keeping a secret
Posted By: long road on 2008-11-21
In Reply to: Private counseling - use caution
taking addiction too seriously is a mistake. Keeping it a dirty little secret is a mistake. Hiding "Pa" in the basement because he is an embarrassment is a mistake. There is NOTHING shameful about being addicted to a substance. I hardly think there is one person on this board who does not know someone on antidepressants or takes them and that is considered healthy? But medicating depression with vodka is shameful?
The best disinfectant is light.
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That should be keepING
How do I get 100% on QA checks, but yet I can't type a simple post? I do the same thing with my school papers. My professor's look at me and say "YOU'RE a medical transcriptionist?"
How old are you now? Think the key is keeping yourself
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keeping tabs
My daughter travels around the country for business and she is the only employee that calls her employer when she arrives on site and when she returns home. They really appreciate this.
I have a parrot. What was said about keeping
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regarding keeping the car tuned up and possible breakdowns(sm)
It can happen to ANYONE at ANY time. I had a brand new 2003 car. Six months off the lot and I'm stranded in a mall parking lot because the ignition switch died. No warning. No symptoms. It was just DEAD! At the time (Thanksgiving) it wasn't that cold out; however, I had gone out with a light jacket and no cell phone thinking there was no possible way I was going to wind up stranded anywhere because the car was reliable. Now I don't go anywhere without the cell phone and a heavy coat when it's cold out. AND there is always a set of botts in the trunk just in case. I'm happy that you don't have to worry about blizzards and cold temperatures; however, I'd be re-thinking your preparedness attitude.
I am keeping the journal going and in addition...sm
I bought a ceramic cross yesterday with 1 Samuel 1:27 on it which says "For This Child I prayed". I wrote the baby's nickname that my husband & I called it, the EDC and "went to heaven" dates on the front of the cross and it's hanging in our living room next to our family photo.
Keeping the spark in your marriage...
For those who have been married for a number of years and are still in love with your spouse, how do you keep that "spark"?
Spare us the intimate details , but share with us how you and your spouse keep the flames of love a' burnin!
Keeping my fingers crossed that
Sanjaya's number will be up 
Why is there any controversy about keeping a maiden name?
I've "kept" mine. I also added my husband's name. Anyone who knows me as my children's mother uses my husband's last name when they address me. It's not wrong, so I don't correct them. There's no need. But my driver's license has my first name, my maiden name, and then my husband's name, no hyphen. (Hyphenation is clumsy, IMO, and causes so many problems when people are trying to find your name on alpha lists.)
I loved my father very much, and I had a wonderful family growing up. I was named for my father and we were very close. It's part of who I am. I want to keep that name because he gave it to me, and a very special gift it was, too! I also love my husband very much, and we built a family together. That also is part of who I am. He offered me his name as a gift to me, as well. I was glad to accept it, as well. I proudly use both names.
Yet, I've run into quite a few people who get quite angry and upset over MY name. I have a friend who married a Texan. When he found out that I continue to use my maiden name, he turned to my husband and said, "And you let her do that?" My husband's reply: "She's my wife, not my child. It's not for me to give her a name. And if it's none of my business, then it's certainly none of YOUR business."
That's why I love him!
In keeping with the question down below about in-laws...
We have all done our best to accept my brother's wife, but she grates on everybody's nerves. Now, that we can handle, but a few years back my mom bought a new (second-hand) car and gave her old car to my brother. She even gave them $500 to buy new tires for the car.
Then, when my mom's "new" car turned out to be a lemon and had to be in the shop for a week, my SIL refused to let my mom use HER OWN CAR that she had given them while her "new" car was in the shop - even though my SIL was NOT working and my brother had a car to go back and forth to work.
Yes, I know my brother needs to grow a backbone already, but that kind of set the tone for my SIL's relationship with the whole family.
So - what's your in-law story?
Keeping kitties off the counter...
