p.s. to "first stone"
Posted By: Just so we're clear. on 2008-09-18
In Reply to: The first stone, anonymissy. - sm
Would I do it again? Yes, I would. I never wanted children & am glad I don't have them now.
If I had felt or known then what I think and feel now, would I have had a kid and given it up? No, I wouldn't have. Even though I have a huge amount of respect for someone who can do this, it's just not my path.
Would I have gotten "spayed"? No, I wouldn't have. Not at 16, not even at 20. At the time I still thought I might change my mind in my 30s or whenever, but as it turned out, I never did.
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Yes! Met my hubby that way. Very successful for us. 10 years now. We were one of the "first"
wasn't very popular back then and so initially our friends and family were shocked and against it. We knew in our hearts that it was true love...still is after 10 years.
I did, however, a few months after we finally met in person, find photos and letters from other girls he had tried to "meet." I was crushed. I should have figured I wasn't the only one, but I wanted to believe that anyway. He did tell me I was the best looking and overall the best one out of all he had met, so that made me feel great....
He's an amazing man. I'm so lucky.
Stick and stone...seriously! sm
My dad worked with a guy who named his boys stick and stone. Didn't believe him until one day I was working at a shoestore and was fitting some kids for their shoes and mom said, "stick and stone, get over here and sit down!" I about died! I had to run to the back room real quick to hide my laughter.
The first stone, anonymissy.
Get spayed?? For goodness' sake. Your vitriol must leave the constant taste of caca in your mouth. I don't envy you.
This all happened almost 40 years ago. I'd say I've forgiven myself, but I have never thought--& still don't think--I had anything to be forgiven for. I made a difficult decision. Period. I'm just sharing my experience, but I certainly didn't do it so that some board-lurking wack job with her own very serious self-forgiveness issues could flame me.
I always say, when people have such an extreme reaction it's coming out of their own pain. Whatever it is, you should get therapy or something, before it totally takes you over, although from the sound of it, it sounds like it's probably too late for that.
This was my experience, for better or for worse. I think anyone who can give a child up for adoption is absolute saint. Abortion is not easy, but I'll be the first to guess that giving up a child is much, much harder.
But I was not that person then. I was an out-of-control teenager. Speculating on how I would have behaved if I'd known then what I know now is pointless. At the time I knew nothing. The reality of the situation did not really touch me then, other than the fear of disruption of my life. I would imagine a lot of teenagers who get pregnant feel the same way, & one of the reasons I'm saying all this is so that if anyone comes into contact with such a girl, you can have a perspective on what she might be thinking. Or not thinking, as the case may be.
So, anonymissy, to answer your questions, I guess you would call them:
1. You need to tell me what a troll is, so I can tell you if I am one or not.
2. I'm not a liar, I really did have 4 abortions over my entire reproductive life, which is now over. I did not use abortions as birth control, in the sense that I did not plan any of the pregnancies, and for 2 of them I was actually on BC - once with an IUD and once with a diaphragm. The other 2 times I gambled & lost, but that kind of heat-of-passion decision making has been happening since the beginning of time, & to people a lot more mature than I was then.
3.Dysfunctional...hmmm. Well, let's see. Like I said, I'm not a liar. When I read a post by someone who is trying to make an honest statement on a board, who is making herself vulnerable by giving up very personal information in the hopes that someone in a similar situation or worse, & who has not been able to forgive herself, can maybe do that -- when I read such a post I don't pour gasoline on that person & light them on fire. I suppose you could say that all young, hormone-addled teenagers are dysfunctional, so in that sense I suppose you are right. But now? No.
As for you, I would say you really ARE dysfunctional. I think the venom with which you responded to my post says everything anyone needs to know about you. That there is something you need to punish yourself for, regardless of your posts to the contrary, & you that are projecting that punishment onto someone else; burning yourself in effigy, sort of.
Saaay laaaa veeeee, man. It takes all kinds.
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