maybe the funeral home has an on-line
Posted By: sm on 2007-09-05
In Reply to: What to do when you are going to be out of town - and will miss the funeral and visitation-sm
site to offer words or comfort to the family. I've seen a couple of these. What to say? just what is on your heart, "cannot find words to express..", that your heart hurts with them...you care...
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I think the Harley guys are actually Vietnam war vets. We had the same thing happen here - the Kansas group is not making many converts to their way of thinking.
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I know they keep saying if you do not agree with a post...DO NOT RESPOND..... so they have to BLACK to grieve.....
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Not flaming you.....very good post.....
oh wow! why protest at someone's funeral?--sm
How about a little compassion for the family of the one who was killed? my goodness. this is not the place to hold an anti-war protest!!! Most of these soldiers probably had no choice in where they were sent while serving out country. I am against the war too, but as much as I am against it, I would leave the families of the departed to grieve in peace. how rude! How do the bikers get involved in keeping the peace??? sorry, I just really don't know about all of this.
Not worse than the funeral I went to
NM
Missing funeral
Male a donation in the girl's name to the Natinal Kidney Foundation or some other kidney charity with a nice note.
funeral protester
Is it that same woman with her 8 kids that were picketing the soldiers funerals. That woman is a disgusting disgrace and they should arrest her for disturbing the peace. That ugly SOB. All she wants is media coverage and she should be arrested for child abuse for making her kids learn all this nonsense she is spewing out. I would like to see the people take it upon theirselve to knock the crap out of this woman and have he police just stand by and let her get the crap beat out of that scumball.
There is a funeral in our area this weekend for ...
a soldier killed in Iraq and just found out those wonderful people from Kansas are planning to attend. 
Song not any worse than my at the funeral I went to
Cousin knew she was dying from cancer. My 90-year-old father there and unbelieve, she was always something else, started off with Ole Timey Rock and Roll and the end of the funeral was Somewhere Over the Rainbow. My father said, well I never. I had not either but her choices.
I keep dreaming about going to a funeral and in the middle SM
of the service the deceased gets up and falls on ME! No kidding. Two nights ago TWO of them in one night! What the hay does that mean??? I need your wisdom and guidance!
the funeral thing could be entirely new thread
At times like that the kids are a good reminder that life goes on, and that we live on in our kids, grandkids, etc.
Pianists out there - I need music for a funeral
for a friend who is dying - the Irish tune, Danny Boy. He has asked that it be played at his funeral. Would anyone be willing to send me a copy? I will pay for postage. Thanks.
can people say goodbye without a funeral?
I think i will be faced with this predicament before too long. Husband says he does not want a funeral. Yet i wonder if his kids can say their farewells and be emotionally okay without one? anyone with experience or thoughts on this?
My mom ddnt want a viewing or funeral
I tried to uphold her wishes but her one sister did not have "closure" without some sort of pomp, so five months after mom died (was cremated), I held a small service at the cemetery (didn't want to, but wanted the aunt to have her "closure." She never showed up!
Both hubby and I are not going to have a viewing or funeral and the kids know it. I'm getting cremated, while he wants to be buried the regular way 'cuz he hates being hot. LOL
You can have closure without the above. In fact, in my case, it just brought all the sadness back to the surface and it took me another couple months to get back to normal again. Think of it this way, as mom used to say: "I want people to remember me as I was, not as I am."
Hope this helps.
A funeral is not the time or place for your friend to take a stance over something done 10 yrs ago.
I don't mean to sound harsh, but for your friend to even "think" about saying anything right now would be selfish and inconsiderate. He has had 10 years to deal with this issue. Why now??
I really tried to look at this issue from all angles and to be honest, just really don't "get it." I can't understand why anyone would feel the need to change a name they have had for at least 18 years. If my daughter changed her name, I would be absolutely devastated. Unless she was in the Witness Protection Program, I would continue to call her by the name she was given after 26 hours of labor and delivery. I'm not sure I could call her by another name even if I wanted to. It may not sound like much, but your friend is really asking a lot from people. Old habits DO die hard and this is so much more than just a habit.
If a friend of mine did this and it meant THAT much to her, I suppose I would try to make her happy. Without knowing all of the details, it's hard say for sure. One thing I do know is that if your friend is going to address this, he needs to wait for the appropriate opportunity. The timing he chooses could have a significant impact on the outcome.
Do you mind me asking why your friend did something this drastic?
