ohhh, princess in an uproar! Poor DH!

how helpless can you be!

• For those of you who have paid help with the house .. - Please advise me here (sm)
  • paid help - marilyn
  • My MIL used to do all her own cleaning... - I vote for cleaning service
    • This is very interesting on this topic - See link inside
  • I had a house cleaner... - Oh gosh
  • Nope. That's more than an hour's work - Misha
    • BTW, the company I advise you - Misha
  • Thank you to all; I have a teen here in my complex who wants to do it. - Please advise me here (sm)
    • Then you're lucky!! Yes! I would hire her to do it and I think $15 is great! (nm) - NCMT
  • I think that is doable, but like the others i doubt you will find someone willing with the cost of g - LMT
    • I think she said in her post that it was a teenager in her neighborhood. - LinK
  • I highly doubt you'll get someone to do all of that for - $15.00 an hour.
  • I think you'll have a hard time finding someone who will (sm) - NCMT
    • Am agreeing with you about only hr each day - Angie

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I, too, feel badly for you.  I personally don't think you sound like the kind of woman who could live with what will most definitely come, and sooner than you think.  I'm not here to judge whatever you decide.  Just know that we're all very sorry for your situation. Betrayal is probably the worst thing I've ever had to endure, whether from a friend or in any area of life.  But I must agree based on where I've been in life that he's down-playing the sex. We all know anatomy well enough here that there was obviously some kind of pay-off here for him (hate to go "Dr. Phil" on ya, but you can't ignore this--he clearly wasn't thinking of you when he was in the arms of another woman)!  You didn't mention exactly how you learned of this.  Did you find out on your own?  If so, that would speak volumes in my world.  If that's the case, I can't see where he had enough guilt to bring it to the table.  You also didn't mention the dynamics about this other woman.

I know from my own experience how many men cheat on their husbands, as I've been hit up on for as long as I can remember (and still am).   And trust me, the ones you'd never expect are out there doing it.  No, not all of them.  Fortunately there are some really decent men who don't.  I'm just jaded based on how many have just assumed that I was a player, too.  Whether it was at the hospital, the gym, or even the grocery store, I was amazed (and of course disgusted and disappointed).  Even more surprising to me was over the phone!  I could look like CIrcus Fat Lady and they still hit up on me!  Now how screwed up is that?

I had a boyfriend long before I got married who was behaving this way.  I'm ashamed that I even spoke to him after that!  Of course, we're friends now, but if he had it his way, he'd have me again (we're both married).  So that tells me nothing's changed.

I personally could never trust a man after this.  Only you can answer that, but I think you're in for a long, painful ordeal by dragging it out.  I learned long ago that no man is worth it, no matter how "good he looks on paper."  We can spin it anyway we want in our own minds to pacify ourselves.  I just know that I'm worth far more than any liar or cheater who could bring something back to my bed. That's a huge turn-off for me.  I'd personally cut my losses and move on and be a princess yourself.  You deserve that (heck, we all do)!

Either way, we're all here for you and will support you and help you through this.  What a horrible thing to learn so close to Christmas, bless your heart...

Please keep us updated on whatever it is you decide.  It's a very personal decision.  I'm just glad you felt you could reach out to us. 

Sorry I referred to him as female before.  (I've had too much coffee today - I seem to have energy, but no focus.)  It is stressful to try to watch them all the time and to be worrying about them all the time.  I sure hope he'll be okay. 

I actually meant to give you this website in my other post (like I said, no focus!)  It seems to cover pretty much everything about canine epilepsy, and I really like the advice way down near the bottom "Living With An Epileptic Pet."   http://www.canine-epilepsy.net/basics/basics_main.html

I think there are e-mail lists for people with epileptic pets too, which are probably very supportive and helpful. 

I wish you both well.  Please let us know how he's doing.   

When I lost a filling NOTHING took the pain away and I loaded up on as much Tylenol as was safe.  The best thing I found was liquid Anbesol, the strongest strength they make, soaked on a piece of cotton gauze...the kind with like a webbing around it, put right over the tooth.  I also remember staying plastered pretty much the whole time with whiskey high balls. 

I hope you feel better soon!  Nothing worse than dental pain, in my opinion.

He is just looking for love and now he is getting played by Donna (who in my opinion looks like a tramp and is acting like one).  I do agree that the look on Stephanie's face will be priceless...and then she will lunge at Donna and try to kill her....good times, good times!

I know exactly the humiliation she is feeling and can totally relate.  What that 'teacher' said and did is just wrong.  I can only hope she didn't mentally scar your daughter for the rest of her life. 

I got my first period when I was in junior high...was wearing a white skirt to boot.  I heard giggling and normal noise of all us students transferring to and from class but had no idea people were laughing at ME.  Finally, halfway through the day, an older girl who I had no idea who she was, pulled me into the bathroom and said that I may want to go to the nurse's office because there was blood all over the back of my skirt.  I actually took off my skirt, washed it in the TOILET WATER, and hid there the rest of the day until the final bus left and walked home, probably at least 5 miles, completely destroyed.

For such a 'normal' body function that no one should be surprised about, why on earth did no one bother to tell me about it, rather humiliate me like that?  ...and yes, it messed me up for life. 

That adult needs to have her naked behind paddled in public in front of all her peers to even come close to feeling the humiliation your daughter just felt.  Go right to the top and defend your poor daughter.

You must be heartbroken.  How sad!    You did the best you could.

and died from one.  He went to the vet that day and she put him on medication.  I called her and told her he was having more seizures and she said to double his medication.  That night, he had a seizure and did  not come out of it and died staring at me.  I felt so helpless that I could not do anything to help him.  I loved him so much.

Now I have another doed that is only 2-1/2 and he is having seizures about 1 every 3 months.  He gets very scared and I have to comfort him.  He wines and gets under my feet, can't stand up, drools, shivers and goes stiff.