my 6-year-old grandson
Posted By: MT on 2007-10-18
In Reply to: Need advice - country MT
There is nothing wrong with your son and he doesn't need anxiety medication. This is a normal part of his growing up, and I discussed this with my grandson's pediatrician. At this age they hear so much, especially when people talk, on the TV, mention of it even in commercials, and they love their family so much that they do not want anything to happen to them. They have a fear of something they don't understand, and want to know that the safety and security they know and love in their family will not be taken away from them. He may have overhead something that even you are not aware of, and their little minds can pick up on anything. I had a talk with my grandson and explained some things about dying that he could understand (he even worries about his teacher dying). We didn't make much of this, and were not serious about it, so he thought it was normal. We try to answer his questions about this seriously and reassure him. At this age they also have nightmares and are changing so much and taking in so much in their daily lives. They are transitioning from a little child into a more self-assured and somewhat independent young man or young lady. My grandson crept into bed each night with his Mom, and has had reassurance from that. The pediatrician says not to make too much of it and it will pass, and also not to expose them to too much on the TV, but replace that with healthy programs and reading books and playing games with them. Also some video games are inappropriate, as they have too much violence and fighting. Before he goes to bed at night just read something happy and have a quiet time with him. Play some soothing music in the room, or have a night light on, and talk to him before he goes to sleep. Also, ask him if there is anything bothering him that you could help him with. Since you mentioned Sunday School, have you ever mentioned that he is protected by his angels and is never alone?
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Grandson just skipped a grade last year (sm)
He started in kindergarten and promptly began acting out. Luckily the teacher and principal decided he was not just a rowdy child, but bored. He had somehow learned to read himself during the summer before kindergarten and we weren't really aware he could do it. They tested him out as reading third grade level as he was just beginning kindergarten. After much testing and conferences (against normal school board practices) they moved him up on a permanent basis. They also placed him in the gifted program in our school district. The counselor and teachers were careful to monitor his progress and social interactions. The only time we have noticed a big problem was in Cub Scouts. They put him in a group by grade level and he did seem a little more childish than some of his group. He adapted well, though.
This is my second grandchild to be in the gifted program here, both have tested out with very high IQs. Socially they both fit in well, perhaps the youngest one is a little too into computers, puzzles and games, but he fits human interaction in there too.
Their precious little minds need to be fed just as their bellies do. Good luck to you.
My Grandson
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Was out with 3 yo grandson at 6:30 a.m. playing!!
Not really a snow lover myself anymore, but it sure was fun to watch his excitement. He even got old ski poles out of the barn and was skiing the imaginary slopes, swooosh! Of course mamaw had to be right there along with him!
This happened to my grandson
First, I would talk with the parents of the young girl your son was kind enough to lend his game to. Obviously, this young girl will not divulge having the game for obvious reasons, and in this age group this happens often. I would also not point an accusing finger, but simply state what happened and perhaps the parent could help the daughter look through her room to find it. Nothing may come of this, but at least the child now knows you are aware of what happened.
This happened to my grandson also. My daughter drives a school bus and my grandson took his DS game on the bus and placed it in a safe place in the front by the driver's area on the bus, or so he thought. When they came home that afternoon my grandson looked for his game and it was not where he had placed it. Someone had gone into the area where my daughter places her purse and other things for safekeeping and the DS game was no longer there.
They told the principal of the school about the incident, as it was a theft, and guess what, the principal refused to do anything about it, and none of the children on the bus were even asked if they had seen it seen. My daughter even asked the kids on the bus if they could help my grandson look for it, or maybe they had seen it, not accusing of course. Well, you can guess how that turned out. Of course, none of the children admitted to having it. There was $35 down the drain, so to speak, that I had given my grandson for the game he bought for his birthday.
She also gave him the same lecture about being more reponsible. These are also 4th graders were are talking about in my grandson's class.
My daughter also said the same thing that you did. She was upset because the principal did nothing about it either, since it was on school property.
I feel sorry for your son. He has a kind heart, but I guess he learned, as my grandson did, that sometimes people are not as honorable as they should be.
I lost a 12-day old grandson to this 3 years ago...
my daughter did not know she was infected, had no lesions, had a vaginal delivery and the baby became infected. A truly heart wrenching, horrible end for this sweet baby boy. He was fine for the first 8 days of life and then became suddenly ill. My daughter had to make the decision to end his life (she was only 22 at the time). I happened to be on a trip at the time going to the memorial service for my father who died from lung cancer. The worst month of my life. Thanks for sharing the story.
Expensive, but love smell of my little grandson.
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Grandson won't eat without ketchup, even on Thanksgiving dinner!
I know my cooking is lousy but he does this everywhere so I can't take it personally, grosses me out!
