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Posted By: guilding the lily on 2009-04-20
In Reply to: I remarried at age 57, not - Jen
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splitting the assets...
What about the son? Is he also deceased?
In your former post you did not mention that your brother is deceased.
Could you not HELP in locating the children of your brother? Did you not have ANY contact with them?
Strange, strange!
See below excerpt from your former post...
'....his son and I was the only 1 left (not counting my brother's children) so the money went exclusively to me.'
Now I think you are the one splitting hairs -
if you want to prevent stem cell research b/c of the potential life you are supposedly protecting, why not these potential babies who are prevented by IUD?
My opinion is that an embryo sitting in a petri dish somewhere is not evan a VIABLE CELL either.
I'm specifically AVOIDING splitting hairs, if you'd notice. sm
I'm saying what my opinion is regarding the viability of an embryo (as post-implantation), but perfectly willing to grant that it might be pre-implantation as well.
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you are welcome; thanks for responding
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only responding to first
Memorials are for the people still alive, not for the dead. The dead don't give a hoot one way or another what somone else thinks. Personally, I would prefer to be cremated and just have one person take the urn and spread the ashes, then ask if the urn can be recycled. Not like anyone is going to write a best-selling biography about me once I'm gone :) Earth to earth, dust to dust, so to speak.
Why still responding? nm
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I think she's right in not responding....
if the woman thinks she won, it doesn't matter. If she gets a response, she may just keep going. I had a psycho person who wouldn't leave me alone either, completely different reason, but I tried to be nice because we were friends, and try to clarify, tried to be nice and stand my ground, stopped being nice, but still responding...eventually when I stopped responding, the person tried a few more times to get something out of me, and eventually just gave up.
OP, I'm so sorry you've had to go through this with someone who you trusted as a good friend. Maybe this person is feeling desperate financially with the loss of her job, but there are ways to ask to borrow money from people when you are in need, and demanding it and putting that person down is not the way to do it. Money causes some people to just become ugly, either they have too much and become ugly, or they don't have enough and become ugly. If some people are desperate enough, they will do what they think is right....as you can see for yourself, in her eyes/mind, she didn't do anything wrong and there is no way you can make her see any different. I have also lost a friend to them "losing their mind" on something and just losing it. A few years later this friend tried to re-kindle a friendship, but sadly at that point, after all the negativity that the person threw at me and telling me I was a terrible friend, even though I was there for them and never turned my back on them when others did, after my friendship was called into question for something they did wrong, I just decided I didn't need that kind of person in my life, and if it took that person 2 years to finally think they needed me in their life, I'm sorry, I was done. If that person would've just apologized back when it all started, then maybe. But, anyway, sorry, brought back a lot of memories for me, and I do hope you will be able to move forward. I hate you've lost a valued friendship in all this drama.
Be careful when responding!
I'm not saying that the OP is anything more than someone trying to make interesting conversation, but there are lots of little innocent looking surveys on the 'net that Phish for your passwords. Since our emails don't show up here, I'm not really concerned, but I've seen this on MySpace, and I know phishing happens a lot on MySpace. Lots of folks use pet names or former pet names as passwords. The same goes for name surveys that have you do "fun" things like surveys asking you to find your porn name by putting your street name with your mother's maiden name, etc.
By the way, my pet's name isn't on the list!
I guess you are too for responding to me!
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By responding, you are confirming...
what they were looking for...ratings! That's all it boils down to. Do the right thing and turn off the TV. Pure evil it is I tell ya!
She was responding to her "fans"
Who gives a rat's a$$ about Simon. She knew she would be voted off, but she cared more about reaching out to her fans and thanking them for their support. Although she was the one targeted by votefortheworst.com, they actually really really liked her, because she let them know every week that she was aware of them "supporting" her. I see nothing wrong with her having fun and basically mocking herself.
Thank you for responding, sm and anon...
I didn't know about not having to pay those fees. This time I really did some homework as far as the dealer's list price versus MRSP, etc. The confidence thing needs work, though. My last 3 cars lasted 10 years, so I don't get a lot of practice with this.
I was actually responding to pc, the poster just below your original post.
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Is Sprint the cellphone provider? Thanks for responding!
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I was referring to my own hair, people hair. nm
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Hair
Oh yeah! I have a long-haired cat. My living room looks like she had a fight with Santa and Santa lost his white trim and long beard. LOL
Hair
 Oh I know you meant people hair. Just wanted to share that my cat is goning through the same thing these days. I guess because she is just so close to my heart she feels like a child not a pet. 
About your hair
What do you like/dislike the most about it?
I've been letting mine grow, so it's longer and looks really nice around my face. It's very soft. That part I like.
I hate hate hate having long hair when it's hot outside. Ponytail and hair clips, here I come.
hair
Yes, you can do this yourself. Go for it. IF you want an overall lighter color go for it. Make sure you read the box about if your hair is dark it will look like this or if your hair is this dark we do not recommend. I would also even recommend going to a Sallys Beauty Supply. They can help you as well. I used to do hair for a living before MTing.