I have always had good luck with this. Cover your counters entirely with aluminum foil. Tape it down. Leave it a day or two. The kitties absolutely hate the feeling of the foil under their paws and won't go back. I have even used this on the back of a sofa and it worked there too. The picture of you sitting there by the tree, in wait with the squirt gun is priceless. All this kitty talk, I'm getting ready to go to the shelter and get me another little furball of love. Wise
I love keeping out trash
like the person described above next door to her, love that have not seen 1 home here that is boarded up and reposssed, love that animals are not allowed to roam all over the place, love no cars sitting on blocks and junking up the neighborhood, love my neighbors are friendly, quiet and don’t have beer parties at all hours of the night, love the beautiful landscaping of our yards- in all just love being here in my little section of heaven.
You know how I looked at it? I tried to validate keeping my ovaries for (sm)
for the exact same reasons you are, but then when I thought about the risks involved, I then justified it in my heart and mind that a total complete hysterectomy was to be my path because I was afraid of anything metastazing to other organs, etc. In the long run, I figured I would have to lose the ovaries no matter what (whether it be now or years later), but the fear of me having been able to prevent it when I had the chance made me very comfortable with my decision.
I really can say that I have not experienced any side effects at all from it, but I do feel more at peace mentally just knowing that I have one less thing to worry about. Of course, this is not saying it will never reoccur somewhere else (God forbid), but I took care of the immediate problem completely.
I am going to continue you in my prayers and please let us know when you are going in so that we can all be here for support. Your decision is the best one you can make for your friends, family and especially for YOU. ((((hugs))))
Keeping tabs and silver platters
I'm in my 50s, but because I'm female and usually travel alone, I make sure someone in the family knows what plane/train I'm on or the general route I'm driving and I call them when I get there and when I get home. Usually, I just leave a message because it's roaming minutes on the cell, but they know I'm OK. That way, they don't worry without cause. Should they ever have cause, then they can tell the cops where to start looking for me.
On another note, perhaps your son doesn't value what he's been given because it has been given to him on a silver platter. I didn't have a car until I could buy it myself. I had small scholarships to a private school, but my dad paid most of it - and it cost the same as buying a new car every year (which was not his style). If I had pulled anything even vaguely resembling what your son did, I'd have been pulled out of school at the end of the semester and brought home to find a job I could walk to in my little rural town. I'd have been paying room and board at home, too, until I found a place to live. When I came to my senses and came crawling back to dad for help, he might have cosigned a loan to send me to the regional state school in the next town over, a fate worse than death. I knew for a fact dad would do this if I got out of line or got bad grades, so I made sure I never did.
Still keeping the windows open, even at night
Here in So. Indiana, we are finally past the heat wave and really having some enjoyable weather.. but are still desperate for some rain. Won't even thinking about burning any wood in the stove until December.
machio-man:.....'that she is not keeping up the deal on her end.'
Does he? To make it believable he should have included pictures (from himself, not from his son!)
If this story really took place, I bet, judging from her answer, that this conversation was not done in a joking and amicable manner.
Can't give you any advice of keeping plants alive, I'm
lucky my children are still living. LOL!
Keeping that part of my life separate sounds best -
I have been asked on dates but just have not been interested. I feel stuck just wishing we could all be a normal family again (the 4 of us). I even think ahead to when I'm a grandma down the road and still can't picture me with a new man! I don't know, maybe I'm just destined to remain alone unless I met the guy who was a perfect fit with my kids.
Similar thing here about a friend keeping in touch
Over the past 40+ years one of my girlfriends had stayed in touch with me until she had a son who died about 2-3 years ago. I made the big mistake, I guess, of repeating some things she herself had said when he was alive and basically she quit talking after that. Oh, well, she was the one who always needed helping and emotional support, had 2 sons who were either alcoholic or druggies or both and ran herself silly over grown men always bending over backwards, taking money she got from social security and paying their bills, letting them mooch off her, with her giving them cell phones so they could stay in touch, acted as if they were 4 years old, just literally enabling them to run her crazy. I guess I made the mistake of repeating what she had told me (and everyone else she knew).
