need a suggestion for Xmas gift.
Posted By: MSMT on 2008-12-10
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Since we are so unbelievably broke this year, my 2 children (32 and 17, yes I know 32 years old and still living at home but she is going to school on a full scholarship to be a chemical engineer) are going to get ONE book for Xmas. I know which book to get my daughter but which for the 17-yo boy? And what's a good one for me? Thanks for any suggestions.
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Need gift suggestion for veterinarian..sm
She takes such good care of our pets, but has went above and beyond with our new puppy who has been so sick. She saw us on an emergency at 10 PM Saturday night and never charged me for it. I was just there again today for a recheck with the puppy and she only charged me a minimal OV and the meds. She is a remarkable vet and is truely in her field!! I would like to get her something for the holidays from our family as an extra thank you. I have already decided to send cookies and candies to the office for the girls who work there, but I need something for the vet. Do you think a gift certificate to a restaurant would be a good idea? Thanks.
Gift suggestion for new grads
I ABSOLUTELY love www.vermontteddybear.com -- My S/O ordered me one for Valentines Day last year in white boxer shorts with red hearts and it was the day of the LAST shooting in my hometown with a college campus -- so "Louie" became a soft spot for me -- since I now live in Miami, I ordered 2 "beach dame" bears (sorry hard for me to describe here but check the catalog) but these bears wore a tropical print dress, had the pointy sunglasses and a straw hat -- $100 each but my one aunt who was dying at the time had her bear near her for comfort and when I would talk to the nurses at the nursing home they all fell in love with her -- they will custom make a bear for any occasion and lifetime guarantee as well - BTW tell the nephew congratuations and a wonderful profession to be going into
My little dog and the Xmas tree...s/m
Hayseed you brought back the sweetest memory. Had a little lhasa apso named Blondie. One year the tree went up, got decorated, etc. Hours went by with no sign of Blondie. More time passed, no Blondie.. Started calling her name, looking from room to room, then looking outside for her. Nowhere in sight. About 1/2 hour later I just happened to go under the tree and there she was, laying on the green tree shirt and looking up at the lights. She spent about another hour like that and finally came out. It was the sweetest thing I ever saw........
Thank you so much. I am definitely doing this for the girls this Xmas now. nm
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tears on Xmas Eve!!
I just feel so bad for you in this situation. I love my two dogs so much that I don't know what I will do without them one day... But I agree with you in the sense that I don't want them suffering or in pain. If something happens to them and they go blind or something like that, that is one thing... but when a pet cannot function anymore and you are only keeping them around cause you don't want to deal with the loss that is entirely different. I feel for both you, your mom, and the dog and I'm sorry you are going through this. I do not think there are right or wrong answers, but just remind her All Dogs go to heaven!!!
tears on Xmas Eve!!
I just feel so bad for you in this situation. I love my two dogs so much that I don't know what I will do without them one day... But I agree with you in the sense that I don't want them suffering or in pain. If something happens to them and they go blind or something like that, that is one thing... but when a pet cannot function anymore and you are only keeping them around cause you don't want to deal with the loss that is entirely different. I feel for both you, your mom, and the dog and I'm sorry you are going through this. I do not think there are right or wrong answers, but just remind her All Dogs go to heaven!!!
Anyone started their Xmas shopping yet?
I was at the mall last night and noticed how every store already has their Christmas decorations up. I hate the Christmas season and love it at the same time. I love the beauty of it and hate the commercialism and stressing about what to buy as gifts. Besides, my kids have everything they could possibly need anyway ! 
Need some Xmas goodies recipes..
Looking for recipes to make some fairly easy yet yummy Christmas goodies for gift giving. No heavy baking or long recipes please. Stuff along the lines of snack mixes, that powdered sugar "puppy chow" (I think that's what it's called lol), etc. Stuff that can be made in large batches ahead of time and not needing refrigeration. There are so many great cooks out here..so this is the first place I thought of to get some great ideas. Thanks ahead to all who respond!! :)
jan 2nd? what happened to 12 days of Xmas?....
funny observation in this country....the earlier peeps put up their Christmas stuff, the quicker after Christmas many of them take it all down (not me though). There are 12 days of Christmas which equates to like the 5th or 6th of January, the EPIPHANY!.....so I don't get it when they take it all down the day after New Years.......... 
