my son had a classmate in first grade who was a bully but lived not too far from us.
Posted By: just a quick one... on 2007-08-08
In Reply to: Daughter wants to attend birthday party - ?????
First grade B-day party....I MADE my son go as they lived close and I told him if there was a prob to WALK HOME even tho that was not allowed usually. Bottom line is, all the other parents knew he was a bully and would not let their kids go. My son went and was THE ONLY OTHER CHILD THERE! I felt so bad for this kid (poor money-wise). They are all now 25 years old and this kid is locally famous, and both my kids have contact with him today. He is a really. nice. adult. who so appreciates their friendship. Ya just never know is my point. Good luck. I think if she goes, she will be fine.
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I read about a 6yo that killed his classmate
I know this doesn't pertain to you because some kid killed his father after he saw his father committing violence, but I just thought this was interesting article. It's called Why little kids kill. I just cannot fatham anyone at 6 years old doing that. What happened to young innocense....
If I were you and the family seems non-challant I would definitely talk to a police officer and state your concerns. Especially in today's day and age - nothing surprises me.
http://life.familyeducation.com/early-learning/violence/36442.html
I'd let her out if she wants. No reason she HAS to take a 12th grade course in 9th grade.
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My teachers did this from 1st grade through 12th grade. nm
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bully, cmt
I meant "I" was no where near ready, not it, sorry, thanks.
Advice about a bully sm
My daughter is in 2nd grade. She has a "friend" who has been basically bullying her since the beginning of the school year. My daughter has a big heart and still wanted to be friends with her. They have argued every day. They have had play dates and sleepovers, and they have all ended up in arguments. I chaperoned on a field trip with her class and witnessed what I consider bullying by this "friend."
I finally got fed up and told my daughter to play with some of the other girls and that a real friend wouldn't treat her that way.
Well, my daughter told this to the "friend." The "friend's" mom called and left a voicemail stating she was appalled at my behavior and that I am not a Christian for saying it.
I called her back and told her to ask her daughter how she behaved on the field trip. I also told her that the girls have been arguing on a daily basis all year long. The whole time I talked the mom said nothing at all and hung up on me.
I emailed the teacher and told her what had happened, and I plan to talk to her some time today hopefully.
I know I should have said something sooner to the teacher, but I figured these were 8-year-old girls and they would work it out without getting me involved. This "friend" even wrote a letter to my daughter, telling her that she wasn't the kind of friend she wanted, etc. But, my daughter still tried to be friends with her.
I guess this is my first experience with a bully. How do I handle this? I'm so worried about what is going to happen today at school. I'm glad I told the teacher about it, though.
Thanks!
Not a 3rd grade class. A 1st grade, yes.
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You're nothinig more than a playground bully. nm
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forget his hair - it's his school yard bully ways
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You're aunt is bully, plain and simple and I would just stop visiting.
but I will tell you this, most mothers are going to voice their opinions to their kids about how they did things compared to out YOU do things. I think it's in the mother by-laws somewhere. :) My mother constantly tells me I'm too soft with my kids and I am. My mother was a strict disciplinarian similar to your aunt when I was a kid. Spankings were routine and generally with the belt or the fly swatter or any other object handy. That's why I'm so soft.
I let me mother know early on after I became a mother, that my kids are MY KIDS. She can give me advice and I'll always listen, but I will make the final decision on how and when to discipline my children and I and ONLY I (and DH too of course) will dole out any discipline necessary. Nobody else has permission to spank my children, EVER!
My mom and I get along pretty good now. I accept that she will be nosy and pushy and she accepts that I will ignore her and not call for a few days when she gets on my nerves.
I would just suggest being honest with your aunt and letting her know that you think you're a good mother, your DH thinks your a good mother and that your kids are doing fine and behave fine and if she doesn't think so, then she doesn't need to see the kids.
1st grade for me
When did you stop believing is Santa? I was snooping for presents in 1st grade and found presents under my mom's bed to me from santa.
If you have kids old enough, when did they stop believing? My kid are 10 and 6 and still believe.
How did you/your kids find out? They already have friends who don't believe. I still get away with the tooth fairy as well.
How did you/they react to the truth? I was crushed.
