sounds immature and simple minded; treat him as such.
Posted By: - n/m on 2007-10-29
In Reply to: Maybe someone could shed some light on this marriage thing. sm - wife
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Sounds quite narrow-minded to me.
Just asked my DD how many pregnant girls she knows of and she answered 0. I guess there could be some in the circles that she doesn't run in, because she really is a "Good Girl".
It sounds as if she's still immature....
I would continue giving her gifts but make them thoughtful, lower cost gifts. I'm thinking things like journals, stationery, inspirational books, or beautiful things like paperweights or artwork.
If she never appreciates them, at least you got the benefit of giving and the pleasure of picking out something nice. If she eventually grows up and learns to appreciate it, it will be a blessing to her and to your DH.
And you didn't mention if she buys for your DH, though it sounds like she is supposed to. If she doesn't, I for one don't think it would be out of line to gently remind her that she needs to remember her godfather just as he remembers her.
he sounds immature, and nuts.
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Sounds simple enough - thanks everybody!
I know this is much to simple, but he sounds bored (sm)
I agree with testing for autism, etc.
But bored children, no matter the age, upbringing, or intelligence will act out and 'find' something to do if they're bored.
My daughter was the 'perfect baby' until she turned about 18 months. She started misbehaving, not as bad as yours, but nothing like previously. None of the usual things really occupied her physically or mentally. So I started shopping for day care. Happy girl, believe it or not. The first day I picked her up around 3 p.m. and she told me I came too soon...
She needed the social stimulation, even at that young age. BTW, she is 21 now and still the same. Very outgoing and social, but smart and still a sponge for knowledge. She's in college and when she had winter, spring, and summer breaks, she is so relieved... for about 1 or 2 days. Then she starts counting the day until school starts again.
Anyyow, I digress, but sometimes you just have to listen to your kids and do what's best for them even if it tears you up inside.
In any case, you need some help. You are carrying way too much, but I admire you for your persistence in wanting to do what's best for your kids. Wish you the best :-)
Sounds like you want something small, simple and pretty.
So do just that! Don't worry about the lists. I think the first decision is to decide where you want to have the wedding. Many places often have on-site wedding planners to help you. In fact, from what you wrote, I think you've already got a good start on the planning. You want something simple, you want a pretty dress. Pick a place and maybe hire a caterer to bring in some simple food... maybe just a cocktail hour with hors d'ouerves, and a cake. You don't need formal music or dancing. I had a friend simply have a caterer come in and do a nice bbq for 30 people in their pretty backyard. Flowers were blooming, really no need to decorate, and they programmed an iPod with a wedding playlist, and played it over the stereo. We had a lovely time, and it was very simple and pretty.
As for gifts, my DH and I did exchange gifts. I bought him a watch, which he still wears 22 years later. We went to Cancun for a honeymoon. (It was much quieter in those days.) While there, he found a really pretty string of blue fresh water pearls. So 1985! But I love them and still wear them today!
Open minded
Others might see it as straddling the fence. If you are an adult and don't know where you stand on the question of god/spirituality/religion, then you should not respond to postings and criticize others' beliefs. If you truly were open minded, you would read, learn, think, decide, and respect others' rights to do the same.
you are close-minded...sm
What about these other dogs such as German shepards and Rotties, and even some of the little ones like my sister's boston terrier that tried to attack my son? I didn't get angry. I just said you know I know she is sweet with ya'll but she has to stay outside when I go over because she is aggressive towards other people. I have had a poodle try to bite me. I don't ever get mad at the owners cause I know these dogs are gentle and kind with them, but I am not familiar and it is doing what its instincts are, which is to protect its territory and owners. My beagle does not like other female dogs. She will try to bite. If you knew this sweet little beagle you would say no way would she try to bite but with another female dog yes she will. ANY dog can bite. ANY dog can be dog aggressive. ANY dog can be people aggressive. But lets face it, the pit is prejudiced becaues it is a pit. It is a big muscular scary looking dog. So therefore it has no right to share the instincts most dogs have? It isn't a pit thing, it's a dog thing. Banning dogs is unfair. If we are gonna ban dogs then lets be fair and ban ANY aggressive dog. If that was the case and we banned all breeds who showed any aggression we wouldn't have any breeds left because all dogs can be aggressive.
