stress causes it too, my child has it....

and is also on metformin which causes more problems....has been to the GI doc who is really not much help....in this case, stress causes it...child doesn't drink....26 y/o.....

hope you feel better.....google IBS - you'll learn how to cope/deal....

• Anyone with IBS? - academia
  • I've had it a long time - IBSer
  • Another thought on IBS sm - mlstoo
  • IBS - marilyn
    • I had one (sm) - Misha
      • Thanks - marilyn
  • Had it since I was 19 - free2fly
  • stress causes it too, my child has it.... - also on Imodium all the time....sm
    • Check out celiac disease from gluten allergy - goin cray-z

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Wanted to gab to get some feedback.  Right now, it seems like everywhere this MT turns there's stress.  DH going through final hearing for child support his ex won't pay for years, she threatening to take the kids away so he has to pay child support, etc.  I just switched jobs within the last year, and although I am doing well the one I chose, it has been really stressful trying different MTSOs out to find the right one, or the fairest one. Top it off, my 2nd computer in 6 months just died today and my lovebird cage just fell down from the ceiling wrecking the living room, the cage, and scaring me and the birds half to death.  Last week, when my son went for visitation, he wanted to stay home and not go with his dad, he screamed so loud the police chased his dad down in the car, and they came here to make sure he was not a kidnapper. I am not kidding! Look, I am not looking for pity.  It just seems that as I sit here and write this to you (who I don't even know), that since I work at home transcribing 6 days a week, am fully involved with my son at home and step kids all the time (no life outside the house to speak of anymore) I am absolutely at a ridiculous point of stress.  Any happy coping suggestions in response to this sad situation other than, go to the "mental health board," or "get a life..." etc. Thanks in advance for your kind comments. Just a sister MT trying to cope with job and home and trying to find advice from anyone who has "been there." Thanks.
 

I am having a tough time blowing off steam lately and looking for some stress relief ideas...some for in the moment and some for just routine daily/weekly life stress. 

I am pregnant so moods are crazy and I am just having difficulty letting go of even the smallest of things.  Looking for some pointers, ideas, suggestions. 

My garden tub used to do the trick but now that I work until late at night and have a child home from school for the summer, it is difficult to find the time for that or mani/pedis which I also used to enjoy.

As for taking charge, I think we have to as they simply wont.  I mean someone does need to be "in charge" so to speak...it is their place to be "head" of the house, but most dont take that place, they dont want that place, the responsibility that it brings.

I often think of the fact that if I died while my children are young they would have to live with my sister....seriously.  He would not be able to take care of them, and not talking just financial, he literally would not be able to take care of them.  It is sad to feel like that about it.  Just how it is. 

Ever since I have been stressed over a certain situation in transcription, and my family's budget I have become extremely tired and it is really hard to get my line count. Every day as the pressure builds regarding this my line count gets lower, no matter how hard I try.  Anybody in this situation or ever been, I'd appreciate advice.  I am trying stress busters, exercising, reading books, taking time to go outside, but nothing is working.

Every time I sit down to type, I just get more and more worried and I can't produce! It is like my heart is going on strike against the position I have because there are problems with the situation and it makes my money situation even worse.  My husband is very understanding but this has got to stop. I want to feel good about my job again and my production.  If you say get another job, I understand about that, but what about until the other job starts, what do I do? Arrrggggg. I know life is no picnic but it could at least provide piece of mind so I can do my job! Thanks in advance for any and every suggestion or advice. It will be well appreciated

Do you like it? Is it working for you?

Still stressing but feeling much better today.  Didn't get out until 8 pm last night to make my purchases and still had a rough night, but this morning I am much calmer.  Thanks to everyone who had any comments or suggestrions - I really needed you guys yesterday and appreciate you being there!

been under.  I take Effexor XR for my painic attacks and atenolol to help control my BP and it keeps my heart rate down.  The combination works wonderfully, although I wonder if I've become a little too dependent on it as I sometimes get a little anxious at the thought of being without my Effexor.

I would have periodic episodes of anxiousness going all the way back to my teenage years, but I would always work through it myself.  Then a year ago, in the midst of marital trouble and feeling alone as I lived two states away from friends and family, I started having what I now know to be gallbladder pain while I was at work.  In my mind, I knew I wasn't having a heart attack, the pain was in my right rib cage and radiated around to my right scapula.  But I couldn't seem to convince my body.  My heart started racing, my mind was racing.  I felt dizzy and short of breath.  I went to the employee health nurse who took my BP and it was sky high.  She immediately rushed me to the ER which freaked me out even further.

