retired homemaker for social history -
Posted By: mdlfcrs on 2007-11-16
In Reply to: What words do you hate? Salve and buttocks for me (sm) - NCMT
most of us know that would mean dead!!! Like Social Security comes in and does the dishes for us?
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Many of my age retired by now
I have absolutely no problem in telling my age, none because people usually taken aback in the fact cannot believe my age (65 next year), don't go into detail about that face lift. Anyway, I cherish the age I am, wish I could have gone back a few years and made a few changes but life is great at this age, no money problems, don't have to work 2 full time jobs (only part now), take nice trips when I want, kids out of the house, and the deals you get - reductions on property taxes, movies, meals. More money now and less to pay out. I love it! Got retirement funds kicking in next year and still able to work so that is the icing on the cake for me. The 40s were not particularly good for me - hopefully better for you but Happy Birthday and live it up!
I don't think she ever WAS retired. sm
And for the record, I am way closer to Ms. Knowles' age than I am to Ms. Turner's, so don't go assuming I'm some old housewife who can't hear through my hearing aids.
Beyonce is so incredibly boring and UNoriginal I can't even stand to pay attention to her through a full song. And WHAT is with the underwear outfits. Those gargantuan thighs should not see the light of day.
And she has the WORST verbal skills, girl cannot pronounce a word properly to save her life.
as I understood it when my parents retired--sm
and were on social security, they could only earn a certain amount above that social security. anything over that, they had to file. they may also reduce ss benefits by the amount earned. I may be wrong, but that was how I understood it. My mom is 78, completely on ss, has no other income, and does not have to file income tax.
I'm pretty sure it is allowed - my mom is retired but (sm)
She is still on my stepfather's insurance and not Medicare. I don't think it is required at all. You may be able to use it as secondary, though, I don't know. http://questions.medicare.gov/cgi-bin/medicare.cfg/php/enduser/std_adp.php?
Retirement and info on MTs who are semi-retired
Ok, fellow workers, MTs has answered questions in the past for me. I am almost 64 and would like to be a part-time employee and get my social security; however it is of concern to me about how much a person can make a month and how many hours you are allowed to work. I hear money is taken from your SS check if you make over so much a month. I would get now $1500 plus a month from SS but I enjoy working and even work some overtime so just concerns. Anyone out there with any thoughts about this, sure would enjoy hearing from you. TIA
Her name is Kodiak. She is a retired police & search & rescue dog
She is 8-1/2 years old.
Ella (retired) meant it 'sarcastic.', read her post....nm
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Truly A Day for the History Books
DH replaced the empty toilet paper roll last night.
In the 32 years we have been together, this is the first time I can remember him replacing a roll. Please don't tell anyone else because they would probably kick him out of the He Man Club, which all men who don't replace rolls (and that would be 99% of them) secretly belong to.
This is one of those days where, years from now, I will think back about what I was doing when I discovered it. (Sort of like people do with other significant historical events.)
In my world, this is at least as big as discovering a cure for cancer, landing a man on the moon, or discovering life in outer space, so I just wanted to share the good news with you - because, ladies, it proves that there is hope for the rest of you!
history is my comfort
http://www.youtube.com/user/DepressionCooking?blend=2&ob=1
There are several to watch and I enjoyed them very much!
You were just ahead of your time!
Checking Your Man's History Because
In Internet Explorer web browsers:
To just check history, click on the top left area of the browser window where it shows a yellow star. You'll see three choices toward the top of that menu: Favorites, Feeds, and History. Click on History. You'll see everything stored there since the last time the history was cleared.
Now, if you want to set the computer to save the History longer than it's saving it already (for example, you don't see anything from last week, but you wish you could see it next week when you come back again...) Do this:
Top Right of your browser window, you'll see the word "Tools". Click on it, and there's a drop-down menu. Look at the very bottom of the menu, and you'll see the words "Internet Options" Click on that. You'll see a pop-up box with different stuff in it. The second one down is browsing history. Click on "settings" within that section and then look at the bottom of the new pop-up box. You'll see a thing you can set to choose how many days to store in history. Change that number to show however frequently you want to check his history. If you want to check his history once per week, set it to 10 days, to give yourself a little leeway in getting back to it.
