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so then the kids you had didn't grow up

Posted By: raising my granddaughter on 2007-12-31
In Reply to: blah, blah blah... - MslaMT

in you care...they went back to who? Family? Wow, the odds of every single child you cared for going back to their parents/family is well, just remarkable or what a coincidence for the sake of these posts. NONE of them were split up? You never claimed to be an angel, but you must be one heck of a FC parent to have lucked out like that considering the politics and social issues involved. I never said having siblings in short-term FC is unacceptable, just harder to come by anymore than it used to be...and the states now have federal laws to follow that were not in place 10 years ago.

I will restate that sending siblings to a GROUP HOME (read: Not a FC setting) is less desirable than several relatives maintaining close contact in short-term situations.

Yea, Budda likes it when I write about something I'm passionate about.


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Did you grow up in 1 town or move...sm

and if you moved, how often and are you glad you moved?  As for me, we moved every other year due to my father's occupation.  There were 2 places I was very glad that we moved from and 2 places I would have loved to have stayed, the others were OK.   When people ask me where I was raised I tell them "everywhere" because that best summarizes it. 


What about you?    Do you have a home town?


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I have a friend a little younger than me, and her hair is waist-length, VERY thick and beautiful, and salt-and-pepper, with a lot more salt than pepper. I've gone back to growing mine out, and now have a long ponytail. It should hit waist-length in the next year or so, and that's right where I want it. I'll probably still have a long ponytail when I'm 80, too. And if I don't like the gray hairs, then maybe I'll dye them purple.

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somehow I don't think that's the part I'll miss ;-)

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every time you stretch, you grow an inch. NM
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Buy a bike, grow a garden, get rid of cable, take a second part time job
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I feel so lucky to grow up in the ྂs-80s. Ditto all thoughts.nm
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I didn't say her decor didn't sound great.
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Thanks - I didn't realize they didn't like the smell of citrus
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I didn't phrase that well. I didn't mean to SM
offend. I think I said that to other lady below!

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Again, sorry if I said anything out of line.
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ESL kids have a label =$$$. When the illiterate kids get a label slapped on them - they will get a
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Consider homeschooling her.

Each child represents a $ amount to public school administration. As long as the child attends they get their $. They still get X amount of $ for each year they teach or do not teach a kid to read.
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I didn't say she should sue them. I said that
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If I was the sister though, I would have admitted my fault, at least partial fault, and made amends.
Yep, I didn't know that either. Thanks. :) NM
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I really didn't know all of this.
thanks
She didn't come with us.

NM


It must be because I didn't owe very much
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well thank you! I didn't know being in --sm
the 50 year age bracket was young, but I appreciate the comment! Maybe in 20 years I will be able to retire.
I can't believe the mom didn't take him to the ER...
Wow.
No, I didn't know that...but (sm)
I don't have Soapnet...so!  But thanks for the update...
Do you know for SURE he didn't
make an effort to see you all these years?

My friend of 30+ was told by HER mother that her father was dead. Come to find out when she is her 20's he's not only alive and well, he's happy to meet her.

It's always a good thing to take what ANYone tells you with a large grain of salt.

As to how to approach him? I would find out where he works and send a letter there - that way it can't be intercepted by his wife. Alternatively, you could call him on the phone, but that option does not allow him time to absorb the news he's been "found" by you.

Provide all your contact information and ask him to at least meet/talk to you once. I would be very surprised if he does not grant your request.