moving out of state
Posted By: sm on 2008-11-21
In Reply to: Anyone go through a divorce w/younger kids? sm - UnHappyFlaMT
Check your divorce laws in your states. Many states will not let you or your (ex) spouse move out of state without permission of the other. Some even have a mileage radius. I think it's to keep both parents close to the kids and not having one parent run far away so the other can't ever see the kids again. My kids were 5 and 1 when I was in the process of getting divorced, and I moved out of state before I realized this. Fortunately my ex realized and understood the need for me and the kids to be close to my family for support, so it was written in the papers that it was okay for me to move out of state and he signed it.
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I'd be moving that bunch out of state!
What's the lowest-populated state?
Either that or I'd change the trim to iron somehow. Wouldn't that be funny to see them run up and try to chomp on iron? Attitude adjustment!
I wonder if it is some dental condition.
My dad's squirrels insist on stealing branches from his variagated hydrangea. He actually has to cover the bush with netting to foil them.
It's not as if they even use all the branches for their nests. They leave some scattered around the yard, the dorks.
Precious! Many places will have state-to-state drivers form a chain
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Think you can go to dot.state to get h'way conditions, but here in lower NY state, we've been
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We are moving...
In May after our DD graduates from HS. She's a senior and we don't want to pull her out of her HS that she's been in for 4 years now. We're putting the house on the market probably in Jan-Feb. If it sells, (yeah, right) we'll just rent an apartment or something until May.
why is he moving out?
If he does not like your rules or is a troublemaker, I am surprised his sister would want to take him on as it seems from your posts she is a responsible person. Are you a miserable person to live with? I ask because my mother was a misery to live with, and none of us kids could wait to get away from her.
All we ever heard was == All I do for you kids, no appreciation, etc. Believe me, we were not bad kids. She just resented the hard work of being a mother and blamed us for her misery. Hello, don't have kids if you don't want the responsibility, headaches, etc.
Also you keep referring to MY house. That sounds just like my mother. In my family, we call it OUR house.
you should have put that $500 towards moving
You really need to just get out of there.
I am too. I have tried moving to our
but the kids moved their computer by me. Seems whereever I go they follow. I had no big windows in there so I went back to the family room, which is now called the office. But it is more like the kids room with mommy trying to work and bothering them. They play classroom in here, webkinz, toontown, do homework, etc. I used to have it in the bedroom, for years, but got depressed because I literally never left the room except to take care of the kids and do chores. I got depressed and the doc said I had to take the computer out of my bedroom, because even when not working, in bed, I'd think about work or see it constantly.
I once had an office with walls, but the kids took up camp in there too. They are all 11 and under so I can't wait until they want mommy less and are teenagers for example. Maybe then, they'd spend time by themselves and only come to me for money. LOL. I love them, but the noise and clutter that come withs them well just not exactly a good environment for a doc who speaks no English and eats chips at the same time.
moving
I am moving 1,000 miles from where I live right now. The move is taking place on 03/19/2009. Since living in Ohio, I have been through so much sorrow and stressful things. I want to move on and go back where my sons live. The only thing I will regret is leaving my granddaughter's grave site. It is only a couple of minutes from here, and I can go any time I want. I know when I leave, I will not be back, and I will miss visiting her.
moving
I moved 21 years ago all by myself about 450 miles away. That way I got visited way less by family and no more surprise visits.
If you stay put, it implies that you are happy where you are, not that you are too scared to do something else.
He said he was moving, so I would say ok to that!
When you lump all husbands together you are not talking everyone. My husband wants me to be happy, not just him. When I first started reading your post I was thinking divorce in the works. Only married 2 years, do you really think it is worth 2 more? Why in the world do you have to do what HE wants? Does not sound like much of a mutual marriage to me. He sounds very immature. The marriage is in for a lot of trouble.
Very moving. Thanks for sharing. nm
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A friend is moving there. I just SM
always imagined it as a tourist town. I suppose it really is a lovely city. He is specifically moving to North Myrtle Beach, SC.