If your Man is being sneaky and deleting his history, there isn't much you can do about that without installing Spyware on the computer. If the computer is his alone or provided through his employment, you're risking privacy laws to spy on him. If it's a family computer, then you're using it too, and you should have a right to view the history on it.
Anyone out there with a history of Hashimotos thyroiditis? sm
I was diagnosed with Hashimotos nine years ago while pregnant with my daughter. I also ended up with Bells palsy and numerous other problems--almost all endocrine related. I was on synthroid for a few years and then went into remission. I have recently been feeling so tired and run down, dry skin, hair starting to fall out, ect. At first I chalked it up to just being somewhat depressed since my mother recently passed away, but then I remembered the Hashimotos thing. I went to the doc for a cold and asked to have the thyroid checked. This doc is aware of my history, but did not treat me initially when I first had the Hashimotos. He only checked a TSH and that came back fine. If I am remebering correctly I had to have full thyroid panels done and antibody testing the first few years. I am wondering if this doc missed doing more testing and should I just skip him and go to an endocrinologist? If anyone has experience with Hashimotos I would like to hear what kind of testing and things you have to do. Thanks for any help or insight.
if they had read their history books, they would not need to ask..nm
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YOU are so confusing and your whole life history,... so many
husbands around, fathers, mothers, children one cannot find, I hope you enjoy the.... ....(enter whatever you want)money and take a hike!
login to your account @paypal to see your history. SM
if there is no payment listed, then assume it did not go through.
or you could check with your credit card company...
History Channel and a turkey sandwich!
Every now and again I get WICKED insomnia myself...definitely stress related. It totally sucks too, I know what you're goin' through. Throws everything outta whack.
Tylenol PM works really well for me...just one tablet and I'm out for a minimum of 9 hours. Wine will make me sleepy but really just puts me out for a 2-3 hour nap. Otherwise, just my daily chores and typin' work is enough to make me want to be in bed by 7 and not get up until the alarm goes off at 5.
"They" say to set a schedule and try to stick to it. No naps during the day, and the bedroom is only for sleeping and, er, well no tv and no food anyway ;-) I also use a white-noise machine (actually just a fan that I affectionatly call "noisy fan") and have one of those Plug-Ins in a relaxing scent (lilac).
Being anal retentive, I find I can fall asleep easiest knowing that all the house stuff is done (dishes, laundry, coffee maker prepped, etc) and when I get up everything is clean and ready for the next day.
Good luck with it all...have the hot flashes hit yet?
Especially if you have a family history of breast cancer sm
You might even want to start earlier than age 40 with your mammograms. You can start at age 30 or 35 and have them every two or three years until age 40, and yearly after that. It is particularly important if members of your family have had breast cancer at an early age.
As a former x-ray tech, I can tell you that a mammogram should be no more uncomfortable than having your blood pressure taken, unless you are already having breast pain. Sometimes your skin can get pinched at an awkward angle under the pressure plate, and that will hurt. If that happens, TELL the mammographer immediately, and she will adjust it.
I did hundreds of mammograms while I was an x-ray tech. I always took a little extra time to smooth out the skin and try to make sure that my patients did not experience discomfort. Some patients had fibrocystic disease or other breast issues which made it painful no matter how careful I was. So I tried to work as quickly as I could to minimize the discomfort.
The point is, a mammogram should not be an unpleasant experience. The mammographer is a professional; you should feel no more uncomfortable exposing your body in a mammography room than you would in the examining room of your doctor's office. The mammographer wants your experience to be pain-free and as pleasant as possible; sometimes that may require some communication on your part.
But please, PLEASE have regular mammograms. It breaks my heart when I transcribe reports on young women in their 30s who have metastatic breast cancer. I always wonder how many children they will be leaving behind without a mother.
Funny! I love the History Channel and...
Dirty Jobs and cannot imagine the drama of living with another woman. Have you not seen how much they complain?
If I knew there was a history of cheating on former wives,
then my opinion would be different. I think that once cheating occurs, it is more likely to be repeated in future relationships. Not saying that this is your case, but it would worry me.
So you can pinpoint her behavior change. What is her history before she came to you? nm
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See link inside - History of Santa Claus
The origins of Santa Claus/Saint Nicholas. See link below. A real person long ago.
