parenting class . . .
Posted By: anon on 2007-03-14
In Reply to: If the school tells you to go to parenting classes - concerned
My husband and I recently took on Love and Logic classes. I am the type of person that is always looking to improve on things, though, so I don't have a problem with it. What's wrong with being a better parent?
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I disagree. I still have my class ring (class of 1985). It's tucked away in my jewelry...
box. My fingers are too fat to wear it now, but it has sentimental value. Mine was just a metal ring as well and it still looks great.
I gave my class ring to a boyfriend back in the day and it wore it on his pinky. Then he lost it on the beach at the local lake. We ended up breaking up not too long after that and I thought I would never see my ring again. Then one day I'm reading the local paper and there's an add that said "LORI -- did you lose your class ring at city lake? Call... and describe the ring." I called the number and described the ring and it was mine. Thankfully I had had my full name inscribed inside the band of my class ring! The guy that found it was this little old man who had a one of those metal detectors and he spent his retirement days scanning beaches, parks, etc for change and what other treasures he could find. I couldn't thank him enough! He wouldn't take any kind of reward for finding it.
Just thought I'd share my class ring story. I feel that class rings, class keys (Do they still do that?), and yearbooks are such an important part of the high school years, but that's just me.
Parenting is so hard.......
I am in no way saying that you are being a controlling parent. I understand that just becuase they are in college you can't and don't just say okay, now you are an "adult" you are on your own, go ahead and make mistakes. I myself and a bit controlling (kids are 17 and 15) and am trying really hard to tame that. I learned it from my "other" mother. She was very controlling with my younger brother (from her first marriage) all the way through his college years. He ended up marrying a very controlling person and that marriage lasted 4 years. He is now in a seemingly happy marriage but she is also quite controlling. I think it is a very fine line that we have to walk in giving them wings but also holding on when we see such obvious mistakes. Remeber the boy he was before he met this girl, the boy you raised with sounds like good values. Give him a little more time. About taking away the car I see why you did it. He blantly defied a rule and then lied about it. Maybe to try to build up the trust take it away for a shorter time and give him another chance. JMO! I really hope this gets worked out soon. I can only imagine how hard it is to have your child away for the first time and then these problems thrown in. Good luck.
My, you let her down on a large part of parenting.
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Is it fair to attack her parenting?
I thought Christians weren't supposed to judge. Is it because she *let* her daughter make her own decision to become atheist? I can't stand hypocrisy. It's what starts wars.
your parenting style is really bordering on abuse
and what makes this so sad is the fact that your children are so young and cannot control what is happening to them. They are trapped in a world ruled by your iron fist.
If the school tells you to go to parenting classes
Is that a step away from the school calling the CPS? I visited my aunt at a resturant she was telling me about her children's children. She said the 12 yo was acting up really bad in school and he is about to get thrown out. Every word out of that woman's mouth was it is because the DIL won't.... or the DIL doesn't........ Aunt has the kids more than the DIL does and she is constantly critising the DIL on everything. She had their 2 yo son with her and he started grunting obviously messing his diaper and she hit him on the nose (not hard) and said STOP! Then he threw up and she covered his mouth as if to stop him and it did not work and somehow that was all DIL fault also. DIL would tell aunt what the pedi said and aunt disagrees that the pedi don't know what they are talking about, that she raised 3 boys and they were going to do things her way. She disagrees with what the parenting classes are teaching. You spank kids and spank them hard, she ran around with a hairbrush and a fly swatter when her kids were little. Her DIL called me one night in tears because at some family function aunt started in on her and saying that she is incompetant and she needed aunt and DIL threw her plate of food at her. Aunt got peturbed because DIl was feeding her then 1 year-old cheerios. I told the DIL that there is a government programs out there that can help her pay for childcare that she does not need to rely aunt. I got the number from my daycare director and gave it to her. She never called. I had also told the DIL that she better start listening to the school and to the pedis and not the aunt because she is the one responsible for those kids and if aunt does something they are going to hold her responsible. The aunt won't let her use anyone but her. She is very bossy and the matriarch of the family. I had offered to keep the kids on weekends but I am not good enough either. I don't make my kids mind and aunt would have to work to hard undoing everything I did. Funny, the school told me that whatever I was doing with my 5 year old to do it again with my 18 month old. The DIL and son are mentally handicapped, both were in special education class in high school and both are janitors of the school which is probably the best job they will ever get. Think they would do well though and their kids would thrive better if they had a better support system. I wished there was something I could do to help but they did not want any of my help. I just don't like to go around them anymore. I have turned down every offer my aunt had to watch my children. No way.