Everyone I know who puts it all up before Thanksgiving, takes it down either the day after Christmas or the day after New Years....
I keep my stuff up until nearly the 2nd week of January (my birthday *lol*)....
Happy Holidays To All!
Getting mom, a 3rd shift LPN, on xmas mornin...
My dad would go out and start up the car to get it all heated, and we'd head out early to get coffee and doughnuts and pick mom up at work on Christmas morning. She always worked Christmas Eve so she could be off on Christmas Day to be with all of us.
There was always lots of snow during Christmastime then and the long drive to the ol' "Hunt Hospital" was always just so beautiful....no traffic, just beautiful back roads with pine boughs heavy with snow hanging over the power lines....
If I buy book for SIN for XMAS, but read it
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putting up Xmas lights
Sorry if this may seem really dumb but I've never done this before - how do you attach the lights to siding on a house around windows and doors? It's not wood siding, it's an older home with aluminum siding.
Who wants to share where you can get hot deals on Xmas gifts?
We like Fat Wallet (fatwallet.com). Anyone else have any sites they use and recommend for bargain basement deals and/or tips? Thanks!
12 days of Xmas lyrics and meaning
On the first day of Christmas,
my true love sent to me
A partridge in a pear tree.
On the second day of Christmas,
my true love sent to me
Two turtle doves,
And a partridge in a pear tree.
On the third day of Christmas,
my true love sent to me
Three French hens,
Two turtle doves,
And a partridge in a pear tree.
On the fourth day of Christmas,
my true love sent to me
Four calling birds,
Three French hens,
Two turtle doves,
And a partridge in a pear tree.
On the fifth day of Christmas,
my true love sent to me
Five golden rings,
Four calling birds,
Three French hens,
Two turtle doves,
And a partridge in a pear tree.
On the sixth day of Christmas,
my true love sent to me
Six geese a-laying,
Five golden rings,
Four calling birds,
Three French hens,
Two turtle doves,
And a partridge in a pear tree.
On the seventh day of Christmas,
my true love sent to me
Seven swans a-swimming,
Six geese a-laying,
Five golden rings,
Four calling birds,
Three French hens,
Two turtle doves,
And a partridge in a pear tree.
On the eighth day of Christmas,
my true love sent to me
Eight maids a-milking,
Seven swans a-swimming,
Six geese a-laying,
Five golden rings,
Four calling birds,
Three French hens,
Two turtle doves,
And a partridge in a pear tree.
On the ninth day of Christmas,
my true love sent to me
Nine ladies dancing,
Eight maids a-milking,
Seven swans a-swimming,
Six geese a-laying,
Five golden rings,
Four calling birds,
Three French hens,
Two turtle doves,
And a partridge in a pear tree.
On the tenth day of Christmas,
my true love sent to me
Ten lords a-leaping,
Nine ladies dancing,
Eight maids a-milking,
Seven swans a-swimming,
Six geese a-laying,
Five golden rings,
Four calling birds,
Three French hens,
Two turtle doves,
And a partridge in a pear tree.
On the eleventh day of Christmas,
my true love sent to me
Eleven pipers piping,
Ten lords a-leaping,
Nine ladies dancing,
Eight maids a-milking,
Seven swans a-swimming,
Six geese a-laying,
Five golden rings,
Four calling birds,
Three French hens,
Two turtle doves,
And a partridge in a pear tree.
On the twelfth day of Christmas,
my true love sent to me
Twelve drummers drumming,
Eleven pipers piping,
Ten lords a-leaping,
Nine ladies dancing,
Eight maids a-milking,
Seven swans a-swimming,
Six geese a-laying,
Five golden rings,
Four calling birds,
Three French hens,
Two turtle doves,
And a partridge in a pear tree!
The Twelve Days of Christmas (12 Days of Christmas) – lyrics |
Religious symbolism of The Twelve Days of Christmas (The 12 Days of Christmas)
1 True Love refers to God
2 Turtle Doves refers to the Old and New Testaments
3 French Hens refers to Faith, Hope and Charity, the Theological Virtues
4 Calling Birds refers to the Four Gospels and/or the Four Evangelists
5 Golden Rings refers to the first Five Books of the Old Testament, the "Pentateuch", which gives the history of man's fall from grace.
