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I'm not a novice to moving.  Between 1996 and 2005, I moved 9 times, always with a U-Haul and hiring day workers to load and unload, except for the last move when I hired professional movers and it was smooth.  I will be using professional movers again this time.  Expensive but only 4 hours down time and in the MT business, time is money.

Here is my problem.  When I moved in here 2 years ago, it was with my now 25 yo son.  He has since moved out and now I am raising my 4 yo granddaughter.  I've never moved wtih a preschooler underfoot (I'm single).  I also thought I would be here a very, very long time, so I started making this a *home* again by buying nick nacks, restocking a respectable kitchen, hanging pictures, etc.  I've gained a lot of weight and only have a drawer full of clothes to pack, but the 4 yo, oy, she has clothes and stuff animals and little bitty tiny things that seem to move around the house while I'm sleeping at night.

I decided to finally get rid of things I've been hauling around since 1996 (french lead crystal, a really nice Mardi Gras collection of dolls, faces, beads), shoes, clothes I now realized I am NOT going to be getting back into within the next year.  Basically, I decided if I haven't touched it since I moved in here, I'm going to get rid of it.  It is all going to the thrift store or dumpster.  But, I'm finding that I am spending so much time organizing the getting rid of stuff or just throwing unusable stuff away, I'm not packing!  I don't feel organized at all and I'm the type that NEEDS to be organized.  And now I'm starting to feel panic that I won't be ready on the 28th when the truck pulls up.  Of course, every time I organize one area, the 4 yo comes along with her stuff and I can't walk across the room without stepping on her stuff, so that sets me back.  I've scheduled a service to come in 2 days after everything is moved out so I don't have to worry about cleaning, thank goodness.

What do I do?  Am I doing this backwards?  Should I go ahead and pack the stuff I want to take and THEN deal with the stuff I'm not going to take?  I am limited to 50 boxes.  I have so many collections of breakables now and the company won't let me pack them in the dresser drawers.  I can only put cloth items in my drawers.  It would be so much easier to pad the breakables in linens and clothing in the drawers, but I can't.

I wish I could just send the 4 yo to someone for the next 2 weeks, but that isn't going to happen.  On top of that, I scheduled myself for a really heavy work load these 2 weeks because I'll need extra money for rent on the 1st.  The new place is $300/month more than where I live now.  I'm moving because the school district rezoned the street where I live and it's not a good district and little one starts school in August.  I'm moving to a much better district.  The daycare across the street will be $200/month less than the one I use now, so that will help offset the cost of the new place, but I won't feel it in my pocket until the middle of next month.

Please give me some tips and maybe a Valium!

So I am from California, my little sister has been in North Carolina where her husband is stationed at the Marine Corps for two years.  They just had their first baby (the first extended family member) and I flew back there for the birth

08-18-08 8 pounds, 3 ounces 19 inches long

And now that I'm back home (only got to spend a week of her life with her) I am missing her tremendously!  The rest of my family is here on the west coast, but I'm feeling like I want to be closer to my niece.  My mom thinks it is because I am at the age of wanting babies, but I don't want my own yet!  Is this a crazy idea?  I mean, most people are not able to take their work where they go, and I don't want to pass the opportunity up.  I wouldn't live in Jacksonville, NC where they are, I was thinking more along the lines of Myrtle Beach SC... two hours away so they still have their privacy and I live somewhere where I think I would love (but have no idea really, I visited there one time)... I just don't know how you go about making plans to make such a huge move...

Any thoughts, suggestions, advice?

Obviously this is a quick assessment of my lifestyle, but I am willing to do it, but is it crazy to think i want to be around my niece enough that I would move 3,000 miles away from my home?

Thanks for the input

and i attached a pic cause i can't help showing her off! :)

This is Allyson Ayn!

but as far as when it will air, I really don't know as there have been some issues with the transfer between the producers and Bravo. There is an injunction against Lifetime from Bravo to where they cannot air the show until the legal mess gets sorted out, even though the season has been filmed, except for the finale.

I do like Top Chef on Bravo but it comes on the same time as Life on Mars, so I have to catch it on reruns.

