thank you so much for the quick response. Would this pose a problem for me in the future?? nm

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LODI, Calif. -- Two high school seniors are accused of making a drug-related hand gesture in their prom picture, prompting school officials to suspend them.

Josh Niemeyer and his date are seen making the letter "T" with their hands in a picture taken during Lodi High School's prom.

The seniors said they made the gesture because the prom's theme was "Techno City."

But Shad Canestrino from the Lodi Police Department said the gesture represents the words "thiz" or "thizzin'," which are slang terms for Ecstasy, or MDMA.

Canestrino said there's a a whole subculture that goes along with "thiz" and "thizzin'' which stems from Mac Dre songs. Mac Dre, a Bay-Area based rapper who died in 2004, coined the term.

"We knew there was another meaning for it, like double-sided. But our intentions were not to promote drugs or anything. Just 'T' for 'techno,'" Niemeyer said.

Niemeyer and his date were suspended for three days.

"I just think the school has jumped to conclusions and they have made their own interpretation and it isn't fair," parent Lisa Russell said.

Several Lodi High students wore hand-painted T-shirts on Thursday in support of Josh and his date.

According to students, the "T" gesture signifies drug use only when it's accompanied by a facial expression and a slouching body.

The school's principal and the district superintendent said they would not comment on student disciplinary matters.

go to church each week.  If not is he getting questioned like your daughter.  I am Catholic and go to church every Sunday.  I know from hearing family members that a  priest will not marry you unless he has proof that you are going to Church each week.  The envelopes are the proof.  The priest does not want to marry you in the church just because your Catholic. So if your son in law does not go to Church he is at fault also.  My DD is getting to another Catholic next year. She became very relaxed about going to Church.  They registered back into the Church once they got engaged and waited six months before contacting the priest. 

Some of what you said seems like it is the priest and not the Catholic religion.  I would contact another Catholic priest and see if he feels the same.  The bad part is if your daughter is probably getting turned off by the Catholic religion before she gets started.  She will have to sign a paper promising she will raise her children Catholic.   My daughter told me that there is separate paper work to fill out if you are living together so most people do lie.  She does not live with her fiance.  Also after they get married in the Catholic Church and then stop going most priests will not baptize the children just for the sake of it if the parents are not going to take the children to church.  All this is really a shame because the Catholic church is turning a lot of people away.   Good luck and give us any updates. 

Please tell me if I'm overreacting.  I'm moving 60 miles away from where I'm now living next weekend for a new job at a big hospital in my hometown.  I'm excited but nervous also.  My daughter is getting married in November.  I only have about 3 rooms of furniture and a lot of it is already boxed and in a storage room.  I asked my daughter if "Bruce," her fiance, and his buddies could help move me, as I am single, with no father, brothers or friends who are able-bodied any longer (I'm 50+).  She asked him and grudgingly he said something to the effect that he could, but we would have load the truck the night before and he would have to be finished up before noon the next day, and his friend would help for $200(!).  The last straw was he told my daughter to tell me not to expect to have boxes, furniture placed or set up, because he HAD to get to the "Mud Bog" by 12:00 sharp.

Is this any way to treat a future in-law?  He knows I don't have any family really.  I did get a couple of co-workers and their husband/brother to help, thank goodness, but I'm really worried about the future with this boy--respect for me, priorities, selfishness--thanks in advance.

It sounds like you were lucky to get the offer you got and since you have no one you'd have been better off to take him up on it. 

You certainly can't expect people to do things just out of the goodness of their heart when they know you can't stand them.  If you can come on here and post about your future son-in-law's flaws, then I'm sure he knows how you feel. 

What are you trying to prove here?  He said he'd do it, that it would cost $200.00 for the friends to help (do you expect him to carry everything by himself), but that he couldn't place the furniture?  So what's wrong with that? 

On the completed listings from June 27, there were 16,806 items up for sale (not all sold). Off the Wall and Thriller albums (combined) sold for $62. Thriller alone sold for $55.

On the active items, there are 41,102 items up for sale! Off the Wall and Thriller  (combined) is up to $202.  Each single item is selling for $60-$80.  It's crazy. A lot of these items are owned privately, but those that have a business dealing with music, posters, etc. would have to pay a royalty on those items to the estate.

Oh, yeah, one crazy seller was trying to sell a 45 record for $300! No takers.

Is there verbal, emotional, or physical abuse in the marriage? Drug or alcohol abuse?

How mature is your son for his age? How emotionally stable is he?