The Secret
I've heard a lot about "The Secret" and Oprah's show today is all about it if anyone's interested. It's about the laws of attraction and how to attract more abundance and positives into your life. This sounds interesting. 
the secret
I was offered The Secret by special price from another site that I use daily and purchased the dvd. It is very well done and very informative. Please see it.
The Secret DVD
Is the DVD available in stores?
THE SECRET
Have you seen the movie The Secret? If you haven't it is a very good movie to watch. Not only for marriage, but for life. Good luck.
THE SECRET = YOU
It is not just being grateful for what you have; it is your outlook on life. The power of positive thinking. If you think you can't do something or you aren't happy etc. you have already set your limitations. You really have to watch the movie to understand what they are teaching you. Something so simple, yet many people lose sight of it.
You typed "I have always been grateful for what I have, and no better things are coming my way, I can assure you." You have spoken that into existence and nothing better will come your way. (Not trying to be rude, just making a point).
I am grateful for my husband, my kids being healthy and my job as an MT working for a wonderful company, and I look forward to many more happy years.
Sorry, what is the secret to
start with? Don’t know this.
Can you keep a secret like this?
Attorneys kept secret for 26 years that their client committed a murder. An innocent man was charged/tried/convicted for the murder.
ROFLMAO!! But hey, with that humor, she probably doesn't stay mad long! Good for her keeping you.
dodging the bullets! Keeps it interesting! And keeps you honest! ![Cowgirl](http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/15/15_4_124.gif")
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Secret Shopper
Email me at reginahare1@hotmail.com and I can give you some sites.
My secret is staying out of the sun
and wearing a hat or slathering on a crapload of sunscreen! I got totally fried when I worked for a nursery (plants) back in the early 1990's and my ears burnt so bad they they actually got a tad deformed around the edges! I love outdoors time but I'll be darned if the sun is gonna be the cause of my demise!
Besides, I'm a superfreak when it comes to medical stuff. I love researching all sorts of medical crap and that nasty IUD just stuck in my head from my days in Anatomy and Physiology 101.
I also have a fetish for bugs too and someday, before I die, I'd love to play entomologist or something queer like that.
secret shopper
I do this in my spare time, and I am with Shop-N-Chek. I have not had any problems with them. If I want to do a shop, I do one. If I don't, I don't. You do an initial survey and they match you up with potential shops in your area. You can even do them on vacation if you have the zip code for where you are going. The website is shopnchek.com.
secret shopping
Do you make pretty good money doing this? Is it worth taking the time or do you just do it for fun? I went to the website you listed and am seriously considering joining...more info would be very much appreciated...
Shshshsh! That's my secret.
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Principal Secret
anyone tried this skin care product? How'd you like it? Thinking about ordering, but not sure. Thanks for feedback...
Principal Secret
I have been using Principal Secret products for over 7 years. I quit the membership though because I simply wasn't using it enough to justify needing a supply shipped to me when they felt it was time, but rather just purchase it when I need it. Like the other poster stated, it is still cheaper than high-end cosmetics at high-end department stores. Principal Secret has a "bottom of the jar" guarantee also, so you can order straight from them, try the product, use it "all" and return it for a full refund if you do not like the product. Having sensative skin and not being able to use any form of foundation, I love their tinted moisturizer (very much lighter in color than chart), but I only use it in the wintertime due to being outside and getting tanned in the summer. I, however, also use all their skin cleanser products and the serum, as stated above, is absolutely wonderful. I do not like the eye cream though, it seems to irritate my skin. After using the tinted moisturizer in the winter, I follow it with the tinted loose powder by Mary Kay Products for a matted finish. Mary Kay loose powder does not irritate my skin nor does it clog my pores.
Do You Have a Secret Ingredient?
Do you have a recipe that you add or substitute an ingredient to make it special?
When I make pecan pies I sub half the amount of the corn syrup with Kahlua. I'm going to switch it up this year and sub it with Godiva liqueur for a chocolate flavor. I also add a couple of tablespoons of brandy to my pumpkin pies.