Hi, I am looking for a little advice.  I am moving from my apartment after 3-1/2 years.  I am asthmatic and the lady under me is a very heavy smoker and the smoke infiltrates my apartment so badly that I have often thought of going to a hotel for the night. That is really not my issue. This lady has her rights and it is just time to move to a healthier apartment for me and my severe asthma.  Here is the big question:

My landlord has been asked on several occasions to try to find where the smoke is getting through to my place.  I have never made this a personal issue with the smoke, just a structural issue that might be resolved.  Everything they tried to do never really worked.  However, for the last 1-1/2 years, this landlord has been promising to put my DH and myself in another two bedroom apartment in the same complex. The time kept passing and it never happened.  Finally, I had enough and decided to ask to break my lease (with a doc's note).  The landlord THEN said to me "there will never be another 2 bedroom apartment because if another smoker moves under you, you will have the same situation."   Probably this is not the case, as the buildings are 40+ years old and the particular building I am in has "settled" leaving cracks in ceilings, etc.  Some of the other buildings do not have this problem.  SO, my question.... Keeping me signing a new lease in the hopes of getting a new apt and then telling me no, is that not DESCRIMINATION against my asthma?  I have been very patient and kind to everyone involved, and find that I am just getting kicked in the butt.  I know that smoking is a brittle issue with a lot of people, especially smokers who have been kicked out of just about everywhere and made to stand outside.  I understand that and I have not made this a "smoking war".  I have tried to find a structural way to solve it and if it cant be done, then I am just moving out . Easy as that.  Still, I can't help but feel bitter at the landlord who promised me another apartment and didn't deliver, saying I would have the same issues.  I have lived in apartments all my life and never had an issue like this, probably because this lady is an extremely heavy smoker (4 packs a day) and she does not open her windows.  The problem was inevitable. This is not a normal "smoker" issue.  Any comments on where I could stand legally would help. I know this is a "constructive eviction" which means the apt. was not habitable for me because of my asthma and I moved due to that.  any help is appreciated. tks in advance.  Sorry so long.

a townhouse.  No more upstairs/downstairs issues.  People along the sides, but pure wall with no obvious way for smoke.  This should be better.  I will have two floors and nobody under  I live in PA and there are no clauses in my lease for non-smoking so it is time to smell my own fresh air.  It's a shame the LL didn't afford me the same rights as the smoker.  Sure, my neighbor has the right to smoke in her own home, but I have the right also to not breathe her smoke in MY home.  I know in some cases this is called trespass, but I am just too tired to fight it anymore.  Next weekend I will be free free free!  Thanksagain for your comments.  I can always trust this site to give me a little support and lift my spirits. 

still praying for all those folks who got hit in the 40-mile range that this tornado went through......

Prayers will continue of course.  Thanks for keeping us updated, I was wondering. 

Things other people fear that I do not include snakes (awwww, they so cute! they look like they're smiling!), rats, gangbangers (except Mara Salvatrucha, move them up to my "scary" list), poverty, death, traveling at high rates of speed with almost anyone sober, bats (CUTE!!!!!), homeless people, Sasquatch, most of my male friends, bears, mountain lions. 

Fear is such an odd thing, don't you think? So much of it is relative to our own experiences in life, yet at the same time some of them are downright irrational. 

So, how 'bout you? What will send  you running screaming in the other direction, and what things can you take care of when someone else goes running screaming in the other direction?

I went through a similar situation with my (now ex-) husband's family during the ten years we were married.

Your husband is NOT the problem, his parents are. You said that your husband tried (albeit unsuccessfully) to get along with his father. So, it seems to me that he *DID* try as best as he could. But, sometimes, no matter how hard you try, things don't work out. So you do what the song says, "You have to know when to hold up; know when to fold up ..."

Now, it seems to me that his parents are treating your children like "holiday turkeys," ... bring them to be brought to the table once or twice a year, but ignore them the rest of the year. Yes, that's pretty much what it sounds like, and my heart goes out to your children 'cause I know the pain they are suffering ... because of their grandparents.

I also suspect that the ONLY reason your husband's parents went to the event was to "stick it" to your husband, and not because of the grandchildren. When you love someone and are truly proud of them, you do everything you can to be part of their life.

The ONLY people who matter in all of this are your immediate family ... You, your husband, and your children. Do not let his parents tear you all apart. I think you all need to get into therapy (you, your husband, and the children), so you can work through this problem AS A FAMILY UNIT, 'cause you're the only family that truly matters. You're all in pain and all of your feelings need to be counted, by each other.