If kids don't find out on their own, what age do you think they should be told? I think they all find out soon enough on their own. I'm not going to tell them.
when my son was in second grade
a couple of weeks before that, I noticed the school # was on my caller ID but there was no message. I asked my son if he may know why the school called. He got kind of quiet and told me that he had said something disrespectful to the teacher assistant so I thought maybe that was the reason. (I had him write a little note to the assistant, telling her he was sorry for showing disrespect but I definitely let him know I appreciated his honesty with me)..... ANYWAY..... I figured with parent/teacher conferences coming up, I would bring it up then. I mentioned there was a call, wasn't sure who it was from, as there was not a message..... that my son had told me about this particular incident, and though they said they didn't make the call, I mentioned if they ever had a problem to please contact me "it's not like I'm going to beat him" to which my son replied, "YES YOU DO MOMMY!"
The teacher, the assistant and I were all looking at each other like WHAT????? My son then went on to say "at Mario Bros"..... LOL.
I thought oh here we go, child protective services will be giving me a visit!! LOL.
When I was in the third grade
I broke my wrist and after surgery, I woke up in a room with a roommate that smoked. I can't even believe now that there was a time when it was okay to smoke in a hospital!
In second grade, she would have been 7 yrs old. Of course,
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I really was 6 - in the 1st grade. I already had a - (sm)
bully boy bothering me on the playground, and was standing there on that cold windy morning thinking that going to school with no underpants was just going to complicate things with him even further if he was around while I was doing flips on the monkey bars!
When the bus was only a few feet away, I suddenly ran in front of it (nearly got run over in the process), and ran back home. After a few minutes of banging on the front door, my mom (who'd been in the shower) let me in, and I completed my wardrobe, then ran back to the bus stop. Amazingly, the driver actually waited for me.
Kindergarten, yes. Third grade, no.
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Low grade fever again
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Now I've got the fever again but no sinus symptoms. Anybody have any clues what else it could be? I mean, I don't hurt anywhere, I don't have any symptoms except the fever. I know I need to go in and get a complete workup; in fact, I have one scheduled for September 5 (that's the earliest appointment my doctor had). I'm just sick of feeling lousy.
first grade party
Last year when my little girl was in first grade, they had a Teddy Bear tea party for the holidays. Each child could make an ornament or buy one to exchange as a gift. They could wear pj's and bring a teddy bear. Parents were invited. A sign up list for goodies was included. The teacher read stories, and they played music with musical chairs and pin the tail on the elf, I think. They had a lot of fun. The theme was nice too for the little ones, does not matter boy or girl they all like tea parties at that age. For my little boy in first grade, I just sent in cupcakes. I went to the dollar store and got them each a gift which the teacher wrapped and they took turns taking from a bag. Santa (her husband)made a surprise appearance, and once again she read stories to them while they had punch and cupcakes. The other teacher who shared the classroom gave out polar express tickets for the kids to hold at the party and later to take home. It was very cute and fun. Whatever you do have a great time. Happy Holidays
I skipped a grade
I went from kindergarten to 2nd grade when I was 6.
What did you want to know?
where I am they teach this class in 5th grade + up...
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My daughter is in 3rd grade and still believes
and so do most of her classmates/friends! She has never questioned if Santa was real or not and I absolutely have no intention of telling her anytime soon. You obviously know nothing about MOST 3rd graders if you think that they don't belive in Santa!! Maybe I just live in a city where having an imagination and embracting childhood is still a good thing.
Geez, we're going to tell grade each other's
I think it's time to put this conversation to bed before it gets out of hand.
2nd grade valentine party.... sm
does anyone out there have some game ideas for a 2nd grade valentine's day party? i've tried looking some stuff up on the internet, but not having much luck. wondered if anyone out there has some good ideas.
TIA
Does first grade count? It meant so much to me - LOL
Doug kissed me in first grade and then ignored me forever after that.
Tilden in 5th grade - he picked me to be his square dancing partner.
Lyle in 6th grade - had all the makings of an abusive husband, but didn't realize it at the time.
Tilden again in 7th grade - didn't last too long.
Had a HUGE nonreciprocated crush on Dan in 9th grade.
Bill in 10th grade - he was a Sr. so got to go to prom.
Dumped him for Chuck not long after prom.
Met Tom at church camp that summer - long distance thing.
Tim when I was a junior, who introduced me to his friend, Jerre, who ended up being my husband till this day.
That was fun!
They guaranteed me a letter grade better
It is quite expensive though. But it was worth it in my household. Good luck!