Secret ingredient sm
My family does not eat meat stuffing, so I use Pepperidge Farm preseasoned bread stuffing but instead of water per directions. I use either orange juice, cranberry juice, or both. I used to use chicken broth but after dieting, I found I could taste the grease. I also throw in a tiny bit of sliced apple, cranberry and raisin, not overpowering, just a hint, then of course, I chop up an onion and some celery. We have nut allergies, otherwise I would add some walnuts. People said they would kill for my stuffing. I mix it up and cook it in a separate casserole dish in the oven, cover with foil for about 15 min., then lift the foil and let brown a little, and butter, oh yes, plenty of butter, it doesn't taste greasy. My one vice is butter, usually holidays.
Try scrub ing/mopping with baking soda and vinegar and keeping windows open as much as possible - nm
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That's the big secret? I saw some of that Oprah and got bored.
I have always been grateful for what I have, and no better things are coming my way, I can assure you. Maybe it's some sort of brainwash...with hidden subliminal messages. LOL
The secret: JESUS. It's so odd that everything they said on that show
as a Christian, was Christianity and they didn't even know it. The only huge difference is that they believe this huge "secret" is about yourself when we believe it's about Jesus. Instead of looking inward to do all of those things, we look outward and ask God to do those things for us and He never fails to do them. It's really no secret.
Anybody wath The Secret on Oprah.
Any experiences with this. I am having a great time.
I'm a secret fan, too, but I got pulled away from the end. I have a feeling what's
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You're right., some things should not be kept secret.
Tell your daughter that you have to inform the other parent, then do it. It's not fair to the other parent to keep this secret. And, don't try to be a friend to your child, just be a parent, which doesn't always mean doing what they want.
Principal Secret/Reclaim
Hello ladies. Does anyone use this product by Victoria Principal? Any comments will be appreciated. Thank you.
The recipe is a secret - sort of!
It's funny. I can make the cole slaw, but there's not really a recipe. And the sour cream, mayo thing was not her usual. She was probably trying to stretch out the mayo. That's my cousin's house, and his mom never had enough mayo on hand! LOL The same with the wine vinegar. Grandmom made sort of a face over it. She used plain white vinegar at her house. The cabbage was always sliced paper thin, by hand. Then onion was grated on one of those plane graters, so that the onion turned pretty much into juice. Then added a splash of vinegar, salt and pepper and stirred it up. Then, in a coffee mug, she sprinkled a bit of sugar on the bottom of the cup, filled it about halfway with mayo, and then thinned that with whole milk or cream until it was the consistency of salad dressing. Then mixed it all together. And not wanting to waste a drop, she always took some of the cabbage, put it into the mug and tried to clean out every drop of the dressing. One coffee mug of this concoction was enough for half a head of cabbage. Her cole slaw leaned more to the sour side with vinegar. It wasn't a sweet cole slaw, at all. She added grated carrots on special occasions, like T-giving, which is when the video was taken.
She was barely 5-feet tall, and shrunk to well under that as she got older. My mother was her firstborn child, and weighed nearly 10 pounds and breech, born at home. Amazing. My Grandmom was one strong lady!
My secret to happiness what something my grandma
told me.
My grandparents were opposites. I asked her on their 50th wedding anniversary how they had been able to stay together so long. She told me this:
You can sacrifice things in your life for the person you love and vice versa. But, if the person loves you and is worth loving, they will not require it of you.
Oh, please...anyone who keeps secrets, secret passwords...
email accounts, etc, shouldn't be trusted. It's not snooping for crying out loud. Any one who doesn't share with their spouse must be ashamed of something or have something to hide. Get rid of him already and move on to a HEALTHY relationship!
Need secret Santa ideas for male.....
My husband needs some secret Santa ideas for under $2 for a new male teacher. He really does not know very well. As an emergeny I sent a bag of homemade cookies the first day. Any neat unique ideas?
Secret Life of Bees and her other book
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Principal Secret products work really well nm
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Google "The Secret" and you'll see. It's about how to get what you want out of life, bus
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Has anyone ever dealt with a legit Secret Shopper company?
I've often thought of doing this, but wonder if there are any legit ones or if they are all scams.
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