kick those deadbeats out

• Sister and her child needed to get out of a bad marriage (sm) - feeling used
  • take her to an - al-anon meeting
    • Thank you, I think I will try that route. (sm) - feeling used
  • kick those deadbeats out - nm
  • Yes. Next time put a time limit on it., but is there any way you - can help the child?
  • You darn bet you have a right to ask sm - Just me
    • EXCUSE ME! Smoking and/or drinking does not make you a bad parent! sm - Are you kidding
      • my mom and dad smoked and my dad drank sm - just my 2 cents
      • Worked at hospital where a certain dictator turned a mother in for - Joan
        • That is a little overboard. Smoking is not - kd
      • That was really defensive - sbMT

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I'm not a Christian, either, but I think everyone has a right to their own beliefs, and if they find comfort in their religion, I say more power to them.

I don't think anybody is saying that money is going to rain down from the sky, or any such nonsense. But most of life is colored by our attitude - and if praying helps someone, if it gives them comfort and helps them to have a more positive attitude, then it is a good thing.

Live and let live. Don't condemn, embrace. As long as someone's belief doesn't hurt anyone else, then they can believe in little green men or a flat earth or fairies for all I care.

The one thing I do know is that this world would be a better place if we show love, kindness, and tolerance toward each other, not hate and bigotry.

Are your kids welcome to stay in your home for as long as they like?

My 15 year old asked if we'd ever kick him out or his older brother. I said they'd always have a home with us as long as they follow our rules.

if your name is on the deed or not, it is marital property, you both own it.  So tell him to take a flying leap that you're not leaving.  If he tries to physically remove you from the house, you call the police and tell them he assaulted you.  You go to the county courthouse and swear out an ex parte emergency order of protection at which time they will issue a temporary restraining order for 15 days and schedule an adult abuse hearing.  During the 15 days, he cannot come near you and HE will have to leave the house.  At the adult abuse hearing, you will tell the judge if you want to proceed with the restraining order and if you do, they will schedule another hearing and extending the emergency order of protection until the next court date and so on.  Eventually, the judge will hear the case and make the temporary order permanent.

In the meantime, you should contact legal aid for legal advice and an attorney.  I would also do as the poster below suggested which is start to get together important paperwork, possessions, etc. and stash them at a friend's place.  Do not get a storage facility or rent anything that will leave a paper trail back to you.  I would also empty out any and all joint accounts and open an account in your name only at another bank, change your direct deposit through work if you have it going into a joint account. 

I know everything above sounds very calculated and cold, but it's cover your butt time.  Men can be cruel and you have to worry about you and your kids (if you have any).  I've been through an ugly divorce and I functioned during my divorce with the full knowledge that every single move I made was to protect and provide for my kids and myself.  Every move my ex made was for himself and himself only. 

I wish you the best of luck.  Be strong and be smart!

Everyone is entitled to their opinion - just don't get it when someone says *i just don't like it* and we are talking about DANCING and HAVING FUN.  Perhaps you don't like Latino dancing - it was all about the Rumba and Samba last night.....

*sings* Hot, Hot, Hot!!   La Vida Loca (the crazy life)!!