let's raise the flag *ROFL*.....lucky you....
Posted By: a rarity in this life...for most....n/m on 2007-12-15
In Reply to: Aw, DH put a pot roast in the oven - Misha
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You're lucky (or he's lucky) the parents care
I have 2 kids just down at the end of the block from me and their parents don't give a rat's behind what they're doing. They're real smart alecks - ages 10 and 12 (?), both in elementary school. Apparently, they're quite the bullies at school, too. They like to mouth to any adults when they whiz by on their bikes. Is it wrong that I'd love to take my kids' BB guns and shoot their tires out when they're doing this?
Their mom doesn't care. When we first moved into town this past fall (short-term thing while we're building in the country), I felt sorry for them. They put on a good act. After a few weeks of them coming to our house and pretending to want to play with the boys, we soon realized they were freeloaders -- wanted to eat everything in my fridge (without even asking first) and then wanted to play our computers or video games (without my kids). I put the klinks on that real fast. After that, they started treating my kids like crap. I told my boys as long as they didn't do anything physical to just ignore them because they didn't care if they got in trouble and neither did their parents. Their mom even had the balls to come looking for them 1 night after they didn't go home. It was 9 o'clock at night and it got dark then around 7. I couldn't believe it.
Just a few weeks ago, the 2 perps beat another kid with a baseball bat at the ballfield. The cops were at their house quite a bit, but I see they're back out on their bikes again wreaking havoc. I can't wait till we move back out to the country!
Red Flag
Red Flag-
You need to get a life and join the 21st century. More Moms and Dads are working these days. Parenting is the hardest job in the world. A child can get into mischief even if you don't work and watch them 24/7. That is part of growing up. There is NO such thing as the perfect parent - no matter how hard we all try. There are going to be broken bones and busted lips. Don't tell me YOUR children never had a cut or bruise under your watchful eye. That is BS and a flat-out lie.
I worked in child abuse as a therapist for 13 years. I have seen the worst of the worse. This is definitely not a case of abuse.
Lilly
Red Flag
A huge red flag to me is that he blames *you* for hitting you a few years ago.
"But he has already told me just a few nights ago that he was never happy with me, was always disappointed and frustrated with who I am, and that this is probably the reason he hit me a few years ago."
Nice.
.."why continue to stay if I will never be good enough?"
I think you answered your own question *wink*
Good luck, and take care of you!
red flag should be up
IMO if the person who told you something about your spouse cannot provide the proof, why would you discount it so quickly. Maybe it's time you started to look for proof. It could be as the other poster said and the person who told you about this could be trying to stir up trouble, but like I've heard before - the wife is always the last to know.
Well, I think Red Flag is outnumbered here.
Oh my goodness-Red Flag - Are you kidding?? (sm)
First of all, even if we didn't go as far as to compare this to truly neglective mothers, think about this. If the mom worked outside of the home and her child was in a child care setting, do you know how closely the child would be watched? By teenagers usually for summer camps at least, and they have many children to watch at once. Kids get hurt all the time. Even a non-working mom cannot sit and stare at her six year old watching their every move all day. If she did, she would be accused of being overprotective and she would never get her housework done, so then, of course, she'd be in trouble for that. The last 20 years or so children have been far more supervised than ever in history! For those of us who grew up in the 70s and 80s, we were outside playing til the street lights came on. For those who grew up in the 30s and 40s - they were out farming and cooking when they were 7 or 8 years old - heck, back then, the 6 year old would have been the babysitter while the parents farmed. People have to make money to survive. A mom working while her child is at home cannot supervise them 24-7. But she loves them and takes very good care of them, working to earn money to take care of them and I am sure setting boundaries and keeping the child in a safe environment. Kids today are soooo much better off than in the past. Be realistic, please!
When the physician personally calls you, red flag time
I just had an MRA of brain this past week and nephrologist called today, not in and he left his cell phone # for me to call him back. He said an artery showed up as bigger than should be - I asked aneurysm and he said, well he wanted to know about my seeing a neurosurgeon ASAP and he said he would call and talk to 1 he knew (if I did not have one of my choice, nope didn’t ) and get me in just as soon, hopefully tomorrow and then nephrologist called back in about 5 minutes to verify he did speak with the neurosurgeon and appointment tomorrow. Now I have just started to draw my full social security, still working, planning vacations and yes that is pleural and crud!! Maybe good this anomaly caught in time, would hate to stroke out or worse. I had been going to another neurologist, started having some twitches in my face and also nystagmus in my right eye here lately. I was knowing something was up. I will collect that medical license just any day now. Wish me luck with tomorrow....