Bigger issue - a 16 year old living withi a 29 year old and liability
Are you still not responsible for him until he is 18, how can he tell you where he will live? Unless he emancipates himself and he does something wrong, can they go against you since you are his mother and legally responsible for him? I worry more about him living with a 29 year old sister rather than returning a house key to me that is a bigger issue.
My 14-year-old is going to be a mother-in-law (so funny) if you google it and 11-year-old daughter
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Won $2,000 on slot machine on New Year's Eve. What a way to start the year. nm
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Set my budget a year in advance, save all year and
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What a difference a year makes! Last year, sm
we had the same problem. Fines everywhere for watering.
Paid $60,000 on principal last year and this year
planning on another $30,000 after my taxes paid for the year. We are getting our house paid down very quickly.
55-year old woman has birthday sex with 12-year old
DAYTON - Gloria Murphy gave children celebrating her 55th birthday alcohol and then had sex with a 12-year-old boy at the party on Thursday, Jan. 29, according to police.
The boy got into Murphy’s bed at 5440 Rawlings Drive, where the married woman had sex with her adolescent neighbor, according to police and Montgomery County prosecutors.
Two of the children at the party ran home at about 6 a.m. Jan. 30 and told a parent they saw the boy and woman having sex, according to 911 audio.
The parent then called police at about 6:15 a.m., according to a police report and 911 audio.
Murphy did not force the boy to have sex, but since he is younger than 13, it is considered rape, Lt. Patrick Welsh said. No other children were involved in the sexual encounter, but some other children at the party consumed alcohol, according to police.
A 17-year-old would have the same goals as a 20 year old (sm)
Only the 20 year old is hopefully more responsible and based on what you say about his character, would be a better choice than someone her own age.
I have a 9-year-old son that sounds just like your 10 year old...
Lately he has been so negative about everything...trying to make him have a good summer and whenever I take him somewhere, he is just a brat when we get home...I think they are called tweens at this age...not quite teenagers but have the attitude like one---LOL
We skipped it entirely last year, and THIS year?
This 40-year-old got dumped for a 30-year-old
http://www.gqmagazine.co.uk/CoolNewStuff/Photos.aspx?StoryID=53859
This year will be our 35th year
The first couple years it was literally 5 or 6 times a day every day (more on the weekends). Over time it gradually slowed down (once a day) and over the past few years its been 2 or 3 times a week. Not sure that is average or not. There were times were I felt it was too much and him not enough, then there were times where I wanted it more and he didn't. Guess everyone goes through a phase. I guess because of how long we've been together, now it's just comfortable - nothing exciting about it. Just a routine. I have to make it exciting in my mind and pretend I'm someone else.
I don't know what it is, but you are correct...after awhile the lust and infatuation wears off and you get in a routine. I guess for us it was that we really didn't know each other when we married (we dated for 3 weeks then eloped). Once I got to know him it was too late. Now 35 years later it is just comfort (and amazingly we never once used birth control and never had any kids). My mom still tells me she's amazed at the frequency of our encounters that not even once did I even have a "close call" with getting pregnant.
But 35 years once or twice a week and 3 or 4 times on weekends. Not sure if that is normal.
My 7-year-old dog is very ill.
One of my two huskies started getting sick Saturday or Sunday. Her symptoms suggest poisoning or a brain tumor. She has always been sensitive to airborn allergens. Her eyes itch terribly if she the dog bed has cedar, and we avoid foods with wheat or corn or too many carbs, trying to keep her healthy. Anyway, it seems the slip cover I put on the dogs' chair may have been treated with something like formaldehyde and she is reacting to that. But I removed it when I started suspecting it on Monday night, and left the window open all night. She seems to get better and then gets worse, even though I'm not letting her back up on that chair. We have ordered an air filter for the living room. But symptoms wax and wane, and they are mostly neurological: squints eyes, acts like she can't see, walks in circles, breathing is slowed, she's very lethargic, presses her head on me for comfort (she's done this for years, but now I read head-pressing is a neurological sign), drooling, forgets to to outside to urinate and has incontience in the house.
Please pray that the Creator has mercy and heals her for us. Misha is sweet.
We are getting my son the PS2 this year,
and that in itself is around $140, around $40 for his leggo set (on sale at that). It adds up.
How about over $500 this year
for your tax return? That is through one of the biggest places we have, not some fly-by-night. Mine are more in depth because of rental, selling a home this past year and my working from home but this year am getting back over $6,000.00 but guess what? I am always just glad to get back any amount rather than paying!!
I go through it every year, though last year - sm
they did surprise me after saying it was delayed a month, I ended up getting it about 10 days later. When it has been delayed it has taken about 5 weeks. The website should give you a date of when to expect it, and that is generally right on the money. As for the date, contact the courts and have him arrested, maybe jail will teach him to pay on time. Good luck.