Closed-minded people..
Did you ever think that perhaps she was using birth control pills, and perhaps even condoms?? You should know that neither of these methods are 100% effective, being in this field. And she is able to take responsibility for her child because she has the finances to do so..she isn't one of these women popping out child after child and living off of the government. I wish people would get off of their high horse and stop scoffing at the girl just because she ended up pregnant at 16. Sure, it might have been a mistake for her, but I don't see why everyone should come down on her when she is obviously doing the right thing. I would hate to see your daughter get pregnant at 16. But I can hear your reply now: My daughter wouldn't be having sex at 16. Or so you think.
You know, most of the time I am very open minded, but
I really have a few things to say about that.
I don't expect people to give up their culture when they come here, but they shouldn't be allowed to FORCE it on everyone else.
I have my own culture and so do the rest of you. Comments like that trying to sound so PC upset me because we are expected to give up our culture to pander to those who cannot adapt and overcome.
We live in the USA. It has a nickname. It is called the "Great American Melting Pot". Hello? Do we not know what that means? Yes, every race in religion in the world has been welcomed here. What happens to stuff when you put it in a pot and boil it? It blends together and turns into something different. How can it be a melting pot when everyone wants to retain every single aspect of their former life? That was not the intention of the founders of our country.
That said, I will tell you WHY it is wrong to expect someone to understand another person's culture. My great grandparents came here from Ireland and Germany. From the time they got here, they were expected to obey the laws here, regardless of their religion or what they did back in their old country. They were expected to learn English--and they did those things. It is an insult to my ancestors when I see people come here and EXPECT to be catered to. My ancestors worked very hard. They only got what they worked for all their lives. No one provided them with an interpreter every time they went to the store, the bank, the post office or the doctor. They also had holidays others didn't understand and had native languages that others didn't understand. It was reserved for home use.
Do I usually complain about ESLs? NOPE. If they are actually trying I give them a break. Some of them that I have been transcribing for years have actually improved tremendously. Others, you can tell don't care if you can understand them and they have continued with the same issues for years.
I would not go to a foreign country and expect them to understand my culture, my religion, my customs or my language. I would expect to learn theirs.
Being politically correct is a lie. If it looks like a duck, acts like a duck and quacks like a duck--it must be a duck! I will not call it something else to make someone more comfortable.
How can some people be so absent-minded in their young age???!!sm
Make a long story short, I have a "best" friend who is so scatterbrained I'm about sick of it. I have 3 small children. She has 3 kids, youngest is 10. She works from home, the other 2 are older, out of the house. She calls me a few times a week and we'll talk for about 30 minutes. She will go on and on and then I will go on and on and she NEVER remembers anything I tell her! I'll say, "well, I have to go pack for this weekend," and she'll say, "This weekend?? Why are you packing for this weekend?!" When we could have had 5 conversations about my anniversary coming up and going away for the weekend. Thank God she wasn't the one keeping our kids or something. She NEVER, EVER remembers birthday parties, parties, dinner parties, etc., even though I will send her an invite and talk to her on the phone about it!! I ALWAYS go to her parties, ALWAYS. She only lives 10 minutes away. Fast forward. My son's 5 year old birthday party is this weekend. Guess what? I called her today to see if she is coming and bringing her daughter and she says, "What?! It's tomorrow?? What time?" I got so mad I almost hung up. I sent the invitations 2 weeks ago AND she told me she received it. We just talked about his party earlier in the week. This is it. Seriously. I'm not calling her anymore. This is ridiculous.
A true friend should remember important dates and just have a little common courtesy of actually listening if they are going to talk with you. I could go on and on, but I won't.
If you go to her house stuff is just everwhere. She has 3 different phones (home, work, cell), all ringing at the same time, mail everywhere, and just totally unorganized. I'm not saying all of my ducks are in a row, but jeez, it stresses me out just thinking about being so scatterbrained - It wouldn't bother me too much if she didn't claim me to be one of her closest friends. As hard as this is to swallow, I don't think she really does consider me a close friend. A close friend should at least show they care...........
he/s probably always been immature
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do you know how immature
that word "fricking" is????