Birthdays. Mine was completely forgotten by everyone! June 14, Flag Day. sm
Mom & Dad, longterm boyfriend, best friend, brother, I teach a kickboxing class and last class I randomly said *I will be teaching on Sunday, which is my birthday, so be prepared for a killer workout" - maybe I was hoping for a few Happy Birthdays... not a call, not a card! I kind of cried tonight in the shower... I'm over it now, (well maybe not really!) but should I bring it up tomorrow? I know B-days are for children, but I just wanted to be treated just a little bit special on this day! I've had a hard year with some illness and kind of thought maybe somebody would want to celebrate me! So here I am working tonight - but I think I might have to head out to Dairy Queen for a Blizzard before they close. I think something gooey and chocolatey is needed.
Physician called, red flag lady back from visit and on my getting M.D. license
First of all when I called the neurologist's office this morning (this was the appointment my nephrologist had so quickly set up for me last night, himself-) the neurologist's office asked me if I could come on in then instead of waiting for my appointment at 11:30. Oh, lordy me- I just knew it was time to get my affairs in order, write that will, etc.
The physician after my saying about 2 sentences to him asked if I were a physician. The great news is the brain aneurysm is very small (see I also was goggling brain tumor before I went in, you know how some of us are) and he said it was a watch thing, no neurosurgeon would touch it at such a small size. You talk about relief. I told him I could hug his neck. I went in with such fright and that was all basically eliminated. Thanks to each and all who said they had me in their thoughts.
You wish,,,, ROFL. You can say anything
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ROFL!
I'm sorry but that was just too funny. I'm not buying into this whole Michael faked his death BS. Come on. Elvis died and now Mike is gone....get over it.
She did NOT raise that boy the first 6 to 7
years of his life. That is a lie.
How much does she need to raise?
Did you raise them on your own
or is there someone else to share the blame? Kids don't spoil themselves.
I do not think it is appropriate for any man to raise
If the child is that bad, send her to counseling. Writing a report brings out all of the reasons the child has done the wrong. Unless she's breaking the law, man-handling is not on the top of my list of punishments! I disagree with your statements, and I disagree with blank rooms. I think talking things out and finding out the root of the problem is the answer, not spanking or punishments that require imprisonment. Obviously, the OP didn't feel the child had done that much wrong or the friend wouldn't have been allowed to spend the night. That's all I have to say on this issue, which is ridiculous in this day and age of molesters. Oh, and I was paddled on my bare bottom at age 10.... No, I wasn't too fond of men. This issue is no different than a wife beater or child molester.....
asking for raise
I would just make contact with the person in charge of raises, and present your case (not from a 'need' perspective, but from a deserve perspective). Just form it as a request and touch on your high points!!
raise
It justs seems like with the cost of everything going up. Also we get the best with working at home, but they do not pay vacation, benefits or anything else. Why woudl it kill them to give a raise.
yep - a Goddess *ROFL*.....sm
but seriously, I always think our consciences are our G_D!! That conscience that tells us right from wrong, that conscience that makes us make a correct decision...........that G_D is within each and every one of us.............
Not from a bunch of men (women had no real say back then) who interpreted what G_D might have been trying to say and then put their own *slant* on things........
who knows? nobody! We can only surmise and ponder and become philosophical about it all....
well, except for those darn fanatics.........*LOL*
probably!!! *rofl* - too funny
 
ROFL! Good one! nm
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ROFL! I confess, its still me too...
I can't help it. I hate when I am just about to do it and then who ever is nagging me mentions it again. NOW I have to wait a respectable period of time until it becomes MY idea once more, and if the nagger keeps nagging this can go on for quite some time, heh
ROFL Hayseed you are something else!
You always make me laugh. Thank you!
getting older? *ROFL*
I'm well above average then!! ROFL!!
NM
No...but just can't get past this one - still ROFL!