I personally think the funeral is what makes you an emotional wreck.
Funerals compound the grief for me. The dark lighting, the sad music, the morbid displaying of a dead body in the casket! No way for me. I hope to God my parents don't want funerals.
Memorial service, no problem.
I think the traditional funeral service is antiquated and just makes things worse.
Buy a home of my own - not a palace, but more of a smallish home on a large piece of land. (nm)
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Anyone move from a single family home to mobile home? sm
I own and live in a house in a midwest city in a bad neighborhood (wasn't that bad 11 years ago). I spent the day waiting for the plumber to come and jackhammer the foundation (slab house, no basement) to find a leaky pipe that is flooding my DD's bedroom. Last week, it was the electrician with quotes for costly repairs.
In the meantime, I've really been thinking about selling out and moving into a mobile home. Has anyone done this before? Is a mobile home in a decent park less of a hassle than a regular house? I'm so tired of cutting the grass and spending $$ to fix things and tired of old flooring and cabinets, etc., that are just too costly to replace. I'm single with no man to do these things for me and I can't afford a mortgage on a newer house in a good neighborhood. Some of the pictures I've seen of the mobile homes look really nice and modern on the inside.
Any advice and comments appreciated. Thanks!
Well I figure I can make my own hours & be home when the kids are home (sm)
I worked PT in an office for a while but spent most of my money on childcare in the summer. Full-time in an office was just a nightmare and I felt like I missed a whole year of my children's lives. I want to be in control of my schedule so that's why I'm looking into the cleaning thing. Never thought I would want to do that but live and learn! Some of the most intelligent people alive work as carpenters and similar things because they have learned what's really important in life. Whew....off my soapbox now :-) Good luck to you!
Daniel had a home, a very good home...
with someone in my family at one point.
She met her late husband at a club down the freeway from me. It's not a fancy place, like you say.
She does have a real brother though. That was the connection on our part.
I agree, though. It is sad that all this is coming out the way it is. I believe she was a good person...she just had a lot of problems, mainly drugs. What is really sad is that all of this is going to be seen by her daughter one day when she grows up.
Home Alone 1, A Christmas Story, Home for the Holidays, Chevy Chase's Christmas, sm
There "The Gift of the Magi," He sells his gold watch to buy her a comb for her hair and she sells her beautiful long hair to buy him a chain for his gold watch. It used to be on "Short Stories by O'Henry" but that's long gone, long ago. Good moral to the story. I can't stand "It's a Wonderful Life" -- too depressing, especially with banks closing, too intimidating right now!!!
I would buy it on line
and have it shipped
I am not sure it is so out of line...
I am 30 years old and I shared a bus with high school kids in Kindergarten. We also got two weeks off at Christmas and one week off for spring break. I think that this is fairly common. Also, when I was in sixth grade, the school district began charging a "bus fee" and we had to buy a bus pass or our parents had to drive us to school. I think the fee was $150 per semester. We had minimum days every other Wednesday and teacher inservices once a month. This all seems normal to me, but I understand that different places work differently, but I would not find this so strange.
Along this same line...
With the unemployment rate at 10% where I live I am shocked at the people who DO have a job - poor service, bad attitude, just downright stupid people. If jobs are so hard to come by, why are these people being hired and how do they keep their jobs?
Home sweet home.
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Home, Home, On The Range SM
where the beer and the cantaloupe play . . . where seldom is heard . . . .
What happens at home stays at home. (nm)
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She is home, by that I mean she is 1 mile from her home.
I am the one that moved away. My brother lives there, but she requires 24-hour nursing care right now, and he is unable to provide that for her. My son is graduating high school this year and I plan to move back to take care of her, but I just can't until then. I did tell the adminstrator that they have 24 hours to figure this out, and then we will bring in the police. I have also threatened to go to the media, and this facility has a very excellent reputation and is run by the Brethren Church, so I would think they might not want bad publicity. It is a pretty small town and this is one of only a couple of care homes in the area.
Crossing the line...
I don't think so. What age should we start teaching our children responsibility? I said she forgot her lunch ONCE...and she never forgot again. (Besides, she eats about 2 bites of it anyway, so it's not like she was starved that day. And she had morning and afternoon snack provided by the school.) I'm a tough mom, but I'm not about to neglect my children's basic needs.
Needing a coat in blizzard type weather...well, here again I'm sure we will differ on opinion. You go from the heated house to heated car, from the heated car to heated school building. (And I'm sure my child would be resouceful enough to find antoher coat/sweater/jacket that she might have around to wear.)
