it's simple Truth. Not complicated at all.
Posted By: nm on 2007-07-30
In Reply to: You need to read some books on early Hebrew beliefs - It's not as simple as you are stating it.
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I think it gets complicated
I kind of do what the other poster said and also would consider my father's 1st cousin to be my 2nd cousin and then his kids as my 3rd cousins, but then there is the once removed thing, so I really don't understand it (and probably no one else does either).
A third cousin can legally become your spouse though. :)
We seek for the truth, our own personal truth. SM
Not everyone is religious. ;)
Gosh, it's complicated
There are a lot of women who don't mind taking lower paying jobs so they can have the flexibility of running the household. They want it that way. That is a basic instinct and need for some women.
Now I'm not saying that's a good thing or a bad thing, but it's not necessarily a matter of how genders behave at work.
However, the result is the same and you are right, all women will not be treated the same because of gender roles and because there are still many women who prefer not to relinquish those duties for whatever reason. Obviously that scenario is pretty much reserved for the nuclear family, so across the board, the single mom or the family where both incomes are sorely needed and both have little time to spare for household and kids' activities, are the ones affected most.
The situation may be complicated, but
the solution is probably simply DDAVP. You all can concentrate on more important things if the bedwetting goes away.
JMO.
Not sure where to post...extremely complicated...
OK - this is going to be a shocker post, but if I went too much into detail, I would be here for a day-and-a-half - my main question is this - does anyone know why a 7-year-old little boy would be wetting his bed every single night? All I can think is abuse and have researched it and know there are other reasons possible, but given the situation, again, all I can think is abuse...
This is a REALLY messed up family:
The situation is my sister-in-law has been incarcerated for hiring someone to kill her husband. She has 7 children, 2 children out on their own, and 5 minor children that have been split up between family members. The youngest is the 7-year-old that I mentioned above. He was born out of wedlock and her husband adopted him when he was 5. Her husband is an alcoholic - a bad one.
Her husband did not die but called 911 and got help. He is out of the hospital now and has had regular visitation with my 7-year-old nephew. The husband and his family members, who he has been staying with, claim that he is not drinking and they have a "no tolerance" policy in their home, but now he wants to keep my nephew and live with him in the house where he was attacked, just the two of them.
My other sister-in-law has had this little boy since this incident happened and stated that he wets his bed every single night. Without fail. He just turned 7 this month. I have his 2 half-sisters in my home, and they told me that he has been doing this for as long as they can remember. They are 10 and 11.
I am sorry if this post is disjointed and does not make sense. The bottom line here is I am suspecting something really bad and I wanted to get some opinions. Does anyone have any knowledge or experience with nocturnal enuresis in a child that age? Should I be worried?? He wants to take this boy from now on and have him live with him, and we really don't know what we can do about it! I just have a really bad feeling...Thanks.
in every joke is a little truth and the truth in
this 'joke'(?) is very sad.
Next time try a little harder.
It's not that simple
Trying to leave an abusive situation on your own can be very dangerous. Some husbands get so angry that their wife DARED to leave them that they track them down and kill them, or forcibly take them back.
I don't know if Tina's situation is that serious, or how her husband would react to her leaving. Tina may not even know for sure. That's why I advised her above to talk to her local battered women's shelter before she does anything. They have experience with these situations, they can help her and her children with a place to stay and help protect them from her husband if necessary.
Yes, she needs to leave. But she needs to be SMART about it. Just picking up and leaving without a plan or without any help is NOT smart.
Not quite that simple
Having your family's name carried out is important to most people. If you posters all think a name doesn't matter, you are sadly mistaken. Names are extremely important in shaping a person's entire life.
Having a niece with the stepfather's name is not nearly as traumatic to a family as having a nephew, the only remaining male relative, take another last name.
As I said in my post, Heartbroken can name her child whatever she wants - I mean that. But, she also needs to accept the fallout for that and accept that her child will be affected by the consequences of her action.
I simply don't understand why people on this board insist on mis-reading and misinterpreting posts to suit their own attitudes. IMO, Heartbroken is an extremely self-centered person who did not consider her family's feelings at all, made a choice and then wondered why they aren't patting her on the back. It's her right to make that choice, but it's the family's right not to agree.
Sure...very simple (sm)
We had shredded sharp cheddar cheese and precooked fajita-style chicken and he broke the chicken into smaller peices and mixed in some buffalo wing sauce, put it all together on tortillas and cooked them on the George Foreman grill for about 5 minutes. You can mix in peppers and onions if you like and eat them with sour cream and salsa :-) Definitely tastes better if your child makes it for you :-)
Right. She's just that simple.
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Keep it simple.
