slightly diverting
Posted By: imho on 2009-03-25
In Reply to: Relationships - new type of topic - I've gotta me me
Imho is not abnormal to be attached to your spouse.
I also find my own thoughts and beliefs extremely boring and have no desire whatsoever to examine myself I would rather read a book, even a bad one.
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On a slightly different night...
...one of our previous pastors was called on the carpet for putting up a few Halloween decorations on his own propery. Not by anyone in our congregation, but by a stranger. They told him he should "know better."
I also don't know what decorating for Halloween has to do with those poor Amish girls, either. Weird. I decorate for fall more than Halloween, especially since my kids don't like to carve Jack-o-lanterns anymore, and Halloween has never been my thing since I was a little kid and the neighborhood teenagers had me scared out of my wits, but it sounds like you have fun!!
Slightly different perspective.
So maybe I shouldn't post about this since I have not exactly been in your shoes but I think possibly I can lend a help perspective. I lost my father to cancer when I was 19. My FIL is an alcoholic. No I didn't grow up in a divorced family or without a father through my childhood and no I haven't experienced my father being an alcoholic.
What I feel I can tell you is there is such a thing as being too late to say the things you wanted to say, good or bad. If it does come to that, you will never let it go. He is still your father regardless of the choices he has made in his life. You only have 1 father. After seeing my FIL, I believe alcoholism is an illness. Sure people can fight it and get help if they wan, but it takes a very, very strong person to overcome it and it is a constant battle.
From the sounds of your post it seems as though you have some things you need to get off of your chest. Whether that means sitting down and talking to him or putting the past in the past and moving on with any kind of relationship - I think only you can figure that out. Even a relationship that is only on holidays and important events is still a relationship.
Who knows, maybe talking to your mom would help her as much as it might help you. It certainly can't be a short conversation, it needs to be thorough to get through the surface feelings and to the nitty gritty. Maybe, just maybe, your mom could shed some light for you on why she has been able to forget the past to a certain extent and move on. If nothing else, this might make you and your mom even closer and it sounds like no one else (professional or otherwise) would understand better than her.
With my FIL, we do not stay when he is drunk or starts drinking. The entire family knows we pack up and leave, regardless of the situation. It hurts his feelings sometimes I can tell, but he knows the circumstances and we have small children that we will not subject to that. It was difficult at first but over the years it is just "the way it is" and no one says a word anymore and respects where we are coming from.
Slightly different prediction
I think it could be Adam, Kris, and Danny. I think it's very possible Allison might not make the final 3.
Here's who I think SHOULD make the final 3:
Adam, Allison, and Matt (in that order). I don't care for Danny at all, not all that much for Matt, either. To me, Adam and Allison are the ones with the exceptional talent.
Slightly off the subject but this reminds me
of the headlines about the poor woman laying on the ER floor in California vomiting blood and dying and not having anyone pay any attention to her! How disgusting is that!!!!
maybe a slightly pinched nerve? (sm)
I've had something like this happen before, mostly just took an anti-inflammatory and/or another hot shower to loosen up then tried to work through it...
Good luck!
Almost 2 years. Problem has sometimes improved slightly,
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Slightly hypothyroid, about 6 months ago I found a lump
in my neck, had the whole workup including thyroid blood work and US guided biopsy which was benign. They put me on Synthroid, which has greatly helped my fatigue, etc. I thought I was just getting old and tired, etc. However, the mass is still there, not any smaller, so they will probably want to remove part of my thyroid sooner or later. If it enlarges they will definitely want to remove it. I would think by having thyroid removed you would actually gain weight unless your thyroid medication is adjusted appropriately?
Dillards has nice dresses for older women, slightly
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