Social security
She will receive social security at a rate of 50% of what he receives as long as they have been married for 10 years. Am not sure if you can begin to collect this at age 6 or have to wait until 65 or 66. As far as medicare goes though, she is not eligible for this until she reaches 65/66 unless she is deemed disabled and not able to work and then she goes on SSI. Up to 3 wives-ex-wives can receive 50% of what the husband's social security allotment is without reduction but it never reduces the husband's amount. (as long as they have been married for 10 years). They did this so that all of the older ladies that never worked in the 40's 50's etc. could receive something when they retired as long as their husband was eligible. Now if he should die, she will receive more and that will stay in effect until she dies. With as expensive as Medicare and supplements are becoming it is no longer a deal to get Medicare and hardly any docs will take Medicare "only".
Patti
I know I'm a bit of a social oddball, but
I like to be upfront and lay things out on the table, so I would talk to her and let her know how I was feeling. This approach does not work well with everyone, surprisingly to me . . . LOL. Most people say they want that, but it does not seem to hold true. Personally, I do not see how relationships work without complete honesty.
I think that you would at least feel better if you talked to her. Good luck whatever you decide!
Do you get social security now and if so
how old when you started? I am past the age of starting but want to reach full retirement age for me so I can double dip.
Social Security
There is some reason that you should take Soc. Security when you are eligible. You can still work--I think up to a certain amount if you are younger than 65. At 65 you can make as much as you want. They say this is some kind of window--working right before or at the point of getting SS ultimately raises the amount. There is a five-year window that is important. I suggest you get some info from the SS office or a local AARP office or Senior info. I have come back from "retirement" so I am facing these same things. Oh, and by the way. You--my sister (and occasionally brother) MTs--My People--you are all just as crazy as you always were. And thankfully! This message board did not exist the last time I did MT. Cool!
social animals
Rodents, rats especially, are very very social animals and are intelligent and desire human contact. I've had 6 diff rats, all are passed away now cause they only last a few years, but they are very playful and will play with you and like to be held, petted and carried around. The more you do that the more friendly they get!
Have fun!
The slain social worker one? nm
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social services should be contacted
to look at this family. It might be futile, but good grief, something needs to happen. That is unreal, beyond bizarre.
My daughter was a very social butterfly
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Do they by any chance have a social worker you...
could contact? That way, if the social worker stepped in no one in the family would really be so "involved" and it might save hard feelings further down the road but might have the same results.
What woman? What social worker?
We need a little more info to go on if anyone's going to try to help you out on this! You've got me intrigued, though! Lee
Check social services
your local salvation army, cancer center, and local hospitals. THERE IS HELP for you without insurance. Please don't give up. There are options. It just takes a little research and if you are working from home you must have the internet. I know things seem bad, but they could always get worse. Sometimes I need to remind myself of that to get out of bed in the morning.
I have 5. All MTs. I would like a broader social circle
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Social Services Visiting
The main thing I'd say is to remain calm and explain to the investigator like you did here. Their job is to sort out the truth from the fiction. I was investigated once because my MTSO made false accusations about me to the police.
I had to answer questions I didn't enjoy but when the interview was over the investigator was done she told me she believed me and I had nothing to worry about, but if the accuser made another call they'd file harassment charges against me.
The truth is the truth and they'll sort it out. Patience will serve you well.
Why was the post on social isolation deleted??
I was going to post a response to this and see the thread is gone! It was just posted a few minutes ago and I'm wondering what happened here.
Update on social worker from my post the other day (sm)
I posted the other day about where I had seen that social worker before, and couldn't find her on the cast list - wouldn't have helped if I had. I was watching Sally Field on the Boniva commercial and it popped into my head. Social worker was on that Boniva commercial where those 4 women were supposed to be being quiet in a museum. Isn't it funny how the brain works? - haha - especially mine.
I think that constitute abuse! Dogs are very social - sm
animals, and their human families are their *pack*. That poor dog is bored and lonely. It's crying proves that food and water alone are not enough to nourish an intelligent, social animal like a little Sheltie. I would tip off animal control. I'm sure it can be done annonymously. If the dog is confiscated, you can help it out by looking for a Sheltie-rescue in your area, and if not, possibly a regular animal rescue group. If she's healthy & has a good temperament, they may pull her from the shelter and foster her 'til someone can adopt her.