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would rather raise 5 girls than 1 boy..sm
When boys grow up and become men, their *toys* become MUCH more expensive than girls (think boats, cars, motorcycles, ATVs, planes, trains, etc.).
I had such success with my girl that I want more girls *lol*
Looking for best place to raise a kid
I like where I live...but after a week from H E double toothpicks last week, I really feel that a bit of distance between myself and any family members would be better. Long story short, you think your family will be there to help when you need it, but instead all you get is beaten down and end up feeling bad and having to deal with your crises by yourself anyway (it's the ONLY reason I moved back to this area a couple of years ago).
Currently, I live in the deep south and my city has an excellent !!! school system, but I know there are other good school systems out there. So, here are some of what I would like in addition to a good school system.
Near water and mountains (could be lake or ocean, or state park), easy access to public transportation (in case my car breaks down), a good YMCA or city recreation center.
I've been looking at a borough just north of Philly, a couple of small cities in Virginia, a city north of Denver, some areas in North Carolina. I would like to avoid the west coast unless it's somewhere in Washington State or Oregon. I've considered the Reno area, but I've never been there and I don't know what the schools are like.
Any ideas? Thanks! 
Anyone who never has to raise their voice to get (sm)
I have an 8 year old an almost 11 year old and my husband is gone a lot. They are basically good children, never get in trouble at school except occasionally for talking, don't really do anything malicious or mean. But sometimes the bicker incessantly with each other and many times I feel as if I have to tell them repeatedly to do something and finally have to get a mad voice before they listen -then their feelings are hurt because I raised my voice. Right now my son is crying because I told him he has to help clean the house before he can have friends over this morning (he is almost 11). On school days they don't want to help because they have been at school all day. On weekends they don't want to help because those are their only days off. I am making them help even though they don't want to, but why the tears? It makes me feel like a mean mom, but I can't do it all myself and don't feel I should have to. 
Did you see the part about how she was going to raise them?
She was bragging that she does not receive welfare, but then they have admitted that she receives food stamps and two of the older children get SSI for disabilities. But, she said her source of income to raise them would be her student loans!
I would raise some caine, she is not - sm
abiding by the rules. I would either (1) give her a warning and inform her that you will revoke car privileges for two weeks if she comes home late again (3x and you are out basically), and if she wants to go anywhere she needs to get herself there and back by the appointed time, or she won't be allowed to go anywhere, or (2) revoke them now since she has already broken the rules 2 x.
If I knew I was going to be late I had to call to let my parents know, they did not care that it was 12:30 a.m. and I was to be home by 1, I was to call no matter what. I think I only had to do that once, roads were icy, and was not about to speed home to be on time. They were fine with it. Considering I was 16/17 when I was a senior my parents were pretty lenient, as long as I told then were I was, who I was with, and be home by the appointed time, 10 on school nights, 12 or 1 on weekends depending on what I was doing, dates were midnight generally, special dances 1 a.m. except for the Prom, got to okay to be out all night for that one. I was close to being late a few times due to haveing too good a time on dates, so makes you wonder what your daughter is up to. Just because she is 18 it is not a magic number of being allowed to do whatever she wants. She is still in school and you are still her parent no matter how "responsible" she seems to be for her age. You cannot be her friend, you are her mother.
so is rush limbaugh...*rofl*
ROFL- cute poem!!
How about "I would not like thee with a pill, I would not like thee on a hill, I do not like the clothes you wear, I would not like you anywhere!"
And what is up with him writing a book on weight loss??!? I mean, seriously.
Ooohhhh---send some to me so you won't pop! ROFL
I love fresh tomatoes from the garden. Slice 'em up, a little salt - that's a meal!
Try both *ROFL* - drink away *chuckles*...
today is my day off, think I'll join ya.......*lol*
ROFL - That is funny. People sure are different
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I would raise 5 boys to 1 girl!
Girls cost too much.
I did not raise a debate, criticize the OP, or anything
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Love Raise the Red Lantern
So few people enjoy foreign films - and I just love them. I want the Chinese, Indian, Japanese, European, Latin American - all of them. Hardly ever find a dud. I've seen every foreign film at Blockbuster at least once.
Have you watched the Red, White, and Blue triology by the French director? Can't think of his name right now, but all 3 films are simply superb and although each is separate, there is a common thread that he brings together at the end of the third movie.
