look, she wanted to move the first year they bought the house..
Posted By: who is the selfish one? n/m on 2007-09-25
In Reply to: He is selfish, that's why, and will not change! nm - phillychick
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Need help with ideas for remodeling house and decorating. We bought a house
in fair condition about 10 years ago, got into some medical problems, and have just now paid off the mortgage. Hubby and I agreed we would do nothing to the house for remodeling because we wanted to pay it off first, then the medical bills. I need to know of some websites/magazines/books to start researching for how to go about this. These will be major repairs - roof, septic, basement, windows, pretty much everything except wiring. Where do we start? Maybe hire a general contractor just to do an evaluation and give us recommendations? Hubby is a handyman but cant seem to get a handle on where to begin. We would like to do as much of the work ourselves as possible - labor of love and all that...
Thanks for any and all kind suggestions!
Have you ever just wanted to move?...sm
Have things ever gotten so fustrating dealing with the same ole $hit so much from the same people that you said gosh, I would love to just pack up and move far away. If I had the money to move I know I would. Am I the only one?
I would love to live in Pennslyvania or Virginia.
LOL, they have been looking for Dave at my house, too, he must move a lot! :-) nm
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Time to move out of your grandma's house nm
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When young, DS wanted blue hair. No prob. Bought
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Well, I did it. I bought a foreclosed house!
Last year, I posted on this board about how to buy a house at a tax auction. I came into a very small amount of money and bought a very small (2 bedroom), 50 year old home that needs a little work, but is livable right now as it is. My plan is to live in it, work on it a little at a time, and eventually sell it for a profit or turn it into a rental property.
This is a huge deal for me. I've been living paycheck to paycheck, trying to make ends meet for years now. A year ago I seperated from my husband because he was screwing up my credit and not working and now I was able to buy this house outright. That means no house payment! Of course my mother was negative. Saying I better prepared to do a lot of work and I bought the house. Why can't she just be happy for me? This is huge! I'm doing this on my own (with a little help from an insurance settlement).
Anyway, I just wanted to share my good news with people who could actually be positive. So, if you're going to be negative -- don't post.
Also, the first step is deciding on refinishing the hardwood floors or going with carpet. Then I have to think about remodeling the kitchen which has the hideous 70s linoleum in it and counter tops to match. It's gross. The good news is it is a small kitchen so replacing that stuff won't be real expensive.
So any ideas of how to get great deals on things like flooring and laminate counter tops? Also, I suck at decorating. I just don't have that creative flare, so I've been watching a lot of HGTV, but I still have no idea about color schemes, etc. So any ideas would be great!
Okay, back to work. It's so hard working at home when you have good news! There's just no one to tell! Thanks for taking a coffee break with me!
I made my son a crayon one year. He loved it because he could move around in it. That meant more can
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My father bought my 2-year-old a tricycle
for Christmas and a helmet with knee pads to wear. He is always so excited to put on his "knee hats" and wants to wear them everywhere! I thought that was so cute and wish that my husband could be here to hear it, but I will bet that by the time he returns, Clayton will be on to something else.
Son wanted an iPod last year...
He wanted one really badly but I just couldn't afford to spend that much. I ended up buying a Sony Walkman instead. It had a bigger screen, twice the memory and has just as many features as the iPod for half the price. He loves that thing, never leaves home without it. Now the only problem is finding accessories to go with it. It can hook up to any speaker system, it just uses a regular headphone/speaker jack but there are so many accessories out there specific to iPod that the Sony won't fit directly into the holders, have to use the speaker/headphone jack instead.
I guess it all depends if he's an accessories kind of person (which the iPod is the better choice since it's the leader in the market for accessories) or if he just wants a good MP3 player to carry around with him, then the Sony is perfect. Also, if you take a look a Zune, you can order one with a custom lasered cover, which is a pretty neat detail.
my 16-year-old girl wanted to give it up, so I did too.
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This is a brand new house, just over a year old
The ducts were cleaned before we moved in. And it has an air-exchange system that completely renews the air within the house every 25 hours. Which is good and bad - if it's mold I'm allergic too, then mold spores are probably coming in from outside. We do have filters, but I'm sure they can't filter out everything.
I'll have to check out those nasal washes. Thanks.
costs $30-$40,000 per year to house each
The jails are overflowing here.....and it costs anywhere from $30-$40,000 annually to house EACH individual inmate...that the taxpayers pay for....
something to think about.....
She is a 68-year-old ROCK STAR, still bringing down the house. 'Nuff said. nm
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My husband wanted me to pick out what I wanted....sm
I narrowed it down to 2 choices and let him make the final decision on which style/carat size to get.
Bigger issue - a 16 year old living withi a 29 year old and liability
Are you still not responsible for him until he is 18, how can he tell you where he will live? Unless he emancipates himself and he does something wrong, can they go against you since you are his mother and legally responsible for him? I worry more about him living with a 29 year old sister rather than returning a house key to me that is a bigger issue.
