maybe a close relative the pet knows?
Posted By: If this doesn't help... on 2007-02-01
In Reply to: you should give it a try - just me
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We are close in that we live about five miles from each other, but we aren't close like good frie
By husband and BIL WERE pretty good friends, though.
If you are set on closing, do not close the old ones, close a newer account first.
Your credit is based on a mix of things like history, types of accounts, mix of credit (revolving vs installment), usage/utilization of credit available, and payment history. Where closing could hurt your score is the part of the score that averages history of accounts/length of credit. If you decide to close, close out a newer account first.
The best way to protect from ID theft as far as credit is to freeze your credit reports. It's around $10 per agency to freeze them. Each credit reporting agency tries to sell your their own monitoring plan when you get to the how to freeze information, so make
sure you are freezing it.
You can't freeze it over the net they each require a letter by registered mail. It takes about 1 month to freeze it.
Right now you can place a fraud alert on your reports for free. The credit *should* not extend credit or do a credit line increase without calling the phone # on your credit report first. You only need to do it at one credit reporting agency and the other ones will be notfied. The number for equifax fraud alert 1-888-766-0008. It's automated.
If you are concerned about ID theft try one of the monitoring plans. I've tried a few of them and Equifax has the best one. Their Score Watch is great, you set the limits to be notified and any change they send an email literaly the next day. I used it after I discovered ID theft. It might be a waste of money for you. I would place the fraud alerts, then the freeze, and check your reports 2x per year.
I've had ID theft as far as my name/social but what concerns me more than credit ID theft is bank account theft. I don't know how we can fight that. It seems like consumers get the raw end of the deal as far rights when deposit accounts are stolen.
Have a relative who does this
but she has never really talked much about it, she left her job when she had a child and wanted some type of work from home, but last I heard she had taken in babysitting, I would assume the $40,000 a year (ha ha)that you hear about was not to be. I think the most you can hope for is a few free meals and a couple of bucks for spending money, not any kind of real income to live on.
I have a relative who......sm
It is an antidepressant but as with a lot of antidepressants, it can help with pain. People who have chronic pain tend to get depressed from the chronic pain, or they have depression, which causes them to feel more aches and pains. Either way, Cymbalta is suppose to be better in helping the individual deal with their pain better, but how much I suppose depends on the person taking it. They haven't been on it long, so not sure of the effect yet. Hope this helps.
it's all relative
  I was telling my girlfriend I could use one of the smaller hand held baskets in the grocery now and still spend the same amount I bought in the regular grocery cart and she said, "Oh yeah, well I just spent the same amount filling up the lawnmower that I used to spend filling up my truck"!
What to do about the relative who - sm
Brings 2 pies to a holiday feast but asks for and expects to take home half (and I do mean HALF) the leftovers. I have let them do this for a few years now to save the embarrassment of telling someone they cannot have food to take home, but I am about at my limit this year. Let me add they have never invited me to their house for a huge holiday meal and seem to find relatives to eat with every holiday out of the year. Is there something I could say that would not come off mean but that maybe, just maybe WE want the leftovers ourselves to be free from cooking for a day or two? 
yes, it is relative to you. But this still does not
make her beautiful and elegant.
Bailed relative out
He was sinking deeper and deeper. Getting pay day loan from one place to pay off pay day loan for another place. We finally bailed him out ONLY because I kept a strict eye on his finances, wrote out the envelopes, told him on what day to send what payment, etc. Before I agreed to bail him out I wanted to know what he got paid (take home), what his bills were, etc. He was getting paid enough to pay his bills and have some money left over even after paying me a certain amount each month (he owed me $1800). I said it would take awhile but I didn't want him to be strapped and I told him I was allotting him money to do some "fun" stuff (the guy is 48 years old going on 12). Anyway...after about 2 months the little "you know what" decided to quit his job because one of his "you know what" friends told him he could collect more money through unemployment. Also he was tired of taking the bus to work and having to sit and listen to people and he couldn't sleep on the way to work...the poor baby! So instead he doesn't get rid of the car we told him to get rid of cos he couldn't afford gas and was driving around with no insurance. But he didn't do what we told him to, he quit his job and didn't tell us, and then when I called there they told me he quit 2 months earlier. Talk about being quite a bit "peturbed". I told him I spent at least 2 weeks figuring out his budget and he didn't have the decency to tell me he quit. So, blah, blah, blah 4 years later and he has paid me back $700. I told him if he had held onto his job he would have paid me back and if he saved any of the extra cash coming in he would have at least 25K in a savings account now. Sure wished I listened to the advice my grandfather told me growing up when he wouldn't lend me money to buy a car. He told me - never lend relatives money because they won't pay it back. Talk about hard lessons learned. - oh sorry...that was a totally different rant. I wish all those payday loan places would be shut down. They pray on the needy and people will never get out of it unless they go "cold turkey". Don't know how many times we told brother-in-law he needs to do without something, but he never listens...always self gratification and forget everyone else....oops...sorry again....another rant. P.S. We don't talk to relative very much anymore
Which relative tortures you the most?
