that's what I said: Only property gathered during the marriage is divided 50/50. nm
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actually looks pretty equally divided to me...sm
and no, I'm not a nature nut...but I do believe that we ALL have rights...and breastfeeding is a God-given right...grow up!
Criminals should be divided into groups SM
according to crimes committed. Nonviolent or violent. To place nonviolent drug-related crime people in prisons with hard-core inmates is crazy. First time felons need rehab. Prisons are just making it worse. Ever see shows about prisons in Europe? Sheesh, like night and day.
By the way, I've never been to prison in my life and neither has anyone I know.
L x H x W divided by size of hershey's kiss
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This was not on my property...
My sister-in-law and I were both picking up our kids from dance class, and my sister-in-law was picking up this girl, too. They were playing outside by the cars. She has an appointment today, so I will probably call later and see what the doctor said.
Thanks everyone!
The 10% was lakefront property
as in over 6 acres, not a home there but glad he is no longer around. I do not understand about who was wrong? The money taken up front from the present realtor, I was told, was put into escrow. I am catching flack from a relative who thinks I should have the money in hand. Her son does not have a realtor selling his property and when a prospective buyer backed out, he kept their earnest money. Please explain when you say he did not do right. I have been in no hurry to sell this, do not need the money in a desperate kind of way but out of town and we are having to keep the yard maintainedm do not ever plan on living there so decided to sell.
Anyone know how to become a property appraiser? (sm)
I think I would like to do this as a side job. Can look it up online but would like to hear firsthand if anyone has info on this and whether or not it is lucrative.
Thanks!
At least you own property to pay taxes on -
I don't have my own pot to p__s in or window to throw it out of. I was totally depending on that refund to help pay down my gas credit cards.
We got married on our property...
just a little ceremony with a few friends and the pastor. We have 15 lovely acres of land and were married near the barn. Everytime we walk past that spot we stop, say I do, kiss and walk on. If we ever leave here we will take some of the dirt with us as a fine memory.
No don’t have to sell but this property is 1 big headache
We have to go every month to cut the grass (6 acreas) and I told my sweet hubby today if something happened to me, hello, he would have to fool with all that. I have no use for it but have had since 2004 now, did not make up mind to sell until about a year ago. I told the realtor just to let me know when he got other offers..
Sold the property, finally
Well, I guess the man was wrong for wanting me to accept the $110,000. I have sold the property today for $140,000. That is a chunk more than I can now think of ways to spend- just kidding, planning on putting new flooring in, paying off most of the home where I live and paying my bills off. Hooray!!
Property I am trying to sell right on the lake
and the people around there kinda sound like you and yours. That is why I am selling!
I have sold some property, not closed on but
get this- the new "owners" have gone in (I was told they wanted to spring clean and thus the realtor gave them keys to the place to do so) and stripped the carpets that were there and also dismantled and took down part of a cabinet. The closing was to take place the first of July. I called the realtor and asked when did spring cleaning turn into renovation. One person had asked about a possible early move-in as their lease ran out today. I told realtor no moving in, nothing else done until closing. No answer from him- no emails answered, nothing. I sent him 1 yesterday saying - oh, never mind, I will check on my property myself either Thursday or Friday morning, hope I don’t find squatters there- guess what folks, now he calls late yesterday evening wanting to know can we close today. Oh, the power of persuasion. Some people really have the nerve!
Property taxes...oh my goodnes!!
Our area and I think much of the state were being reassessed this year. The first tip was when my husband read in the paper that our particular county did an outstanding job with their assessment and should be an example for the rest of the state. My husband called today to see when we would could be expecting our tax bill and was told they could give us the amount, did he want them too. He told them he really wasn't sure he wanted to hear it!! OK - this marvelous job that our county did was -------- a 60% increase. Can you believe it????? And we do not live in an extravagent area at all! We have to come up with an extra $1900 in three months! Piece of cake!
I fear America is in for tough days ahead. Our society in general cannot keep up with the increases that we see on every hand. Milk - Close to $4 a gallon here. Gas price increases - and we live 30 miles away from anything, work, church, shopping. Cheese - $7 for a pound of cheese!
How can we continue on this pathway when our incomes do not increase at the same rate? Can't our congress people and senators see the predicament we are in??
Another issue along the same line - I'm wishing today that I was on Welfare. If I was on Welfare, I would have no problem running to the eye doctor because I desparately need my lenses changed in my glasses which are at least three years old. My son needs to go to the doctor for an infected, ingrown toenail - no money so he endures it. My daughter needs a graft on the gum line of her teeth where here gumline is beginning to expose the root of the tooth - again no money for that so it won't get done. I could go on and on - but I'm paying for all the Welfare people to go to the doctor for their sniffles. Yes - I have insurance that we would be covered for a major medical expense, cancer, etc - but there is $3000 deductible so none of these smaller things are covered.
