mentioned about the gift
but it really isn't so much about that but that she can't find 5 minutes to stop by for my shower. It's right by her house. Maybe she invited me to her wedding reception thinking that I wouldn't come and would just send a gift? I don't know.
I am just hurt more than upset. It makes me feel like she doesn't even try but I guess the gift was her way of trying and my life is just in a different, more mature, place than hers. Having a baby puts life into perspective very quickly.
Thank you for the kind words. I hear this scenario with a lot of people but guess I just thought that wasn't us since we still talk and see each other often. But you are right, I can't let the relationship be one-sided either.
In case nobody mentioned it,
the cat could have a UTI or kidney stones. However, I had a cat that started urinating on the bed because we introduced a dog to the family and she didn't like the dog. Then the littlest thing would set her off, like using the vacuum cleaner, or DH staying out late. DH would come home, flop into bed, and shriek in a most unmanly fashion after landing in cold urine. I talked to a cat behaviorist, who told me to put out 7 different litterpans with all different types of litter. I couldn't live like that.
A second young cat we adopted at about 6 months of age played much too rough with me and with another cat we had. I had to take her back also.
I never once mentioned the Bible and have...
read the OP's post. I also addressed that she says the children are not fond of their father, but have also heard my own mother say that about me--UNTRUE. Personally, I think life is too short to put your needs ahead of your children's. If you do not agree with me, that's fine, too, but I stand behind what I said.
I did not say you mentioned squirrel but others did
You said "people from the south will try anything once." That dearie, is total assumption because as a child I was served strawberry shortcake and would not eat as I wanted the strawberries separate, would not eat spaghetti as wanted the meat separate, missed out on other things I now enjoy. You stated we would try anything once. You are just wrong, own up to it.
some of the items you mentioned for a child--sm
to me, are also too restrictive. Cribs are for *infants* who are not mobile, as well as bassinets. Play pens and baby gates are for toddlers and are mostly for the parents, who do not wish to be *inconvenienced* by supervising their off spring. Puppies are pretty much mobile from the day they are born. If you begin training them early, you would not need to be afraid to leave them unsupervised if you needed to be gone. They would already know. Besides, since when are *material things* like carpeting and furniture more important than a living breathing being?? If a person does not want to take the time to supervise either a puppy OR a child, then they should not have either one. This is just my opinion. I am entitled to feel the way I do, as are you. Crate your dog if you wish too. Barricade your children, as you do not wish to be *inconvenienced* by their presence. Watch your tv, drink your drinks, have your fun, and call yourselves good parents and tell yourselves, and others, that you do these things for the *safety* of the children and the pets, and for the protection of your prized material belongings. It all comes down to selfishness. JMO
How come nobody mentioned Outgrow? It works for me. nm
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The OP mentioned a site for alternative --sm
products. she said the list was quite lengthy and she printed it out. Perhaps she will provide a link for that particular site. I am sure there is something else we can use to soften our clothes.
I'd say IN ADDITION to getting a generator as I mentioned above.
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What? No one mentioned Sean Connery?
He's still hot and he's old enough to be my dad!
I also wondered why she mentioned biracial
it sounds racist to me to tell you the truth. Instead of saying children, why separate them? Oh by the way, I don't live in Chicago, live in the south, have biracial child, grown now and she told me NEVER had a problem in school, if anything she always told me had the best of both worlds! She has a wide mixture of all races in her friends from Caucasian to Asian. I as well as she take people for how they act, not a certain color.
I had mentioned to her before about missing things
so this was the straw, you might as well say, that broke this camel's back. My hubs told me several times about things missing- I am not saying made from gold but stealing is still stealing whether you steal a pair of panties or my towels or cleaning solutions or whatever I have worked hard to get and why should I let anyone steal from me? And, bottom line on this, I brought her back over to my home to find the panties (I had placed in top drawer)- she opened the first drawer, the 2nd and the last and no panties- downcast eyes, never said she did not take. If I were accused of something I think I would speak up and say no, I did not do. She was the only person here besides me- and I let her "try to find them."
You mentioned 'logic' and 'man' together
It's been my personal experience that those two concepts don't go together.
Okay, but who mentioned the word Arab?
I think the last time I read the word Arab on this site was like 3 years ago. And who wants to look at Brad Pitt with those goofy hats he wears  .
I'd have dumped the vet the minute she mentioned the
.
