so what you're saying is that if your child lost her coat you would make her go the winter(sm)
Posted By: SP on 2006-10-29
In Reply to: Lost coat - Mom of 3
without one simply because someone ELSE may have stolen it? Wow.
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Yes! I'm like a dog shedding my winter coat! nm
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Lost coat
If it were me, I would be angry as heck at my 8 yo for not being responsible for her things. Forgot that someone might have taken it, the child was irresponisble. At 8, she should know better than to leave her things behind. Too bad, so sad, no coat, maybe she'll remember her things next time when she has no coat because she's cold. Learning life lessons are tough and 8 is really old enough to take responsibility.
Just another perspective.
lost coat
Maybe she actually left it at school or someplace other than dance, but is certain in her mind that she last had it at dance. You could be looking in the wrong place. I don't ever trust my memory on things like this because when life is really hectic (whose life with kids is not hectic?), sometimes events run together in my mind. Maybe her coat is at school in the lost and found or in the back of the van under a seat, etc. Just a thought. 
Lost Coat
You bet!! Unless shehad the money to purchase another one. She left it, so it got stolen. If it was grabbed off her back and stolen, that would be another story.
Kids can be kids, but they have to learn responsibility some time. It's the parents that don't teach it that are having issues with their kids. Mine learned early and often that their actions have repercussions, good and bad ones. And they learn from them.
For example, 15 yo daughter is a competitive dancer. When she was probably 10 or so, she goes to a competition and forgets to pack a tutu that she needs for one of her numbers. Do I got back and get it? Nope. Her responsibility and she had to expain to the others in her group that it was at home. Did she ever forget her tutu again? Nope. It usually only takes one time.
We need to be parents, not friends and teach them to live and survive in the world. It is never too young to learn. My 4 yo knows that if she walks out the door without her lunchbox for school that she doesn't have lunch. How many times did this happen? Exactly once. Kids are smarter than you think they are.
(my daughter's) Lost coat update for those interested - sm
Believe it or not after 3 weeks it has surfaced! One of the 3 girls I had not been able to locate a phone number on told my daughter today at lunch that she had it. She had not been in dance last week (and they did not have dance the week before). It was in her dance bag. She had picked up the scarf and coat (supposedly) because she saw Jess had left them, and then had forgotten about it which I find a little hard to swallow as she sees my daughter every day in school (in the same class/home room all day together). But regardless of all that, she came forward today about it. So I don't know why it took so long, but I am glad my daughter got them both back. So if he taking it was not so innocent I hope she learned something, and my daughter has learned to be a bit more careful with her things. 
I lost a child, and lived through it ...
I never thought I could survive losing a child. But, with the help of many many great family and friends, I have done it. And I know he is in the safest and most loving place .... and someday I will see him again. That will be a good day! Until then, I'll keep loving my children still here, and my wonderful DH, and just think of him as being on a long, long, long trip ...
I also lost a child, and this post describes exactly how I felt. nm
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why not make Christmas nice for my own child?
the current economic situation has not allowed us to do very much this year. This is a gift from heaven for us!
You're the parent, she's a minor child
This is sadly too common. Your daughter is pushing your bottons in a big way.
I remember being that age and partying it up. One day it just became very boring and that was the end of it. Sadly, many people I knew didn't have it quite that easy.
My first real love and a friend of his were killed from DWI at 19. Not only did they hit a car with a family of 6 (who managed to live), the rest of us had 2 funerals to go to. The priest for my boyfriend's funeral was actually his uncle!
The pattern she displays is not good. Many "good girls" hit this age and venture into situations which they're ill-equipped to handle.
My guess is that she's doing plenty more than she says. It's not that she doesn't love you.
I have no idea how expensive it is to get a drug test done on her hair, but that may be one avenue. Of course, it'd be easy to get hair from a brush, etc. I have no idea how you could get a UDS unless you simply asked her point-blank for one (since she claims she has nothing to hide). I'm just not buying it, I'm sorry to say.
About 2-3 years ago a friend of mine from high school was found dead in her apt. from alcoholism. This was one of the girls who had parties at her house in high school. She didn't even live to see 50 and died alone, sick, and miserable. When I found out from another friend I was surprised at first, but started retracing backwards and it was clear as a bell. Her father was an alcoholic. We didn't realize the significance of alcoholism in previous generations like we do now.
