rough marriages
Posted By: FTMT on 2009-01-26
In Reply to: does every woman experience being hit by her spouse at some point? sm - anonmt
I stayed for 27 years. It DOES not get better. It gets WORSE. He will never accept responsiblity for HIS failure. His problems did not start with you (no matter WHAT he says). This is HIS problem. Nothing you did or said caused HIS problem. The roughest part about leaving is getting YOUR head straight. I highly advise getting professional help so you can fully and truly understand and accept and live with what I have told you. IT IS HIS problem, not yours!! Run and don't look back. It will take a while for you to come to a full realization of the stress you are living with now, but peace is in your future. LIfe is going to be good again. It will just take some time to heal, and for goodness sake - DON'T EVER FORGET ABOUT IT!! Always remind yourself why you left. Hopefully, it will keep you away from him forever!
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It broke up both our marriages.
Our two kids, their two kids, parents, other family. She lives in Texas now, on her third or fourth marriage. My ex never did remarry (he is also bi - as I said in another post today). Her ex is on his 3rd marriage.
Thanks for your kind thoughts. But as for me, I met a wonderful man whom I have been married to for 9 tremendous years and am very happy now. It just was such a betrayal that it still bothers me from time to time.
Oh, and no, she never did say she was sorry. It's like I never really knew who she was...
Showers for 2nd marriages
My cousin called and asked opinion on wedding showers. Her daughter is marrying for second time and she doesn't know if it is proper to have another shower. She has her own home and has everything she needs. This is the first wedding for future groom. We had same discussion when my son married for second time. His future wife had also been previously married and they both live together and have everything. She went and registered at several places. Her response was she didn't need anything but sure wanted things. Isn't that a bit greedy? Any opionions? Same with second and third baby showers. When I grew up you got one for the first and that was it. If a huge gap between babies maybe a small second one but not one for every baby.
The question was not are you for/against gay marriages
The question was is it educational or not. The answer is NO. School is for the basics of learning, remember reading/writing/arithmetic? THAT is what I pay my tax dollars for, NOT for a teacher to pull a publicity stunt on school time.
Three main reasons why marriages break up...
money, in-laws, cheating.....
Rough dog.
My experience is that a rough puppy turns into a rough dog. I had a mixed breed that was rough when he was young and turned into a mean dog. He actually had scratches on my youngest child's arms. When he got older, he had one of my children corned up against a wall one day. My children are not afraid of dogs, but, needless to say, I had to get rid of him.
Geez, don't be so rough on each other here...sm
it's just a TV program. If you don't like what you see, don't watch it! Or even better, get a hobby or something that doesn't include so much TV!!
This year was rough...sm
I turned 41 this month, but it wasn't because of my age. I've had a lot going on this month, including my daughter graduating high school and planning for college, my dad was diagnosed with cancer and my dog died, all in that order. It all seemed to come to a head on my actual birthday for some reason and I was inconsolable. I cried almost all day. It was awful.
Sounds rough, and similar to
what my twin sister has. Have you seen a headache specialist or pain specialist? That's what I want my sister to do, because she ends up with rebound headaches. Viscious cycle.
My son is one...to a lot of people they do look rough - not sterotyping (nm)
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Sorry you've had such a rough time lately
*big hugs*
What to do with a puppy who plays too rough?
My puppy who is about 6 months old now and is going to be a good size dog (she's a boxer). She is getting to where she plays too rough. She bites really hard and doesn't know when it is enough. I have toys for her and try to encourage her to play with them and I have a rope that we play tug of war with, but she loves to jump up on people and bite their hair, hands and feet and she can bite hard. Plus I have a cat and she's very rough when she plays with the cat. My cat is pretty playful and likes to play, but doesn't always give my dog a good swat when she needs it, so I'm constantly having to rescue my cat because she just meows and catterwalls when the dog gets too rough.
We haven't played rough with her at all since we've had her and we got her once she was weaned from her mom, so I'm not sure where this behavior is coming from. She is just so loveable and doesn't mean any harm, but she's going to be a big dog and I don't want her to really hurt anybody. My 7yo daughter is constantly getting hurt because the dog jumped up on her, bit her too hard or scratched her with her nails. We say "no" sternly and swat her on the behind with a rolled up newspaper (not hard, just for the noise) and that will have immediate results, but she always comes back for more. So what do I do?
She just loves people and especially kids and she just wants to jump on them and give them big kisses and start playing. My daughter had a friend over this weekend and the little girl was immediately scared of our dog because our dog was so excited and jumping on her. I hate to see kids afraid of my dog when she really just wants to play and be loved on. I need to settle her down without breaking her spirit and I just don't know how to do it!
Isn't that what they use in swimming pools? Very rough on the feet.
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Thanks bunches!
AND I didn't mean the fact that they were skateboarders made them look rough (sm)
I meant the area where they live...it looks like a pretty rough area. But there are people with good hearts to be found everywhere...that was my point...not very well stated originally I guess.
I'm sorry. It's rough losing a pet. I lost my dog, Tate a couple years back. SM
He was a sheltie and he used to lay under my desk when I worked and I would rub him with my foot and he was a great foot warmer in the winter! I used to say, he wasn't my dog, I was his person. He got sick and then his liver failed and I had to have him put to sleep because he was suffering. I cried for weeks! I still haven't gotten another dog. My kids have been begging me and they've almost wore me down, but for a long time after Taters died, I just couldn't bring myself to even think about another dog. I compromised and got the kitty last summer. I've never had a cat before, so I didn't know if I'd like a cat or not. I've always been a dog lover, but I've been quite taken with my little cat. He's ornery little guy and I love to play cat and mouse with him.
Listen to me just gush! Sorry about that.
they are not rough looking; they are just skateboarders; all teenager skateboarders I know
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