I didnt really want parenting advice. You dont know
wanted to see if someone knew of a formula, like a percentage of income for xtras. Say what you want, but I will not be replying to any more of these posts attacking me and my family. Im sorry I even came here.
Yes, when parenting leaves lots to be desired, it is
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But wait, is her mom still putting out that Christian book about parenting? LOL
I mean seriously first the Britney trainwreck and now the little one (who is 16) pregnant! Oh joy ! That woman should be ashamed of herself and not writing any books unless it titled
White Trash Parenting
OR better yet.......
How to Turn Your White Trash into Millions!
LOL
Parenting advice needed! I am losing my mind with my 14yo son. SM
He is so smart. I got his first grade card a couple of weeks ago, 2 Fs (Science and Computer Lit) and a D+ in English. The rest of his grades were acceptable. The problem isn't that he doesn't understand the subject matter in these classes, but that he simply doesn't do the work, doesn't turn in homework assignments, NOTHING!
I started having trouble with him last year and he barely passed the 7th grade. Now, here it is the beginning of a new school year and he's doing the exact same thing. He's grounded, of course, but that doesn't seem to make a difference to him. Last night his English teacher called to tell me he hasn't turned in any assignments since the beginning of the new quarter, that he simply sits there at his desk doing nothing while the rest of the class works. She said he seems to be easily distracted.
When I talk to him about school, he gives me attitude. Last night after I hung up with the English teacher, I was very angry, and proceeded to ground him longer and took away his IPod. He had the audacity to say "mom, you're really making me mad (only he didn't say "making me mad"). I took step toward him because I was about ready to slap his disrespectiful mouth and he said "you better not lay a hand on me." He threatened me! So I basically took a deep breath and said "son you do not want to take me on." And then I proceeded to tell him that he would be staying after school with his English teacher until further notice and that I will be picking him up every day after school to make sure he brings home all his books and homework.
I don't know what else to do. I have asked his teachers to keep me informed via email cause I'm always at my computer during the day. His Science teacher just emailed me and said he didn't turn in his assignment today. After all that last night and he STILL didn't turn in his assignment!
I tried to be understanding because he's at a new school in a new town, but socially he's happier than I've seen him in a long time. He has made a bunch of new friends, he's planning on going out for the basketball team. At first I tried to blame his attitude problems on the move and the new school, but he was doing the exact same thing last year at his old school. His dad and I have separated and maybe that has something to do with it, but life has been less stressful without his dad here, even my son has said so.
Please give me some advice. I've thought about talking to the school counseling, going to family counseling, having my son see a therapist. I just don't know what to do. I feel like I'm failing as a parent here and I don't know what to do.
Thanks for letting me spill my guts.
2/3 class
I'm a former school teacher. As a matter of fact, I did my student teaching in a split 3rd/4th grade class. It was wonderful! It was the twice the work and preparation, but the kids were fantastic.
Kids selected for split classes are usually the best behaved, most independent workers in the class, so you should be bursting with pride that you daughter has been selected. Every other kid in the making the adjustment and will be meeting new kids, too, so I wouldn't worry about a 2nd grader being put in a new environment. Kids are extremely resilient and if she's smart, independent and motivated enough to be put in a split class, she'll more than meet the challenge of adapting to her new school environment.
