talk about Are You Kidding....who cares about your office affair
Posted By: NM on 2007-11-29
In Reply to: It happens everywhere! - Are you kidding?
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Are you kidding? That is ridiculous! Who cares? (sm)
People are greiving and he is worried about what everyone calls him? Is it HIS funeral? He is being extremely selfish to even think about something so silly. Just silly.
Any office supply place, like Office Depot or Staples. Try copyholder instead of typing stand.
Might see if your local Staples, Office Depot has someone that does office machine
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doctor's wife who was the receptionist/office manager at his office nm
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what a sad affair
I was flipping between that and Nancy Grace. I personally believes the boy likes the attention and as you said, "grow up"!
Affair
Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me! I had a friend whose husband cheated on her their entire marriage (17+ years). I could not do it, but she had three young children and felt that she needed to keep her family together. I don't think I would ever be able to trust my husband again!
I don't think he is having an affair with her - sm
If he wanted to hide it he could have given cash, easy to withdrawal $100 here and there, etc, not raise too much of an eyebrow. Unless it is all reverse psychology on his part, but usually men are not that smart. I am sure he is getting an ego boost from being a shoulder to cry on though, and I would certainly keep my eyes open. He was a bit overly generous though and definitely should have said to you, hey, I'd like to give her some cash to help out would $500 be okay with you? Granted I would balk at that myself, maybe $250 or $300 that would be as high as I would go in such a situation. I would try to get him to see it from your point of view, reverse the roles as someone suggested below and ask him how he'd feel if she was a he and you had 90 minute appointments with him and stay and chat, and give him $500. He'll probably tell you that would be nuts, etc. It is possible for a hair appt to take a while, she may be running late or he shows up early and waits and chats with her then as well, who knows. How often do you go? Do you go together (if not, start) or separate? As long as he doesn't start going more often to get hair cuts, or strange calls show up on his cell phone or email I would not worry about it. He probably got overzealous and wanted to "rescue" the fair maiden with a large cash donation. Men can be very foolish sometimes.
My ex-husband had an affair
with my so-called best friend, better known as his brother's wife. It devastated me, not so much about him, but I felt the biggest betrayal was hers. We were very close, used to commiserate about the brothers and their crazy family, confided in each other and then SHE SLEPT WITH HIM!! It still bothers me and this was in 1984. 
I know that wasn't your question, but it just reminded me of that whole mess.
It would bother me more I think if my husband had an affair with another man, because of the obvious health risk. Either way, it's a horrible experience.
The affair thing
I think an affair is something to consider. Google signs of an affair and see if anything else seems to go with the typical behavior. He certainly is a ripe age for it (mid-life crisis material).
Whatever it is, don't assume he will just get over it. You need to get to the bottom of it.
Good luck, and keep us posted.
sounds to me he is guilty. maybe he is having an affair and sm
wants you to divorce him and that is his way of trying to get you to do so. I would leave the SOB. No one deserves that sort of verbal abuse. Just my 2 cents.
More upset if with a man. Lie #1 is the affair, lie #2 is that he's gay and didn't tell me bef
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Yikes! A Paterson Affair now...
Well David Paterson, new Governor on NY as of today, is reported to have had an extra-marital affair..no prostitutes, just a long term affair. He claims it happened when his marriage was in trouble and his wife also had an affair. According to him, they then had counseling, got back together and that was that. Someone in Albany started a rumor that Paterson also had a "love child" with still another woman, but Paterson flatly denied it. I don't have a link--it's breaking news. 