When you mentioned the Goldman family that
really brought back memories when I sat in front of my TV on my break and heard the verdict. As long as I live I will not forget the loud cries of Kim Goldman as her dad held her in the courtroom when they read an innocent verdict. I was literally sick. I will hush now, too, but we had to sit by all these years and look at that joke of a man having lap dances, etc. I almost lost my dinner over that one. Have a good day. I am smiling with you. I was only a matter of time for someone like him with his anger, abusive nature and need to control. 
you mentioned innate understanding.... sm
I do believe that God instills in each of us a connection to him. I believe that this is why so many people who are constantly searching and seeking fulfillment in anything but God and his holy word are having a problem finding that peace and fulfillment that they so desparately crave.
And you haven't even mentioned cooking!! sm
I notice many of my younger coworkers and children of coworkers cannot make anything that does not come out of a can or a box. I know that's a generalization too, but it sure seems to be true.
I think some things mentioned here are healthy
like nuts- I would like to see a picture of you say at 65 and see do you not still have a spread- it is called the middleaged spread and it happens whether thin, fat or whatever. Get off your high horse and quit looking down on others.
The fact that the 2 you picked up even mentioned
A long, long time ago, when I had just started working at a new job, a cute-looking guy who worked down stairs would always pass me on the stairs as I was going on my break. He seemed shy, we always just said hello. This went on for months. I liked him, but never talked to him for more than a few moments on the stairs.
Then, one morning, out of the blue, something really weird happened. As we passed each other, I said 'Hi!' as usual. After I was just past him, from behind, he said, 'Watch out, I might just rape you.'
????? Whaaaat.....???? Where on earth did THAT come from? I never spoke to him again.
Well, at about that time, there was a serial rapist in the area who over a period of time raped a lot of women in the nearby hills a popular hiking/jogging spot that I went to often, as well. He'd pick someone tired, offer to show them shortcut, and attack them in the wooded area he led them through.
Well, long story short, the guy I'd been saying hi to every morning at work, turned out to be that serial rapist! A late-20s-ish guy who was drop-dead cute, with an innocent-looking baby face. Boy, were my instincts ever NOT functioning with him, until he made that odd comment to me on the stairway! Before he made that comment, if I had bumped into him out at the hiking trail, I most surely would've gone along with him when he offered a short-cut, and become yet another statistic.
Agree totally with the top 3 you mentioned.
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That water bottle you mentioned...
Don't give up on it too soon - and also try not to leave kittie alone in the rooms where she does the most damage. If you have to go out and leave her home alone, can you confine her to the bedroom while you're gone?
Two of our cats are really persistent about investigating the kitchen counters, and we keep a water bottle handy all the time, but they're slowly starting to realize that we mean it when we say, DOWN!
Also, we added a little vinegar to the water.
But like I said, it takes time and consistency with the water bottle method.
Good luck!
She mentioned the car. You go apply for food stamps, sm
and see what it takes to qualify. Maybe you will enjoy that experience. You have no idea. Go ahead, I dare you. Take all you receipts down there, and you children's birth certificates, and all your utility bills, etc, etc. You will see just how great it is to apply for food stamps, and exactly what you get for that.
This post is where the fingernail polish is mentioned
being used by a man turned into wearing nail polish? I am sure you weren't trying to be rude, Jen, but is this or is this not your post? I don't even know why I'm posting in this thread because I truly think it is ridiculous to assume because a man uses "smelly goods" that he's gay or a cheater no matter how old he is. There are a lot of men in this world and depending on how you grew up or where you grew up could make a difference in the way you present yourself. That is not to say that a more rugged man is less of a man than a more "salon-type" guy, but let's face it there are guys out there that act feminine and are not gay. I happen to know a very nice guy, grew up with him. He's a hairstylist, a very good one, and has a wife and a daughter that he loves dearly. I'm pretty sure he's not gay. I also think it is funny that the first responses to this OP was "get rid of him", or "he's up to something", both posted by divorcees I might add. I think I'm done now. 
Thanks for some good choices - I've seen some of these mentioned but
will definitely check out the others. Thank you!
This was actucally mentioned on NBC news last night
They referred to a message being sent on the internet but they did not call it a hoax. My phone rang so I missed the entire piece.
One more thing..He mentioned that since the Chines Govt. gives its own sm
papers, they are falsifying documents and changing birth dates! So yes, they are younger and you are right.
My daughter mentioned True Blood before
but I told her no way. She's only 14. I heard about the series, but I haven't had a chance to watch it. If I had a moment to read, I'd like to read the Twilight books myself, but I just can't seem to find a minute to do any reading. My daughter is going on Friday with her Twilight school group and then again on Saturday.
Kendra! READ the post! Nothing was mentioned
And seriously consider getting your tubes tied.........
Funny you mentioned tocopheryl acetate
I immediately looked at the new lotion bottle on my desk and it contains that. I might try using a different kind to see if it helps. I've been putting more and more of that on since this happened!
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