oops, forgot to mention a couple of things
Posted By: AmericanMT on 2008-10-16
In Reply to: What constitutes being 'saved'? Adherence to - one group's religious dogma? - sm
It doesn't really make sense to call yourself a Christian if you deny what Christ himself said. H*ll does exist.
Also, if you really are asking what I mean to be saved, I will share. I does not mean adhering to a dogma. It means having recognized your own sinful nature and accepted Christ's death on the cross as having paid the price for your sin. That is what we mean when we say Christ died for us. We can live forever in paradise with him because God sacrificed his son, Jesus, on the cross, to take the place for each individual person so that they can live forever. Christ died so that I may live. Christ rose again and won victory over death.
Being saved is accomplished through faith in Christ.
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I forgot to mention 2 other things
A screaming child cannot hear you if you whisper, so if you speak so softly they have to turn down their own volume to hear you, you get rewarded with some quiet. You can also tell them you can't hear them unless they speak quietly as well. When my GD is watching TV, talking over it and my headphones are in my ears, I about go nuts! I have started telling her lately that I need her to be quiet when my 'ears' are in so I can 'hear the voices in my head' LOL!
The other thing is talking about trust. "I want pancakes now!" and your response is "I'm in the middle of doing such and such...I can make pancakes for you tomorrow morning. Will you trust me to do that for you then?" Explain that trust means believing you will keep your word. That also works both ways. If you want good behavior on a shopping trip, talk about needing to trust him to behave on the trip and if he does, reward that trust.
I know that there is no one way to raise a child and you just have to do the best you can. Sounds like you have your plate full...I can SO relate to having to try different things. My little one has an oppositional defiant personality (sounds a bit like your 3 yo!) so it really does take trial and error to find a good balance. Best of luck to you. :)
Oh, forgot to mention....
there was absolutely no need for prepainting, Kiltz or anything. The job turned out really good and neither 1 professional. All you have to do is buy white indoor paint or whatever color you want.
forgot to mention--sm
if you go to rembrandt's website, you can view Griffin House video of *Waterfall*, plus hear some others of his music. In case anyone else wants to hear what I am so excited about. he he.
forgot to mention
that we did this for less than two weeks and they started to turn black and fall off. You need to make sure that you tape it on there really good so that the acid can work its magic with the tape keeping the air from the area.
Forgot to also mention
Black Beauty. I was an absolute nut for horses when I was a young girl. 
I forgot to mention
it was suggested to me throughout this process that the cat could have a urinary tract infection. I guess it is common that they will use the litter box and other places if this is the case. You can buy litter that changes colors to see if there is an infection. It's very difficult to get a sample from them. I found the litter at Wal-Mart.
Forgot to mention this...sm
I used to have sugar and lots of it in my coffee, and I just couldn't stand the taste of the sweeteners but I gave it a try anyway. One day at the Dunkin Donuts I switched and asked for Equal in my coffee and now I don't use sugar at all. I even tried Splenda but didn't lose any weight for about two months and I was getting sugar lows. I switched back from Splenda to Equal and dropped seven pounds that week after not dropping anything for two months.
Forgot to mention
that he quit having his paycheck direct deposited into our joint account, and I had just sent a house payment, so now there's nothing left there. "His lawyer" (He also lied to me about hiring one.) supposedly told him he should be paying child support. That, to me means putting money in that account, even if he's not using it. It's in both of our names, so shouldn't we both be able to use it for stuff for the kids, if nothing else?
Tonight, his mom kept telling us it wasn't fair that he should have to come here to see the kids. She kept talking about how I "wasn't being fair" to him. Well, was it fair that I had to leave my home and my life because I couldn't stand to be treated that way anymore. I talked to a pastor about it even, who asked me why I didn't respect myself more (before we left) I told her the alternative sucked, too.
I don't really know what resources are available, but I am in counseling, so that has helped a lot.
Forgot to mention
When you live in a remote location, sometimes what they call off-grid living is actually cheaper.
Composting toilets can replace septic tanks, though not necessarily cheaper, just without hooking up to water supplies or requiring re-digging the hole in 10-20 years when the original septic reaches the end of its lifespan.
Solar water heater.
Solar or wind powered well pump.
Solar electricity for household power.
Propane tank and propane powered appliances.
Just some ideas for you.
http://www.lehmans.com/ is an awesome source for off-grid living (like the Amish)
Hayseed you forgot to mention
that if you were Pres you would do away with outsourcing MT jobs and increase our salaries and bennies and ensure that we all got mandatory 4 weeks paid vacation every year! I know you were thinking it, you just overlooked!  Hayseed for President!