Hair
Hey go for it. Anything that looks good, do it. I always wear my hair short because it looks the best. Looking back at pictures I have almost the same haircut that I had at age 21 but am not trying to recreate that age it just looks the best on my. My great nephews, ages 20 to 8, always tell me that there is no way I am almost the same age as their grandmother (my sister 3 years older) because she is old and I am not and I think it is because I act, dress and think young. I don't wear mini's but my legs are one of my best assets and so I wear knee length skirts and heels many times and it makes me feel good. Even if you wanted to wear a beehive -- now I am showing my age -- do it if it makes you feel good. I envy those gals with longer hair but I am small boned and small facial features and it just overwhelms me. But a lot of older actresses have long hair and it looks good.
keep your hair.
NM
Dry hair
I have really dry hair both because of my middle age and putting dye on it at home. I've tried most otc products but nothing really seems to get it soft and healthy looking. Anyone have any tried and true products, like a deep treatment type of conditioner that really works?
Oh, well, it's just hair, you know? sm
I agree with her...you gotta pick your battles. That said, my son's hair is longish, but not to his shoulders.
Hair......
It is definitely not good to wash hair every day.
Because you strip the hair of the essential oil and then the follicles produce again oil, the hair gets oily very fast and you have to wash it again.
This becomes a vicious cycle.
The more often you wash your hair, the faster it gets oily.
Try to use 'dry shampoo' in between, until your hair gets less oily.
Get a dog with hair, not fur- sm
Find out what breeds have hair, I know poodles are one, I think there are one or two others but not sure. He would not be allergic to a dog with hair though, if so then he is allergic to people too. There are standard size poodles (large) or miniature poodles.
I have used it in my hair, but not to eat.
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my sister does hair
and one of her clients bought her a jogging suit that says "i run with scissors!" she thought that was too fun! of course, depends on the personality.
Coloring your hair.
How many here have colored or still color their hair?
Highlights, lowlights, gray coverage or all out Platinum blonde.
Maybe you are going for that fire engine red.....
I bought one of those kits the other day that has the base color and the extra highlighting kit too. I am going for the medium to dark brown (which is my natural color) with "Caramel Glaze" highlights. My hair naturally has alot of underlying red tones so I have to be careful what color I choose or I end up looking like Lucille Ball. (not that red is a bad thing) I just don't want to be the next "Carrot Top" LOL.
Anybody else out there about to do a color change? opinions?
hair color sm
Had beautiful brown hair with natural red highlights, talked into blond highlighting, now go every 3 mos for cut and color but prices are being ridiculously increased to over $110 for this service, $45 for the cut and $65 for partial - more for full highlight. I am scared to do this alone, as I don't want to look like a "skunk" and the highlighting makes me feel better, as I'm getting older. Another subject - as you get older, people treat you like you're taking up space on the planet - rude. I don't intend to go gray. Is keeping the brown and putting in my onw highlights a fairy tale, is it that difficult? Can't imagine how I'll see in the mirror to do it alone!!! Can't afford it anymore. I think the stylist is planning to raise her prices and it will be over $150 for the whole head!
hair color
I found some really cool hair color at www.bettybeauty.com
Anyone ever had a hair transplant
due to loss of hair and if so, can you tell me how it came out, were you satisfied with the results, how much cost and which place did you use? I have seen some ads and am thinking seriously about this. Thanks.
hair style
My hairstyle is very low maintenance, a layered cut barely past my shoulders, which I shape with a hairbrush and blowdryer. It takes less than 5 minutes, but I have a lot of natural curl. What is your hair type? That makes a big difference.
thinning hair
I do not have a thyroid condition but my hair was always very thin and falls out in handfuls except when I was pregnant. My sister is a doctor and she found an article that advocated taking biotin (2000 mcg) and MSM (1000 mg) a day - ask your doctor, but biotin is just a B vitamin and MSM is used for joint health - and after a month or so I noticed a huge improvement in hair loss. We both have noticed it. I have also seen biotin used for stronger nails and I have to admit mine are growing quite well.
P.S. To Hair message . . .
Sorry, didn't know talking about animals would be so upsetting to you.
I picked thru their hair...
Took small section by section and picked thru and took each nit and pulled them out several times a day until I found no more nits. I had to go thru mine too since I got it too.
Arm hair trouble
It seems like over the last several years the hair on my forearms has gotten darker and darker. I'm so self-conscious about it, I feel like it makes me nice and mannish looking :(
Here's my question: would it help to put hydrogen peroxide on my arm hair everyday? Bleaching is such a hassle for a large area like that, and I don't have the money now for laser removal. I think hydrogen peroxide lightens hair, but would it make a noticeable difference on my arms?
I am always losing my hair.