6 Geese A-laying refers to the six days of creation
7 Swans A-swimming refers to the seven gifts of the Holy Spirit, the seven sacraments
8 Maids A-milking refers to the eight beatitudes
9 Ladies Dancing refers to the nine Fruits of the Holy Spirit
10 Lords A-leaping refers to the ten commandments
11 Pipers Piping refers to the eleven faithful apostles
12 Drummers Drumming refers to the twelve points of doctrine in the Apostle's Creed |
The first publication date for The Twelve Days of Christmas (The 12 Days of Christmas) was 1780. Each of the The Twelve Days of Christmas has a religious significance and are symbolised following the lyrics of The Twelve Days of Christmas
it ends January 5th or 6th, the epiphany
MTstars, I think it's really nice of you to do Xmas in July.
Nope, haven't. Maybe I'll get it for the hubs for Xmas as it's
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Definitely stress. Cops said once that Xmas eve with alcohol & money
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Anyone with kids that have Fuzz Luvz on their Xmas wish list?
My daughter wants one and I am having a heck of a time finding one. Amazon has them but I think they want $50 for one. Anyone with any knowledge on this? TIA!
O Holy Night and any Xmas song by Karen Carpenter nm
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Mailing thank you cards to houses with nice Xmas lights, never heard of such a thing and I'm in
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Decorated a fake ficus tree in dining room for Xmas one year & never took
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another suggestion
Is that you could have her front teeth removed. It doesn't make any difference to their ability to eat most foods, and they can learn to eat without them, and be just fine. You can read more about it here: http://www.rabbit.org/journal/2-6/tusks.html
I have a suggestion.
Explain to DH that he needs to go and get a second job so that you can take of the children. It sounds as though he does not really want to help with the children, so maybe he should work the second job, and you just work one job, which will free you up to take care of your children. Your post makes me want to cry. I feel so sorry for your children. You have to find a way to take care of those children and not work that second job.
I have an even better suggestion
you are asking for support when it should not come from strangers but from your immediate family but having said that, why in the world do you not see about someone to keep the children so you can work? Your DH is not helping and apparently you need the second income. Just imaged you worked at Burger Kings and keep a daycare/baby sitter/family member to see after the kids. No wonder job looked at unprofessional these days, holding the baby in 1 arm and typing with the second.
My suggestion is...sm
Make sure it is a name the child can live with her entire life. I know the trend is to make up names or take established names and twist their spellings so they are unrecognizable, but I think it's a dumb trend and the kids suffer when they have to go through their whole lives either pronouncing or spelling their names. I often wonder where the parents' heads are. JMHO.
Oh, and I love the name Kate.
Thanks, I appreciate the suggestion
The rug is already on its way....
If he were younger, or if it were only the one leg, I would try the puppy booties. But both his back legs are weakened from the patellar luxation, even though he had surgery for it. They are quite unsteady at times. Add the right shoulder chronic dislocation and it is really difficult for him to get up and down.
Thanks for the suggestion, though. I hope maybe it will help someone else.
Another suggestion
If you left out a very small amount of dry food at night (measured to make sure it is part of his daily total), would he eat all of it immediately or snack on it through the night? Maybe extra low calorie dry food?
My suggestion is
dont have kids friends over?
Here's my suggestion:
If the bride is very refined and proper, what the heck is she doing having a bridal shower for marriage #2 AND she's in her 50's? Tacky. VERY tacky.
I'd forgo the bra, get some good bubble gum that you can snap, put on some FM-heels, hit Frederick's of Hollywood and bring the most shocking gift(s) your budget allows - something to knock the knickers off her and those giving the shower.
Damn, I hate bridal showers. No, it's not my hormones. I'm like this every day, at least when it comes to something like this. Making people blow a weekend day to shower the middle-aged+ repeat bride with gifts.
By the way, Emily Post is dead and when she gets wind of this, I bet she'll be back.
Thank you for that suggestion sm
She just started a job (I know she is only 14) at my father's grocery store. This was totally her choice. She only works 2 evenings a week and will stop when school stops. I definitely think that is a possibility. Last night was her first time without a trainer. We keep a close eye on her for the next few days and see how it goes. Thanks to all.