I forgot to mention the site :-)
http://tinyurl.com/6jsn6e
BTW, I forgot to mention, when you try the plunger before....sm
turning the water off (if this doesn't work and you have to take the pipe loose) add some water in the sink so the plunger builds up some movement with the water and may break loose whatever is hung up in the sink.
I forgot to mention what the first study was about.
They had people wear clean white t-shirts for a day and then had people of the opposite gender sniff the shirts. They had to choose the shirts that smelled good. Then ALL the people got together and mingled. The result of the study indicated that people wound up singling out the owners of the shirts they found attractive.
Forgot to mention I was waiting to see Michael Flatley and SM
after I picked the pan up he came on! That dance almost made the carpet deal with it!
Also forgot to mention - we do not have the 2-hour delay in our district.
Oh, forgot to mention saw hubby on Comedy Central 1 night with
of all persons, Andy Kaufman. People might remember him from Taxi and 1 time he decided he would go into wresting and surprised to see him and my husband in a match on the Comedy channel! Andy also decided to wrestle with women for awhile before his demise in his early life.
Oops, forgot
never was on hormones, had decided years ago not to take, was admonished by one physician in time past I should, so glad I didn't. As I knew, say in the 70s, hormones had some bad press in relation to cancer.
Oops and let's not forgot Derek - Jeter that is - YUM! nm
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sorry. forgot to mention Linda Chavez is in refernce to threads about high food prices.
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I say there are a couple of things to look at....
1. What would the apartment or extended hotel cost? I'd look at the latter because a lot of people use them when they commute. With gas being $3/gallon and him making a 4 hour total commute a day it is probably cheaper to do this.
2. With his job, is there any way he can change his work hours to avoid the worst of the traffic?
3. If it were my husband I'd probably be willing to do it just until we moved because I wouldn't want to drive 4 hours a day myself! However, I would miss him being at home but we'd talk a lot on the phone while he'd be at the place he's sleeping at.
couple things
maybe get a prepaid? i did that when i first got a cell and would buy the minimal minutes and they would last for like three months, but had to purchase more minutes before the time ran out or the number would change and the minutes would run out. when i purchased more minutes, the other minutes were added to the the ones i bought.. hope that made sense.
also, i have heard that you can have a phone and not have any service, yet still be able to dial 911 and get through.
Well I see a couple of things here (sm)
You may not like all of my answer but take it from someone who knows from growing up in a "blended" family. The one who is "not your grandson" is obviously jealous of the attention you give his brother and is resentful at having to babysit his brother when he is only 8 years old. 8 year olds don't know how to babysit and discipline a 6 year old sibling - they don't even know how to take care of themselves! I have an 8-and-a-half year old. No way would she ever be in charge of another child or be left alone. I am assuming the dad of the 6-year-old is your son? WTH is wrong with him and his wife? I know if you say much to them about the way they are raising their children it may cause a problem but they need to be in charge of the household. It sounds like the 8-1/2 year old is expected to practically raise his half-brother. Doesn't sound very fair to me. I'd probably be ticked off too. Why don't you try getting there earlier on Sat if you know they are up and inviting both children to visit with you together? That might be a good place to start.
A couple of things.......... sm
Without having read what the other posters replied, I will tell you that there is no such thing as a painless divorce, especially when children are involved. I went through an almost identical scenario to what you have portrayed a number of years ago, and it was likely the biggest mistake of my life.
I deprived my children of their father on a more accessible basis. They do see him every other weekend when he picks them up to take them to spend the weekend with his "new family", a witch of a wife and a spoiled brat step son who gets everything he wants while my kids get nothing. My oldest did not even get a Christmas gift, not even a shirt, while my youngest got a second-hand hunting bow that was purchased from the spoiled brat stepson because he wanted the cash rather than the bow.
As far as your children's feelings for their father, make doubly sure that you are not projecting your feelings onto them. You don't say how old your girls are, but I am assuming they are under the age of 18 since you want to be with them on your own. Chances are there are more feeelings for their father than you care to admit to, and don't make the mistake of thinking that he will be out of your lives forever because he is still their father and has a legal right to see them unless there is some legal reason why he should not. You will still share future celebrations with him....graduations, weddings, grandchildren, etc.
