sorry for the way it went down
Posted By: sm on 2008-01-08
In Reply to: Wrong - GF
First, I'll chip in about how I felt when my 14 yo daughter went behind my back and worked it out to return to her dad's house to live. When I asked him about it, he told me she had told him I was all for it (lying). SO, there is some shock from the get go here...your feelings are hurt, you know you're not to blame and you are upset. I kept after her for a real answer to why she wanted to go back to her dad and she finally admitted she could manipulate him better than she could me and she could get want she wanted more often.
So, she packed up and left, and of course she left the key. I'm not a drop-on-in-any-time-you-like kind of person. If you leave me and then want to visit, use the phone. Don't expect to come over and raid my fridge, wash your dirty clothes, steal my valuables, whatever. This is what teenagers do...take advantage of a parent's home where they had lived before because to them, it is still home. That's just what they do.
Respect begets respect. She disrespected me by the way she handled moving out. She has to earn my respect to re-enter my home. I still love her and she visits, but no, I'm the only one with a key. I don't have keys to other people's home, either.
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