My 14-year-old is going to be a mother-in-law (so funny) if you google it and 11-year-old daughter
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Won $2,000 on slot machine on New Year's Eve. What a way to start the year. nm
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Set my budget a year in advance, save all year and
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Move to TX
Then come June if they are on your property - well let's just say that the law will be on your side in whatever you choose to do to them. Right now you can't do much unless you are threatened, but come June - with the new gun law - well, I think you get the point. I think some mace or pepper spray would be in order for them - or maybe just get the waterhose and spray them with that - it would probably teach them to walk to school by another route.
...and move on. nm
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Please get over this guy and move on. You need to end
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Move on...you said yourself...
you don't feel anything for him. Also, anger management is a joke, a bunch of (mostly) guys sitting around discussing their feelings about women and just getting angrier! I had a boyfriend who had to go also, quit after 3 sessions, said he didn't need it either. Took me 8 years to finally say enough was enough. Move on, your life is too short and you deserve to be happy and fulfilled. Let him be a problem for someone else to fret about.
I think you have to move them
I'd make a little nest out of an old towel, handle them as little as possible, put them in the towel and move the towel nest some place more suitable. I've moved a litter already, but the mother cat moved them again, so don't be surprised if where you put them doesn't suit her. Make sure she watches where you put them and try to pet her so your smell is on her as well as the kittens.
Why did she move? Don't tell me she got
NC move
Moved to NC about 10 years ago from Orlando, FL. I love it here but have found the taxes to be awful. I'm wishing now I would have moved to Tennessee or Texas. I live in a small town 40 miles from Charlotte and close to the SC border. Gas in SC is usually 8 to 10 cents per gallon cheaper. I know that most of the graduates from the colleges in Raleigh stay in the area so it must be a nice place to live.
I used that when looking to move
It's a great tool to virtually scope out a neighborhood before bothering oneself to go check out a listing!
Are you sure the roommate wants you to move?
Maybe it is just an idea that his boyfriend had. He really is not the one to tell you the news, it should have been the roommate. So I'm wondering if the roommate even even knows about it, or if the boyfriend is trying to make arrangements to move in on his own.
Some folks just can't stand any confrontation, even what it would have taken for your roommate to tell you about these future plans. If he has never done anything to hurt you before, I would think you could just accept it, and try to maintain your friendship. If he knows about it, and if he agreed to have the boyfriend tell you, he probably just could not think of any other solution to the problem, other than having his boyfriend tell you, because he did not want to be the one to hurt you. He probably wasn't thinking about "friendship etiquette" (i.e. being the one to give you the bad news himself) at all.
I hope you find a nice place to live.
I would not move back, either--sm
It is nice to help and it sounds as though FIL may need it, but with the others there, you would be *caring* for more than just your FIL and that would be too much stress. Perhaps, if it can be afforded, a home care nurse for a while, until he is back up to caring for his own needs. It is up to him to remove the others from his house, but I surely would not move in there...until they were gone...JMO. Good luck
I wish they would move ALL the messages.
Basically, I said try getting an OT to evaluate your work area. I did and it helped a lot.
We had new neighbors move in who
had a similar theory about what was acceptable.
They had a habit walking into their neighbors houses without knocking. My parents were too polite to say anything, so they were clueless that they found it appalling. We didn't normally lock the doors when we were home, but to keep them out, we kids started locking them when everybody was inside, just to befuddle the barging-in neighbors. One time my dad had been working in the yard, and he was doing his usual change out of his work pants at the back door. He had privacy because he would announce he was changing, and close the door at the top of the stairs so that he had closed doors on 3 sides (door to garage, closed back door, closed door into rest of house, and open doorway into the unfinished basement. The clueless new neighborgirl decided to have a visit, came thru the open (big) garage door and opened the door into the house, where my dad stood, crouching with pants around his ankles. Oh the bellow that came out of him!
That new neighborgirl did drop by and barge in quite so often after that ...
Will probably move a few times
I get bored easily and do not like being in the same place for a long time. Been here for 10 years and just waiting for youngest to go to college in 3 years so I can move. I want to move to NYC area for a few years because right now I live in a rural area and am going crazy. After NYC would like to maybe move out West for a while and then maybe back to Eastern seaboard.
Honestly, what I think is you need to move (sm)
I know it sounds drastic but this is your son's wellbeing and future you are talking about. You need to move away from your abusive ridiculous brother-in-law. Your son has no father figure, and his uncle is a big jerk who should be in jail if he slams his kids around. I don't care if you have to rent a crummy apartment somewhere, but I would get my kid the heck out of there and let him know I am 100% on his side and just trying to give him the best future I can because I love him.
The move I remembered most was
that one where they take that foot, perhaps fresh from the litter pan, and pat your sleeping face with it. It's like they know!
