no i wasn't offended :) sm
Posted By: for believers only on 2008-08-04
In Reply to: I hope I didn't sound like... - sm
i feel like to each their own. my kids didn't sleep with me when they were babies. they slept in their own rooms and actually they fell asleep on their own very well. my second boy would sometimes spit up big time while sleeping, so i kept him close to me anytime he was sleeping, in his bassinet (gosh don't know how to spell that!!).
i see my hubby and his family and although they all love each other, there is no communication whatsoever in his family and they aren't near as close as i am with my mom and dad. i want my boys to grow up knowing they can talk to me about anything and that i'm always here for them. my hubby is the type that keeps EVERYTHING to himself. i'm not like that! i blame his family for not having open communication, and my hubby suffers from anxiety to a certain extent. his family situation is a whole nother chapter!
thanks for your input! 
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Offended others
My intent was not to offend others - that is why I worked as a wet nurse - so that those who could not breast feed their babies received the immunity and benefits of breastfeeding. I realize that it is not something that every woman can do and I never said that it was for everyone because it is not.
I would be so offended if I were you
I am a really big animal lover and probably would have turned him in for the kicking of an animal, husband or not, just would not be done around me. Secondly, running the risk of catching a disease by the tick thing, I would not live in the same home knowing this. His actions would just gross me out. Whether others killed birds or not, I would not be there, innocent animals all around that this man is hurting! Sounds really like a disgusting life style and I would never want to be a part of that. You are not wrong in your feelings. Do you have children that you cannot leave or just don’t want to leave. I doubt he will change his ways but you could tell him either clean up or you are out of there, might work.
I would tell her that I was offended and was buying elsewhere (sm)
I have learned over the years to stop wishing in hindsight that I had said what I should say to begin with. She is being rude and thinking you will pay her asking price just to prove to her that you can afford it. She is banking on you being offended and trying to prove to her that you can indeed afford it. That is a sales tactic I have seen used before - don't bite the bait!
I agree--not offended here at all.
I think that's what this board is for...a safe haven to talk about things. If I were in your shoes, I wouldn't worry about what you witnessed at all. Seen it, heard it, even lended a hand a few times! We have been through the discord and will probably be through it again. It's always something. Hang in there and please try not to worry. Stuff like this happens...a lot. It's just that not a lot of people like to talk about it for fear of it being verboten is all. ;-)
that's okay im not easily offended
and im EASILY amused.
#7 is very funny
Can I ask some very personal questions? Please don't be offended and you sm
don't have to answer. I would completely understand. but...
When you two got together I'm sure he wasn't exactly over the death of his wife, so how did he respond to you? Was he emotional around you, missing her, etc? At what point were you positively sure that he was in love with you and not still in love with her? I am only asking because of a personal situation in my life and I am curious about yours.
Thank you.
lol, nope not offended at all. Not sure what that means actually.
But, yes, you would think, right? But nope! Actually I have been going to the up-scale and very expensive salons where they have spas and serve you lattes and finger sandwiches by choice hoping I will get good results and they are the ones I have the most problems with!
If you read my other post, where I mentioned the bleach products and what I said about the expensive versus the cheaper products, you'd see what I mean.
But thanks!
Not offended, just thinking with some sense
She is emotional because of what has happened. Legally, you cannot obtain someone elses records - I told her to contact lawyer because this is not a good thing to tell. It is not legal period. She can try to protect but you cannot take the laws into your own hands, well you can but then you might be put in jail. I am just telling her the facts like they are. She can insist on him having testing but again she CANNOT make him do it. Not her call.
nor was I offended. Sorry for your troubles in the marriage. sm
Maybe he just needed some "relief" if the two of you are not getting along so well in the bedroom, so to speak, if you catch my drift.
No! Not offended in the least and as a matter of fact, sm
I never even noticed the imperfections of my daughter's feet. Interesting though is the fact I never realized for the last 20 years that the second toe is longer. Isn't that the sign of a leader? Well, she definitely fits THAT profile :-)
As for the bunions... well, let's just say it's a good thing I work at home...
first of all, I agree you have a reason to be offended
but on the other hand, she may really have been trying to have (what she thought) was an open and genuine conversation with you.
I went through a period after my divorce where I really questioned why guys who slept around were considered studs while gals who did the same were considered *luts. I asked a lot of questions from a lot of people. Doesn't mean I slept around a lot, but I was curious about the thinking behind the idea of how things could be so different when the only difference was gender.
All I'm trying to say is that perhaps in her disjointed way, she was trying to genuinely institage a thoughtful discussion about racial inequality, even though she failed not to offend, but in her own mind thought she was unoffensive. Some people really do ask questions because of genuine curiosity that has been dormant in their own minds even if they do come across as offensive. Just MHO. Doesn't excuse her rudeness by all means, but just a thought to toss about.
