taking matters into your own hands
Posted By: IMHO on 2007-01-04
In Reply to: Gotta vent about a public school situation....sm - Irritated American Citizen
This is a social problem that does not look like it's going to change any time soon. I had a similar experience when my daughter was in the 4th grade. She's in college now... not promising huh?
Anyhow, I ended up moving 150 miles to a good school district in an affordable neighborhood. Sounds like an oxymoron, but I researched and did what I had to do.
I moved again when I realized the high school she was districted for had a very bad record, not to mention it was almost 2 times overpopulated.
I know this is not an option for most people, but since it was just the 2 of us and I worked for a national, it was the only thing to do.
Both moves were of huge benefit to her intellectualy and emotionally.
If I were you, I would strongly consider home-schooling or moving. Most kids are taught to read in preschool or kindergarten, so I'm assuming your school district must be extremely lacking if they didn't address her reading problem then.
I would also suggest you try to make your voice heard by writing your congressman. This is a political issue that seems to be just danced around at the expense of our children and the future of our country.
But if nothing else, PLEASE spend at least an hour a day on her reading. Take her to the library or book store and let her pick out books she likes so the process won't be such a chore for either of you. Try to make it fun and encourage her.
Sorry for going on so long, but really, the best thing you can do is just do it yourself asap. You can't wait for the government/school system to change.
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It matters none if I like or not, they are here
and that is just the way it is. There are so many things in this country that are more important. They are in a business like most people are, a business. Some one will profit from the drugs coming on the market. That is my post. What do you not understand about my saying someone will profit? Let me know and maybe I can walk you through it.
I really don't think it matters
who is correct and who isn't correct here. What matters is that he believes he is correct and no one is going to change his mind. Sounds to me like she might as well just move on and not look back. Even if he would be tempted to start again with her, this guilt and doubt of what is right and wrong would always been in the back of his mind and that alone would make their relationship doomed for failure. If this is what he truly believes, whether he is right or not, there is no point in pursuing a relationship with him. She will only get hurt again. After being with an abusive husband, she needs a healthy relationship. Not one filled with doubt and guilt. Regardless of her strong feelings, she needs to cut her losses and move on for the sake of her sanity and health. JMO though!
not just in family matters - s/m
In life matters, most times the only one a person can count on is themself.......
Not just in family matters......
yes, i do live in Tx for your info not that that matters. sm
My mom always taught me manners that if you didn't have anything nice to say then don't say anything at all. what has happened to the world these days? it is so full of immature, smarty pants. i can't comprehend why people can't just be knowledgeable and respectful if you have something to add to a post. why waste your time and everyone elses by just being rude and hateful? it is just totally uncalled for and immature. oh well, maybe everyone was just having a bad day and needed something to lighten their stress. go get those chips off your shoulders and have a nice day today.
Well you are really not helping matters or having people side with you
when you keep bragging about how wonderful your kids are and family your family is, lol.. and assuming everyone else's is all screwed up. You know what they say.....usually one who accuses is the one with the problems. People who truly have a wonderful family life and great kids do not usually have a need to keep reaffirming and reassuring everyone of that fact ; )
I think maybe the boy sucked out some of your sanity...
:)
She also has man hands.
adf
it has gone through too many hands
so I wouldn't feel comfortable calling the girl's parents.
hands down
Da Bird, Google it, go nuts for it.
cold hands
I bought a pair of cotton gloves from CVS and cut off the fingertips. cotton won't make your hands sweat and they are very comfortable and keep the heat in. look for them where the first aid products are. if you can't find them someone in pharmacy can help locate them for you. you get several pair in the box and are very cheap!