I guess it seemed strange to me, because the person moving there is my rabbi. I'm sorry, I'm laughing! Anyway, Myrtle Beach will be getting a wonderful member of the community.
He will be missed deeply here in Pembroke Pines, Fl.
Hope you won't think I'm completely crazy. It just seemed strange a rabbi would be moving to Myrtle Beach.
If I have offended anyone, of any religion, living or not living in Myrtle Beach, I'm sorry. :)
Very moving - see comment
Very moving, touching, sad, proud, thankful, greatful. There are not enough words to thank all the soldiers fighting for us. I was in the miliary some years ago and this brings back so many memories of why I joined. I can't thank enough these people who fight for our freedom and for freedom for others. I still have a lump in my throat from watching this video. What a wonderful tribute to the soldiers this 15-year-old did in making this.
moving things around
I would just rearrange the whole _____ house until he feels better! I think he is trying to tell you something!
Hey, X, no wonder he is moving around alot!!.....nm
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I think I will probably stay here until that day comes. I hate moving. nm
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I'm moving in 2 weeks - where do I start?
I'm not a novice to moving. Between 1996 and 2005, I moved 9 times, always with a U-Haul and hiring day workers to load and unload, except for the last move when I hired professional movers and it was smooth. I will be using professional movers again this time. Expensive but only 4 hours down time and in the MT business, time is money.
Here is my problem. When I moved in here 2 years ago, it was with my now 25 yo son. He has since moved out and now I am raising my 4 yo granddaughter. I've never moved wtih a preschooler underfoot (I'm single). I also thought I would be here a very, very long time, so I started making this a *home* again by buying nick nacks, restocking a respectable kitchen, hanging pictures, etc. I've gained a lot of weight and only have a drawer full of clothes to pack, but the 4 yo, oy, she has clothes and stuff animals and little bitty tiny things that seem to move around the house while I'm sleeping at night.
I decided to finally get rid of things I've been hauling around since 1996 (french lead crystal, a really nice Mardi Gras collection of dolls, faces, beads), shoes, clothes I now realized I am NOT going to be getting back into within the next year. Basically, I decided if I haven't touched it since I moved in here, I'm going to get rid of it. It is all going to the thrift store or dumpster. But, I'm finding that I am spending so much time organizing the getting rid of stuff or just throwing unusable stuff away, I'm not packing! I don't feel organized at all and I'm the type that NEEDS to be organized. And now I'm starting to feel panic that I won't be ready on the 28th when the truck pulls up. Of course, every time I organize one area, the 4 yo comes along with her stuff and I can't walk across the room without stepping on her stuff, so that sets me back. I've scheduled a service to come in 2 days after everything is moved out so I don't have to worry about cleaning, thank goodness.
What do I do? Am I doing this backwards? Should I go ahead and pack the stuff I want to take and THEN deal with the stuff I'm not going to take? I am limited to 50 boxes. I have so many collections of breakables now and the company won't let me pack them in the dresser drawers. I can only put cloth items in my drawers. It would be so much easier to pad the breakables in linens and clothing in the drawers, but I can't.
I wish I could just send the 4 yo to someone for the next 2 weeks, but that isn't going to happen. On top of that, I scheduled myself for a really heavy work load these 2 weeks because I'll need extra money for rent on the 1st. The new place is $300/month more than where I live now. I'm moving because the school district rezoned the street where I live and it's not a good district and little one starts school in August. I'm moving to a much better district. The daycare across the street will be $200/month less than the one I use now, so that will help offset the cost of the new place, but I won't feel it in my pocket until the middle of next month.
Please give me some tips and maybe a Valium!
What's her reason for moving out of dad's house?
I think that is a big factor. Is this something she does from time to time because she doesn't like the rules or gets in an argument? Or do you think she just misses you and wants to spend time with you? Do you think she plans on getting her own place at 18, going away to college, or staying on for awhile? I think that matters too.