OK - I'm totally overwhelmed with these issues right now and I know that I am not the only one with these issues. Thanks for the listening ear and the wonderful sounding board that you all are!!!
When you are sinking in this deep pit - it hard to remember and to comprehend that "MY GOD SHALL SUPPLY ALL YOUR NEEDS ACCORDING TO HIS RICHES IN GLORY." I'm sure He will do that because He never fails. I'm anxious to see how he supplies that need.
My property tax rate stays low
because there are so many mansions in my town. There is a house on the market right now for $23 million, plus lots of others in the 5-10 million dollar range. What is really sickening is that these are second or even third homes for some people. But they are paying such high taxes, it really takes the burden off us little guys who live way, way, way on the other side of the tracks.
If the injury occurred on your property... sm
...and you have homeowner's insurance, it should cover any injuries that occur on your property.
However, it is unlikely that the amount the ER charged would meet your deductible unless you have it set extremely low.
It was very nice of you to offer to help. Since the girl had surgery on that finger, she obviously should have had some kind of brace or cast or something to remind her not to use that finger while playing - just so that something like this would not happen.
20/20 hindsight, huh?
We pay property taxes in KY on car tags. (nm)
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Tell you father to sell the property...
buy something decent and let you stay there for free.
Until everything is settled, move in with your father.
You are definitely living in danger.
How, for heaven's sake, can your father hire sex offenders to work in your house?
a doggie purse is personal property.
xoxo
I am close to retirement age and got property taxes
just a few days ago, about $2,250.00- I called and asked if I got anything off when I reached another age, say 70 or so and was told in 2009 I will have reached the golden age of 65 and my taxes would be only about $800.00 per year! Good Golly Miss Molly, talk about good news! The school tax break comes through then for me. There are some good things that come with aging and this is one!
That sounds strange, cars in with property but
now much do you have to pay?
I live in Kansas. Our property values
I am sorry to hear about your financial predicament. I hope things work out for you.
She lives on his property so kind of hard - sm
to call the police on him or order him off his own property, he has every legal right to be there, except for being a total nut case. I hope he wakes up and gets help, but I do not see any of this ending well.
Definitely understand that - you shouldn't have to have your property be forever a memorial! (sm)
you were VERY kind to leave it there and take care of it for six months. So ridiculous that people gave you a hard time. I'm sorry that happened to you! Bad enough that you have to know something so awful happened in front of your home without a constant reminder and strangers coming up to your house all the time. And it is not your job to maintain it for them. If the family understood, then certainly no one else should have any say whatsoever.
But he "FOUND" it in private property! Ludicrous reasoning. nm
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I am MY property. If I choose to use my assets for money, that is MY business!
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As a landlord with rental property, tenants seem to "pay partial rent" or not pay at all sm
beginning around Nov or December (the holidays). Were they both laid off? Is there no income coming in? Even though I don't know the situation, I can guarantee you that the money was spent elsewhere and now they are paying the price. I'm sorry to have to say this.
My husband and I worked with a family on getting caught up and they were 2 months behind plus late fees (about 1,800) and it was right about this time last year. They had a great Christmas though!
I don't have an answer for you. I don't know if there is anyone who can help someone like your friend or my ex-tenants. Rent should be people's #1 priority and sadly, a lot of the times it just isn't.
With the prices of homes and property taxes today, just about everyone is house poor.
It's so sad when you can't go out to dinner often, buy nice expensive things for yourself *just because*, go on lots of trips, go to sports things, see shows/concerts, etc., all because you own a house. I'd truly rather rent and ENJOY my life! :)
That would definitely not be enough for me to consider it a marriage. sm
why do you all think you need some obviously lame guy to complete you? Is it just youth and hormones?
marriage
You are so fortunate. In this day and age, everyone is all about "me". My husband has no CLUE what it means to "work as a team." He simply cannot grasp it at all. He does what he wants to, when he wants to and how he wants to, whenever he wants to. If I ask too many questions he gets angry at me. I am now figuring out 15 years later that I made a pretty big mistake by marrying him. However, we have three beautiful children, and the one thing we do agree on is that they need both parents to raise them. My husband would argue the color of the sky if he was in the mood. He is contrary simply to be contrary. I give up. He gives me the information he thinks I need to have. I don't ask him for anything anymore because he absolutely will not do it (help with getting everything done, i.e., housework, paying bills, makign phone calls, etc.). All of the concerns I had before we got married (which I did bring up to him) have come true. I should have known it. People just DO NOT know how to work together anymore.