Or -- if that sounds too drastic, if you know the other people are gone, why not climb the fence into her backyard, and befriend & play with the dog? That would be better than nothing, although it sounds like the best option would be to find that dog a new family.
Can anyone tell me that is on social security how they figure how much to deduct if you go over what
you are allowed to make per month. I did speak to them but I just wondered if someone on here has done this at all.
no but usually irresponsible people in poor social
yes I had one and i was all of the above!! Now i'm on Depo and don't have that problem anymore
I stay home!!! (I think I have social anxiety). nm
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People on social security who pay no taxes
got back as individual $600 each last time and I know for a fact as my 85 year old aunt was one of those.
When amount of this for social security people and when?
Do you have a link for this info, pls.
Just an update on my Social Worker visit.
No one has come by yet, but it's only Monday, but I did get the house cleaned with the help of my son, his girlfriend, and two of his friends. I took the advice below about shuffling all my ex-husband's junk to the garage. He has a fixer upper car in the garage anyway, so I just piled stuff around it, on top of it, and in it. The garage is a complete mess, but we don't live in there, so whatever. My son and his buddies cleaned up outside the house too. We had about 10 bags of trash for the trash truck this morning, but they took every one of them. Thank goodness!!
I'm way more calmer now than I was on Friday when all this crap broke loose. Thanks to everyone for calming me down. I'm ready now for when the social worker stops by. I saw another officer over the weekend at the gas station and he asked me about my situation, asked me if my ex was ever served and then told me that he was proud of me for finally getting rid of him and that he would talk to his boss about this whole "social services thing." He said his boss (who was the officer at my house on Friday) doesn't really know the ins and outs of the community like the officers do and he'd make sure he let him know that my ex is the one causing all the trouble.
So that made me feel better too. I just can't believe how ugly this is getting. I guess I'd better prepare myself because it will probably get worse before it gets better. The divorce is just beginning.
I've gained a lot too but I have worked on having a social life (sm)
There is a website called Exercisefriends dot com where you can post for people in your area to walk with or whatever sport you like. I found a walking buddy like that and we are now best friends for the past few years now(she works at home too). But the part-time job is a good idea too - those jobs are fun even though you don't make much money.
Found it on Social Security website $250 by May 2009 nm
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I just found out that social services will be paying me a visit and I am
freaking out! My estranged husband, on whom I have a restraining order, showed up at my house today, obviously he had been drinking. Long story short, one of my son's friends shows up, one that is not allowed at the house. I immediately sent the teenager away, but my husband proceeds to start raging about how he would run things if he were still living here. I then told him he could leave as well. That I kicked the teenager and I expected him to leave too. He refused and said he would leave if I gave him money because he needs to contribute groceries to his buddy with whom he is staying. He doesn't work and hasn't worked for much of our marriage. I told him if he wanted to help out his buddy, he should get a job. He came into the house, sat down on my couch and refused to leave until I gave him money.
My son called the police to enforce the restraining order. The police show up and while he is in their custody, he tells them that I have 10 to 14 teenagers in my house every day and that he doesn't feel that it is a good environment for our 8yo daughter. He tells there was marijuana in my house.
So now the police are telling me they have to file a report with family services because my house could be a hostile environment and they have to follow up on every complaint. The marijuana episode did happen; however, my daughter and I were not at home. My husband was still living at home at the time and caught my son and a couple of friends smoking it and instead of stopping them immediately and kicking everybody out, I was told that he took a hit off the joint. I was told that by all three kids whom I questioned separately. When I confronted my soon to be ex about this, his explanation was that he didn't take a hit, he put it up to his mouth and nose to smell to see if it really was pot. Still he did not put up fuss, punish our son, or kick anybody. Instead I find out about the pot from the sister of one of my son's girlfriend who told me because she was worried about her sister and she was the one who originally told me my husband took a hit.