If this is habitual or temporary, she can tough it out (as long as it's not an abusive situation). Life isn't easy as an adult and she will be finding that out very soon either way. You aren't a bad parent because you want her to be independent and not think everything is owed to her. The sooner she learns that, the better off she will be.
Suggestions for moving across country?
So I am from California, my little sister has been in North Carolina where her husband is stationed at the Marine Corps for two years. They just had their first baby (the first extended family member) and I flew back there for the birth
08-18-08 8 pounds, 3 ounces 19 inches long
And now that I'm back home (only got to spend a week of her life with her) I am missing her tremendously! The rest of my family is here on the west coast, but I'm feeling like I want to be closer to my niece. My mom thinks it is because I am at the age of wanting babies, but I don't want my own yet! Is this a crazy idea? I mean, most people are not able to take their work where they go, and I don't want to pass the opportunity up. I wouldn't live in Jacksonville, NC where they are, I was thinking more along the lines of Myrtle Beach SC... two hours away so they still have their privacy and I live somewhere where I think I would love (but have no idea really, I visited there one time)... I just don't know how you go about making plans to make such a huge move...
Any thoughts, suggestions, advice?
Obviously this is a quick assessment of my lifestyle, but I am willing to do it, but is it crazy to think i want to be around my niece enough that I would move 3,000 miles away from my home?
Thanks for the input
and i attached a pic cause i can't help showing her off! :)
This is Allyson Ayn!
It is supposed to be moving to Lifetime sm
but as far as when it will air, I really don't know as there have been some issues with the transfer between the producers and Bravo. There is an injunction against Lifetime from Bravo to where they cannot air the show until the legal mess gets sorted out, even though the season has been filmed, except for the finale.
I do like Top Chef on Bravo but it comes on the same time as Life on Mars, so I have to catch it on reruns.
Moving/packing tips???
My husband and I are moving to another state on FRIDAY!!! I can't believe how quickly the moving date has come around. We still have well over half of our packing to do. Do you guys have any tips or motivation techniques to get my butt in gear? I do NOT want to have to be up until 2:00 in the morning Thursday night, but that's what it is starting to look like. HELP!!!
Globes of my eyes moving- anyone else
Do not say should see neurologist, just did that yesterday for another unrelated matter and I did mention the eyes. I noticed this Friday. I thought at first it was the eyelids but no, got a mirror, checked closely and the right eye first was shaking in a vertical direction, a while later the left eye did the same, thank goodness not at the same time, might not could work. Has anyone had something similar and if so what was the end result?
Need opinions. moving from situation
Hi, I am looking for a little advice. I am moving from my apartment after 3-1/2 years. I am asthmatic and the lady under me is a very heavy smoker and the smoke infiltrates my apartment so badly that I have often thought of going to a hotel for the night. That is really not my issue. This lady has her rights and it is just time to move to a healthier apartment for me and my severe asthma. Here is the big question:
My landlord has been asked on several occasions to try to find where the smoke is getting through to my place. I have never made this a personal issue with the smoke, just a structural issue that might be resolved. Everything they tried to do never really worked. However, for the last 1-1/2 years, this landlord has been promising to put my DH and myself in another two bedroom apartment in the same complex. The time kept passing and it never happened. Finally, I had enough and decided to ask to break my lease (with a doc's note). The landlord THEN said to me "there will never be another 2 bedroom apartment because if another smoker moves under you, you will have the same situation." Probably this is not the case, as the buildings are 40+ years old and the particular building I am in has "settled" leaving cracks in ceilings, etc. Some of the other buildings do not have this problem. SO, my question.... Keeping me signing a new lease in the hopes of getting a new apt and then telling me no, is that not DESCRIMINATION against my asthma? I have been very patient and kind to everyone involved, and find that I am just getting kicked in the butt. I know that smoking is a brittle issue with a lot of people, especially smokers who have been kicked out of just about everywhere and made to stand outside. I understand that and I have not made this a "smoking war". I have tried to find a structural way to solve it and if it cant be done, then I am just moving out . Easy as that. Still, I can't help but feel bitter at the landlord who promised me another apartment and didn't deliver, saying I would have the same issues. I have lived in apartments all my life and never had an issue like this, probably because this lady is an extremely heavy smoker (4 packs a day) and she does not open her windows. The problem was inevitable. This is not a normal "smoker" issue. Any comments on where I could stand legally would help. I know this is a "constructive eviction" which means the apt. was not habitable for me because of my asthma and I moved due to that. any help is appreciated. tks in advance. Sorry so long.