It is not my fault others get offended at my opinions
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I have often wodered this too. I would also not be offended hear of someones
I have also wondered why those who do not believe in Christ (athiests and the like) celebrate Christmas.
Am so offended by the loading him up so he is more manageable for me comment (sm)
I would NEVER do that. How dare you make that assumption? How rude of you!!
I wish I wasn't right actually.....my mom was....sm
We/they all referred to my mother as *Mommie Dearest* - she was Joan Crawford's CLONE and her mom (my maternal grandmother) was Bette Davis' CLONE. Too much pressure put on little kids to be totally organized by the age of 10.....IT'S IMPOSSIBLE and not fair to the children - because this results in stifling your children's CREATIVE ABILITIES.
Happy for you that you are facing all that you are facing to not repeat (negative) history!! Have a GREAT, GREAT weekend!!!
I wasn't trying to jab you. Something's not
you claim to have ruined credit, working 3 jobs to pay bills.
Something isn't what you're making it out to be.
In my experience, people with bad credit earned it and usually have no interest in owning up to it.
you know i saw those but I wasn't sure about them
I thought they were a knock off of Yankees...but now I will definitely give them a try!
No, I wasn't--
The post about "stole my son, you brazen hussy" brings back memories. My mother-in-law actually kicked me following the rehearsal dinner and said, "Well, you finally got him!" I checked later and my stocking was torn and there was blood on my ankle. She had made this seem like a joke, but she meant it; I knew there was a friend's daughter she had wanted to introduce her son to after he left the military--I spoiled those plans. Left my home (small town) to live in his hometown (Atlanta) and never felt accepted by his mother or any of his friends, who treated me like a backwoods hick.
It's no wonder we divorced about 10 years later. My daughter is lucky that her in-laws were so accepting of her.
Wasn't in the least bit mean.
It was a simple question. You don't sound like you REALLY want any of them and I personally don't think that splitting siblings up like that is a good idea. If there is a home out there for all of them together, I hope they get it.
Never said he wasn't a pig...
he is one too. Water seeks its own level...jealous, no, just truthful. The woman is as much to blame as the man in this situation. She is a prostitute, he is a john. There is much more to life than using one's attributes to get ahead. If you had a daughter who was beautiful would you encourage her to use her "talents" and become an "escort"?
So maybe it wasn't
LOL Glad I asked. Something about putting dandruff shampoo on the face didn't seem right.
I am almost 30 and have had it since about 14. I took accutane and had great skin for about 10 years, now its slowly creeping. I'm preggers so not sure if its the hormones contributing or not but I don't want to take accutane again. I have tried proactive and just about everything out there and nothing helped except the accutane. I'll give this a shot. I have seen the Apricot Scrub in wal-mart but have never tried it.
Oh, if you have one or two problem spots that you want to get rid of quickly, Clean and Clear Persa Gel works great. If I know I have a special event coming up I will use that daily for the week or 2 prior and it helps a lot. It clears up any problem within 2 days but within the first day the redness is completely gone.
No, it's okay! I wasn't upset or anything,
just was confused when I couldn't find it. I wanted to post all that so hopefully anyone having these problems could maybe try the same thing.
Firefox is letting me into every site I use though, so crossing my fingers it continues.
Thanks for the tip about the degfrag. I haven't done it and will. :)
Can't believe he wasn't even in the bottom three! nm
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Joy said she wasn't doing much, so he made up for it
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Well if it wasn't for this grandmother
There would be no wedding. Grandmothers are the "chiefs" of our tribes so to speak. I hope the best for this young couple, but it sounds like they're being childish. Let the grandmother invite some people, unless their felons. 
ok, said I wasn't posting again, but...
 BRAVO...excellent post...I was practically jumping outta my seat reading your post...THANK YOU..and thank your daughter personally from me for giving so much of herself and caring so much for the otherwise unfortunate children out there. Her students are blessed beyond measure and she will surely be richly rewarded for her hard work and dedication to these children...again........... to you and your daughter (you are undoubtedly an AWESOME mother!)
That wasn't very specific.
You didn't say if it was noise, trash in yard, wild kids, or what.
you know, i wasn't even going to justify this --
but, ah c'mon... i do have to work. it was not a steak knife stuck in him. the incident happened while he was less than 10 feet away. like i said, i wasn't even going to justify your "concern" with a response, but your statement is absurd. you're concerned that i was typing and not watching my child ?!? do you have kids? do you HAVE to work? do you have a spouse? i am all alone in this venture called life, raising this wonderous gift of a cherished child. there's no one but me to pay the mortgage, school tuition, the car note, and on and on and on. i have no help from anyone. i could keep my eyes glued to him if i was on state assistance. get real, it was just a slight bump in the road of life.