Husband had affair 13-14 years ago
It was with a co-worker. He told me about it in the fall 1993. He moved out. A couple of months later he moved back home and said it was over. Our kids were young then, 6 and 9, and the holidays were coming up which is probably why he moved back. Fast forward to the fall 1994. He comes out with that he never stopped seeing her, but now she was moving out of state and it really is over. In 1999, we moved to a different state (not the one she's in... I know where she went). Things seemed to be okay, at least the way they always have been. We even had a baby girl in late 2000. Husband switched jobs last year and I was finally getting around to cleaning out some boxes that he brought from the office. I found an envelope in there from the low life he cheated with with a Christmas card and some pictures postmarked 2006. The message said hope you and your family are fine. I finally found some pictures for you. I hope you like them, etc. They are mostly of her with her husband with family friends. I think it's her husband ... at least it was her husband's name back then I remember, because he had called me a couple of times back when it all went on.
Okay, so it's like 14 years after the fact. I thought it was something we had gotten past. The thing is, I had never seen what she looked like and now out of the blue I'm putting a face to the whole thing. Besides that it's bringing the whole thing back, the feelings, the betrayal, all of it, I'm also shocked that one or way another they have stayed in touch, even with us moving. Now I wonder again, is he really where he says he is when he's out?
Just wanted some opinions here. I'm just a mess right now and don't know whether to say anything or not.
Jon's been having a months-long affair
with a college student or recent college grad... There are plenty of pictures, and her brother has spoken out and given interviews too. One article I read was in US Weekly I believe. As much as I really am not wild about Kate, I really feel for her in this situation. She's taking care of all those kids while he's off spending weeks and weekends away with a woman half their age nearly.
Lifetime movies where the husband has an affair and leaves
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who cares?!
there should be a nonsense board!
and.....who cares?
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I don't think sis particularly cares...SM
She's highly wrapped up in herself and is convinced that Mom slighted her as a child and adult, though with 4 of us, and a farm to run, it was hard for none of us to not feel slighted. Sibling rivalry reigned at the time. She just never grew out of it. Now, we're just not her "kind of people".
Did ya ever just wanna talk about nuthin' just to talk?
As I said before in another post, I miss everyone so much...
So, I have absolutely NOTHING to talk about. Love my new job, love that spring is on the way, and I love that my belly is absolutely filled up with pancakes my husband kindly made for me just now...even though it's lunchtime and not breakfast. I'm one of those freaks that could eat breakfast-type foods at every meal.
...and that reminds me that it's almost that time of year to order some baby chicks for next month. Laying hens, not for meat or anything, just eggs and entertainment. I can't wait for warm weather--it's been a long HARSH winter this year. In fact, I think we're due for another ice storm at the end of the week.
I hope everyone who stops by to read my note about nothing finds themselves and their families in good health. Miss you all, even the ones that can't stand seeing that "Hayseed" name up there.
Who cares if somebody is gay or lesbian..
I am neither and dont really care who is. If you dont agree with somebody's lifestyle move on. If you see something in a store you do not like move on. Nobody said you have to stand there and eyeball all the products just to see if there is something you disapprove of. Most stores are going to have something somebody doesnt like, so what. It is not up to us to judge what somebody else does. They are not looking for anyones approval just trying to live their lives.
Who cares about the money? --sm
She couldn't take it with her and it did her absolutely no good while she was alive. What about the baby girl she left behind? Why is everything always about money.
Who cares, don't you have work to do ?
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Gore cares?
The NES (Nashville Electric Service) reports that Gore's 20-room, 8 bathroom mansion in Nashville uses more electricity in 1 MONTH than the average American household uses in a year. And the article didn't mention the other 2 homes he owns.
Good for you! Someone who REALLY cares! nm
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He is lucky to have someone who cares. . sm
He sounds so much like my dad. My dad smoked 4 to 5 packs of cigarettes a day, so I think he knew he had some medical problems long before he died. He just wouldn't go to the doctor. It was his choice and no one could make him do it. It sounds like you have made your own nice little family.
Who cares???? I don't watch the
show, but my kids do. They are only doing it for the money. Their kids are the ones who have to suffer with having no kind of normal/private life at all.
Yummy! Who cares how much butter she uses?
She's rich ($$$$$$$$$) at this point.... :) Not another show featuring cardboard and fake cooking sprays? Do we really need another show for "light eating"? Our elders lived long lives on lard...... :) Keep on cookin', just don't eat that heavy stuff every day/night! Enjoy.... 