I have in in both hands, have for years -sm
but it does not really bother me. As long as I have my keyboard at the right level I am fine, but if I pop the legs up on the keyboard I keep flat, then in a day or so it flares up big-time (I did this when I switched computers as my old keyboard I had the legs up--but on my new one I need to have them down) and my hands will shake a lot, hurt and drive me nuts in general. Braces make it hurt more so I go without them. So I just avoid having my keyboard in the wrong position and I am fine. Granted if I put in a long day my hands get a bit tired but that is it. As for surgery, it is not a permanent fix, it will come back (kind of like laser eye surgery) and you will have gained nothing but a couple years w/o it. But go get checked, they will give you the braces which may take care of it for you, they help many people (just not me) and also try to quit playing with your hair, I am sure that will help but less stress on it.
for my health into a drs. hands without being
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Assaulted? Put her hands on her? Such a big
laugh for tonight. This is the reason why kids are like they are now. Unbelievable. You said it all really.
Any thoughts on getting ink off my hands? sm
Duh!! I was really dumb this morning and trying to use this ink refill kit I bought and didn't wear gloves. Next think I knew I got black ink all over my hands. I figure I have a couple of choices, I could stay home until it wears off, I could dip both hands up to my wrists in ink and pretend I'm wearing black gloves, or I could ask you all if you have any secrets on how I can get it off. 
I'm fat(wasnt always) but DH cant keep his hands
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Dyson, hands down (sm)
I've had a Dyson now for oh, 4-5 years, just the plain old base model, and it is beyond fabulous. You know how the "big" vacuum sales people will come in and do demos in your house, getting more dirt than you knew existed out of things you thought were clean? Well, my Dyson does that...and it cost a whole lot less. I'd put it up against a Kirby or Rainbow any day.
Hope this helps.
HC
Keep your hands off your face
and be very gentle with the skin around your eyes and face. I see other people rub their eyes and faces vigorously when they're tired, and when the hands come down, I see wrinkles around the eyes. I'm 45 and people think I'm as young as 26. I do have the dark circles, which I have to cover with 16-hour foundation in a shade lighter than my regular foundation. Then I set with powder. I sometimes apply a dab of pink powder to the darkest areas or the inside corner area. This is what the makeup artist from What Not To Wear does to counter darkness. Preparation H is supposed to shrink bags.
do you speak with your hands - and I don't mean
My husband does not listen to me either. He looks like he's paying attention but he misses half of what I say. Couple thought I have is. Awhile ago we were watching a TV special it said that people listen and remember what you say when you talk with your hands (the study was done on school children). Well I don't talk with my hands. Never have and don't know how and when it do it just looks odd. I told him maybe I should start talking with my hands because then he would remember what I tell him.
I'm not sure if this is a normal thing for guys or not. We've been married 26 years and he hardly ever listens to me. I have to repeat things 2 and 3 times. Once we were getting ready to do 3 errands. As we were driving I asked where he was going and he said to this place and I said no, we have to hit these other 2 places first and he claims I never told him. I said I told him twice and then he became irate as though I was pointing out a mistake (he does not take kindly to me pointing out that he made a mistake even if I say it nicely, but he has no qualms in telling me whenever I made a mistake). Anyway...I don't know when my husband stopped listening to me either. Maybe about 10 or so years ago. He'll listen, but I think a lot of it is if I don't say what he want's to hear he just tunes me out. Our things are not major life threatening issues, but a lot have to do with "what he's going to do when he grows up". He's been out of work for about 5 years now and he doesn't know what he wants to do with his life (he's 50 years old). We will talk and talk and talk and then the next day it's back to square one like I never said anything.
Sometimes what I will do that helps is I take scratch pieces of paper and I write notes on them and them leave them all over the place. Like I keep a running list of errands we have to do and keep it on the corner of the table and a couple times through the week I will say we need to to this or we need to do that, and then I ask him when he would like to go do them (usually it's just the grocery store, or the place to pay our bills), but at least that gives him the option of feeling like he's in control of when its going to be done, when actually I am the one in control because the bill will need to be paid in the week. He too can be disrespectful of me and look at me funny if I'm telling him something, so what I've done is if I get the look from him I immediately stop talking. Then I will say the same exact thing he does to me "your not interested in what I'm saying?"
Maybe the note thing will help, it does with me. I wish you luck.
to the lady with hot hands
Sorry I have not responded. Been busy for a change, lol.