I believe the men will be found innocent in this survey........
Relative newlywed
A little over 2 years and still feels like the honeymoon period. We got along fabulously before and still do.
I think we get along so well due to mutual respect and consideration. In fact we're so considerate of each other a few of our friends say we're 'sickening,' lol!
I figure as long as we don't veer off course in this area, we're good to go pretty much for a few decades.
I have a relative who has a wealth of knowledge
and was telling her about the posts on this board, namely this thread. She tells me she got a high school graduation and later baby shower invite from her great niece- this person never called, never wrote- my relative said they went in the garbage. She and I are on the same page. BTW, I have gotten late calls on days, like Mothers Day, Thanksgiving- etc. from people and I, like you, think after thought.
No, I do not do this all the time. I have a relative coming from out sm
of town to visit. That's all.
Abe Lincoln is a distant relative
My children are direct descendants of Abraham Lincoln. Their father did all of the geneaology for his family and they traced it back to Abe Lincoln and his descendants, and my son was born on Abe Lincoln's birthday!
Anyone else have The Food Poisoning Relative
My sister-in-law has very long artificial nails which accumulate a lot of raw meat underneath them when she cooks I always get the crud. I try to warn the kids when she cooks breakfast to stick to the cold cereal!
JAN--A SISTER-IN-LAW IS NOT A BLOOD RELATIVE.
Did that tell her?
Pushy relative question
I have an aunt who lives across the country from me who I am pretty close to. She is my only family that I still speak with. (We basically mutually disbanded. It was for the better.) When I was in my late teens and early 20s, she was there for me when no one else was. I appreciate that and am very grateful. The problem is that now I am 37, am married and have 2 children. She hates my husband and my husband hates her. She has no children of her own and can be very bossy, pushy, rude, inconsiderate, condiscending (sp?) etc. Every time she comes for a visit or goes anywhere really, all she does is complain how it is not up to her standards somehow and she was slighted and wronged by someone. She has a terrible relationship with her husband's kids because of all the things I previously mentioned. Every time she comes and visits, my husband leaves "on buisness" because he can't stand to be around her. I don't mind because they will come to blows after a while together because he won't tolerate her BS. I have flat out told her that my husband does not like to have house guests overnight. He has offered to pay for her hotel room, but she insists that she stays with us. She has plenty of money (She's a millionaire.), but now again is insisting on coming to or house this year. I get so stressed out every time she comes. it makes me sick to my stomach. Any advice on how to deal with this. I hate to sound as if I don't love her, because I do, in spite of her shortcomings, which I realize we all have. Why won't she just stay in the nice hotel 3 minutes from my house?
What is considered appropriate if a neighbor's relative passes away. SM
My neighbor's uncle passed away. She and I are friends, but not best friends, we basically see each other every day as we walk our dogs and we talk every day. Her uncle just passed away and I was unable to go to the wake. The funeral is today, but I cannot go to that either. What is the appropriate thing to do here, a card, flowers, what? Any ideas would be appreciated. Thanks.
I guess inexpensive is relative to the area...
I live in the SF Bay area where EVERYTHING is crazy expensive! She charges about 40% less than the going rate for someone at a comparable salon. It's probably more expensive than usual too because I have dark, dark hair that is overall highlighted to make it all blond. I guess that's probably more expensive than just a plain color job.
Anyway, thanks for your opinion!!!
Medicare questions for helping my relative
I have a relative who wants to live alone although she really needs some basic care such as grocery buying, food prepared, light cleaning in her home, going to doctors appointments, the very basics of everyday life. I will be able to pay through her bank what she needs for lights, cable and things like that (she has gotten to where she cannot make out a check because of tremors in her hands). She went to live with another relative and it has not worked out at all. She has been on her own for years and wants to be that way again as much as possible. Is there anyone out there who knows what Medicare does to help out the elderly and give me any information you might have.
Here's another shot that shows his relative size.