You are saying she cares about her dogs like her children
You, my dear, seem to be taking up for her. You do not let your children go out and murder just because you love them. A dog who would kill another animal might also try killing a small child. Give you my advice and I really mean this - I would have called the animal control on her. There are laws here just for this same thing. You do not let you dogs (kids) run wild and kill and mutilate other animals. It is really against the law. She could be my mother, wouldn’t care. Accept the response you have gotten. You seem to not even care about the little ones who lost their lives. Shame on you.
Do you ever feel like when you are sick nobody cares? sm
I am probably just being a baby but I am having some health issues lately and I feel like when my friends and family are sick I always try to check on them and take care of them but when it is me I feel like nobody even cares. If anything I feel like my husband finds it aggravating. Is it just part of the territory of being a mom??
who cares, the commerical guy is cute
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who really cares anymore? My SO and I will never get married
marriage is a dying tradition
Will answer about who cares about Simon
She stated when booted off, "I love you Simon but I really don’t care." She was asked by Ryan what did she say and it was repeated. Well, no one needs to care about Simon unless they want to continue to be on the show, get exposure for their work, land a multimillion dollar contract. Other than that I would say let her go with the wind. I thought she was a real twit. She was really the worst so I can understand her being targeted as votefortheworst, sounds like they picked the right one!
Update for anyone who cares. due to the emails I've sm
received regarding "how I'm doing, etc." I thought I'd give a quick update. Thank you all so much for your kindness and caring for a total stranger and her family.It means so much to me that others are thinking of me.
I ended up going to an ER and they prescribed Cymbalta and Xanax. Didn't the Xanax filled. I have no intentions of zoning out on Xanax. All I need is to become addicted to something.
I am not too happy with the Cymbalta. We didn't even discuss Cymbalta. We discussed another med, but I can't think of which antidepressant it was, but it wasn't that. Was surprised when I got it filled what he prescribed.
In any event, I have good days and bad days. Got a 2 week work excuse which I haven't abided by yet, either. I feel work keeps me grounded. I may still use it. I do need to focus and deal with my grief. I haven't done that yet. Been too busy. I like busy. Busy doesn't hurt.
Love to everyone here. Love is all that matters now. Love is all we need.
Your sister sounds self absorbed and cares about herself only.
I have 2 sisters that are pretty self centered and selfish. Can't understand it either; we grew up in the same house, same parents, and same set of morals and values.
I can tell you that as you love your sister, sometimes it is difficult to admit her bad traits, because as family members we tend to overlook and accept them and have loved unconditionally.
We don't want to see the bad in our own family; however, if you pull away a bit, you start to see things you knew were there, but they seem to become more vivid. If you look back, you will see she had those traits all along, and you just overlooked them and accepted them because you love her.
When you don't speak up for what is right, your sister probably thinks you are okay with what is doing or saying, etc. She will never believe she is wrong.
I take it, she has a dominant personality and you are easy-going and laid back.
Been there, done that.
Personally, I would have laid into her a bit. If she didn't want to talk to me afterwards, so be it. She'll get glad again.
sounds like you are chasing him too much. if you care, let him show how much he really cares. sm
you said you primarily communicate via phone, text, and emails. do you ever see each other in person? you need to back off as other's suggested and see what he does. when he asks why he hasn't heard from you just tell him i wanted to see if you cared enough to contact me since i am always the one contacting you. maybe that will get him to thinking. most guys like a chase, not being chased so just keep that in mind.
Go try it, talk, talk and listen sm
Counselors are trained to "listen" and direct you to talk (not them). I have transcribed many, many mental health reports. They do dig deep and keep it going for a very long time, very long, usually (perhaps not for you). But if you both don't tell the truth, you are wasting your money, so why not just get it all out on the table and get it over with and get on with your lives? Don't pussy foot around, get it all out and deal with it. Gosh, life is too short to put on a show, it's not a dress rehearsal, it's life. Go forward, forgive, forget and forge ahead. Don't need a degree for that!! But a little help can't hurt. Might help.