All year round. A lot comes out in the shower and when drying my hair. My bathroom floor is covered. I have very thick hair. I never thought to ask my doctor about it. May be I should. I do not see any bald spots yet, but I will continue to watch. I just turned 50. I hope it does not get worse.
hair loss
My hair started falling out years ago, just inherited. I tried extensions, forget that.. There are a couple of products out there hair so real, but then I got Toppix; it's a natural hair fiber/powder that you apply to DRY scalp where the scalp is showing through; it's expensive, so I only use it when I go out to meet people I know.
Do you part your hair?? (sm)
I don't part mine or my kids - I brush it and it has sort of a natural part, but I never do the old comb-parting thing. Just wondering if I am the odd one out? Hey - it says GAB board :-)
My hair is very short right now.
Short layers and all I have to do is spray a little hairspray on it and run my fingers through it and I'm good to go. It has gotten much thicker over the years and hair color has helped with that too. I hate that I have to color my hair, though. I started going gray almost 20 years ago and I just turned 40.  At some point, I will bite the bullet and let the color grow out, but haven't gotten there yet. Not ready to be totally gray.
My hair is short
When it starts to get even a little long, I have to go out and get it cut. I don't like the way my hair or the way I look when it gets too long. I just put some gel in it and go. The only thing I don't like is that it can get dry in the sun. I've been dying my hair for about five years or so (46 now). I won't let it go gray, but that's just me. My daughter is only 4 so I feel I would look like her grandmother if I let it go gray.
LOL. I have that kind of hair too!!
Mine is longer layers and I have a LOT of it and it gets coarse sometimes after highlighting. So you should see me when I wake up in the morning sometimes. It is sticking up and out a good few inches on the top and sides! I joke with my husband, don't come too close or I may poke your eye out! LOL So I know exactly what you mean about not being able to just run out for something some days. Or God forbid, what about unexpected company or UPS or FedEx? LOL
Anyone else out there with curly hair?
My daughter is 3. She has waist-long curly hair. It is so beautiful but I am beginning to despise it!!! It is so tangly. I use Johnsons & Johnsons detangler from Wal-Mart, but that just doesn't seem to help. I wash her hair with a shampoo/condition in 1 and then I do another round of just conditioner. I can't figure out how to make this better. The hair combing experience every day is painful for both of us!! If you have any suggestions, short of cutting off those beautiful locks, I would sure appreciate your advice!
Curly hair
I have curly hair and so does my son so I know what you mean about it being a painful experience for both of you. I've found that sometimes it helps if you leave the conditioner in for a while before rinsing and always use a wide-tooth comb. Some leave-in conditioners help. When my hair was really long I always braided it before bed so it was easier to deal with the next morning.
Wind in HIs Hair
Rodney A. Grant from Dances with Wolves. Hubba Hubba.   
Since we are talking hair, I always wonder
wondered what kind of hair Mane and Tail is good for. Is it for smoothing hair that is coarse, or just what does it do?
Have dry, brittle hair
Only wash about once a week and dry, brittle, fly-away, breaking. Anyone use anything that really helps this situation? Thanks!
hair cost sm
I was told years ago that the markup is ridiculous by someone who took a beautician course.. I found a good girl, shopped around, could not believe what WALMART (just stopped by to qestion in person) is charging for simple highlights and cut, even the local Regis Salons which also includes Supercuts, etc., are getting a hundred bucks or more. So what I did was establish an agreement with a girl who rents space nearby and she is excellent. She has been charging me $65 for color, cut and blow dry and style. So today I gave her a very generous Christmas tip and she tried to give it back to me. I told her I so appreciated what she does for me all year and she started to cry and gave me a hug. I told her I was aware of what others charged and I knew she gave me a break all year. Everyone won, nobody lost. Shop around, the markup is ridiculous. Corporate wins, not the stylist (much like our profession). Just find someone you can trust and develop a relationship with and give them a little extra once in awhile. I am very glad I did this,I had a great day and I feel wonderful and so does my stylist. It can be done, be an educated consumer. Don't fall for the high prices, what costs them a few bucks turns into literally hundreds when it comes to highlight or color and cut! Shop around.
You didn't know before the hair job how much it was
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cost of hair
In defense of the cosmetology profession, I have to add that one never knows how much money and time the big stylists put into their business. My oldest son spends $10,000.00 a month in overhead, salaries, rent, seminars, etc. He stays current on everything, is a certified colorist, etc. They earn every penny they get - I had no idea until he filled me in. By the way, he lives too far away to make it worth my while to go get a haircut every 5 weeks, so I still go to local girl. $12.00 - she is way too cheap. Please don't bash them if you do not know the inside of the business. Anyway, Merry Christmas! Everyone tip your stylist - if it is a man, bake him something - he'll love you forever!!
hair dressing
Check your closest beauty supply store. I think you may be looking for what is called a "hair dressing." They smell good, come in light to heavy. I use one on my "babies" who have extremely curly hair. They are biracial, but do not have the coarse black African hair. Their hair is just extremely curly and the hair dressing adds shine and moisture, not oil, to their hair.
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