Long story short, I was having a full blown panic attack and I hope that I never experience anything like that again.  I ended up crying for three weeks straight, was afraid be left alone, was afraid to leave my house, couldn't eat, couldn't sleep, would pace the house with my heart racing, not able to calm myself down.

I saw three different doctors before I found a female doctor who listened to me and told me she knew exactly what I was talking about because her daughter had panick attacks too.  She started me on Effexor and set me up with a therapist who taught me breathing techniques and meditation techniques to help calm myself when I feel anxious.  One technique, as simple as it sounds, is something I practice almost daily which is deep breathing:  in through your nose and out through your mouth and as you exhale allow your body to relax starting from the shoulders down.  It seems silly, but it really works.  I noticed that I clenched my jaw a lot and so that is were I focus my mind when I'm trying to relax.  I focus on the tension in my jaw and start relaxing from there down.

Exercise is another great technique for relieving anxiety and stress.  All the experts say that, and it's true.  Just getting outside and walking can clear the mind.

Well, I've rambled on and on.  Sorry about that.  Let me just add one more thing, if you decide to try medication, my advice would be to be patient.  Sometimes it takes a few different trials of medication before you find the one that fits.  My doctor explained to me that panick attacks are caused by an overactive fight or flight response in the brain and so SSRI antidepressants like Zoloft or Celexa won't do the trick.  You have to have a NRI (norepinephrine reuptake inhibitor) to calm the response.

I'm not saying you need medicine, but I am saying that you may want to get a handle on it now so you don't have to go through what I did.  I can't even explain how horrible it feels to have your mind spinning of control.  I felt like I was genuinely losing my mind. 

Well, anyway I feel for you and I wish you well.

(This turned out long.  Please stick with me.)

Like your son, it started in infancy.  He could throw a fit that could go on for 30 minutes.  If it was related to going to sleep, he would cry for hours no matter what I tried.  (Yes, i did have him ruled out for medical causes.)  He just could not calm himself down and he wanted what he wanted when he wanted it.  It started to feel like a war zone and the other kids were not getting the attention they needed because I felt like I had to deal with his bad behavior all the time.

When he was very young (infancy to about 3 years old), I would let him throw his fits and try to ignore them.  After about 30 minutes, I picked him up and rocked him and he always seemed to be relieved and would start to calm down.  I did not give into his demands.  It just was a way for him to know that I loved him even when he acted bad.

But you know what... A few months ago (he is 5 now), he was acting up yet again and I tried to talk to him.  I told him that I knew he was a good boy and that he was just having a hard time with his anger.  He was totally blown away that I thought he was a "good boy."  In his head, he thought he was bad.  This was an eye opener for me.

Because I had my own issues with frustration, I decided to work on me first.  I was sick of the war zone.  That is still a work in progress, but I feel a lot more calm when dealing with him now.

I explain things to him up front.  If we are going to a store, I tell him that I expect him to stand still by me.  If he wants to look at something, he can ask me, etc.  Then I ask him what he thinks the consequence will be if he does not mind.  Sometimes he answers, sometimes not.  Then, I tell him exactly what will happen.  No favorite TV channel or no playing with a favorite toy, something like that.  Just so he knew exactly what would happen if he makes certain CHOICES.  I also don't argue.  It only gets me wound up.  I put the onus back on him.  Counting 1...2...3 gives him a warning to change his behavior or deal with consequences.

I also communicate a lot about other's people reactions to when he "acts good" and "acts bad."  How the things that happen to him are often influenced by his CHOICES.   "Other children may not want to play with someone who ...only wants their way ... does not share ... hits."  "If you share your toy, your friend probably want to share his toys with you."

I praise him when I notice he has done something "good", like brushing his teeth without being reminded.  I tell how much I appreciate it (Because I do.  When you have 3 kids, its a really help when they can do something for themselves.) Someone knowledgeable told me the ratio of praise to discipline is 4:1.  I doubt that I hit that ratio, but I do look for things my kids do right.

None of this is easy for me.  I feel like I am talking myself blue in the face.  I am naturally quiet and not always willing to communicate verbally.  I'm praying the more I communicate now, then eventually I won't have to talk so much later.  Or at least, we can talk about more pleasant things.

I will say though that my son is starting to understand that he will not always get his way, and if he cooperates with me, I am willing to cooperate with him.  There has been good improvement since I started with this in April.