marriage
I think we are raising our sons to be "mama's boys" and not be the proper leaders they need to be. Plus, in this day and age of no boundaries, children have no guidance and absolutely no direction. My husband does not have a plan from one minute to the next. It is absolutely crazy. he cannot set a goal and reach it if his life depended on it. We just wait to see what he is going to do next. I honestly never know what he is going to come up with. He absolutely adores his children, and they feel the same. I have seen what divorce does to the children, I will not do that to mine. But sometimes, I just want to scream. Thanks for allowing me to vent. I have asked him to go to counseling, but he doesn't see a need (he has everything he needs). I will teach my children what to look for in a mate and the warning signs. Hopefully they won't have the trouble that I have had.
Marriage
Marriage is a relationship that you have to take care of each other first and always. He should always think about what makes you happy and you the same. You both should be covered at all times. There needs to be ongoing communication so you both can determine what makes things work for you. Most marriages fail because people don't want to talk and would rather "mind read" or assume. You know what they say about assume. You should always treat your spouse like he/or she is the most important person in the world and is first in your life. If you have someone that takes advantage of that and does not appreciate it, then that is not the one for you. Ignorance and immaturity takes kindness for weakness. A mature man or woman knows that that is how they should be treated and how they should treat their mate.
Second marriage
I'm planning to get married for the second time. My last marriage was 17 years ago and I've been on my own with my 14 y.o. son for almost 10 years. For my last wedding I dotted all the I's and crossed all the T's but I was so exhausted I didn't even enjoy the wedding. I think I have a mental block for wedding planning now because I never really thought I'd be doing it again. However, I have zero doubt that I want to be with this man. We both just want to be together and can't decide whether to just go on a trip and get married or have something small with our families and a few close friends. We think it would be nice to have our immediate families help us start our marriage off but I can't seem to make myself think about planning things and picking things out. Mainly I'd just like to wear a pretty dress (not necessarily even a wedding dress and definitely not an elaborate one). It seems if you start planning to have one thing it calls for another. I've looked at some of the wedding checklists and it makes my head hurt to think about picking out cakes, etc. I don't want anything tacky but I don't want to spend a lot of time on details. Any ideas? Also, what are your thoughts on giving your future husband a wedding gift. A do or not? Thanks so much for any advice you have to offer. I don't think we are going to wait long at all so I won't have much time to plan a lot anyway, which suits me just fine.
Second marriage
I live in Eastern North Carolina. There seems to be a lot of placed in Tennessee that look pretty romantic too. I'm browsing through those now.
Second marriage
Lots of great ideas. Thanks so much. I really like the iPod idea.
I think she needs to get out of the marriage - NOW!! (sm)
That could end up being a dangerous situation as well. I have had female friends from this type of cultural background who had to go into hiding from their own brothers to keep from being beaten to death for the crime of dating a white man. She really needs to get out now before they have children.
What is there to think about? Marriage...
is taking a vow.
vow
verb [T]
to make a determined decision or promise to do something, which includes not sleeping with other women and no cheating WHATSOEVER. He broke the Vow.
Marriage is a vow.
Of course I understand that marriage is a vow. Marriage is also a commitment. Problems that seem insurmountable sometimes are not, given time.
Before your marriage, did you or did you not....
Let your DH see you in your wedding gown?
Marriage Help
Am hoping to hear advise from other in my shoes. Been married 18 years and completely and totally unhappy. Husband doesn't beat me, is a good provider, just not in love any longer. Kids involved under age 14. Do I stay or do I go? Trying to stay until kids leave house but very hard - hard to even look at him. He has told me i am average but he love me, has corrected all my mistakes throughout the years, because only he and God are perfect oh but he loves me more than anything! A year ago he wrote me a letter that pointed out all my flaws and could not understand why I wanted him to leave. Please advise. I am so terribly sad and miserable and don't know what to do. State I live in very expensive and would never want to move my kids elsewhere. Hints on staying in an unhappy marriage would be great.
Bad marriage
Hi Done:
I left last September after 30 years. I am happy being on my own even though it means I must work long hours to support myself. My husband and I are separated, not divorced and I took no money from him.
The marriage was not so terribly bad - no physical abuse, very little verbal, but the interesting thing is that my children were way more aware of the underlying unhappiness than I would have imagined. I thought we never really argued - they thought the atmosphere was tense all the time.