Mom wasn't kidding - it IS all gone!
What a cute picture.
I wasn't trying to be smart, I was
actually confused.
I wasn't going to reply to this but
the more I thought about it the more it infuriates me. What child deserves to be hit? Should I hit someone just because they aren't behaving? What about when I'm out shopping and I encounter a rude person who is cutting in line/grabbing at things, etc, should I hit them? How about if someone cuts me off driving should I run them over and "switch" them? We are the adults here and children DO NOT deserve to be hit for any reason. There is always another way to deal with their behavoir. But then again, I guess as long as you don't leave welts its fine right....despicable
Too bad this wasn't your first comment
to her instead of the rudeness above.
it wasn't much mentioned or
talked about, but after Katrina, other countries DID send money and supplies and I remember right, a lot of money was given to the 911 fund. I wonder about the supplies turned away Burma a couple of weeks ago. I am afraid that instead of actually reporting news, we are dealt the canned versions and have to suffer through many of the same reports over and over.
She wasn't with him - had already taken her back to her mom - nm
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Sorry...it was okay, but I wasn't blown away.
:(
perhaps I wasn't clear enough for you
My husband accompanied my son to practice. The then assistant coach was trying to make conversation with him. He asked my husband where he worked -- typical question, like how's the weather? My husband answered honestly and left it at that. This guy went on to tell his life story. My husband did not repeat this to anyone other than his supervisor when he realized it was a breach of ethics for him to be around him.
Again, my husband approached the head coach about the situation and without going into detail about the man's criminal history, asked for a transfer. The head coach referred him to the league president, who asked why he needed a transfer. He then told the league president, who does the background checks and would have found out anyway, why he needed the transfer. The league president then informed the head coach, who who told the assistant coach why he decided to remove him from his coaching staff. We certainly did not discuss this with any other parents on the team. We had also requested that the head coach not discuss with the assistant coach until and if it would be necessary. We were hoping to avoid the situation entirely by transferring our child, not the ex-convict's kid. Silly us to think we were doing the right thing?
The last thing we wanted was for any of this to come to light. We tried to handle it discretely. I'm guessing you're also one of those people who likes to make the people trying to do the right thing out to be the bad guy.
She wasn't saying don't talk about it, just
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Good for them! Thank God it wasn't mandated that they be!
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That wasn't implied. One would think that with all the dictations you have
transcribed, you would KNOW that the majority of illnesses are cured by medications made by pharmaceutical companies, and not green-tea types of herbal remedies.
Fine. But that wasn't my point.
There's no need to jump all over someone who wants to help. I applaud the unselfishness.
I forgot to add that what you said wasn't an option...sm
This paper was due in her 1st period and the media center at school doesn't open up until then. She was going to take it on disk and swing by there just in case she could convince someone to open up early for her.
She wasn't going to do Easter for the girls, so they did. sm
It's ok. Every kid, even at that age, regarding you IMHO, deserves a great Easter basket. Get over it and stay out of it.
yes, i sure did andyou can't tell me he wasn't guilty. nm
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This wasn't sweeps week.. That is in May
and I suppose you think they just kept all the money raised and bought themselves some new clothes, maybe a few new houses, and just sat there laughing and laughing about the big scam they just pulled. By the way, this telethon also raised money for children in America.
This season certainly wasn't as good as the first 2.
I'll watch in the fall, but the show has a long way to go to make up for undoing the first 2 seasons.
BTW, my first post wasn't in response to yours (sm)
I meant to respond to OP but had been reading your post and accidentally posted under yours. Not arguing your point at all.
No it wasn't, it was pulled off the table to be
reworked and submitted again in January. It won't stop the BYB, they will pay for the licence cause they are making money on all those poor dogs/cats they keep in those cages. That is disgusting and it is inhumane, but those kind of people are deceitful and rotten to begin with and they always find a way.
Maybe the garage was too cluttered, and there wasn't
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I wasn't necessarily the money
He was a self-made millionare already due to either mining or construction. I live just across the state line from WV so he was in the news a lot, but you are right, his life is certainly worse then when it was before the lottery. I am still going to play though.
Yeah, she wasn't exactly thrilled!!
And then all the kidding she had to take afterwards for having me on Labor Day!!
Who said the daughter wasn't and why are we bickering
we can do is assume. I have my opinion, you have yours. Let's just agree to disagree and move on.
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