No kidding!
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You have got to be kidding!
I had not known of this. Thank you for sharing this information. Good to know!
You are kidding, right?
They are talking and you have a problem with this? Geeze. I think it shows a real maturity to maintain a friendship with an ex-spouse especially with no kids involved. Now if they are having a 'relationship' that is very different but that is not what you said. Apparently you are not big on forgiveness and real big on control and jealously.
No kidding- at least now
more people are seeing that. For the last several years this administration has reminded me of the story "The Emperor Has No Clothes" where the problem has been obvious but nobody wanted admit it. Now all the politicians are falling over themselves explaining how they were "always against the war" but they just never said so before now. Yeah, right.
actually, kidding or not, you are more right than you think..sm
deep pocket sheets are very expensive, between 200 and 300 dollars, and you still have to be careful about how deep the pockets are...they still might not be big enough. but for a couple more inches, they cost a whole lot more!
You have got to be kidding!
How does this woman stay in business?? If it were me, I would go back there one more time, to make it clear that she would never see a dime of my money, and exactly why. Perhaps her attitude works in her country or culture, whatever it is, but if she wants to sell to Americans she needs a major attitude adjustment. IMO, the only people who would buy from her are a) masochists or b) arrogant insecure people like her.
You are just kidding yourself
Let me tell you what could happen. You said not cheating, did he confess the other time while cheating or afterwards? Probably not while it was going on. A mother should be happy with herself first. Why be miserable so the kids would be happy?? They will grow up, leave 1 day and then what do you have? Still unhappiness because you might allow him to stay but then again if he is saying not loving you anymore, I doubt very seriously he is planning on staying, probably trying to cushion the blow some. If the kids mother is not happy, your kids are probably going to know that and that can cause problems there.
OMG - are you kidding?
Better check out CNN.
You are kidding me??? OF COURSE I will try it! sm
I was just thinking while putting on the mineral stuff when MK would come out with something because I'm sure they are "losing" customers (I'm not saying all) to the mineral make up wearers.
Of course, I am concerned now for the content in the makeup since Purity states they don't use talc, oils, etc. That will be my ultimate deciding factor. Thank you for this info, though!
No kidding!!!
I came on here today, and it was still the same topic! It's just taking over this entire page! We need some new topics on here!
Are you kidding me?
If Cuba is so wonderful, why do people die trying to get out? But I'll be glad to buy your boat ticket if you really want to go live there. Don't let the door hit you on the way out.
are you kidding!!!!!
It most certainly can help a whole lot. Do you know how many people have no idea where pet store puppies come from. A whole whole bunch. If the word and pictures of this abuse is put out there by a mass publicity machine such as Oprah, hopefully the demand will go down and the supply will also. Oprah herself said she will never ever get another dog unless it is from the shelter herself and how this report has changed her views, so apparently she had no idea of this horrible industry too.
You have to be kidding me! sm
You must not have any children at all. Quick to sue? It's been over 2 months. I really don't care what other people think of me. My only concern is my daughter. You don't see the terror in her eyes everytime she sees a dog. You weren't here when she woke up from nightmares.
You're pathetic!
Are you kidding me.......
We have Guitar Hero I, II, III, and the 80's one. LOL! I even have my own guitar that I decorated for ME. Seriously considering getting my stepson Rock Band for his Wii. I'm 28 years old and I love that stuff. I don't play it much because I'm really busy, but I do sneak down to the basement to play from time to time.
You have got to be kidding.
I would eat in my car in the parkinglot before paying to eat inside a fast food restaurant. Part of their appeal is that it is cheap and I don't have to tip otherwise I might as well go to a regular restaurant. Wonder what they could do if you order at the register, say its "to go" and then change your mind and eat inside.
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