Let us know how she does, OK?
Gas in Class
Yes I agree! These schools should get back to teaching! This is unreal! Getting punished for something your body does naturally? I don't think so!
you are not low class....
that poster was being rude. I feel for you. Keep being you and don't feel sorry for that! I think you are a hoot!
I'd let her out of the class. (sm)
Why break her spirit and make her lose her enthusiasm for school.
Don't kid yourself. If you had any class at all,
you wouldn't have posted your sarcastic and now condesdending remarks. You wouldn't know a standard if it walked up and slapped you in the face, at least not in this context.
maybe i have no class
and maybe i have no standards, but at least i know that i definitely would not want that man
Ballet class :) sm
My daughter (now 8) has been in ballet since she was 3 years old. Of course, the first couple of years they do spend learning how to stay in line, twirling around, etc BUT they begin learning the basics which is great! You will see her progress over the years if she stays in it. My daughter participate in The Nutcracker this year and she is now really in love with ballet. She only had 2 small parts but she thougth it was the best thing in the world she has done so far. She is also on a competition cheer team and ballet beat it out. :)
Maybe that ESL could give a class
on "Keeping Your Transcriptionist Happy"! 
New Class Rules
I have 2 children and neither have to the best of my knowledge done this in a classroom. However, if there is a medical issue behind this I do not believe the child should be punished. I do agree it is rude if done on purpose but I do not believe that was the situation wiht the original poster. When I have parent teacher meetings I am praised up and down because my children are the best behaved in the class so I do not believe my personal parenting skills are an issue here. I think everyone is making way too much out of this. Boys will be boys. Sooner or later they will out grow the behavior. Maybe the problem with the world today is that kids cannot just be kids anymore? Things are different now then they were years ago. I cannot remember school shootings or threats at my school. Twice my daughter was sent home because of a bomb scar. This never happened when I was in school. The world is different now and if the worst a kid does in class is burp or pass gas I think the teachers should be grateful.
Passing Gas in Class
Yes you have made a good point. I just do not think that a child with a medical condition should be punished. I think others without a medical condition need to learn some maners. Thank goodness I have never had to deal with this sort of thing. Knock on wood.
Joe Namath was in my class nm
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swim class
Hi trose,
Thank you for being so thoughtful and asking about swim class....Many responded, gave some great ideas, shared personal experiences and were still concerned about the outcome.
class rings
It really depends on what you/she want and can afford, how important/cherished you think it will be, how she/you believe it represents the high school experience, etc.
I think I spent close to $400 on my daughter's class ring. Actually the ex and I split it, but I believe it was in that range.
It is really nice and she still wears it. She says she will always wear it. It has lots of little things on it that reflect the activities she participated in while in high school. Good memories. She put a lot of thought into personalizing it. It was actually a lot like my HS ring which I lost at the beach a year after I got it :-(
We didn't get a lot of extras, but did get 10K gold which is what shot the price up so much. It is a substantial ring even though it's the female version (smaller than the male one -- be happy you're not buying for a boy lol).
Anyhow good luck :-)
my mom was UPPER class and did same to Pop
they loved doing that zit-picking thing........*lol* - not me.....hot compresses will do very nicely....they can pop on their own....
but you're not alone - and it's not low class as the poster below said...in their opinion.....
but it is GROSS........YUCHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH *lol*
nice to see ya back, Hayseed.......I see that piggy of yours on your webcam occasionally!!
Some show some class...
Though she's been everyone's joke, it seems, at least here's one person who's not trashing her.
This was a monologue from 10 months ago. Best thing on TV.
http://youtube.com/watch?v=7bbaRyDLMvA
If that is middle-class then I have to be
below the poverty level.
I would say something to the teacher of the class
They should be the one to stop this chick from preventing other kids from having one.
I wouldn't say anything to her parents, though. That is the teacher's job if they feel so inclined to do so.