I will say that I feel lucky that my youngest child is 17. On the other hand, she chose to stay with her dad (as well as my 21 year old son) and that was/is heartbreaking. But I did not have the right to choose for her. I moved into an apartment across the busy street from where I lived. My children can visit whenever they want.
It seems that my children are actually happier now too. Can you arrange a trial separation? The thing is, nothing has really changed in the situation between my husband and I, and it doesn't seem like it will. We both have an incentive not to make things final with divorce - mine is to keep his good insurance coverage, his is to avoid needing to give me any money.
I feel I had a lot of issues in the marriage due to the incest I suffered as a child and he had issues too. We just were not able to make any progress on this stuff in marriage therapy and neither of us has made any inquiries to each other about the possibility of trying again. And do you really think people can change? I just don't know. I think you have to really want to change. And someone who thinks they are perfect and points our your flaws all the time and tells you that you are "average" is probably not looking to change.
You deserve better for yourself. Just do it on your time and at your convenience. It is possible to stay for a while longer until your children are older. I thought I would wait until my youngest was out of school, but there was one of those "last straw" kinds of episodes last year and that was it.
I wish you the best. But just know that your children are aware of what is going on and do you want them to use your marriage as a model for themselves?
If it's you second marriage and the first one
Didn't workout - then don't spend ANY money on the second one. Save it for the divorce - LMAO 
Before & After Marriage..
Before marriage.....
He: Yes. At last. It was so hard to wait.
She: Do you want me to leave?
He: No! Don't even think about it.
She: Do you love me?
He: Of course! Over and over!
She: Have you ever cheated on me?
He: No! Why are you even asking?
She: Will you kiss me?
He: Every chance I get.
She: Will you hit me?
He: Are you crazy! I'm not that kind of person!
She: Can I trust you?
He: Yes.
She: Darling!
After marriage....
Simply read from bottom to top.
marriage
Once 39 years and we did not live together before either.
Marriage
I know what you mean about smothering. DH has several guys he works with whose wives won't do anything without their husbands. DH and I have always said we have very little in common except how we feel about each other. He doesn't ask me to get out of our warm bed at 5 a.m. in 20 degree weather to go deer hunting and I don't make him go to the beach with me in the summer and get sand in his shorts. It works perfectly for us. Our 24th anniversary is next month and we have 3 awesome kids. Definitely had our ups and downs but it's all been worth it.
Marriage
Well said. I was just thinking that. My husband just told me I have until the kids get out of school next week to get out. This all started over a milkshake of all things! Why are most men jerks? Looking back I have lost over 20 years of my life for a lot of similar reasons. Friends tell me the same info about God ect. But does God want us to be so unhappy???? That doesn't make sense to me at all!
Marriage
Living with someone is hard work, married or not. My parents have been married 45 years. My sister's marriage lasted just under 3 years. I've never been married but have lived with my SO for 3 years. We would get married if the marriage would be recognized everywhere as a valid marriage.
Sounds like your marriage is over
NM
Not sure what posts are below re marriage
but you sound so very well grounded and truly in love and love your husband and obviously he reciprocates. You are blessed but you also sound like a wonderful person who knows how to compromise when necessary and probably pick your battles - if you even have any!! I am also close to your age and going on 25 years of marriage and watch little things in the marriages of my children and I realize how much I have grown and how truly unimportant some stuff is - but sometimes you just don't see it when you are younger... wisdom definitely come with age!! You are blessed! :))
No, he has a son from a previous marriage, but they have none together. nm
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OMG you just described my entire marriage..
I am waiting for tax returns and I am OUT OF HERE!! We tried counseling, and for US, it just made it worse. We have 3 children..7, 8, and 10. They are sick of him too and have actually BEGGED me to get us out of this house. I know in my area there are a lot of "programs" to help in these situations and I am hunting them down!! Good luck to you and dont sacrifice your life to be unhappy.
I have a great marriage, and i will tell you what we do
First off, there is no "serving". I am home, so I do all the bills, take care of the kid and cook most of the meals, housework, etc. He takes care of the lawn and brings in a lot more money. He is also very helpful on the weekends. Easy enough.
We are extremely nice to each other, and I spoil him rotten but it goes both ways. The best advice I can give you is to be yourself. We go all out for birthdays, valentine's day, our anniversary and anything else we can find an excuse for.
When there is a problem or something unexpected, we split the responsibility for it or the duties that come with it. Everything is 100% equal. I believe he is the head of household in some ways, but in others, I am. That keeps me from being too much of a pushover and keeps him on the chase.
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