Take it from someone who lived it. 

Your writing my store.  I too went to court over 20 times due to custody battle with a dud.  After 4 years of being dragged in and out of court, I ended up the what I had before I started $100 a week.  I did get sole custody of my son though.  I spent probably about $20,000 on lawyers (4 of them).   I wrote a credit check for $5000 to hold is escrow because I had to sell my house and was planning on paying it after the sale of my house.  Well, the lawyer cashed my check and ended up in jail after he ripped off about $75,000 from clients.  I was out $5000.  

I also had a warrant out for my arrest becuse my ex took a notice I had to go to court out of my mail box.  Being that he was good friends with the neighbors from h&#%, I did get arrested and put in jail for about 4 hours which cost me another $250 for the bail. 

Keep your head up.  It will get better.  I haven't gone to court since 8/05 because both judges, the one in family court and the one in municipal court both told my ex to leave me alone.    Everytime I get the mail I'm expecting to get a notice to go to court.   Believe it or not, it wasn't so bad being in jail, a cell to myself, and away from the h$&% he put me through. 

So here I am, had to sell my house, broke as anything, living in a condo, but my kid is all mine. The ex moved 2 minutes away from me "to keep an eye on me" but what goes around comes around and I'm just waiting for the day he gets what he deserves.  My son refuses to go to his house because his girlfriend also took me to court a few times.  He is supposed to pick him up on Saturday morning and bring him home Sunday night every weekend.  So guess who has to give the kid money for the weekend - me.   That comes out of the $100 a week along with lunch money, clothing, food, etc.   I literally ended up having a nervous breakdown, 6 days in the looney bin. 

Keep your head up, I know exactly what you're going through and somehow it does get better.  ');>

Hayseed said, "No more breads, pastas, rice, or taters....all the things we really loved." That could be part of my problem. We've been eating a lot of pasta, rice and taters because hubby can't have dark greens, which includes salads, green beans, etc. because of gout and on Coumadin for AVR.  Don't know what else to make anymore.

We gave up coffee, now, too, because both of us were having stomach problems with it. Two cups a day was our limit. He can survive with it, I can't seem to do that. LOL

Dinosaur said, " I had undiagnosed diabetes and would just "poop" out when my blood sugar was too low (or even too high!)."  Diabetes runs in my family and I've been watching my counts for the past 10 years. So far, so good. I don't eat sugary stuff like pies,cakes, candy, soda. Don't like sweets that much.

I was checked for Lyme disease a couple years ago because I had 2 tick bites. That was negative.

The only allergy I have is my home. Ever since we moved to this house, I've had the flu, colds, runny nose, sneezing, coughing, etc.

Guess I'll have to make an appointment with a doctor and try to find out. Usually I'm one of those people who has something wrong that no one can figure it out. When I was 40, I had mono (rare for my age group) and was told I was "borderline Epstein-Barr and Guillame-Barre [sic]."

 I was also checked for B12 deficiency (borderline), Anemia (borderline), rheumatoid arthritis, etc. You name it, I had the test over a 2 year period. The answer? Nada. I'm beginning to think all these "borderline" tests are coming back to bite me.

Thanks for your help. I think I will make an appointment to get checked out again.

1.  Your house payment probably also has your taxes and insurance added in.  If paid off, you'll still have to pay these.  Mine account for about 1/2 of my total house payment.  Plus, 6% is low compared to the other interest rates.  

2.  Debt to credit ratio:  I've had all of my credit cards increase their rates to "default" rates just because my debt was a high percentage of all my credit (no missed payments, no late pays, etc.)  This will affect the teaser rates as well. 

3.  Your 401k is also probably earning some type of interest.  Take that "lost" interest from money you've borrowed into account.  That will help you better compare the interest rates. 

If you feel you have to talk to a debt counselor, there is no shame in that!  Just make sure it's a reputable company.  As with most things, there are a lot of scams out there.  Good Luck!

One, she's a cleaning lady, not a housekeeper...

Two, you didn't catch her "red handed", you don't even know 100% for sure that she took your drawers.  Red handed is when you catch someone in the act, which in this case you did not...