This is such a bad year
that my allergies are acting up, and I've had very little trouble for the past 10 years or so. Interestingly, my allergies decreased to near nothing after I was on an antifungal medication for an extended period. There are theories that all the increased allergies and asthma are related to they heavy-duty antibiotics we are able to use now for bacterial infections. Maybe these are messing up our airway flora and increasing problems with allergies?
When you say you've been on nasal sprays, what about the asthma ones, like albuterol nad Atrovent? That's what they had to put my sister on.
Hope you get some relief. Allergies are miserable.
What year is your car? sm
My husband works at an auto parts store, and I'll ask him what he thinks, but I think he needs to know the year.
My 17-year-old DD
has been wearing a size 10 or 10 1/2 ladies for the last 3 years. She is 5Ǝ" or 5Ə". My 20-year-old DS wears a 12 mens and has since high school. I wear an 8 or 9 and my hubby only wears an 8. We have no idea where these kids get their height or those feet! Our 15-year-old DS is following in their footsteps, excuse the pun, as well. He is in a 10 mens sneaker and already a head taller than my 5ƌ". Unbelievable. 
I did this last year
If it's the one I think it is, my friend send it to my last year, and I almost had heart failure. I screamed so loud I thought I'd wake up the house. I also had the sound on really loud and never again! LOL
6-year-old
Country MT, you are not harming your son. I am almost 52 yo, have a great niece on weekends, 2-1/2 yo. It is the only stability she gets. If she wants to sleep with us until she is 15 it will be okay! Her only requests as she comes in the door are "I want my bottle, blankie and rock-a-bye." She lives in a horribly unstable household and we are like heaven on earth to her. Before anyone blasts me, I have called DSFS - they are short on foster parents, so no help there. Her mom is too selfish to let us keep her all the time, is pregnant with her 4th. We also keep the 14-month-old baby boy one night during the week. New baby is due 12/18. Baby boy prefers the crib unless he is suffering with teething. My mom has an ongoing fit about me giving Sarah a bottle at all. Sarah drinks the bottle while we rock, hands it to me when finished and life goes on. Sleeping with us comes from her being sick as a tiny infant and not sleeping much at all. I slept with my grandparents when little and grew up to get married, have 2 kids, and am not sick or perverted. Listen to your heart, not negative people. Your son will love you for it forever.
I was there this year, last year, the year
before, etc. etc. From what I see in the casino as you walk in, the place is just below where I would stay, say the smoke filled place versus to I personally saw a person walking into the Bellagio being asked to put his cigarette out by security. I like that. The Flamingo is 1 of the older places - the location is good but it is right across from Cesear's and catty-corner to the Bellagio so I just love staying in a little classy place.
Doing it again either New Year's Day or New Year's Eve
:)
Not a fan of New Year's eve
I guess I'm a party pooper. I just stayed home and didn't even stay up to see the ball drop. Boring, I know . . .
Me too. Maybe that's what the new year is about...
I have been sitting here thinking my resolution needs to be to have more fun this year and worry less. But then again I am not in the party mode either...maybe it's all about taking care of ourselves and celebrating by going to bed early is a good thing! Hope your day goes well. I'm gonna type til my fingers fall off today so I can make extra money to go to Disney (see if that ever happens LOL). :)
New Year's Eve
We celebrated at our friend's house across the street. We go there every year. We played Deal or No Deal on a television computer game and ate a lot. We watched New Year's Rockin' Eve and got home at about 12:30 a.m. Today is a day of relaxation before work tomorrow. I've been off for a week and a half so I'm not looking forward to it.
New Year's Eve
Our two teenaged kids had previous plans to spend the night at friends' homes, and we would be communicating with them via text or phone call at midnight. My husband and I together made a romantic dinner with candlelight and wine. We had a fabulously fun and romantic night together (details left out - lol). We also tuned in for a brief time to a Twilight Zone marathon. Getting in touch with past phenomenon such as that really brings to mind our youth, memories, and awareness of such. A great night, especially with everyone safe.
I hope everyone here had a great holiday and will have a healthy, happy 2008!
17-year-old
My 17-year-old cat, Cyrus, died one year ago. . He always wanted a lot of attention - loved people - but toward the end, he seemed to want attention/being held, even more. . I am so sorry you are going through this - it is not easy. . I miss my Cyrus every day - he was a true friend.. we went through A LOT together...
You have been with him for over a year and have
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Had one about a year ago -
needle for local anesthesia, then very quick - left barely a little scab. Takes several layers but not deep. No pain and nothing afterwards - didn't even require any bandage after initial band-aid. On my breastbone area so probably one of the most tender places.