I also agree with another post I read about that this is "your" home, so she needs to abide by your rules. Of course, Dr. Phil says that all the time, too.
I can't have kids, but I remember being one. Speaking of Dr. Phil, maybe you could check his boards, too.
It's so frustrating to get to this point, but just know that many here will support you and offer as much advice as possible, even if it may be from an MT without kids.
Please keep us posted, and best of luck to you.
Make a fuss to school board, principal, teachers, dept. of child welfare (sm)
whoever you need to. I understand these are difficult to get rid of but obviously the mom of that little girl is not getting rid of them, maybe she treats the child but if you don't clean up the environment reinfestation is a sure thing.
We got a letter from the school yesterday stating there is a lice outbreak in the school. Then we had a program last night in which all the 3rd graders put on these little capes (that came out of a community bag where they had used them before at practice and then bagged them back up) They of course went over their heads and rested on their shoulders. I wasn't the only person that sucked in air when they saw this last night.
I am sure that poor child is and will be embarrassed about this and probably other things in the future if her health/hygiene issues are not being taken care of properly.
Make sure you're getting all your water in and
up your fat a bit. You are in benign ketosis which is what you want to be in if your goal is to lose weight on low carb. Just make sure you're getting enough water and a good multivitamin. Sometimes your electrolytes can get out of balance, but should be easy enough to correct.
Who covers for him/her/them when they're off or can't make an appointment? nm
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Here in Northern Calif, they're going to make us
So if due to the COST of water, (especially when heated by expensive gas!), I already treat it like gold, and use as little of it as possible, I wonder what now? Bathe only once every OTHER week? Let all the plants die, and become kindling for the next wildfire here in the hills? Use the gray water from the washing machine to wash my dishes? (Oh wait - I already do that).
So yea, I feel the same way about the frugality thing. Everyone's so scared of a depression - yet we MT's have been living in one for at least the past 10 years. I've cut back so far that there's not much left to give up, other than eating at ALL, sleeping in an apartment building instead of my car, or finding a way to generate my own power source and get off the grid.
Yea, my little black heart just BLEEDS NOTHING BUT STONES for all those rich CEOs whining about having to give back their million-dollar bonuses.
If you're asking and the love is long gone, it's time. Make copies of all important papers,
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I remember those days too, but these days they don't want make any child felt left out. They wan
to make each of them feel special and that they have accomplished something. My 8-year-old brings a certificate of some kind during the day, accelerated reader award, trustworthy award, jr. achievement award, etc. I guess in a way, no one kid is pointed out as the "teacher's pet" or have the other kids being jealous of him/her for getting this or that award. 
coat
Doncha think you should wait to talk to the owner before you get so upset?
re: coat
Another child from the class might have recognized it as your daughter's and took it home (so it wouldn't get stolen), thinking they'd see each other next time. Give it a couple of days to show up. Depending on the size of the community, if kids all know each other, when would someone get to wear it without it standing out?
may be you in the coat....
Maybe you in a coat and nothing else waiting for him?
lucky coat
Wish all I had to worry about was my kdis lost coat. I got bills - not trying to be disrespectful - your lucky - I'm a MT is USA
Nothing to update really, still no coat - sm
Called several parents, they don't have it, one has not called me back yet and I still need to track down 3 other parents that did not leave their home phone info with the teacher. Teacher did not have it either. I plan on leaving my signs up for at least a month and hope it turns up somehow. Many know I am on the lookout so I hope they spread the word or see it somewhere.
I call it like I see it, don’t try to sugar coat
What do you call a single person intentionally taking fertility drugs when having 6 kids already? As far as the reduction thing, that had been brought up by the physicians when this person was pregnant- I was not the first to think of that and it is done all the time with multiple pregnancies. Check it out on google.
Should say the child found in Florida proved to be the Caylee child, homicide.
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may be same problem as we have in winter -
extremely dry skin - daughter's BF has a pit and they were told to use a veterinary oatmeal shampoo and he is on some mega fatty acid capsule, vitamin E, but the oil on his food may be accomplishing that. Try a humidifier, keep the heat (if you are in a cold area, of course) lower.
You don't have to do winter wonderland (sm)
You can do traditional Christmas decorations if the majority celebrates it. I am sure this will not be a big suprise to him - he has seen people celebrate Christmas all his life. He doesn't expect you to stop celebrating it but he doesn't have to participate of course.