FYI, dehydration will cause some to run low-grade temps. nm
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Daughter's 7th grade dance
My 13-year-old daughter is having her 7th grade dance in a few weeks, and yes, they definitely go overboard. A friend's daughter went last year and she said the girls looked like they were going to a wedding. The sad thing was she was dressed very casually (they were told it was a Hawaiian theme if they didn't want to get all dressed up. When she got there she saw all the girls dressed to the nines and she started crying and didn't want to go in for fear of what the others would say. I thought that was just awful. There is a no limo rule, but there were some that broke that rule and the school did nothing about it. My daughter is getting a new dress, but she knows it's going to be a simple dress, one that she can wear more than just this one time. We're definitely not made of money and she knows it. She may not always like it, but she knows it.
Small children, in first grade and
3rd or 4th but I remember feeling so special when I was in a child about this age because I had diamond rings (not big, chip diamonds mostly) that my grandmother gave me, had several boxes of them and if I lost 1 I chose another. I am not talking about spending over 50$ apiece on these.
My daughter was diagnosed with ADD in 2nd grade
We took her to 3 different doctors who did a bunch of different tests and all three said without a doubt she has ADD (without hyperactivity). So, we put her on medication. The medication made her VERY cranky and she was a holy terror to live with!!! So, we went back to the doctor and he switched her medication. This medication made her mood better, but her appetite was virtually nonexistant. My husband and I read every book and website we could find on ADD to see if we could help our daughter. We ended up taking her off the medication and changed her diet, making sure she eats every 2-3 hours. We eat pretty healthy anyway, but we really have to make sure that we don't let her eat too many carbs or junk. She also has to eat pretty frequently to keep her attention span up. It has been 2 years now and she is doing great at home and at school. She just started a new school this year and this teacher is excellent at letting the kids have a healthy snack during class so the kids stay focused all day long.
In other words, before you even think about medication, I would monitor his diet and make sure that he's eating healthy and then make sure he's eating every 2-3 hours (if possible at school) and see if this helps.
When my son was in second grade he had behavior issues (sm)
I know many may not agree with me, but I believe positive reinforcement for good behavior and negative consequences for bad behavior works. Every week our school sends home a folder with the child's "grades" for the week in schoolwork and behavior, with 4 being the best (pretty much unattainable for my son!) 3 being good, 2 being so-so, and 1 being really bad. I put him on an allowance schedule with chores he had to do with a certain allowance each week. HOWEVER his grades in his folder would greatly influence this allowance. Gettings 3s would keep his allowance the same, getting a 2 automatically took off $2 (he never got a one but that would have taken his whole $5 allowance). If he ever got a 4 he would get an additional $2. This worked really really well for him, but all children are different. Good luck!
This happened to MY GIRL in 2nd grade . . . sm
actually, the girl threatened to stab her with her pencil. My daughter went to the teacher who was an old burned out substitute that day and the teacher told her to sit down and get to work, would not even listen to her. Needless to say I went ballistic. Of course, the girl who was threatening to stab my daugther was a problem child (they always are, who else would do this?). My daughter was moved away from this child and never sat next to her again, because I saw to it that it happened that way. And btw, I personally believe calling the mother would only frustrate you more. Why do you think this child acts this way? You would be only arguring against ignorance and there is no point to frutstrate yourself further. Tell your child to stay away from this child and insist upon their separation in the classroom.
How old is the child? First grade or senior in
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I never skipped a grade, but I started
school when I was 4, so I was always the youngest in my class. I was valedictorian too, so academically it was not a problem. However, in high school, being a year younger than my classmates caused me to be left out a lot when they were able to do things I couldn't yet because of my age. Just something to consider...
I started when I was 4, never skipped a grade, but
I did graduate when I was a Junior, they were letting us do this if we had all of our credits for high school, so I did.
I'm sorry - I assumed she was in first grade. I just read your post again. nm
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A wise 1st grade teacher told us...
"If you won't believe that I was mean to your kids, I won't believe that you had dog food for dinner last night."
I have 2 children in middle school (5th and 6th) grade. sm
They have 4 different lines they can choose from. They have the regular line; the Mexi/Itali line which has spaghetti, raviolis, tacos, etc, the sub line which has sub sandwiches, baked potatos and salads; and the the "fast food line" which has popcorn chicken, steak fingers, etc. They also offer sports drinks, ice cream, tea etc. Our school website is set up where I can view what they have for lunch on a daily basis and so if I see them making a bad choice, I can discuss it with them. Might want to suggest something like this to your school officials.
Well, I guess it's a necessary evil. I have a son in HS and daughter in 2nd grade.