Now, because my husband is angry that I have kicked him out and am filing for divorce, he is telling these lies and half truths to the cops and now I have to worry about getting visited from social services. I've been crying all evening and I'm wondering what I should expect. I have to clean my house from top to bottom, make sure this sucker shines and I guess not let my son have any friends over ever again!
I am so upset! I absolutely hate my ex-husband. I live in a rat hole as it because he has refused to work and he has junked up with all the crap he refuses to throw away. The man won't even through away magazines. I have stacks and stacks of magazines and newspapers that every time I've tried to throw out or recycle, he picked them out of the bins and brought them back into the house. Now I'm faced with this mountain of crap that I have deal with immediately before I get visited by the social worker.
I'm sorry to go on and on. I'm just so overwhelmed and stressed and I just want to curl up in a little ball and die. My kids are my life. I don't beat them, I feed them, I clothe them, I play with them, and have fun with them. They are the reason I work, the reason I breathe. The idea of having someone come into my home and question my fitness as a mother makes my physically ill.
You guys, thank you for continually listening to my saga. You guys gave me the strength to kick him out to begin with.
I have a question about Social Security and Medicare for people who don't work (sm)
My SIL has worked exactly 3 (count them) 3 months in her entire lazy life. They took bankruptcy a couple of years ago, of course she wasn't going to go to work and help out then because she said "it's not my fault we are in this mess." Now my brother is coming up to within 10 years of retirement and actually has problems with arthritis that may cause him to have to retire sooner. She insists that she should be given a social security check when she "retires" and that she should be eligible for medicare when my brother retires. She is several years younger than him and I tried to tell her she will have to get out and get private insurance for herself until she is of age. She insists the government "owes this to her". I would like to string her up to the highest tree, but I am told that is illegal also.
Am I crazy? She certainly can't be put on Medicare just because her husband is eligible can she?
I think she just figures she will either live on his SS benefits or kill him off with the side jobs in addition to his FT job he has been trying to do to keep her in the style she wants to become accustomed and then be eligible for widow's benefits.
I guess I really don't understand the SS and Medicare issues, just hoping someone could shed some light on this.
She simply REFUSES to work regardless of how much they have needed the money and/or benefits. Can't watch your soaps if you work all day and that is very important to her. GRRRR. Sorry to vent. Will go mind my own business now.
I stand corrected. Here's the info from the Social Security website...
Even if he or she has never worked under Social Security, your spouse at full retirement age can receive a benefit equal to one-half of your full retirement amount and can qualify on your record for Medicare at age 65. (If your spouse will receive a pension for work not covered by Social Security such as government or foreign employment, the amount of his or her Social Security benefits on your record may be reduced.)
Your spouse can begin collecting the benefits as early as age 62, but the benefit amount will be permanently reduced by a percentage based on the number of months up to his or her full retirement age.
Your spouse who is caring for your child who is also receiving benefits can receive the full one-half benefit amount no matter what his or her age is. Your spouse would receive these benefits until the child reaches age 16. At that time, the child's benefits continue, but your spouse's benefits stop unless he or she is old enough to receive retirement benefits (age 62 or older) or survivor benefits as a widow or widower (age 60).
If your spouse has also worked under Social Security--If your spouse is eligible for retirement benefits on his or her own record, we will always pay that amount first. But if the spouse benefit on your record is a higher amount, he or she will get a combination of benefits that equals that higher amount. It doesn't matter if your spouse starts getting benefits before, after, or at the same time you do--we will check both records to make sure that your spouse gets the higher amount.
If your spouse continues to work while receiving benefits, the same earnings limits apply to him or her as apply to you. If your spouse is eligible for benefits this year and is also working, you can use our earnings test calculator to see how those earnings would affect your spouse's benefit payments. (Your spouse's earnings affect only his or her own benefits; they do not affect your benefits or those of any other beneficiaries on your record.)
For Medicare, from that section it reiterates what I said...
Medicare is health insurance for people age 65 or older, under age 65 with certain
disabilities, and any age with End-Stage Renal Disease (permanent kidney failure
requiring dialysis or a kidney transplant).
Call a minister or hospital social service department - nm
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Oh, sorry, misunderstood. Listed under social hx, no mention of a health concern. (NM)
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Definitely get a companion bird - they are very social and need company. Poor thing is lonely. nm
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