Why isn't the teacher of the class saying something as it happens? nm
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We should all be as "low class"
You go girl. I've been in a funk and you just inspired me to look around and see that it's not all that bad. I have my own home, I have pets that I adore most of the time, I have a great family. No kids, but never wanted them. My neighbors are great and most of the time I like what I do to earn a living.
Everything else is just outside distraction.
I took a class and was very surprised...
I knew the actual delivery would hurt, but really had no idea how badly the contractions would hurt. I am really not sure what I expected, but not the gut wrenching pain that I got. I did make it through 48 hours of very difficult labor before I opted for the epidural, though.
where I am they teach this class in 5th grade + up...
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Burping and Passing Gas in class
I am seeing a lot about this being the fault of the parent. I can say if it is or is not because I do not personally know this child in question; however, my mom works in a mirco biology lab where stool samples are tested and this is a true story . . . one day they had a stool sample explode in the holding chamber because of the high gas content. It literally exploded all over the lab. I can only imagine this patient had terrible gas pains and probably it is safe to assume he passed gas because of something of a medical nature. I think we need to know all sides of the story before judging anyone.
So true. Everyone should sit in on a class for one month and
hjk
Thank you. Couldn't agree more. No class.
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I am teaching an adult class sm
but will use this same lesson when we start back with our weekly youth meetings in the fall. I got the idea for this lesson from Fannie Flagg's book Can't Wait to Get to Heaven. The book is obviously fiction but has a "quirky" (most all the characters in the book are quirky-think Mayberry) person's take on heaven when she dies for just a short time and visits heaven. The book is a wonderfully funny read (just a few swear words but it is very clean). I have read all of her books and thoroughly enjoyed them all. Thank you for responding.
SS Class for Married Couples
I don't know if this will help, but our church calls ours the Homebuilders class. You could also just call it the Married Couples Sunday School class LOL or the OB&C class (Old Ball and Chain). Depends on your church's sense of humor I suppose!
So true..IMHO low class. nm
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Food handlers class
should also have taught you that mayonnaise contains eggs and it does, in fact, go bad . . . many a picnic turned into a trip to the ER
What exactly is considered Middle Class?
Unless I heard wrong last night, during the debate, $250,000 is considered "Middle" class. I don't think so.
Anyone?
Take a sewing class, and take the machine - sm
with you. There you will learn how to use it and how to sew too. I have been sewing since I took home-ec in 7th grade. I have a Singer that is about 20 years old or more. It is a pretty basic one with about 12 different stitch types. Have never had an issue. Sounds like you don't have the bobbin in right or wound wrong, and the tension too tight too. The tension is adjusted with the different fabrics you use, and the thread of course. But sounds like you need a simple "how to sew" class. Call a local craft store and see what they offer. Even one private lesson would probably do you a world of good. Good luck.
Does your community have a dog obedience class? -(sm)-
Not only do you get great training for yourself and your dog, but it's also FUN for you and your dog. You can meet lots of nice people (and dogs) that way, too.
When I was a teenager, my friend and I took our dogs to a class that was held in our local park every Saturday, and we had a blast.
Another option, with a different approach, is watching tapes by the 'Dog Whisperer'. My sister adopted a puppy from the pound that got VERY big, VERY fast! She adopted the Dog-Whisperer's 'be the leader of the pack' approach, which has worked very well for her dog. (It's a cross between a golden retriever and an alaskan malamute.... BIG doggie!)
Most obedience classes use a choke-chain (NOT a spike-collar!) and a 6-foot regulation leather leash as training aids. My sister used a little dog-halter that goes on the head called a 'Gentle Leader'. I was amazed at how well her dog learned to walk at her side and not pull. She has now graduated to just a regular collar, but my sister carries the Gentle Leader with her for those occasional times then her dog gets a little excited and needs a reminder.