thanks for your replies..i am moving next week to
a townhouse. No more upstairs/downstairs issues. People along the sides, but pure wall with no obvious way for smoke. This should be better. I will have two floors and nobody under I live in PA and there are no clauses in my lease for non-smoking so it is time to smell my own fresh air. It's a shame the LL didn't afford me the same rights as the smoker. Sure, my neighbor has the right to smoke in her own home, but I have the right also to not breathe her smoke in MY home. I know in some cases this is called trespass, but I am just too tired to fight it anymore. Next weekend I will be free free free! Thanksagain for your comments. I can always trust this site to give me a little support and lift my spirits.
was thinking of moving to central FLA from Miami
still praying for all those folks who got hit in the 40-mile range that this tornado went through......
Yeah CJ, so glad he is moving in the right direction - sm
Prayers will continue of course. Thanks for keeping us updated, I was wondering.
Went to see one in Mt. Juliet, TN. She was fantastic, told me I was moving (no plans at that time),
marriage would last--missed that 1 by 2 years, but pretty close. She hit my girlfriend exactly - initials of BF, etc.
I disagree. Women have gotten killed by not moving or changing their phone numbers.
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The State of Arizona is opting out. Anyone else's state opting out? NM
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Must be that state of the art leg
she just has to program it and it does the cha cha, disco and rumba all by itself. The other contestants don't have a chance this year.
In my state . . .
Not sure about this, but I think the doctors in my state do an ultrasound before any abortion procedure anyway just to see how far along the mother is. I guess the mother is not required to look at the monitor? I don't believe in abortion for myself, but at the same time I do not thing anyone has the right to tell you what you must and must not do. It is a woman's body and she must live with her decision. I will say this-both times I was pregnant seeing the babies made it all seem real. I knew it was real, but seeing it really hit home that I was about to be blessed with a small wonderful new life.
LOL. Well, he was at our state
fair and we were going anyway, so we figured we would just go the night that he was going to be there. I was absolutely crazy about him when he first came out, then it faded! It was really good last night, though
#1 what state are you in....
I'm curious as to what state you're in and if this is public or private school (I didn't read the entire thread). I want to add that writing something 100-200 times was outlawed in many states years ago - this just makes kids STOOPID (more stoopid). As I know it, also paddling was outlawed DECADES ago in many states........so I'm curious if you're talking about public vs. private school. PADDLING FOR BEING LATE????????? OMG......they better find another way (the schools)........
gee, the censor here said I had to change the spelling of stoopid (bad word apparently).....
What state are you in and
what's growing in your vegetable garden right now?
Broccoli (ending), snow peas, onions, garlic, spinach, red lettuce, dill.
Just planted yesterday: tomatoes, sunburst squash, bush beans, with much more to come . . .
Well I do know that our state is 50-50 (sm)
so 50% of the house is mine but so is 50% of all debt. Regardless of whose name it is in. I have talked to mine about it in the past but not recently. He told me not to ever mention it again unless I was ready to go. As far as family, mine lives 8 hours away and is in no position to help anyway. All I have is God, my kids and my friends. But you know I am very grateful for all of them.
What state are you in?
Oh, I would be road-kill if I brought home another kitty though.... *whine whine whine* :)
in my state...