No, I do not forget things. I make lists to make sure I never walk out of the house without something I need. I do not have time to be running back and forth for something I forgot, our family has a very tight schedule and return trips home are not an option. If, for some reason I ever do forget something, I'm sure I'll survive and move on wih my day and life.
Our children are all straight A students (all 3 speak/read at least 3 languages, even the 4 yo.), they two older ones are honor society members, they all belong to competitive atheletic teams, and they are contributing members to our Temple and our community, so I think we have done pretty darn well them.
I dropped you a line by the way, and yes -sm
you can email if you'd like. Probably a lot of guys out there like ours.
We have a life line
We have a life line you can get through your local hospital probably. There is a "base" connected to the phone. She can wear a necklace or a pin. If she needs help, she pushes it and believe me you will hear it, it says, "help call in progress, help call in progress". Someone will pick up and ask if you guys need help. You can answer, no we have it now, or yes we need help. It is approximately 40.00 a month. This is also good when you want to go out and she has to be alone.
My DH glances at it now and then on-line - sm
but he does not troll the sites much, he certainly does not take care of any business while on the computer, though he does have video tapes I know he uses now and then on the rare times he is home alone. A friend of his gives him Playboys and Penthouse as well about 2 x a year (lives in another state and saves them for him), again he does not "use" them, but does look at them. I have never felt threatened by them, they are not physically with him, I am, all they are are 2D pictures. As for the lesbian thing, that is a fantasy I think just about every guy has, being with 2 girls/lesbians, you get the picture. They might fantasize about it but if the opp every came up I bet 95% would run, I know mine would. If your BF has lots of it though on his computer he may have a problem he won't admit to though. You can always ask him about it but be prepared for him to explode at what he will see as you snooping on his computer, which you appear to be guilty of. I never look on my DHs computer unless he asks me to check or do something on it and he stays away from mine as well. I presume you will have to talk to him about this and I hope it goes okay for you.
Because that it just the subject line..sm
you are supposed to use the message space for the entire message, not the subject line. duh.
line counts
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I met my husband on-line...sm
We were matched through eHarmony.com. We were married last June and he's definitely my perfect match!
You know what, I just read on line that this is probably what is sm
going on. I can't believe I haven't caught on before that he is jealous. At least now I can find a solution to this problem.
I did talk to him about it again tonight in a very respectful and helpful manner and told him not to be embarrassed. He said he just likes to pretend to be a baby again....My husband isn't home right now, but when he returns later we will discuss this problem. Thanks!
Have you heard the line about how
you should take care of those things in the morning before you come to work? I've had to explain that not everybody's body works like clockwork. How convenient when it does!
When I was little I was appalled to hear that some people went every day. I wondered how in the world they could stand to have all that pain and spend 30 minutes in the bathroom every day. I had no idea that normal people didn't take that long or have all that pain that you do if you only go once a week.
A penny per line does add up! (nm)
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The man in grocery line who said anything to me
would have not liked what he heard from me then. I am way past the age of caring what I say and whether I would be offending and would have used, probably the F word, (yes I do use that when I get that ticked off)when he had such nerve as to say something when I was trying to feed my babies. I have never had anyone that rude to state unsolicitated remarks to me regarding them but they would really get an earful if they did. I might be kicked out of the store, oh well....
Goin' to the end of the line!
How they handled Roy Orbison's passing in that video was so tasteful.
Okay, you Bob Dylan fans, here's a vid for you. This is the one my little girl likes because he looks "mad" when he sings.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aKu31q9SBbA&mode=related&search= (I'm not sure how link it!)
And my husband is the first in line
Every year he goes out shopping in the early morning hours to pick up something that's on sale. Me, I'm sound asleep. When he comes back I'll get up and then we'll go shopping later in the morning. It's tradition for us.
its hard to tell enough on line, but not all
men who have anger and other problems are serious abusers; they are men with their own baggage that affects their behavior. Mine was one. The first 10-15 years were pretty rough, but these last 10 and esp the last 5 are great -- he's in control, learned to be considerate, etc etc. I agree how bad it is for the children. But our 2 daughters have turned out fine; one married to a wonderful guy with well-raised children of their own, and the other has graduated professional school, working a dream job and going for several years with a great guy. A woman has to make her own judgment calls as to the true nature of their problems/relationship/safety and whether there is hope or not. I just don't think you can rubberstamp these marriages as all doomed.
bottom line
The bottom line is the rules. We all have rules. We all have choices. There are consequences to our choices. That is life. Whether or not you agree to the rules and/or the consequenes is irrelevant.
