not really regrets, but
Posted By: aln on 2007-06-14
In Reply to: Do regret any of the following - things?
I can see how much easier my life could have been had I chosen to get married a little later in life (I got married at 18), after having some independence first. I also think it could have been easier if I had chosen to have kids about 5 years or so later (waited nearly 5 years). Then again, I'm so glad all 3 of my kids have been sleeping through the night since I was about 29 years old. I don't know how those who have children later tolerate that part of it. I love my uninterrupted sleep.
Overall, though, I am blessed with 3 great kids and a husband of nearly 21 years. It has been very, very tough, but no regrets. :)
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No regrets to any of those.
Now ask me about regrets of letting my ass get as wide as it is or not getting braces when I was younger...or not becoming a pilot, or choosing the right Powerball numbers, or not being the inventor of the wheel....
regrets
I don't regret my first marriage or my 3 children through that marriage. They have brought me more joy than I ever imagined possible (I am blessed with great kids). I do regret that divorce though I had no control over it.
I do regret my 2nd marriage(a very short one) - and don't regret that divorce which I initiated. You live and learn I guess. I think at 49 I'm finally starting to get it right. 
No Regrets At All
I didn't get married until I was 30 and had my last child (2nd) at 41. I wouldn't change it for anything in the world. I'm very happy with my life,my husband and my daughters. It's sad that some people regret getting married and/or having children, although I don't know everyone's circumstances and I don't judge others because of that.
Regrets...
I guess I would say I regret my first marriage (I very young, we had 2 children, but he was a wife beater) but my kids would not be here if not for him...I regret my very short 2nd marriage (very nice guy, handsome, had a great job) he deserved someone better than me, he smothered me too much with love and I could not handle it...but then I would never have met husband # 3 who is wonderful, all that #2 was and more, but I am older and wiser now...this is it, no more husbands for me!
Regrets
Dum-Dum - What a wonderful philosophy! I'm struggling to get to that point myself. I went through two marriages/divorces with the same person - if anything, I regret taking so long to realize he simply cannot be the man I need - not won't, can't. I don't regret having my children, even though my youngest (the one I thought would be closest to me throughout life as she was in childhood) doesn't even acknowledge me now. I'm alone now - by choice - but I'm trying to have faith that doesn't necessarily have to be my situation for the rest of my life.
Absolutely no regrets! sm
My hubby and I have been married almost 20 years. We married when I was 20 and he 22. I look back now and think how young we were (our kids are 14 and 16)definitely no regrets there, but if either comes to me at the age of 20 saying they want to get married I will say No way in He!!. Not becuase mine is bad, actucally quite wonderful, but I now know the importance of getting an good education. I do regret not going to college.
Minor regrets
The only real regret I have is in believing him when he said he was going to "be a father" and stay home every time I tried to regain custody. The younger boy suffered for this because he was left home more often after the older was grown. No, he didn't try to take the kids right away. I think he waited until he saw I was completely overwhelmed with single parenting and then pounced, two years later. I have ABSOLUTELY NO REGRETS about leaving him!!! I never would have my 22 year healthy marriage and two kids with my present husband, who is a honey in every way, had I not left.
Any regrets leaving the Q?
They're getting on my last nerve, but there are those that say that being an MT is pretty much the same everywhere. I hope not; I'm tired of having multiple different hospitals during each shift.
No regrets whatsoever..sm
only wish I could have had it done 5-6 years sooner!
No regrets, chalk all up to experience. :-) (nm)
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Add one more "no regrets" to your list
My fibroids started to grow when I got pregnant and six months after I gave birth they were still huge (about the same size as yours - my doc said my uterus was about 16-week size). I had my hysterectomy at 34 and it was one of the best things I've ever done, health-wise. I had horrible periods since high school. I remember my mom picking me up from school and having to pull over to the side of the road so I could throw up.
Good luck to you. The main advice I would give is make sure you rest the FULL time your doc recommends. My incision actually wasn't that painful until I tried to do too much and pulled a muscle in it. Yeeeeouch!
So rest, take care, and you should be fine!
My best friend really regrets her dentures
She got them at age 45 - finds they feel too big for her mouth - triggering her gag reflex constantly. She had difficulty learning to eat with them - so she takes them out and hides when she eats so nobody will see her, and has had to radically alter what she eats. She told me it was the worst mistake she ever made in her life.
My cousin, on the other hand, loves hers and wishes she would have got them years ago. She was in constant pain and now is not.
Whatever you decide - good luck!
A very good friend of mine had ablation and no regrets.
She has no more periods. This is just a little over a year, and she was having very serious problems, had to have transfusion twice due to the heavy bleeds prior. She was willing to try this before hysterectomy, and it worked for her.
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