Another consideration that I underestimated was the financial support of my children. While my ex-husband and I did't have a very big combined income, at least we didn't have to make tough choices between putting gas in a vehicle and paying the electric bill, etc. While my ex does pay child support, it is not a large amount, and if something comes up, he might be a little late with it which can throw my whole financial picture into a tailspin. Also remember that some men just won't pay child support and eventually end up running away as dead beat dads or going to jail if/when they are caught which also means no child support.
This post probably sounds blunt and uncaring, but I can tell you that I have been there and done that. I was selfish enough to believe that what I wanted was more important than what my children needed. Unless your husband is some sort of deviant and should not be around the children (mine was not, I was just unhappy), then I suggest you study long and hard before making this very important decision. As adults, we should put our children's lives first and our happiness second. I know I wish I had. It's not the bed of roses you might imagine it to be.
I bought a couple of things already...
not much. I used to try to be done by October, but that doesn't happen anymore. Last year, I will still shopping up until the week before, but the sales are AWESOME!
Explaining a couple of things sm
I studied IQ as part of my Master's degree. Another poster mentioned that the higher one's IQ is the less likely they are to be happy. From my own research, this is quite true. It is also true that the higher one's IQ, the less likely they are to succeed in education, in a job, in relationships and in life. No one will "get" you because your sense of humor is probably well off the beaten track. You probably lack social skills from an early age. Your peers would play childhood games while you preferred to try to improve upon the toys they played with. In school, you didn't have to work very hard in most areas. It all came very easily. You didn't learn how to learn, which is a very valuable skill. You probably have a low frustration level and when something doesn't come very easily, you are prone to giving up. Because you see the world in completely different terms than people of more average intelligence, those same average people call you crazy or mentally ill and tell you that you should be locked up. You don't fit in and despite the higher intelligence, you are remiss to know how to accomplish the feat of being more ordinary.
I alluded to this in my previous post. I have the unusual combination of being very artistic, creatively gifted AND being rather intellectually gifted. Yes, I did fall at the 99.6% percentile on the Wechsler. I know what it means and I have a firm understanding that indeed, that score suggests that I possess more intelligence than 99.6% of the people who have taken that test, and only 0.4% are "smarter" than I am. It has been a life-long struggle to fit in. I am too cerebral for artistic people, and too artistic for intellectuals. I literally have no one I fit in with. I have learned to tone myself down to make it work. I didn't say dumb down, I said tone down. That means I don't intentionally talk over the heads of others and I won't cram what I know down anyone's throat.
I have had those people in my life who have been jealous of me. I learn quickly if it is artistic, musical, creative, the written word, history and philosophy. I struggle with math. I took piano lessons 10 years ago. I had 40 of them and had never played the piano before. In 40, 1-hour lessons I could play the Moonlight Sonata in piano solo (not a dumbed down easy version). Most people cannot do that. There many other things I have done in a similar fashion, but this is an example for you.
You ask why I am an MT if I am so smart. I make very good money as an MT and I enjoy the challenge. My photographic memory comes in very handy too. I often stop and read up on a disease process I am transcribing about, so that I know what it means. Show me a word once and I'll know it forever. It makes my job easier for me to accomplish.
This all sounds like I am blowing my own horn, but I am merely trying to explain. Being highly intelligent won't pay the bills because there is no automatic grant for people who test very high. Being highly intelligent doesn't mean you won't have to do the laundry, cook supper, wipe your own backside, make your own bed and take out your own stinky trash. It frankly doesn't mean that much on a day to day basis. Certainly, I have confidence in my ability to learn new things and that is a comfort to me as an MT. I can rely on myself in that way. Being highly intelligent didn't prevent me from having 3 autoimmune disorders. It has not helped with my household organizational skills, which are basically nil, and I find I am so distracted that being "really smart" is not only not helpful, I think it is the root of the housecleaning issues in my life.
In short, it is just great to have a good ol' high number and in the end it makes absolutely difference...if you don't count the fact that people with IQs over 150 are 3 times more likely to be depressed and commit suicide than the average population. People who are 125 to 140 are the most fortunate. They succeed in greater numbers in school, in a job, in life. They are very bright, and likely have learned how to learn. They are more likely to persevere in the face of frustration and challenge.
It really isn't all you think it is.
I left a couple of things off my original post...sm
1. I will wear this bracelet because of the thought of the time she took finding it and the parts for it. Usually she gets me things I do enjoy for gifts.
2. We do have a great relationship. Her mom died when she was small and we're close. I know I'm lucky that we have a good relationship.