I used to find myself into the same situation. Run around doing the cleaning, cooking, etc., and would work myself up into a frenzy to the point I did not really enjoy or remember the day after everyone left on Thanksgiving day. Decided not a single person expected me to do all this and certainly family wanted me to enjoy this day too. The truly gracious have no high expectations other than the coming together and honoring the day. I started to keep it simple. No new recipes from Martha, no chasing that last piece of dust, did make the lists of things to do, asked everyone to contribute to the menu and bring a dish (this creates the best variety too) and now I find I do really enjoy the day and even get excited and look forward to hosting again.
I only wish it was something as simple as that
We don't travel and everyone knows our address. They don't call to talk maybe once a year (and DH's family doesn't even send him a b-day card). I learned to live with that a long time ago even though we always sent them card. Not getting b-day cards from them is one thing, but when my mom died it just hurt a little more. In fact we used to live in Vegas and said numerous numerous times for them to come out and they could stay with us and in the 6 years we were there they never came. It would have been a 5 hour drive for them). We found out after we moved out of vegas to a different state (about a month or two later) all DHs siblings took a trip to Vegas because their cousins daughter (who they never got together with to begin with except once a year around Thanksgiving) graduated high school and the parents were throwing a party for her. So is just a little dissapointing, but have learned to live with it. This year for Xmas I went out and bought cards for them all (hard to change old habits), but I never did send them.
It is very simple and you can do it either way (sm)
You can put the chicken in a dish with teriyaki sauce and cover and bake for probably 45 minutes or so, or you can do it on the stovetop and just add a little water now and then because the sauce will cook out, even covered. Either way, it is just important to make sure it is covered while cooking, that's what makes it good...but it is very simple :)
I think a card or something simple would be
appropriate. It is the thought that counts. I'm not talking a diamond ring or something! He just doesn't make much of any holidays. Yes, my kids are very young so they cannot do much themselves. One time he did take the kids for part of the day and let me relax.
Simple solution
But of course, this what I would do - may not seem acceptable to you.
IF YOU STILL LOVE THIS MAN, you move as close by as possible into another type of home that you can afford to build/buy.
WHO SAYS you have to live under the same roof to be happily married? think outside the box!!
IF YOU FORCE him to move he will be as unhappy as you.
Use that equity you have to save your marriage - I'll bet he'd agree to this.
Then you can be together in TWO houses.
This is just a simple wedding. Nothing more,
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Sounds simple enough - thanks everybody!
Simple advise...(sm)
Review all available material to you and go by what makes sense. I like to read and have recently started a study that will compare religions as well as athieism. As well, I think the huge contributor to all religions and non-religions is the state of being at the times of change. For example, when the Bible was put together, there seemingly were several books left out. Of particular interest to me is the book of Mary. My question there is why was it left out. At that time women did not have the ability to speak their minds as they do now. Is that why it was left out? If so, was there something important in there that all christians should know? If so, where does that leave christians now? Yep...there are tons and tons of questions, and I don't believe you will get all your answers out of just one source.
There are also questions about athieism, like where and how did everything begin? You can find a ton of sources about how things evolved, but not so much on where it began.
Read, look deeper than just the words, and trust your instincts.
Well, I have a simple solution
My husband and I have been married 8 years now and guess what, never celebrated the first anniversary yet! No kids from this marriage and if we had, could have had 2, 3 or 4 years prior and years later they still would not know.
Have you tried this simple solution? sm
What about a DrinkWell fountain for pets? I have had them for, well, perhaps 15 years now. My cats (two of whom are Maine Coons and LOVE any kind of water source) all love it! It is not just a source of drinking water because they all play in it with their paws, so it has become a source of fun too, which is great because they are wanting to drink at the same time. There is something about the moving water that has always fascinated my cats. Give it a try!
Changeover is just as simple
Cable companies would like us all to believe that antenna TV will no longer work, but it will. You need a decent antenna and the digital conversion box and, voila, free TV.
Testing is simple
Very complicated subject, but if you are working midnights, sleeping days, or even evenings, you probably are not getting enough sun. The only real way to know is to undergo a 25-hydroxy vitamin D test. If you have insurance and your doctor will order the test, then it probably won't cost anything. If you want to know, have no insurance, and can use a lancet to poke your finger you can get an at-home test from the Vitamin D Council or GrassRoots Health and pay about $30 for the test. The provide the test, two lancets, postage and the test is very accurate. The first time I tested I ordered through my doctor's office and because I had no insurance it cost me $300 but I was severely deficient, a 7 on a range of normal from 32 to 100. Now after supplementation, I am 98. Start reading about deficiencies with the Vitamin D Council and go from there.