Either way is an enjoyable, easy and most of all, humane way of leash-training a dog, and the results were excellent. I was particularly impressed by how my sister's dog turned out. Some of her dogs in the past have been pretty wild and crazy - this dog is the sweetest, most well-behaved dog I've ever met. She can take that dog ANYWHERE: The dog park, downtown on crowded sidewalks, to work (has her own business), parades, you name it.
It might be harder and take longer to get results with an older dog with already-established naughty habits, but I think that with time, patience and persistence, you can make a lot of positive changes.
Good luck! :)
Time for another diabetes education class.
That's why most doctors send their diabetics to classes - because the rules have changed from their pre-diabetic days.
I had a medical ethics class a year ago and
The topic was centered around how far we should go with reproductive assistance.
After examining the issue, discussing implications, and much thought and my own soul searching, I made a big change of mind.
I decided to change my position to being against any reproductive technique that does not allow a couple to become pregnant through natural means. No artificial insemination. No saving eggs or sperm for later implantation. Only surgery or techniques performed on an individual that allow them to procreate in a natural manner.
So much was involved with the decision on my stance and it was a difficult one because I know people personally that this would affect. I guess that is why we have varying opinions.
Scorching topic.
? for not happy about daughter in swim class sm
I was just wondering how things turned out? Hope you got good results.
Trose: Update on swimming class
Funny you should bring this up again. I sent the gym teacher an email the night of the 19th and she never responded until today, AFTER I sent her another email with a copy to the district office asking her why she had not responded.
She basically said that she didn't realize that her direct questioning and her "simple suggestion" was "too direct for someone who was apparently over-sensitive."
Offered no apology, nothing. Her reply was not copied to the district office so I replied to her with a copy to the district office so her response went to them also.
Since this incident last Wednesday, I have learned that this is certainly not an isolated incident but the kids were basically too scared to say anything about it. They feared that if they complained, she would fail them and has apparently threatened to do so.
Basically, it is still unresolved. My daughter is back to swimming today so we will see if there are any further comments tonight when she gets home.
I hope the teacher is at least reprimanded by the school district and maybe given some training on how to handle delicate situations with young girls going through the beginnings of puberty.
High school class rings - how much is too much?...
I just about fell out of my chair when my junior brought me the price list from the school for class rings. Most began at $250 with just a few in that price range. Ouch - someone is getting rich!
I'm trying to figure out a budget for a ring for her and have sent her to research places like walmart.com What do you think is a reasonable budget for a ring?
I ruminated about being called low class last night....
and actually went to bed tossing and turning because I felt pretty crappy after reading that. I felt sad and then I felt tweeked for letting two little words upset me like that.
I simply try to bring a little humor to the table...sometimes it's light humor, sometimes dark, sometimes just plain icky. If I can make someone forget about their problems for just a minute or two, well that makes me happy. I would never ever put someone down the way you did, and I feel good about knowing that about me. So poop on you....you meanie.
I agree. The Goldman family is a class act. They
deserve justice for their son and this is finally a feather in their cap. The sight of that moron Simpson makes my blood boil. Mr. personality can now give that big Colgate smile to his cell mate in prison. How will he ever continue the search he said he would be on to find the real killer of Nicole and Ron now that he will be incarcerated? What a joke and what ignorance of the people who let him slip through the first time around.
School decided to make a new class/2/3rd graders
I get a message on my phone this weekend from principal saying my daughter was selected to be put in a 2/3 grade class. She is in 2nd grade. I think personally something else is up. Why such a great class being formed in January??? and why call on the weekend? She's not that upset about it, but we just moved to the area and this starts this morning. So now she had to meet new friends and now new friends again. Not sure how I should handle this. I'm upset, but at same time, might not be a bad thing. I do want to let them know I'm not pleased though.
Anyone who tells others that "they run in higher class circles" sm
says a lot. And the fact that you would call another person you don't even know a jerk also says tons about you. Sounds like WAYY too much guilt to me. Get help ASAP
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