For those who slammed me and thought I was ungrateful - I'm sure you've all over time received gifts that you weren't wild about (hence all of the returns/exchanges at stores after Christmas). As I said, my other gifts were great ones and things that are of the caliber I like.
Go to Wal-Mart and buy a couple of those stretchy hand things with Velcro straps that go around
2 for about 10 bucks. Similar to the Hand-Eze gloves but better (because of the velcro strap) and way cheaper and easier to find. And yes, you can work in them.
Oops the movie is 1408, I guess MT stars doesn't like things in quotation marks. nm
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Wow, a couple of people need to take a couple of happy pills!
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I've heard good things and about things about taking prednisone. My mom was on it for SM
for awhile and it made her look so swollen. I sympathize with you.
And not to mention
that the Feds are always illegally targeting and collecting info on individuals who have done nothing wrong. Which is why our Mayor of Portland opted out of the Terrorism Task Force- he knew they had a history of doing this and without being given the security clearance to be able to oversee his cops and be sure our civil liberties were protected he was not going to have any part of it.
And God help you if they have erroneous information on you-you could be turned away from boarding a flight because of that, God knows what else, and trying to fix it will make correcting your credit report seem like a breeze.
And then there is past history to go on- The TSA promised not to and then turned around and collected millions of personal records to test its Secure Flight pasenger screening program.
When Bush was trying to sell the Patriot Act he specifically said that wire tap requires a court order, that nothing had changed there. We all know what that was worth.
And yes, the feds will blackmail the states into complying by pulling funding for all kinds of necessary services. They did it to Portland when we were the only city in the country who had the audacity to not follow the script.
Brief novel, but must mention...
Watched an MSNCB special the other day (couple years old) about a lady who's hubby was burned beyond recognition (12 pounds left) in a car crash. She got $150,000. She had an infant and a 4y/o from prior marriage. Within short period of time she had new BF. "Jake". 4y/o started showing out. Family curious. ?'s asked. They faked the death. Jake was the husband, with just a hair color change. Dug up a mentally handicapped elderly lady's body from her grave and put it in car and sent it over cliff. That lady's last wishes was that she not be cremated!
Reason behind them faking the death, not insurance money...He was fixing to serve time for raping his niece and they did not want it to ruin his life because he would have to register as a sex offender after that! She saw no wrong in this. Did not see anything wrong with desacrating the grave, said that was "just a body". Did not even seem to think she did wrong by telling child his father (step) was dead and then bringing him back with a different name. People are sick.
Moral of that story...You never know!
How odd you should mention that
 I was just telling a friend last night I was thinking of just loading the dog in the car with me and taking off a few days. I just got out of a 28 year marriage and think it would be lots of fun! Let me know how it turns out for you. Best of luck!
Just to mention
I just read on the internet that Helio's fiancee of 6 years broke it off, maybe the poster below asking if he has a brother, does not need a brother, maybe she can go for the real thing!
Did I mention...
You sound so much like me! And I am 36 also! I am already dreading the daughter-in-law thing! You know with girls, they always want their moms around, with boys, it is pretty much up to whoever he marries! I wanna babysit the grandkids! Time to kiss butt to the new daughter-in-law, hope I like her!!!! Does anyone have any recommendations as far as good companies to work for? You know, not too big, with good QA people. I don't need fulltime or benefits. Thanks for any info!
Funny you should mention that
When my son confronted me about Santa (I forget his age but had to be older than 7) and I told him the truth, he was outright mad, but more so, hurt. "You lied to me." I felt absolutely horrible.
But I guess it's a tradition that we parents do *for the kids,* but I wonder if it's not for us.
We love to see their faces when they believe there might be some real magical fantasy person out there...
Not sure how my daughter (7 years younger than my son) took the news. I think she heard it through the grapevine and still plays along for my sake -- she's 19 LOL.
I seriously do not think it's wrong to not do the Santa thing, but I don't think it's appropriate subject matter for the classroom... hope my son never becomes a primary education teacher!!
not to mention philodendron (sp), as well..sm
main reason why I do not have live houseplants in the house. Cats will eat them out of instinct. I get grass plants for the cats, and maybe an occasional cat nip plant. (love to watch that!). Holly is deadly, as well. Poinsettas, too. Too many to think about.
You did not mention if he is neutered or not, if not
t could definitely be stud tail. If he is neutered, it would not be. To treat stud, a bath is usually in order. Believe it or not, to ready my stud male for a show, I put mayo on that area, rub it in and wipe it off with paper towels for a few days before his show bath, then his bath comes out really nice and he is nice and silky.