It was way more than 24 songs, but to keep it simple (sm)
that is all they decided to use in the case. I believe she was downloading the songs to a website where people pay to be a member and then can download songs. I don't think she was just downloading them to listen to at home, but think she was actually conducting a criminal activity, knowingly.
I saw that on Oprah...so simple yet powerful!...
Especially when that married couple were at a stand still and then watched The Secret. Now, they have passion again for each other and are so happy. Something as simple as being grateful for what you have, then better things will come. I want to check that movie out.
plain and simple, lack of God.
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then just a simple cleaning lady?
OK, I gotcha! I'm thinking about doing this myself...my hubby just got a hefty raise, so hopefully I can afford to pay someone to clean my house now!
I've BTDT and know it's not simple
Even the best DV organization/ shelter can't protect you when you leave them. It is very dangerous.
I just saw trying to leave while he was awake not really trying to leave. I apologize to the OP for not being compassionate.
YES!! Simple! People have to just get on with their life! Unless sm
you are living their life you have NO right to judge them. Amen, sister!! loved your post!!
I know this is much to simple, but he sounds bored (sm)
I agree with testing for autism, etc.
But bored children, no matter the age, upbringing, or intelligence will act out and 'find' something to do if they're bored.
My daughter was the 'perfect baby' until she turned about 18 months. She started misbehaving, not as bad as yours, but nothing like previously. None of the usual things really occupied her physically or mentally. So I started shopping for day care. Happy girl, believe it or not. The first day I picked her up around 3 p.m. and she told me I came too soon...
She needed the social stimulation, even at that young age. BTW, she is 21 now and still the same. Very outgoing and social, but smart and still a sponge for knowledge. She's in college and when she had winter, spring, and summer breaks, she is so relieved... for about 1 or 2 days. Then she starts counting the day until school starts again.
Anyyow, I digress, but sometimes you just have to listen to your kids and do what's best for them even if it tears you up inside.
In any case, you need some help. You are carrying way too much, but I admire you for your persistence in wanting to do what's best for your kids. Wish you the best :-)
Anyone have a SIMPLE recipe for hamburger BBQ. nm
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Just Answer The Simple Questions --
1. What treatment did your daughter receive?
2. Will/did she require plastic surgery?
3. You say you filed a police report, what was the police's resolution?
These are very simple questions. Yet, when asked in the posts below, you choose to ignore them. It's what makes people suspect that you are just in it for the money and that no real harm was done.
You first claimed that you just wanted them to pay your daughter's medical bills, that they shouldn't benefit from your insurance that you pay for. Yet, later, you state that the $800 would be for pain and suffering for your daughter (as your insurance has already paid it). Lastly, you state that $87 would be reimbursement for your medical bills and the rest would be pain and suffering for your daughter. Pain and suffering is not something one generally reimburses another for without a court to determine the extent one is due.
The only one suffering here is your conscience! Again, I say, answer the 3 questions above, or are you afraid of what it might reveal?
This is simple.. The election is coming up. sm
They are trying to make things look better than what they are to the average consumer. I will be more than shocked if the gas prices don't immediately start to increase once the election is over. My 2 cents only! :)
Doctors who spell out simple words,
and leave you hang out to dry on the most obscure term or referring physician spelling if it is an odd name. I'll be darn though, they will spell out "the" t-h-e, p-a-t-i-e-n-t, but never the hard stuff... . ????? I wonder why? People using cell phones when they are driving and not paying attention. People that pull out in front of you, and then go 5 mph. I hate it when the grocery bagger puts all the soap products in with my meat or food goods! Great, now the roast smells like Dove Cucumber and Melon bar soap? Hubby is going to think this is delicious!!!!! UUGGHH!
Sounds like you want something small, simple and pretty.
So do just that! Don't worry about the lists. I think the first decision is to decide where you want to have the wedding. Many places often have on-site wedding planners to help you. In fact, from what you wrote, I think you've already got a good start on the planning. You want something simple, you want a pretty dress. Pick a place and maybe hire a caterer to bring in some simple food... maybe just a cocktail hour with hors d'ouerves, and a cake. You don't need formal music or dancing. I had a friend simply have a caterer come in and do a nice bbq for 30 people in their pretty backyard. Flowers were blooming, really no need to decorate, and they programmed an iPod with a wedding playlist, and played it over the stereo. We had a lovely time, and it was very simple and pretty.
As for gifts, my DH and I did exchange gifts. I bought him a watch, which he still wears 22 years later. We went to Cancun for a honeymoon. (It was much quieter in those days.) While there, he found a really pretty string of blue fresh water pearls. So 1985! But I love them and still wear them today!
I'm s simple person. I'd be happy with a house that
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Miss Kitkat: I don't WANT to do it. Plain and simple.