Yes, he is missing his tail. This species uses the tail as a single-use defense mechanism (where, when threatened by a predator, the lizard goes one way and the tail goes the other), and it does not grow back, unlike some other species.
I can type 95 wpm, am a distant relative of Shirley Temple.
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Can anyone tell Jan a sister-in-law is not family as far as blood relative, my goodness!
Her children, the children of my brother, would have been heirs BUT Jan, you need to understand TVA which is a huge place, never found them and took a year trying to do so. I never knew this money was there, never had anything to do with obtaining the money up front, nothing. TVA contacted me. I had to get death certificates which I was questioned about being as it was my stepmom and the dept wanted to know WHY I wanted that. I got her death certificate, the death certificate of my brother, the names- do you realize that I had to have this all notarized as to telling the truth. I do not now nor have I in the past years since 1973 had AN ADDRESS FOR THE SIL AND HER CHILDREN, MY NIECE AND NEPHEW. This has been 36 YEARS AND NO ADDRESSES. If the TVA (Tennessee Valley Authority) could not find, how was I supposed to find? You want me to hire a detective on my MT salary and go hunting is that right? You want me to take off from work and go to another state and look for someone when I have NO ADDRESSES in 36 YEARS and I might find? I probably would not have a job when I got back as even taking off long enough for a doctor's appt is frowned upon but you want me just to leave my home and look for persons I have no contact with. Do you understand how you sound? Why can you not get off this soap box and put more attention on your own affairs, that is the money your sister is getting off your mother. I understand where you are coming from but this has been settled now at least 3-4 years. I have stolen from no one. I did get 1 phone call after my father's funeral (remember those same kids you have said I stole from that did not show up at the funeral home nor funeral, they must have really cared about their g'father) and after about a week the SIL called to see what kind of money had been left to her son, my nephew. She was able to call because he wanted to see what he had coming to him. Don't give a flip about g'father, only the money he might have for you. None was there then. Take a rest, ok?
What price range? I recently made a slide show for a relative (sm)
from their old photos
I would really keep a close eye on her
if like you say the distance is making him more psycho. Sounds like a really dangerous character to me. And of course, we both know that "mother knows best" but then again, did we listen to our mothers? NOOO! We did exactly the opposite of what they wanted us to do! We all have to learn our lessons in life the hard way. Like you said, at least there are no children involved. Just count your blessings that she got out before she devoted too many years to this warped relationship!
She is only 19 and we are so close sm
I told her this week that I will always love her as her mom, support her like her mom, be concerned for her like her mom, but that we have both allowed our relationship to flower into a friendship where one happens to be 28 years older than the other and that one gave birth to the other.
She has given me so much to be proud of, so much to be thankful for, and this is part of it.
Don't close out your IRA!
Cashing out the IRA has big consequences. Depending on how much is in there you could be getting some pretty big penalties. Not to mention that the value of it is down enough that you're taking a loss even without factoring the penalities into it. The car is still running, right? Granted, you said not for much longer, but it's at least still running now. I would wait. Dealerships are always having sales - even the used car guys. With the economy going the way it is, they're not going to be having much luck and I have a feeling that by the summer you'll be able to find something decent within the range that you've got without cashing in the IRA.
You must have been close to your dad...sm
I have never been close to my dad. Not that I wouldn't be hurt if something happened to him, but I am very close to my mom. You know sometimes you can tell when a parent doesn't want to be bothered with you and I always got that feeling from my dad but never from my mom. I knew he loved me but sometimes he didn't seem to want me around.
if it is close
I would not give one of those slimeballs one more penny, let alone $6,000. That party was a scam all the way. If you have equity in your home, just thank God that you did not get caught up in this stupid 1920's style disaster and pay that house off!
I was close, eh?
;)
Close to my home!
This happened pretty close to me, actually.
I haven't heard everything, but I guess they finally caught them!!
I have only caught a few pieces of it on the news here and there, running between one thing and the next.
The only thing I've gathered from it is that this lady has had previous problems dealing with social workers--problems as in on her end. This was her 5th child. 3 have been taken away and another had died of SIDS.
The social worker was killed by "several puncture wounds with a sharp object".
That's really about all I know....
Were you guys close before this? I just
cannot believe this has escalated into this now. Even if she couldn't pay for it, she should have just admitted that they were at least partly responsible. To physically attack you though...I mean, this is your sister!
Good luck with everything and keep us updated.