Can't seem to move on after divorce
I'm divorced now for quite a few years and have just had absolutely no interest in dating. I have 2 children (older) and bringing men into their lives in any capacity has never sat right with me, yet I'm lonely. My ex has moved on (in a new relationship) and unfortunately I have to be around them during kid's functions. It's not that I'm pining for my ex. I just miss being a family unit. I sought a little counseling but it didn't help. I'd appreciate any advice anyone might have who has been in a similar situation.
Before you move to the country
Try animal control. They will usually issue a warning first time second time they will issue a citation..If you have kids the country is a really boring place to grow up...I was out in the country until my divorce and moved into a great neighborhood with lots of kids...Best thing I ever did for my kids and myself..
I have learned to move on.
I gave both my kids everything including all the love I could, taught them the right way to treat people, cherished them beyond belief, worked hard to give them what they needed growing up (just me raising them, divorced). In talking with DH yesterday I really do not feel that either 1 of the kids loves me like they should. I do not see nor talk with my son now due to a falling out we had in 2005 and my girl, well she is a me type, all about her. If you cannot change things, just learn how to live with them the way they are or wish them well in their lives.
It could also just be a story to make the move look bad.
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Cut your losses, keep it cordial, and move on.
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Maybe it is time to cut your losses and move on?
I had a friend such as that and finally just had to quit being such a good friend to her. My friend was literally sucking the life from me with her endless problems and drama, AND she was not there for me when I needed someone. Best of luck...
Did you grow up in 1 town or move...sm
and if you moved, how often and are you glad you moved? As for me, we moved every other year due to my father's occupation. There were 2 places I was very glad that we moved from and 2 places I would have loved to have stayed, the others were OK. When people ask me where I was raised I tell them "everywhere" because that best summarizes it.
What about you? Do you have a home town?
I move 3 times in my life...
When I was 2, I moved from one small town to another 2 miles apart. From there, my parents built a new house when I was in jr. high in the same town but off of the main street. From there I moved with my husband out side of the same town in a rural area. So, while I have moved, it hasn't been very far.  
Yep, husband been in funk ever since that move.
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I'd move to London, England! nm
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Do you think you'll move at least 1 more time or
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Just adopt the dog or MOVE. Seriously. What other choices do you have!!?????
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My husband refuses to move (sm)
My husband and I bought this house 10 years ago - it is almost 50 years old. We talked about our intentions of remodeling - I didn't know he meant over a lifetime. We have not even painted all of the rooms yet, much less fixed the sagging floors or termite-eaten pantry. The house is too small for our family now as well, is on very busy road, and there are no children around for my kids to play with. On the positive side it is in a good area and we have a very large yard. I have been asking to move however, since about a year after we bought the place. Instead, he has insisted that we are now here for life. He has built himself a barn, dog pens, chicken coops, etc. and enjoys practicing shooting out in the yard with his hunting dog, when he is home and not out hunting or fishing. He is an educated engineer and has a very good job, and I had no idea that he would end up being such an avid hunter. I met him in another state and he did none of this back then - I dated him for 5 years before we got married, he only hunted about twice a year when he visited his dad. Then we moved back to his home state, NC, and it all spiraled from there. Our yard is full of rolls of wire, chicken pens, stinky dog pens and piles of wood and bricks. Our carport is filled with a camoflauge john boat, rubber waders and about 100 duck decoys. In the freezer are wings from ducks that he uses to practice his dogs with. My children and I would love to just live in a neighborhood and have other people to talk to and for the kids to play with. He says the kids only want to move because they have heard me say I want to move. He told me recently that if I really want to move to go ahead, without him. He will support me and the kids. He hopes to find a woman one day who "will like where I live." I have no say whatsoever and he doesn't even consider my opinion. He says "we can't afford to move" and this place is just the right distance from his job. Yet he asks me to take out a loan to add on to this house. He is willing to spend another $100,000 to add on to a house where no one else wants to live and says it is unfair for him to have to move just because we want to. Yet he will not take the same money (we have lots of equity) and just move us somewhere else. What would you do? Should I just stay here and make the best of it because this is where he wants to live? (I should add, if I want to buy anything to fix up the house, I have to pay for it, and if I have enough money to do that, he wonders why I am not responsible for more of the bills!)
Because I realized it was a bad decision to move here (sm)
I had just had a C-section, we lived in an apartment. He insisted that he do the house hunting. I was at home with my newborn and my c-section recovery. He fell in love with this house and told me all that we were going to do with it. I was worried the road might be too busy but he assured me it was not. I agreed. Then when I realized that I had to have room darkening shades on the windows at night to keep out the car lights and run a fan all night to drown out car noises, and that he wasn't going to fix the termite-eaten pantry or the sagging floor, yeah, I wanted to move. If you call that selfish then you come live here.
why dont you just move to Iran then?
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you didn't ask them to move....you told them to....
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That is exactly what my SO says. Someone will run into you if you dont move faster and I am already
going 10 miles over the speed limit. I always say well why are they running up on top of me. They should not be tailing right behind. I just think men and women drive differently.
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