I don't think you're a woman - sounds like a man's point of view. LOL
Need some adult simple games for Christmas
Played a game called White Elephant before and the group loved. Want something really simple to entertain my lovely guests for that day. We are all over the 50 year range so nothing too involved, heck we could not remember! Thanks!
Simple answer "they" are NOT "nurses" sm
When anyone in my family refers to the "nurse" at the doctor's office, I have a fit. They're not "nurses" and never will be.
Just tell her the truth -
That you do not feel what she does is worth $60 at this point and feel as if she is rushing you out of the chair. She may reconsider her pricing if you have been a loyal customer. That puts the ball in her court. Be ready to find someone else.
Ain't THAT the truth! LOL nm
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It's the truth because God said it? sm
But how do you know God (or Jesus) said it? Everything He's supposed to have said has been *interpreted* by mankind, then *translated* from another language, to another language, etc., and influenced by the *politics,* leaders, and culture of the day... how many thousands of years ago? There are bound to be things lost in translation, misunderstood, misinterpreted (misquoted!).
I'm just saying, it's all been subject to man's interpretation of it (and still is to this day). It can't all be taken literally (though some people do which is incomprehensible to me).
I think in many ways the bible is a beautiful piece of literature, but I also think much of it is fiction.
You can count me among those who are spiritual but not religious (esp. organized religion, whoo boy!), and this is just one reason why.
Interesting topic.
now, isn't THAT the truth.....
Truth is ...
He is being really selfish, and if he ever found a woman who liked that lifestyle, he probably wouldn't like her all that much!
I have an ex-husband who turned our yard into a junk yard and spent his free time fixing other people's things while our place went to heck.
I know how you feel! Good luck.
Nothing else taken with this- a lie or truth?
and eat pecans frequently. I thought perhaps someone from New Orleans could perhaps use some kind of (now this really sounds odd) peppers added that I would normally not use in a pie such as this. This is a new housekeeper and she comes this Friday- I am gonna hate to have her ask how was the pie..Hubby believes in telling a little white lie- I am for telling her what happened to me. She has gone into a catering business. What to do - tell little white lie or the truth?
DEFINITELY tell the truth!
My gosh if this was definitely from the pie and I was the one baking/selling them I would want to know...potential lawsuits, etc. YUCK! Can't hurt to ask her what was in it that might have effected you that way...just maybe say you are worried about a nut allergy but wanted to be sure of all of the ingredients before you got tested for it. I see your point that you were wondering about the spice or something...makes sense now...maybe it was a different type of flour in the crust, who knows...I would definitely tell her so she can evaluate what she has done different at least in that pie.
The truth would be my way
husband is a milk toast type of guy and does not like to rock the boat so to speak. I had nothing else with the pie last evening and noticed I had a funny after taste, such as a, not really burning but strange, thought undertone if that applies in this case. Last night hunting the Benadryl thought if something like peppers they use in New Orleans and I was not used to them. I eat regular pecan pie and this was no where close to what I have had all these years.
Ain't that the truth!!!
If she's that mature, she should have tried the best birth control, which is not having sex at all!!!
Probably the truth is that if they don't
come around, they have a little peace. Every encounter with their mother is going to ruffle her feathers and freak her out. You are a cold, cold woman. Hopefully they are getting some acceptance from their in-laws, if you haven't screwed them up enough to wreck their marriages too.
How about you tell the person you are talking long distance to, "I'm sorry, my daughter is calling, I have to go." Where are your priorities?
i don't know how much truth there is to this
that we will have to claim that money from the rebate on our 2008 taxes; that if it was a REFUND, that would be different. anyone know anything about this? same thing happened with our property taxes "rebate"... have to claim that.... doesn't really shock me though
It is most always better to tell the truth
Especially if they are your friends. If they really are then they will understand, but if they find out you lied to them they will eventually loose all respect for you.
This is a lesson I've been trying to teach my daughter for years.....hasn't worked yet, but she doesn't have many friends either.
I think there is some truth to this
If a young man is very close to his mother, and he looks to her as an example for what women are like, then yes it is possible they look for a girl like Mom, especially if she is a good cook. However, my daughter told my son that the June Cleaver's, from Leave it To Beaver, are about gone, and the girls from this generation are very different. My son was used to my keeping my house clean, having meals at the dinner table at night, chauffering them to their activities, staying up at night and helping with school projects, working 2 jobs to make ends meet, and being a single parent, and I raised my sons and daughters to think that a job was not a dirty word and they needed to help out too.
It is funny though that the girl that my son married is similar in appearance to me, but she does not cook, nor does she clean, but she is a good mother and manager of their finances. My son said the other day that he longs for a home-cooked meal at anytime, and wishes I lived closer, although he has gotten to be a good cook.
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