ok, sorry-I didn't realize you don't work for them...

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  but I also think you, as a grandparent, can supply all the info to CS....my situation was entirely different and I'm sorry I didn't realize you were the grandparent before I posted...

And God Bless you for taking responsibility for your grandkids, my parents would have done zippo!!     

This does not mean you cannot seek further counseling throughout one's life.......for whatever a situation is/becomes.......just because it didn't work with the husband, doesn't mean you cannot seek more out for YOURSELF and your children........forget him, he's a lost cause (passive-aggressives often are)....they are nothing but finger-pointers (blamers) and it's never at themselves.  It's a waste of time to be with one, you/one merely only loses their self-esteem in those types of *relationships*..........

Best luck!!

I had a holy faded T-shirt with Tweety bird (you could barely see him anymore!) and a pair of baggy sweat pants that I wore with big pink fuzzy house slippers!  Until I got caught several times with a little old lady from my church stopping by to say high, salesman knocking on the door, and the final straw was my nice looking neighbor stopping buy to borrow my ladder.  I finally decided perhaps I should brush my teeth and come my hair just in case!

Now, I get up every morning, take a shower, fix my hair, and put on my makeup.  Then I get the kids off to school and I sit down and work.  I have found that, believe it or not, I am way more productive than I used to be.  I'm not distracted thinking about when am I going to make time for a shower.  I still wear jeans and a T-shirt and my house slippers, but now no one can catch me looking like a worn out old hag anymore.    And now that I'm single, well ya never know when you might bump into Mr. Right.

have an unstable dog, but you realize it because the first unprovoked attack was a deadly one?  Too late. 

I think you are being irresponsible if you ever let anyone step foot in your house if it causes your dog to feel anxious.  You are tempting fate, my friend.

Its usually the case that "grandma" keeps the extended family together.  It happened when my grandma died, and will happen again on a smaller scale when my mother dies.  She's the one they all kept in contact with, the one that knew where everybody went and what they're up to.  Talking to her you got to hear about the whole family (whether you felt like it or not).  So now she's gone, people will drift off, lose touch, stop having big family gatherings with her at the center.  Kiss half your cousins goodbye, because by the next funeral, nobody will know how to get in touch with them any more.  I'd say they're mourning for the family in general, because things will probably never be the same again with the center gone.

At least in Mississippi and Lousiana part....they may have rebuilt some hotels but the surrounding locality looks like a war zone; most of the boat docks and walking/fishing piers were completely destroyed and probably haven't been rebuilt, and many of the cute local beach restaurants are gone.  It might be educational re Katrina damage if that's what you're after...but it's not what I'd call a happy place to vacation at this time.

is there someone close to the both of you that could be present when you tell him.  Ordinarily, I would recommend meeting him in a public place, but in this case, since it is a financial affair, I wouldn't recommend that.  However, if there is someone you are both close to, perhaps you could have them present (even if only in the other room) while you tell him. 

Another possibility may be to discuss this with your in-laws first.  Again, I wouldn't ordinarily recommend this, but they appear to already be involved in your financial matters since you borrowed the money from them for the car.  Depending on their reaction, perhaps you could all sit down together and they could help you work this out. 

If all else fails, call your attorney and schedule a meeting where he will mediate.  I would not tell this man alone in person.  It doesn't sound like a safe thing to do.

until after she was pregnant.  We adopted her or she adopted us.  I do plan on getting her fixed.