Anyone from Modesto, CA or very close by - sm
I am going to be going out to Modesto next week, and I don't know how long I'll be staying. I was wondering if anyone from that area knew of any "extended stay" hotels or hotels like Towneplace Suites or Hawthorne - that are great for long stays. Or perhaps someone from Modesto or nearby might suggest short stay furnished apartment complexes.
Any ideas would really help. I've been on the internet looking at hotels until I'm blue in the face and soooo frustrated. Please feel free to email me. Thanks again and any ideas are greatly appreciated.
Close to Springfield IL
Wow, you are close to where I live. I live in Virginia, IL which is about 35 miles west of Springfield and my husband teaches and coaches in Springfield. I have always lived around this area and like it very much.
How close are you to Inwood, WV?
My friend Arlene called from there this evening and told me about the lockdown at Musselman HS last Friday...it was just a stone's throw from where she lives and her niece goes there. It appears you're neighbors there in the 4 corners. She's originally from WV....lived here in KY for a while and we sang together for a minute.
I re-read your original post and explained to her about your son having been at VA tech in April...double whammy. How'd that all work out?
Perhaps you'd like to say hello to her sometime....It's always good to find another friend. If so, e-mail me and I'll hook you guys up.  Cat
Just have him standing close would
tell me if he were smoking, it would be obvious. I don’t think I would probably buy the friend story. I probably would have spoke up and said well let me have his number and I will call him so he can come and get…
Very close, up a tad north of you....
My husband refuses to go further north than Tennessee. He believes he will "freeze". I, on the other hand, grew up in the south but have ALWAYS longed to live up north. I have a cousin who grew up here with me. She went to Vermont one year for some job or something, came back home, and said she was moving up there. She did and is now in her late 50's and dreads having to come back down here. She loves it too! She keeps wanting me to come visit but I would want to move even more. Now, I probably will say no to Alaska. I had a girlfriend who moved up there one week after getting married (her husband was from there). She is a southern girl and she was miserable. She would call crying, was thawing her walls out with a blow dryer. I was dying laughing and she was squawling. Twelve years later, she finally told her husband she wand the kids wer moving back south....he could come if he wanted. He did and they have been here ever since.
Close to retirement age (for me), if you could would you
take a reduction of 6% on your social security if you could - mine starts at age 66 and next year I will be 65 so that late would only mean 6% off instead of full social by the age of 66. If you had a chance, would you do that or would you wait until full and then draw plus being able to work?
Is not WellStar close to you
WellStar Cobb- I don’t know if they have nursing school or teaching there but the hospitals, Kennestone, Cobb General- I don’t know which have nursing schools- Atlanta Medical did years ago, but I think you would find out you would probably not have to spend much- if anything- on your schooling. I think it is a win-win situation for you. Good luck!
no longer close....
That is what I thought half would be fair. But I know she wouldn't pay it. Because I have learned how she is. I realize I should have gotten it back way before then but I just said you know I am sure she has it put up and I will get it back. I had no idea she shampooed her carpet that often. And no I will not be loaning her anything else. From now on IF I loan something out( she is an exception I won't be loaning her anything) saying you break it you replace it is a good idea. Let's them no if they can't or don't want to replace it then don't borrow it. I did say something to my husband's brother about it. My husband and her husband are twin brothers. He did not offer any money on it. And when I told him I needed to get half of what it cost he gave no answer. My husband says let it go and learn your lesson to never let them borrow again. But I still think it is only fair to have at least half my shampooer cost paid.
Even though my grandkids very close by
they both drive yet never come this way. Have not seen them now in 2 or 3 years I guess. Got letter from GD when she started college saying shame she saw her great aunt more than me- told her this had gone on since she was first born, nothing new- my DIL never wanted to share with me so I just finally said enough. Tried and tried but her family not only pushed me aside but I really lost my son also, like they engulfed him. Oh well... I have lived at my new home since 2004 and living 15 minutes away, he has never been here. Live and learn.
She didn't come close to us
And as the poster said below her concerts sold out in minutes. I doubt I'd be lucky enough to get tickets. On the upside, we had an amazing time. Didn't get home until 1:30 this morning, so thank God I've been on vacation for the last three days.
If I was close to retirement, then I'd
work in a flower or gift shop or even a coffee shop part-time. It's hard to make any money doing this anymore since everything is either going low-pay/high ESL, or voice recognition, which in my opinion does not save your wrists, and you get paid less to do more as far as I'm concerned. I'm in a bad mood today, can you tell? Sorry to take it out on you, but you asked. I'm no where near retirement age by the way.