Or they want to raise them so they can be killed in a senseless war!!
Not that I think it is good to kill fetuses either ... but why don't these people see their lack of logic!
And as far as the stem cells and embryos ... why don't they fight to stop allowing people to fertilize and freeze them to begin with (or more than they will surely use)?!!
great picture and you weigh ??? *ROFL
imagine that description on a 400 lb person.....
no offense - just struck me so funny *LOL*
Marie - I was ROFL reading your post
Sorry I know its not funny especially for you. That is totally disgusting. They sound like the nieghbors we had in Reno, but they didn't have pets - it was their stinking food and stuff they left all over. Why do people live like such nasty ho's. Well we may not have the dog poo but they did do something with their back yard and fertilizer and it really stinks and now we are infested with flies here. I won't call Animal control because they really are not cruel to their dog, they just let it bark all the time then it goes inside once it gets dark out. They do play with their dog too (its constantly getting loose and they are running up and down the street yelling for it - dog comes back). None of our neighbors have their dogs tied up, they just let them roam free. I like the solution that Jim Carey did in a movie called Me, Myself and Irene when he kept telling his neighbor to stop letting the dog poo on his lawn. He went over to his neighbors lawn and took a dump on it in broad daylight while the neighbor watched. I thought that was hysterical. Well sounds like you needed to vent more than I did. I'll count myself lucky reading about you. Four years probably seems like forever to you too. Wish you best.
If the mom was so bad, why did ANS let her raise Daniel for the first 6-7 years of his life?
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Which are easier to raise -- boys or girls?
I was always told boys. I had 2 girls and uff-dah what a hormonal nightmare. Now I have a teenage boy and those hormones are at least as bad. Prolly worse.
It figures! I just found out they're going to raise my
29% next month! (And I always pay on time and far more than the minimum.) Well forget all that! I'm going to take the money out of what's left in my bank account (SAME bank, only savings only earns a measly .03% interest!) pay off the Mastercard, and just close the d@mned thing. I've had it with Wall Street, I've had it with negligent banks, and I've had it with greedy credit card companies. They can all go under for all I care, I'm going to pay cash from now on, and just keep a checking account for the debit/ATM card. The economy, banking system, and stock market never have, and never WILL, work for the 'little guy'. We were fools to fall for all that hooey. Sure hope the IRS doesnt mind the IOU they're gonna get from me this year, cause what goes around, comes around.
ROFL!!!! Gonna be some funny looking old ladies in about 40 years...lol nm
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ROFL, that was good, Robin, I was thinking the same thing but.....sm
you have articulated it so much more colorfully than I ever could,what a hoot, even though it is such a sickening story. Man, did this woman EVER have any self-respect, self-esteem, to say nothing of self-discipline and brains? Total sociopath, puts the "ICK!" in SICK!!
ROFL, hey Tech, still got knots on your head, bet she did scream at you...sm
but not in a good way. Your humor makes me laugh! Hope your wife didn't stay mad long. Another good mark for you, at least you didn't lie or omit that you're married. Hey use some of that money you saved from the butler and buy your wife some flowers to replace that frying pan she's chasing you around with 
Keep up the great jokes though, you make this board what it's supposed to be, fun!
its better to raise kids in a happy divorced home
No where either. My mother didn't raise any foolish kids. LOL nm
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Is it just me or does the fuel surcharge for speeders sound like another way to raise taxes? nm
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I see by your birthdate that you weren't trying to raise a family during the Regan years -sm
We were lucky, my DH never lost his job, but the town we lived in had about a 75% foreclosure rate with vacant houses and most of the businesses closed down.
We ate a lot of Hamburger Helper, mac & cheese, Rice A Roni, and Top Ramen. My 3 kids got their clothes and shoes at thrift stores, I went without. DH went without. We would have qualified for food stamps, but the state couldn't afford to have a program. Oh, and after Regan failed to get the school lunch program dumped completely he wanted ketchup declared a vegetable.
There was no question of me working - first there were no jobs, and second anything I earned plus some would have gone to daycare. Doctor and dentist visits were just about nonexistent because we couldn't afford insurance.
After that hellish 8 years things slowly got better until W, and wow, it's like Deja Vu all over again! Ain't it great?
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