I can call my contact person at the child support agency and they can draw up the papers to have the child support increased. No cost to me. Or, call the legal aid in your town and see what they suggest.
Please use state boards. NM
Goldbird
I do not think underpaid here in my state
nice that the person won, however as far as putting up with the children, most teachers would never have to do that if the PARENTS did their job now days and taught the kids to respect, mind their elders, share, get along, in other words prepare them for life once they get through school. I think the parents are failing, not the schools.
Once again, depends on the state.....
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Sad state of affairs when he is in the top 2
because if people are really thinking they are voiting for talent, far from it. I think the vote is the cutesy vote, not anything close to anyone with staying power nor star power the likes of Carrie. Oh, could be a shooting star, flash across the night and then gone. He is really 1 of the weaker singers I have ever seen on this show and watched it each and every year. Malinda will do very well. She is strong and will probably outshine most on there this year. I hope people will come to their senses and at least vote Jordin in.
ummmm, D, it looks like CNG is a no-go in my state. SM
Sounds like some fraud and duress has been going on.
Here's a report I found: http://dfi.wa.gov/consumers/news/2006/check_n_go.htm
Wow that's great, what state?
xxx
I don't, but there are individual state
boards too, see State Boards right under Word Help.
Sad state of children
Good for the boys who have been guided under your scout leadership. They will truly have a gift to pass on to their children some day. My boys are 8 and 10, both cub scouts, the oldest crossing over at the end of this year. Most of the boys at school feel that scouting is just for those who are not popular and laugh at it. Fortunately, my oldest son is assertive enough to smile and let them know that he is proud and feels fortunate to belong to scouts, even stating that some day he hopes to be an Eagle Scout who will become President. He has learned so much from scouting--including the true meaning of RESPECT and practices it on those who do not even deserve it. We have to keep plugging away to keep these values in our children, so many kids are lost with parents who are lost. Thank you for your years of dedication and teaching....maybe with one child at a time we can turn this sad trend around.
You state below that you done know if you can make it - sm
or let him go, etc. You never "had" him in the first place. He responds by saying, "you are strong...you will make it." From that response I deduce he does not care, as long as you go away quietly and don't cause him any trouble. I cannot relate unfortunately as I have never gotten involved with anyone over the internet and don't ever intend to. You have made your "relationship" with him into much more than it really is. He says his wife is a "good woman" , that alone speaks volumes and the fact that he is sweeping you under the rug and you can only contact him at work, which is conveniently ending soon and he is cutting you off so his wife doesn't get PO'd. Email and speaking on the phone does not totally tell the whole picture about someone. You have never met him, you have no clue his idiosyncrasies, habits, etc. All you know about him is what he has told you, which is not much from the looks of it. If you cannot handle your "breakup" on your own, then go to a therapist, cleryman, trusted friend, or someone who is close to you and can help you through this. You vested way to much in an unattainable man, which as pointed out below is a definite issue and you need to find out why you did that. Concentrate on the positives, you say he has helped you become a better person, well w/o him try to continue to be that better person and go out and do things, get involved with and organization and keep busy and try not to dwell on this "wonderful guy" who lied to you about being married, and tosses you aside when he deems it unacceptable to continue being your "friend".
I DID state my opinion. Where do you see a
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You can state yours w/o criticizing someone else's though (nm)
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me too (lower NY state)
had to go out for son's teacher conference
Gas prices here in NY State
It's anywhere from $3.19-$3.25 a gallon. We're going away for a few days next weekend and I can only imagine how much it'll cost to fill up (Usually around $60.00).
I think I would tell here you just could not afford it, and state what
you can do, i.e., the week after. He is not obligated to go, especially if it is a $2000 trip with all things considered. If she cannot accept that, that is her problem. Be gracious, but just tell here there is no way to afford the trip. Or, why not just move your trip up a week, go for the entire week, and if there are not enough tickets for everyone, then your DH can go to the ceremony and the rest of you meet them afterwards.
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