If one does not like the idea of a teacher getting his/her jollies out of paddling a female student, then one must keep that in mind when choosing to break a rule.
There were 2 choices of punishment here and, one of which was not corporal, but IMO missing class would hurt your daughter more in the long run. I do think she made the right choice and I also think it was wise to tell her that next time she'll have to miss class.
It's so easy as parents to set rules and consequences and not follow through with the consequences, but in an environment with hundreds and sometimes thousands of students, teachers/administrators must follow through or there would be no education.
I'm not saying the punishment fits the crime here, but after the fact is too late.
It's obvious that you completely understand the above because you are not arguing the unfairness of the punishment, but anxiety over your child. Any good parent would feel that way.
I'm just posting this in response to the posts that argue against corporal punishment. I don't agree with it either just for the record. There are laws I don't agree with but guess what? In the real world, I break a law I don't agree with and I get punished.
I hope you slept well and all went well today (Monday). Please post a followup.
Did you try Kohl's on line? nm
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Your last line made me
And I really, REALLY needed to laugh today...Thanks, Hayseed! BTW, I bet you'd be an AWESOME mom (you can adopt me if you want!)
Can you renew on line?
I just learned that even here in podunk Maine, we can renew on line so long as the last time we had our picture taken it was done in digital format. Since mine was only 4 years ago, it was! I was stoked to say the least. I just logged in to the registry site, punched in my license number, paid with my bank card, and got my new license in the mail in about a week! Same picture as 4 years ago, which is fine by me, and I'm good to go for another 4 years (or maybe it's 6 now...I've forgotten already). Far less traumatic if it's available to you. Or maybe it is and you just like the masochistic punishment of going to the DMV.
Been there. I met 2 guys on line when I was
first divorced. The first one I went out with 3 times, he decided he wasn't interested because he "couldn't spend the night." The second one just totally creeped me out and so I just told him I wasn't interested. No need to let something like that drag on. It took me 2 years, but when I least expected it, I finally met the perfect guy and we have now been together 8+ years. Just keep looking, no need to tie yourself down to the first one you meet. Let him know you would like to remain friends.
I know about the teenager part. My mother who was 60 at the time told me I was acting like a teenager more after I divorced than I did when I was one. Just have fun and someone right for you will come along.
Go on-line to JMS - Just My Size sm
great selection, comfortable, plus they have workout clothes.
I hope I'm not out of line by asking this,
but would it be possible for you to watch them 2-3 hours after school? Or even just your grandson? I'm so scared for both of them right now. I have an 11-yo, an 8-yo and an almost 6-yo. The only 1 I ever leave alone is my 11-yo and that's only to run errands in the town we live in. I also make sure that he has my cell phone # and I tell the lady next door just in case. I never leave him more than an hour. There's no way I would leave my 8-yo watch my 6-yo. He can't even wipe his own butt, let alone take care of a 6-yo. What are these parents thinking. Saving money is not worth the possible disaster that could happen.
I think, no matter how hard it may be, that you need to tell them that they need to get a babysitter for these children. If you don't intervene, something terrible could happen to either 1 of these children. I would probably address this with your son (I'm assuming he's in a relationship with the mother of your 6-yo GS).
If they refuse to do so, then I would definitely report them to social services. If they threaten to keep your GS from you, you do have rights. You could take them to family court. I know it would be hard to do, but I think it would be even harder if something happened to your GS because you didn't report it.
I'll be praying for the safety of these little ones while you sort things out with the parents. I hope nothing happens to them in the meantime. Take care.
I would give it all to the guy who let me in line.
If he offered to share a little or buy me a nice steak from the store, etc., I wouldn't refuse. But he should have gotten it, and so it's his, IMO. I didn't come into the store expecting to have $500 given to me, so I'm not out anything.
If you're not using your line sm
When I don't want to be disturbed, I just dial my own number and they get a busy signal. They know I'm home but can't be disturbed for one reason or another. If he's truly suicidal then you have to get his doctor involved, I guess, that's a tough one. If you're using your line for the Internet as well then that's another story. Sounds like a desperate situation only a medical professional can deal with and they can only do so much. I think a man-to-man with your husband is in order, if he'll do it. Good luck with it, it must be very hard for you.
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