My suggestion
My suggestion would be to try to find someone that you can talk to about this, a professional. I dealt with an alcoholic mother growing up who also liked to threaten suicide and guilt me into things - it's the nature of the addiction. Going to counseling myself and attending Al-Anon meetings were the best things I ever did for myself. I still was able to keep somewhat of a relationship with my mother, but the counselor taught me how to detach from her self-destructive behavior and made me realize that I should NOT feel guilty. In order to be of any assistance to your daughter, you need to help yourself first. There are people out there who can help you deal with these issues. I wish you the best.
((((hugs))))
Just a suggestion - sm
What if YOU offered to take the dog?
Dogs are wonderful companions to everyone, especially those suffering with depression.
That way, you know the dog is properly cared for and you have a companion to help you with your depression too.
Maybe they have just taken on more than they can handle with three dogs.
I agree with you that the neighbor is absolutely inconsiderate but they might be open to you adopting their poor pooch.
a suggestion --
For that age group and if they are interested in reading labels, etc. - visit a book store and find a few recipe books for kids - there are MANY on the market - and have them help plan a menu or give suggestions of what they think sounds good. Of course Mom has final say and budgeting factors in etc., but let them know you are not providing a buffet and that if they are going to be that picky they have to be responsible for their choices and make some decisions/choices instead of just whining about what they don't like - also that they must compromise with other family members' tastes. Let them help prepare meals (surprising what they'll eat if they are able to brag about "helping cook it" at the table!) and be more involved in their choices instead of just complaining - may be complaining just for the sake of driving mom nuts! and yes, I have 4 kids myself - I know how they can be :-)
This is best suggestion yet. Dog is just going to
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Another suggestion - sm
Sorry you are having this trouble but this may be worth asking about.
When you meet with your probation officer, ask about your son doing a few hours of supervised community service instead of the $100 fine.
A little labor may be what he needs to remind him not to do this in the future.
I have always told my kids they have one candybar in life (one time to get into trouble.) Once that's gone, its gone and they are on their own.
My son got a ticket for minor in possession when he was 16 and I made him pay the fines, pay for the classes he had to take, and any other costs that were incurred. Tough lesson for him but too bad.
He sure thought more than twice about losing all of his summer working money for one little mistake.
Good luck to you!
Okay, this is my suggestion...
I would let her take the swats, but ONLY this time. Maybe if she has ISS hanging over her head, that will deter her from being late again. That's what punishment is, right?
If she's okay with the corporal punishment, let her go for it. It's not like it's going to scar her for life. A bad grade could possibly have more of an ill effect, which is why you tell her NEXT time she gets the ISS.
Just my opinion.
just a suggestion...
I know that psoriasis and eczema are different things, but since Elocon works for your psoriasis and for my eczema, maybe what also works for my eczema will work for your psoriasis. Try Curel lotion original formula. It is the only lotion I can use. All others inflame my eczema.
just a suggestion
If it was my husband I would just say to him that seeing as he spends the majority of his time there and he obviously prefers to be with his friend than his wife and kids he should look at moving in with this guy. I would tell him I love him very much but I didn't marry him to be "second rate". It doesn't matter if he just wants to be with his friend. You are his wife. He should want to be with you more. There is always the weekend for his friend (and I mean only one day). So if it was me I would tell him that the deal is that he spends his evenings and off time and one whole weekend day with his wife and kids and he can see his friend on the other weekend day. Otherwise pack your bags and adioski. That might just wake him up.
suggestion
never tried it myself but have heard that you can role out gumdrops flat and then cut them. maybe you could find yellow ones and cut them into strips? also, regular frosting out of a can will work if you put yellow food coloring in it and have 5 days to let it air dry. just put it in a ziploc bag, cut off a small corner and pipe it out on wax paper.
possible suggestion for you
While communication is key, try out this website, www.flylady.net. This is a website that offers free advice on loving yourself, and how you can manage all the hectic spheres of your life. You can't control his reactions to what's going on, but you can control how you deal with his reactions. They have a few philosophies that everyone can relate to. The two important ones, in my view, are "you can do anything for 15 minutes" and "you are not behind, jump in where you are". It's not about beating yourself up because you're not perfect (that word is forbidden) - it's loving yourself for who you are and small things add up to the whole. Good luck.
just a suggestion
You could try to look online for a Legal Aid website for your state for specifics and (if necessary) an attorney that may help him (or advise him of his rights) for little or no cost.
Here's my suggestion ...
I would plan a lovely dinner and maybe a band for dancing entertainment. Get married privately beforehand and show up at the dinner to celebrate with family and friends.