My 12-year-old goes to bed at 9 and gets up at 6:30
It sounds like right now your child actually goes to bed at 10, so if you extend until 10 it'll really be more like 10:30.
Mine started complaining a bit last year about bedtime, but this year started realizing how much better you feel/look when you get plenty of sleep. This year has been the easiest time...with child actually wanting to go to sleep. Of course, summer is coming and that throws a wrench in everone's schedule:-)
I was on it for about year ago and after
you find the things you like it isn't that bad. You just have to pick and choose, and I did lose almost 20 lbs., just have to be careful when you go off if it.
i would never allow my 5 and 9 year old
a few years back on his. He was with his children on it, he threw them off and they lived but he didn't.
My 11-year-old *man*
is also more emotional of late. I think a lot of it just depends on the kid. My guy has always been a little more sensitive than his brothers. He's about 10 pounds overweight and it bothers him that the kids call him fat. He's not fat. I told him if they didn't pick on him about that, it would be something else. Kids are cruel and they definitely find the ones that are most vulnerable. I would speak with the youth director and see if there might be ways to build up his self-esteem. I think more than anything he's suffering from a low self-esteem.
Some kids are just naturally confident and that makes them popular. He'll grow into himself soon enough. I've found that by inviting his friends over really helps to build his self-confidence. We just had his 11th birthday party at one of those party places with laser tag, arcades, jungle gym and we allowed him to invite 7 friends (that's all our 2 vehicles would hold). Although I guided him in who to pick, ultimately the decision was his. Not one of the kids he asked was in the "popular crowd", more on the outskirts like him. They all said it was the best birthday party they'd ever been to. They're still talking about it at school a week later. I think a couple of the more popular kids were upset they didn't get invited, but I hope it taught them a lesson and maybe even brought them down a peg or 2.
The kids change, but the attitudes don't. It was the same thing when I was in school. There will always be someone who gets off on making you feel bad. You just have to teach your kids how to cope with it and let them know how important they are. I said about inviting his friends over because usually kids are more confident in their own home. Letting his friends see his self-confidence at home will probably help him be more like that in school. Good luck with your guy.
almost 10 year old son
My almost 10 y/o son gets emotional like that also. If he is trying to explain something and cannot find the words, he tears up. Any frustration and he tears. He does have some anxiety, but his doctor said this is not abnormal. If we have complaints from school then we need to think about doing something, but for now we just try to nip it before he gets too upset. Unless he starts to tear over something reasonable (heck, even I can tear up if I get frustrated enough!). These kids have so much pressure on them now days. Just keep supporting him and helping him through.
One year...sm
for a church party, I wore sweats and pinned socks and other small clothing items to my clothes with some drier sheets and went as static cling. Very cheap and good for a some laughs.
The 2 and 4-year-old are doing well...sm
It is just the 8 year old who is not. Not to say the other 2 aren't sad that they can't see their mom I'm sure but they are not as distraught like the oldest. He seems to understand more what has happened.
I have a 16-year-old and 14-year-old.....
They don't go anywhere on the weekdays!!! They come home after school or practice. Why do they need to go out "socially"? They are at school socializing all day......Yes, I'm too strict!!!
Not this year but...
Many years back my 2 SILs got in a fight over their brother and one ended up with a bloody nose! Nowdays we do our own Thanksgiving with our kids...so no fights yet, of course my DS did just get married and my DD will be getting married next year, so who knows!
I am now on my 3rd year of all of this.
I can go 4 weeks, 2 weeks, 3 weeks, 6 weeks, etc. without a period, no rhyme or reason. (I am currently 50). So, I have no idea how long it lasts.
8-year-old
I was the same age when I saw the movie "Love Story" I cried, sobbed, howled for an hour, just like you described. Everybody in the house thought it was hilarious. Sounds like you are a better mom than mine, but also may need to monitor what your "very sensitive" little girl watches on TV.
sometimes, it will just be a year they
won't cover; if no recurrence, then you'd be alright...
My best buy for this year (and ever)
I bought 1 of those heated throw blankets but have it on my side of the bed and turn it on before getting in bed each night. I am so warm now- have frozen for years because my temperature runs lower than some because of thyroid problem. I gathered 4 of my own, took 1 blanket and talked hubs into separating from 3 of his winter coats last evening and took to Kroger Store for project they are having about helping people out who need coats. I love coats and had those extra so know it was supposed to get cold here and wanted to share some warmth.
How much are they this year? sm
I have two nieces selling them and want to be fair, haven't bought any in a few years as we have to watch our diets, but hate to ask how much? If I knew, then I could budget some for each. I hear the price is going up and the volume is less. However, wonderful organization, the best! Worth the price just to keep up the support.
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