Not immature, but romantic and sweet
that he wants to pick this out for her and wants it to be a surprise! That's really sweet!
You sound a little insecure and immature to me.
change and besides nagging an begging him, you need to think of a way to make him want to change. It is possible that he will never be the way you want or need him to be, and you married the wrong guy. Just curious, how long and how intense was your dating process?
It didn't...thank you for another immature response...
I do not understand why simply asking for facts always seems to result in insult and immaturity. Or why persons would choose to get their views on life from a blog. Oh well. Have a nice day! :)
you did right, and her bratty immature ways will
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Teenagers and immature adults
have always thought it was cool to "shock" people. Poor Britney lived for it, and ended up flashing her nether-regions and then completely ran out of ways to shock people ... no wait, that only left shaving her head on camera. < eye roll >
Since when is venting spiteful and immature?
You obviously have some bitter feelings on this topic. I suppose you were in a stepfamily that was all love n' peace?
this post is irrelevant; you sound immature
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Get Over It Already is an immature phrase, as are young teens who act this way
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Catty, immature, bored women like yourself are exactly the reason.
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Completely against...agree 21 is too young, still too immature and irresponsible.
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They treat you this way cause you allow it.Can only
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Never had a cat before? You are in for a real treat (sm)
Cats are just so cool. I have 3 dogs and my 20 year old cat just died in Feb. They work their way into your heart just like dogs do, but in many ways are so much easier to deal with. And they have this way of looking at you when you give them the "wrong" food that day, like you have just totally lost your mind. If you're gone for a few days, your dogs will be so excited to see you when you get back. Cats will act like they don't care, and are just so uninterested that you came back (till an hour or so later when they decide to "forgive" you. As you can probably see, I miss my baby. Best of luck with yours.
TLR- ice cream treat
And by the way thanks to some of the ones that don't mind reading them!!
I decided to take a much deserved break a lot earlier than usual from the craziness going on today and plus it was so beautiful out I couldn't sit any longer. Cupid and I went to Bruesters Ice Cream for a treat. He was sooo excited he ran up to the stand!! I think he knew something special was waiting there for him! It was the first time we went to there so he didn't know what was there yet. The first thing the girl asked me was if I wanted a doggie dish. When he got it, there was a little dog biscuit stuck in the icecream. It was so cute. I hope your having a good evening, later.
Just found the best cat treat EVER -- sm
it's called Kitty Kaviar-- but I think it should be called Kitty Krack, LOL
It is thin dried flakes of real tuna and my cats cannot get enough (and they are fairly finicky).
My male kitty is diabetic and with these treats he lets me test him and give him his shots without any fuss whatsoever.
No not treat yourself -- see message
I type for a psychologist well known in my area whose caseload is 75% ADD. He does a lot of natural remedies and supplements. A good book is Brain Gym that helps with exercises to train the brain to be focuses. A lot of exercise is necessary. Lots of protein, DEH, etc. But without getting him evaluated you are shooting in the dark as to what will and what will not help. Insurance pays for it. But there are a lot of natural supplements and things you can do but you need an expert to work with you and not just an MD that puts them on medications. I have two nephews that have it, they went to this doctor and diet, exercise and supplements have helped tremendously and now in high school they are off medication. If you had an infection or a medical problem you would go to a doctor and not treat yourself so don't treat this yourself. Patti
They say docs won't treat them?
geez, I'm afraid...
trick or treat?
I'm figuring the way this day is going that I will turn off my lights, sit in the basement and eat 2 bags of Snickers instead of handing it out tonight. I hear those little candy bars up in the pantry calling my name. I figure I am saving the neighborhood kids from cavities, weight gain, stomachaches and a night of bouncing off the walls. I know they'll thank me later.
What did YOU do for HIM???, does he treat u good every other day? nm
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can you treat a UTI over the counter?
I am one of those lucky MTs that dont have health insurance and that makes it pretty annoying when I have probelms. Like right now I am sure that I have a UTI, but dont want to go to the ER and get that $600 bill. I bought some AZO and cranberry vitamin. I figure I will drinks lots of water and see what happens... any suggestions? Thanks a lot!