Thanks for the kind words. I actually am not on any medication right now for the RA. I switched rheumatologists a few months ago, and because my bloodwork was so very mildly positive and because I am hypermobile, they decided to see what would happen if I were taken off my Plaquenil. Proud to say I stiffened up after a few months, but my blood work is still not showing much inflammation, even though my rheumatoid factor has increased.
I also decided to not try any of the other medications. I know, it sounds risky and perhaps even stupid, but I just got off some harsh medications for another condition and I am kind of bucking the system. Because I have not had a flareup (that I am aware of, and i think those are hard to miss) since I stopped the medication, I am going to play it by ear, see what happens.
I did find out last week that my thyroid has finally tanked, and have started Synthroid for that. Poor thing was tested so many times and never came back abnormal.
Anyhow, I would talk to my doc if I were you about all the autoimmune disorders, have them run some blood tests and see if anything shows up. Here is another tip I have just learned - both with thyroid and with RA - even if your blood work shows up negative, if you have all the clinical symptoms of disease/disorder/syndrome "x", they should consider treating for it. I waited at least three years for a diagnosis on the RA, and my main symptom was the feeling yucky and sick but not sick all the time. It just had not shown up in my bloodwork until about a year ago, and by the time it had, I wasted a lot of time being tired.
Oh, also check your vitamin D.
Sorry so rambly. Good luck
HC
My family...hands down
My 2 year old- I laugh at her every day she is SO funny. Right now I am her world and she is just about the sweetest thing on the planet! My son who is so funny, the things he comes up with, plus he loves his mamma and is a total sweetheart even when he is being a "brother" to his sisters. My oldest daughter who even though she is getting an attitude still needs the reassurance and love from her mother, just inside the house where no one can see, lol. I LOVE my family, they are my world. And last but not least my wonderful husband who calls me 2-3 times a day from work just to talk to me even though he gets made fun of by the boys at work. He knows I don't get a lot of adult interaction so he started calling me at home when I started working at home 6+ years ago. We are not perfect by any means but I think we have a pretty perfect life :)
No you wouldn't. I win hands down.
We have a coal stove and it is the dirtiest heat in the world, but keeps us warm. I have more than an inch of dust on everything in less than a week. Can't wait until spring. 
cold hands/feet
Any ideas for cold feet and frozen hands (fingers) when working?
my hands are freezing. cant stand
typing with cold hands. the smallest draft of cool air just kills my hands. anyone with teh same prob?
cold hands solution
I found the best solution for when your hands get too cold to type. I filled an old tube sock with rice. Pop it into the microwave for 4 minutes or so. Put the hot sock in my sweatshirt pocket. I can stick my hands in for a quick warm up most of the afternoon. It also keeps the rest of me pretty toasty. ( it is only -3 degrees here!)
Just thought I'd share my idea. Happy Friday.
Please take the phones out of the little girls' hands!
Just got thru watching AI and am disappointed YET AGAIN that Sanjaya was not voted out. It's gotta be all those little 13-year-old girls that are voting for him, because there's not one lick of talent there. Granted Stephanie wasn't at her best last night, but she was at least 10 times better than Sanjaya. They all were, for that matter! Oh well, I still don't believe he will make it much longer. At least I hope not.
How is the daughter with blistered hands?
Did you talk to the MD about your daughter's hands? Have they gotten better or worse?
Otters holding hands
Go to YouTube.com and key in otters holding hands, and you will see the most adorable video of these guys! They are actually holding hands, and when they break apart, they get back together, one reaching out to the other to get his hand! The video is amazing!
Wow! Let's shake hands, friend!
That's how peace starts!!! :)
Now being a transcriptionist, we cannot kill our hands but
what works really well are switches. The kids are not abused, beaten, bruised but they sure do not like those. My ex told me you can make a mule mind with switches. I am amused when I read about the wonders of motherhood and then on here mothers posting about their troubles. To me it seems simple- to others it seems barbaric. I think you do not have to beat a child but you cannot let 1 get and keep the upper hand. This is what is happening now.