You're welcome, don't mention it..*S*..sm
and again, try to have a relaxing weekend - good news can be celebratory!!! CYA next week!!! 
because you mention paleontology
. . . this is one of those friends cousins exboyfriends brother-in-laws best friend had a buddy whose wife once knew someone who . . . 
you get the idea, but the owner of a security company I worked for went to college with David Schwimmer.
someone much closer to me has eaten lunch with Wayne Williams (YIKES!)
P.S. I currently am without the apostrophe, so please pardon the above.
You didn't mention their age sm
If they are under 10 years of age, I would hesitate to get them real diamonds because, even though I am sure they would be very careful and take good care of them, there is always the chance that they might lose them. And here I'm not concerned with the value so much as how bad they would feel about losing them.
There are some really beautiful semiprecious stones out there - garnets are my favorite, deep, deep red. Also topaz, jade, pearl - lots of choices.
JMHO. I think it is really nice of you to want to give these girls a gift, and I don't see anything inappropriate about it at all. I have recently been reunited with some family members who have children and believe me on the children's birthdays I plan to get them something VERY nice!
You did not mention if a father of your son
is around or involved in any way. I think your first attention should be towards your son, not the BIL because apparently your child is doing some acting out and it tends to escalate. When parents of young children oohing and aahing about them, I think about how it turns like your story now a lot of times. I had somewhat similar bad behavior (although never went against my telling no), some drugs involved. I just told my son would send to my daddys home- would have been worse than prison for him and I knew that- ole timer- early to bed and early to rise, take no junk type person. My son turned around because I always told both my children I did not have time for crap- I had to work and make a living for them and I would never put up with backtalking, walking away and doing what they thought they could so, swearing, hitting or the like.
Funny you mention this - (sm)
My parents were telling me about their neighbors, and I thought it was a cute story. These people moved in maybe 18 months ago and have a son, about 11 years old. This little guy came by to see my dad, who was working outside. Pretty soon he announced that he was good at that kind of work too, apparently wanting my dad to give him something to do! This amused my dad because that's how my older brother was. So he put the kid to work, helping him out in his spotlessly beautiful yard. Pretty soon the kid's parents came over and kept chatting with my parents, not leaving. Finally my mom asked if they would like to come in for a glass of wine, and apparently that's what they were waiting for, because they said SURE and went right in the house for some indoor socializing. Sometimes people are just waiting for an invitation I guess.
funny you should mention it
My daughter, who is 39, is hooked on it also after being at a party where they snuck it from the 8 year old kids!!
Funny you should mention it!
I was at a birthday party Saturday night and "Rotel Dip" was served among many other things. Needless to say, it was the hit of the night! (By the way, I am in Texas!)
I was going to mention Target as well
My daughter had a doll but we bought a lot of furniture and clothing over the years at Target and she was tickled with it. How old is the person you are shopping for?
I should mention that it is very time
consuming and can be messy, but we had great success with it. I did it on Sat. morning so we would have plenty of time. I also used Danorex shampoo on them the night before I did the Cetaphil. Wet hair and massage in, cover head with plastic bag and let set for 20 mins, then rinse out. If they withstand the stinging from the shampoo, it will kill live lice. Then we did the Cetaphil treatment.
Wow, I remember that, too, now that you mention it. sm
I don't so much remember seeing people smoking, but I remember cigarette butts being on the ground pretty much everywhere, and I was a kid in the ྂs. I also remember people going barefoot in public a lot more, including the grocery store. To this day I still call it "Winn-Dixie feet" when somebody has dirty feet!
not to mention exhausted!
I might give it a try if it also included a 7 day challenge for housework! lol
Funny you should mention this
I threatened my 14-year-old daughter with both of them yesterday when we saw them side by side at the drugstore. LOL.
I did NOT mention in my above post
that circumcision is necessary for hygiene. I was asserting the exact opposite: that it is NOT necessary for hygiene. And I said that because we perform this procedure in a sterile environment, we have duped ourselves as a culture into thinking that it is less barbaric.
Cleanliness is easy: Pull back the foreskin in the shower & rinse away the smegma, & voila. Lack of soap & water is the sorriest excuse for surgery I've ever heard, & don't go quoting statistics about cancer unless you are prepared to take on the AAP. I'm just the messenger.
Of course you're going to fight the concept that you've been duped & that children have suffered as a result. I hardly blame you.
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