In the HS, if their balance is too low to cover their lunch, they don't get to buy lunch. They figure high schoolers should be responsible enough to make sure they fill their accounts up. At the elementary school, they are allowed to be in the hole, although I'm not sure how deep they can go because I never let it get too far. The elementary school sends a pink slip home when your child is in the hole telling you how much. They never deny lunch, they just pink slip you and you know you need to fill up and I always do.
I realize parents should make sure their kids eat, but what some people don't realize and is some people's pay checks are stretched way too thin. There have been times when I've paid bills, etc., and then find out my kid is out of lunch money and I have to wait until my next pay check. I rely on the school to cut me a little slack. I make too much to qualify for discounted lunches, so I do what I can and I hate the idea of my kid having just a baloney or pbj sandwhick in lieu of a hot lunch!
Grandson just skipped a grade last year (sm)
He started in kindergarten and promptly began acting out. Luckily the teacher and principal decided he was not just a rowdy child, but bored. He had somehow learned to read himself during the summer before kindergarten and we weren't really aware he could do it. They tested him out as reading third grade level as he was just beginning kindergarten. After much testing and conferences (against normal school board practices) they moved him up on a permanent basis. They also placed him in the gifted program in our school district. The counselor and teachers were careful to monitor his progress and social interactions. The only time we have noticed a big problem was in Cub Scouts. They put him in a group by grade level and he did seem a little more childish than some of his group. He adapted well, though.
This is my second grandchild to be in the gifted program here, both have tested out with very high IQs. Socially they both fit in well, perhaps the youngest one is a little too into computers, puzzles and games, but he fits human interaction in there too.
Their precious little minds need to be fed just as their bellies do. Good luck to you.
I think 3rd grade was the last year we got away with it. They're just too savvy & hear it all in
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not every child in the 3rd grade is going to have the mentality of a 3rd grader. some or ahead
and some arent. some still believe. there isnt that much difference between 1st, 2nd and 3rd graders...i am talking about an entire classroom of thirty children. she didnt use the word " exist"...she had children raise their hands as to what parts of the story is false and fiction...i just think she could have found a diff story, didnt have to talk about santa ya know?
My three girls start back next Wednesday, 1st grade, 4th, and 7th. nm
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Does anyone have any good links for homeschool sheets for 1st grade? sm
I am now homeschooling my 1st grader, but didn't want to "buy" a cirriculum. I was hoping to find some websites online I could use as kind of a guide and print out some worksheets from. TIA!
My daughter's 3rd grade teacher requested 100 mechanical -sm
pencils. Now can you imagine the needing 100 mechanical pencils (or even regular pencils for that matter) in one year. It is mechanical therefore refillable. I can see maybe a dozen, but 100???? A friend suggested a typo....I ended up buying two packs of 24 at 5.50 a pack. There was no way I was getting 100, what am I supplying her kids too??? Or all the kids whose parent won't buy any supplies? Or is she reselling them on ebay. I am definitely asking the teacher about that one or the school, definitely nuts.
How old is your son? Something similar happened to mine in first grade and it escalated. sm
It was because he was a bigger, tough boy, and like yours I have taught him to only hurt others in self-defense. This girl ended up dragging him around the playground by the hood of his jacket and almost choking him to death before a teacher who happened to be looking out the window (not the ones who were gabbing on the playground unaware) noticed and ran out to help him. Even after that the teacher was just going to make the girl sit out for a little while because "the girl has a little crush on your son." I made such a big deal that the teacher called a class discussion about safety and not touching others and how you can hurt people, etc.
My high school best friend had it in 10th grade
Missed about 2 weeks of school(made it to the prom but was hospitalized the next day). After she was "better" she never had any more problems with it. She is now 40.
One of DS's best friends (started when she was 15) had it and while she never had to be hospitalized, she was home schooled for a month. Everytime she would feel better she would overdue it and have a small relapse. This was 3 years ago and she still tires easily. She often naps but is still quite active in many ways.
Looking for simple game ideas for first grade Christmas party. nm
I don't even know what that is... lived in CA, AZ, OR
and Nevada. Never heard of scrapple.
:) Thanks! LOL--I wish you lived near me too...SM
We live in Nebraska.
My idea of shopping is Walmart, Target, and K-Mart. It worked while my boys were young, but now that they're getting older I guess I'll hafta dig deeper in the pocketbook and shop at stores in the mall. Thanks for the link! :)
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close enough to a beach to go every day, but then again, I probably would NEVER work!
You see, I have never lived by
myself. I went straight from home, to the college dorm, to my grandma's for the summer, then I got married. I never got to be on my own. I think everybody should have that opportunity. I think it would have changed me in lots of ways.
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