I have osteorthritis in my hands & fingers. - sm
Also getting it in hip. For the most part, I would say the pain has come on gradually, increasing in each joint over a period of a couple years. Only exception was my right thumb. It has severe OA, which gave me no trouble 'til one evening when I was at my mom's, I was bored, and I texted a bunch of emails to my friend on my cellphone. The next day my thumb ached like crazy. With rest it felt better, but never did go back to baseline.
The quality if the pain is usually not sharp, more like dull ache that varies in intensity. Occasionally, though, moving the affected part in the wrong way (especially turning my hip & thigh inward) can cause a sharper jolt.
Without x-rays & a doctor exam, you probably won't know for sure what it was. As the other poster said, there could be some kind of an acute injury, or even a muscle spasm. But then again, it's always possible there is arthritis in the hand that was quiescent until now.
Now that I know it's not an acute injury, I find heat and gentle stretching to be of help. Also NSAIDs for when it flares up. Most importantly, I keep the part moving. The hip bothers me when I run & do other vigorous exercise, but I find I can warm up, work through the pain, and it ultimately feels better afterward. WARM-UP is the key.
Same with the ouchy thumbs, especially when typing. I keep my workspace warm (I don't use (or even have) AC in hot weather). In cold weather I keep the room war and use typing-gloves.
I would keep an eye on the hand, try to take a few days off from typing, or anything else that makes it worse. Try researching the symptoms online, and if there's no improvement within a reasonable amount of time, since you're an MT and need your hands to make a living, I would self-refer to an orthopedist or a hand specialist. Still, try giving it some time & rest. It could be you were working really hard up to that point, and upon making a sudden, possibly slightly awkward movement while reaching for the cup, the muscles in your hand cramped up. I find that kind of pain to be worse than a fracture!
Take care!
My hands are too warm, for a week or two now (sm)
Thermometer does not show a fever, but every time I touch anyone they say my hands are too hot, and they feel hot to me too, plus I just feel kind of yucky, nonspecific, but just not good. Anyone know if this is a symptom of anything? Menopause?
Hands down....The English Patient
Absolutely the worst movie I have ever seen.
Yes, but is that a valid reason for not washing your hands after you
Maybe you were just making a statement and if that's all it was, please excuse the question. Personally, I use the papertowel that I dried with and open the bathroom door when I leave. I also keep hand sanitizing gel with me at all times.
For really big plants, I put cotton socks on my hands and just rub
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Schools' hands are tied in many states....
My daughter teaches third grade. This year, she had a child from Yemen, an Arabic country. His dad, who barely speaks English, bought a convenience store and ran that. His mother speaks NO English. His older brother of two years understands a little more English and can speak it better though. But my daughter's student can't even read the instructions, read English, take a test, nothing. WHat is more frustrating, she is still expected to teach him like the other children (they have no special teachers for ESL students), even though she can't communicate with him. His father is very considerate if he is absent and writes her a note (very badly written at that) but that's all. Now get this....he can't understand anything in class, my daughter is expected to just give him F's or whatever and just keep going, BUT when standardized testing is going on, she is REQUIRED to count his grade in her overall classroom score, which brings the overall score DOWN. Now how dumb is that? This was going on all year but she went in last week, no child, no explanation. She gets a call from the office asking to look in his desk to check for any books he may have left. Come to find out, she was told he and his family had been put on the next plane OUT of the country and back to where they came from. We believe they were here illegally BUT how did they get here, buy a store, and go about their business? Our government allowed their being here....they should be required to explain why that family was here in the first place and why they suddenly disappeared. Our government is so busy trying to cater to everyone, they are screwing the rest of us.
Itchy bumps on palms of hands?
I have these itchy bumps on the palms of my hands, they are only right in the middle. I thouhgt at first they were like sweat bumps since my office is so hot, but it hasn't been for about a week and they still persist. Been using hydrocortisone but doesn't help much. Have cleaned my keyboards, mice, etc really well. Anyone else ever experience this?
I think the Senate has bigger problems on its hands than
If Florida is so concerned about its workers being on drugs, perhaps it should do a better job of patrolling its own borders, and stemming the massive flow of drugs that comes onshore there every single day.
