push cuz
Posted By: Boo on 2007-04-16
In Reply to: Melaleuca - pushy pushy pushy cousin.
If it were me, I'd say "hey cuz, you've been pressuring me with this, and I've said NO as politely as I know how. That is my final answer. I wish you well, but if you continue to pressure me on this, I just won't take your calls any more."
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Just one more sutle way to push God out of our lives
Many people do not even notice this change, or many just don't care. Just like God was pushed out of schools, public buildings and trying to get God off our money. "In God we trust"? As a nation it is hard to say anymore. We were founded on Christian beliefs but separating church and state has been taken way to far.
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