I like winter, especially since I dont have to get out
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I don't hate winter, but
enough is enough! Yeah, I know it's only February. We've been spoiled here in the Northeast. The last few winters have been so warm I'd started believing in global warming. Now I'm starting to think new ice age instead!
Laura, what happened with the coat???? Any updates? nm
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My son was told to go the back to the coat closet
His teacher would call me and write notes home, your son has been farting in class. Well, finally I had to explain to her before she marked in his chart that he was a terrorist (letting off noxious gas), that he was born with pyloric stenosis. He had the surgery at 8 weeks old. This kid could vomit from my shoulder to the nieghbor's house. He still can burp very loud, and is gaseous, but he has grown older and learned to let them out silently if possible, but at times I have told him if he thought that was silent, then he needs a hearing test.  I am in no way making light of the original post, just trying to shed some "stink" on my experiences with schools and flatulence. If you do not know what pyloric stenosis is, then look it up, he was 12 hours away from death by dehydration.
nope, mine was born with a fur coat :)
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Sure beats the ol' COAT-HANGER method......
Yuk.
Slather them with a thin coat of vegetable oil SM
and rub on some salt, pepper and a little red pepper. Put them in a baking dish and bake in the oven at 400 degrees for an hour. Then you can slather them with barbecue sause and serve with some rice and veggies.
We love him! He doesn't sugar coat...
anything, which is why I like him so much. If you are in debt and drowning it's usually your own fault by overspending, buying too much house, trying to keep up appearances. While I do understand when there are medical bills, etc, causing debt, when you have a couple of car payments, a huge mortgage, a boat payment, and every credit card charged to the hilt, it's your own fault, not the credit card companies. Live like no one else so later on you can live like no one else! We loved seeing him in October and will probably go see him again this year.
Got 5" here...lots of snow this winter...nm
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I'm a backpacker and winter camper.
I've even had frostbite before I learned how to stay warm. I buy my socks from REI.com. (Sometimes can find the same brands cheaper at places like Campmor.com and SierraTradingPost.com)
There's a good selection, and you can read the descriptions for each. The socks I buy keep my feet warm while I hike ten miles in the snow. You might not need that level of warmth! Also, they are kind of pricey. Good luck!
winter wedding what to wear?
What does a guest wear to a winter wedding?
robins don't always leave for the winter
any more. Depending on how good food sources are. You probably have a hawk if his tail has stripes horizontally. He may pick off a robin.
Summer here is great.. wish I was in FL in winter though :)
http://stoughtonwi.com/
Winter blues in New England
I have lived here in the NE for 20+ years and am fed up with the winters. I'm single so I'm thinking of picking up and moving south (East Coast though). Can anyone point me in the right direction for a decent area? I want sun and warmth!
Do you wear holiday earrings, pins on your coat, or a
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In SoFla, our fairs are in winter. Or so-called
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mixed drinks . summer or winter?
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After an absolutely crummy winter/spring...
Here in the beautiful Pacific NW, I mean really cold, below normal temps, snow very late into the season...
We are expecting some 90+ degree days starting tomorrow into the weekend - and I for one am HAPPY! My poor halter tops haven't seen daylight for so long I forgot what they look like.
Gorgeous! Very nice coat! Does she have a bit of corgi in her? Looks like our corg/shep. mix. nm
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North Dakota. :D Freeze in winter/fry in summer ;)
Well, this is our coldest period right now. But having it -30 to -60 with the windchills certainly isn't any surprise. In summer we can be in the 80s and 90s with very high humidity. LOL! We always say, if you don't like the weather... just wait a minute.
And if you live where it freezes in winter, the filter MUST be emptied
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That's New England - cold winter, warm bread! nm
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winter wonderland and chestnuts roasting on an open fire
and baby, its cold outside. have more than 1!!
Crazy curly in the summer, poker straight in the winter
My hair changes with the weather and it is impossible to get a good hair style because it looks so different from one day to the next. But I like the color, natural blond with reddish highlights.
The weather has been HORRIBLE just about everywhere his Winter!!! Mother Nature Angry! :-(.....nm
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The weather has been HORRIBLE just about everywhere his Winter!!! Mother Nature Angry! :-(.....nm
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You're not 'low-class', you're FUNNY, & a good writer!
Which is often the case then someone is the first to cast stones!
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