Spooky - I've popped my knuckles since I was kid and I also run my hands...
under hot water in the winter to warm them up. Maybe we are twins separated at birth!
Just noticed my daughter has blisters all over palms of hands..sm
some look as if they have blood under them, as they are a brownish color. She has one on her foot also. nothing in mouth or anywhere else. She said she noticed them this morning, but just now showed me after swimming this afternoon. she says they hurt to touch? Any ideas?? I hate to run to ER if nothing that cant wait until tomorrow when doc is in. TIA
People with imaginations and too much time on their hands. bogus.
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hot hands...spikalots...volleyicious...volley-oops
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Burt's bees hands down - have a tube everywhere - original, don't like honey
xx
Mosaics, gardening, OneStroke painting when my hands work. nm
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Actually, no, I am not taking it now
Just heard back on the market in a new name and thought would tell what I experienced from trying it the first time. Hear only have 15% fat and after that it is throne time- if you can make it there.
anyone taking Yaz ........... sm
anyone taking Yas specifically to treat PMS symptoms??? my doctor gave me three months' worth of Yaz to see if it helps my symptoms. i haven't taken the pill in ages. when i used to take it, i got really bad migraines. i've been doing a little research, and found that people have side effects like nausea, anxiety, weight gain. i know side effects differ from person to person, but wondering what your experience was. i'm not a big pill taker.
thanks
Try taking
vitamin C 500 mg with the iron, it is supposed to help with the iron absorption and help with constipation and nausea as well.
On top of being anemic, I also have psoriasis, so I have my hair falling out (including pubic, lol) and constantly looks like I have extremely dry skin on my face, ears and scalp.
i'm taking it now.
But only for a month so far. I have high cholesterol but way worse triglycerides. I've had no side effects that i can contribute to it definitively; some muscle pain that i'm concerned about, but it could be a recent back injury worsening too...
what i DON'T like is that it is a statin. I understand that statins work really well to achieve the goal usually, but they also have bad side effects, including rhabdomyolysis. I've read a lot too on this class of drugs, and really didn't want to take them again, but for me, i'm at high risk for stroke or heart attack if i can't get my numbers down, so it is the lesser of evils i guess.
My educated opinion is this: if your cholesterol is NOT that high, and overall risk factors are not a real concern, i'd stay away from the drugs, statins in particular. If you do however take a statin, be sure to take the CoQ-10, which helps protect against the cell damage and effects of the statins. High cholesterol alone, in more recent studies, is not that indicative of a future problem. Lack of exercise and high-fat diets put one more at risk than cholesterol elevation. Like i said, without real necessity, i would not take a statin.
You are obviously set on taking
It's really sad...obviously you are not doing that bad, after all your child has a Wii...sounds very selfish to me, but hey...that's just me! Merry Christmas
I do not think that taking out ALL of the...
money from the joint accounts and putting it in one in only her name, as advised above, is acting defensively. You are entitled to your opinion and I to mine, but keep in mind that your children see how you act. That is all I am saying.
taking away
We had my son take verything out of his room, every nail out of the wall, put all his belongings in the garage, paint his room (which looked terrible by the way), and sleep on the floor until he surrendered his stubborness (about three nights on the floor). Then he had to put his room back together again.
This did not cure him, but it let him know that we were more stubborn than he was..
Good luck!
Try taking away something she likes!
I know it sounds harsh, but if you take away something she likes and not give her that until she finally is a "big girl", then she may want to go potty. The other thing, I know how gross this is, but include her in your "potty time", and she may realize "Wow, Mom is a big girl, and I want to be like Mom! It is a tough call, but my daughter went through the same thing. I always got the "I'm too busy!" So, I began asking her all of the time, and finally she went because she didn't want me to ask her especially in front of her brother. She was about 4 1/2! Good luck!
Anyone taking Pamelor?
Doctor started me on one 10 mg a night for sleep but last night woke up at 5 in the morning due to some pain I am having. She said I could go to 2 a night but my question to you is do I have to work the dosage up or do you think the 20 is too much for a second night of taking? Thanks.
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