Well, rats! So close and yet so far! - nm
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Don't close them if you are thinking about
a mortgage, etc.
I have been advised to leave them open as this raises your "available" credit, thus helping your score.
I have read several articles and the general concensus is to leave them open.
I have a couple the cards are just in the bill folder. Will not use them. However, if the temptation would be too great for you, perhaps you should close them.
How do you like to close your letters?
I use Cordially a lot. I have a new job where I'm writing to business people a lot and don't want to use Cordially all the time, nor do I want to copy what they use.
I've received Best Wishes the most. I guess there are the old standbys, like Sincerely or Sincerely yours (capital Y in yours) but those feel weird.
Can Thanks count?
you are close-minded...sm
What about these other dogs such as German shepards and Rotties, and even some of the little ones like my sister's boston terrier that tried to attack my son? I didn't get angry. I just said you know I know she is sweet with ya'll but she has to stay outside when I go over because she is aggressive towards other people. I have had a poodle try to bite me. I don't ever get mad at the owners cause I know these dogs are gentle and kind with them, but I am not familiar and it is doing what its instincts are, which is to protect its territory and owners. My beagle does not like other female dogs. She will try to bite. If you knew this sweet little beagle you would say no way would she try to bite but with another female dog yes she will. ANY dog can bite. ANY dog can be dog aggressive. ANY dog can be people aggressive. But lets face it, the pit is prejudiced becaues it is a pit. It is a big muscular scary looking dog. So therefore it has no right to share the instincts most dogs have? It isn't a pit thing, it's a dog thing. Banning dogs is unfair. If we are gonna ban dogs then lets be fair and ban ANY aggressive dog. If that was the case and we banned all breeds who showed any aggression we wouldn't have any breeds left because all dogs can be aggressive.
No where even close....100Kyes?? No 5 is avg. sm
But no I have to wait (Express line only - can understand regular line) for somenone to fill out a piece of paper to be handed back to them? Um, No! Sorry, don't care how cute checks are........ years ago had cute ones too then I grew up and done with that. Cute checks do not matter when it comes to "get me out of here ASAP."
1 VERY close friend, about 6 others and sm
my life is full. One of those *friends* is really one of my hangers on and I'd like to terminate that relationship. I terminated one a couple of months ago, and 2 others last spring because I really will not tolerate being asked for money.
I have a couple of local friends, not MTs. I have 2 or 3 long distance friends who are MTs. I have also recently reconnected with a childhood acquaintance whom I have not seen for 36 years.
It is not that I am unfeeling or unfriendly, but I find anymore that my new friends feel close to me long before I really feel much of anything towards them. I think I am slow to buddy up the way others do.
Not an oxymoron but close enough
that it is difficult to find jobs like that (especially in certain areas of the country).
Funny you mentioned Chuck E. Cheese Mouse ... I always thought it would be fun to be a sports team mascot.
I'd like to learn how to make pottery but never thought of working in a studio. Not bad!
I'm too wimpy for the circus, and I wrap like a two year old. Lol Oh well. : )
don't know how close a friend she was
and of course don't give her any more money, but she may be really desperate. With the economy the way it is I think we are going to see people get more and more desperate and do things they would never do otherwise. If it were a really close friend of mine I would probably sit her down and express my concern. She may feel awful about herself because she is so out of control.
I'm close to being in your shoes
Lots of sharp replies from people who probably don't know the whole story.
I've been fighting it for some months now and it is going to take months before I can recover. An MTSO I worked for lost a client in November, but that was okay because I had a doctor account and a second MTSO job to pick up the slack. In February the first MTSO lost another client and as I was low man on the totem pole, my account was given to those without work and I was let go. Still okay, I thought, because I would just make the second MTSO the primary MTSO...which worked for about a week when I got the notice that MTSO was cutting my pay by 70% by switching to VR editing. Okay, I had some notice and I found another company to make my primary MTSO but it has taken time to build up my lines - took a pay cut but grateful to have a job and still had the doctor account. Now I've heard this new MTSO will soon be switching to VR editing. 
I had just signed the lease on the apartment I am in. I am single with no family to help and have a 6 yo child to raise without CS. Everyone goes through a bad patch sometime in their life and I hope this is as bad as it gets. I have my health and the ability to look for another job. My LL has been very understanding and is working with me for a couple of months. Even though money will still be tight for a while, at least for another month there is a roof over our heads and a chance to work to turn things around.
I hope things turn around for you soon 
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