Michael Vicks ... I wish I could treat him the same. sm
I'm sorry but I am writing letters to every single sponsor of his and to the NFL and the Falcons.
If I could, I would treat him the same way he has allowed those poor dogs to be treated.
I would treat them like Paul Revere (SM)
Make em history! You are better than that. I used to always try to figure out why someone acted a certain way. . like you I wondered what the problem was. Found out from a wonderful psychologist who helped me over a terribly painful relationship that went bad . . It DOES NOT MATTER WHY. . what matters is that it happened. You need to move on. They are just not nice. I would think you took up bowling in the first place to have a good time! GO FOR IT elsewhere! GOOD LUCK!
Thanks for the treat...awesome photos!! nm
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don't enable him to treat this way - especially with child to see
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But did you and your no account brother treat her
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What a nice treat...I get stuff sent to me..
that way from Philly, cheesesteaks, hoagies, good pretzels, TastyKakes...it's nice to be able to get something good from home when you live so far away!
So then you WOULD treat a woman like a criminal?
what's that phrase, judge not lest...?
Treat everyone as if we all worked in the same office.
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If you have not yet seen the deer and cat video treat yourself to
something wonderful. Copy and paste and enjoy. This is truly beautiful.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rooyt3ptNco
does anyone of those facial hairs like a mustache? if so, how do you treat it? sm
what is a fast solution and a long-term fix? thanks!
What's your favorite Christmas treat/candy, etc?
Mine are the 'chocolate oranges' and Andes mints.
For homemade stuff, can't beat fudge, Chex mix and Christmas sugar cookies.
What're your favorites?
Put a little no fat cool whip on top, and you have a real treat
Does he treat you badly in front of your children or is it
usually "behind closed doors?"
Ladies, any assistance on how to treat herpes
My daughter has just sent me some information on something called Lectroject, apparently it is something that is used to inject medicine directly into the herpes blister?? Never heard of it but has anyone else. Any suggestions at all on how to treat herpes outbreak on the lips? Thanks so much!
Silly Girl shouldn't have to treat her
husband like a dog or a child. After all, she is his wife, not his mother. If she wants a pet, she can go to the animal shelter and get a dog. She married a man and he needs to act like one. It sounds like she gives and gives, and he takes. I think Silly Girl should start taking care of herself for a change.
Rice-A-Roni, the San Francisco treat!
It's not that simple
Trying to leave an abusive situation on your own can be very dangerous. Some husbands get so angry that their wife DARED to leave them that they track them down and kill them, or forcibly take them back.
I don't know if Tina's situation is that serious, or how her husband would react to her leaving. Tina may not even know for sure. That's why I advised her above to talk to her local battered women's shelter before she does anything. They have experience with these situations, they can help her and her children with a place to stay and help protect them from her husband if necessary.
Yes, she needs to leave. But she needs to be SMART about it. Just picking up and leaving without a plan or without any help is NOT smart.
Not quite that simple
Having your family's name carried out is important to most people. If you posters all think a name doesn't matter, you are sadly mistaken. Names are extremely important in shaping a person's entire life.
Having a niece with the stepfather's name is not nearly as traumatic to a family as having a nephew, the only remaining male relative, take another last name.
As I said in my post, Heartbroken can name her child whatever she wants - I mean that. But, she also needs to accept the fallout for that and accept that her child will be affected by the consequences of her action.
I simply don't understand why people on this board insist on mis-reading and misinterpreting posts to suit their own attitudes. IMO, Heartbroken is an extremely self-centered person who did not consider her family's feelings at all, made a choice and then wondered why they aren't patting her on the back. It's her right to make that choice, but it's the family's right not to agree.
Sure...very simple (sm)
We had shredded sharp cheddar cheese and precooked fajita-style chicken and he broke the chicken into smaller peices and mixed in some buffalo wing sauce, put it all together on tortillas and cooked them on the George Foreman grill for about 5 minutes. You can mix in peppers and onions if you like and eat them with sour cream and salsa :-) Definitely tastes better if your child makes it for you :-)
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