A suggestion..
I would go back to the ophthalmologist to have ocular myasthenia ruled out, since you mentioned this has been going on for quite awhile. There are a lot of simple possibilities, but you may need to have it treated.
suggestion
As weird as it sounds, try Crazy Glue - this was suggested to my husband (a cabinetmaker) by his own doctor years ago - and he swears by it.
Good luck!
I have a suggestion for you
This mother who bred all this litter has a web site set up to get contributions. If you have such a bleeding heart, go there and give to her insanity. I hope the law steps in and sees this for what it is worth, a con job. Single mother, no income, living on welfare, cannot even take care of the first 6 she dropped. She needs to be spayed. Put your money where your mouth is. I am sure she would appreciate. Very few dum..folks out there wanting to contribute to such a side show.
suggestion sm
You could send him a card indicating you made a donation in his wife's name to St. Jude Hospital for Children or their church and then do it, send a check with a note explaining, giving her name and his address, etc. They will send a nice card. Older people love this, it is quite an honor to have their loved one remembered this way as he probably has all he needs right now.
Suggestion for you
I know a lot of you will think I am crazy for this but please believe me, it works!
My daughter is a high level gymnast (10) with a full scholarship next year for college in gymnastics. Despite being very good, obviously, she has a lot of mental issues with what she does that sometimes cause her to simply not allow herself go and the anxiety really affects her. The pure love for the sport is what keeps her going as most kids that get to this point just quit. We had tried all the herbal medicines, sports psychologists and on and on but it was still bad. Finally, I saw something about hypnosis and it has truly been a miracle. The hypnotist was able to delve into why she has these anxieties which stem from when she was about 8 years old and use positive reinforcement to quiet that part of her brain. The change in her has been dramatic. Her gymnastics is better than it has ever been. I would suggest you look into it for your son. The hypnotist can find out why or what caused this to be a problem and work through it. I know a lot of people will think this is nuts but many athletes use this form of therapy as I have come to find out. Just recently the 2009 Olympic gold medal pole vaulter also used hypnosis for him to overcome his fear of the pole vault and the results speak for themselves. Good luck and feel free to email with questions.
Just a suggestion
I realize your intentions are good, and you sound like you have a heart of gold! I just wanted to mention that I do not usually respond to e-mails that come in from this site, mainly because I never did set up an e-mail address specifically for logging on here, and the other two addresses I have easily identify me to others I work with or have worked with. I have been able to identify at least three people on this site as folks I've worked with at on-line companies, so never met face-to-face. I think there are a lot of folks on here who just don't want themselves identified, and that may be the reason for no response. It could also be that they had not checked their e-mail at the time you posted this. Gosh, if they were not able to pay the rent/house note or whatever, I imagine things are pretty tough and who knows what else may have happened after they posted here last.
Again, I know you just wanted to help, but the tone of this e-mail does not really reflect that kindness, especially when someone is already downtrodden.
Here's my suggestion
Just ignore them. I've learned in my many years on this planet people like that are not worth the effort.
People who are snobs will not be reformed. I've got a few in my family. One we just stopped talking to altogether, another, my aunt raised me like I was her own daughter and I love her but she's a snob and everyone in town knows it.
So the best thing is to just ignore them. You wish them well, but by having less and less contact with them it won't bother you so much. I always feel bad for my aunt that she is like that because nobody, and I mean NOBODY in her family is like that (she married into money), but they all know what she's like and they ignore her too.
So, ignore her and think of how much better you are not to be a snob like that. I just always think to myself, boy are they going to have a heck of a time explaining themselves to "the higher powers" once they cross over.
Suggestion
I don't know how often the two of you go out, but try this and see what happens.
The next time you're discussing plans to get together and do something, drop the hint that you too are a bit cash-strapped and suggest instead he come over for a home-cooked meal (or even takeout) and a DVD instead of going out.
If he's happy to do that, then I don't think you have reason to worry.
There's role-reversal in my relationship, and while I bring home the bacon, he's the one who handles everything else, so the 'sugar mama' joke is a very long-running in our household, lol!
My suggestion . . .
tell her you cancelled because things were just becoming to be too much of a burden with how much everything was going to cost and with the economy still down, you decided to just stay home and get caught up on spring cleaning instead.
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