it's okay, none taken, I feel bad for accusing you of starting trouble.
Posted By: I agree; life is short. Have a good day. n/m on 2007-07-14
In Reply to: I truly apologize, too. - TLR
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I actually am starting to feel better, and
I really appreciate the prayers. I still have not heard from my brother, though he promised to call me. However, even though he and his family are going through a terrible time with the loss of his wife's mother, at least she has now said that she thinks they should make the long drive and visit us. That will be wonderful.
That's how i'm starting to feel
That's exactly how my hubby wants it. I ALWAYS have to be the one to initiate sex and he will either say things like he'll do it just do i'll hush which ticks me off or he'll flat out turn me down. I told him the other night that he doesn't have to worry about me ever bothering him for sex anymore b/c i get tired of his little smart comments about how i bother him and he's gonna start doing it just so i'll be quiet. that just makes me so mad. so i'm not gonna say another word. we'll see how long he'll go without it.
Hope you are starting to feel better Just me seeing that you are not alone
I think everyone has at least one narcissist in their lifetime to deal with. As someone married to one I know how disheartened you feel. They can strip you of any/all self-esteem that you ever had.
She's falsely accusing me of
"making" her put that photo of herself as a little girl as her Avatar. I adamantly deny such charges though. I merely suggested . . . honest . . . 
If so, and you are just starting sm
you should know that the newbies do not have first choice, and you should be ready and willing to work the holidays. People who have been around much longer have first choice, as it should be. Wouldn't you agree?
Its 20 but sun is starting to come out in OR
x.
LOL! I also go to the gym every day before starting work
It gives me tons of energy so I don't need as much coffee!
I am so tired of being fat, I am starting something soon
I am glad to see your post because I am having trouble getting into those size 20s and I am not going any higher, that is too high like it is. I have some problems that I am sure are associated, the main 1 now being incontinence and I mean it is not just a little. My blood pressure is a little elevated and I am sure that would come down with the loss. My feet also give me some problems, probably tired of carrying all this extra stuff. i had heard some about this and glad to know available right up the street. Thanks again!
Girl, you got THAT right! I was starting to wonder
if MTStars wasn't an MTSO 'feedback' (i.e. 'spy') vehicle for ADHI and the like. Still possible, I suppose, but to be able to be a bit nasty & sarcastic (when it's deserved) is truly cathartic. Then we can get back to work with at least a small bit of relief from the annoyance lots of us feel at this profession
Don't know what starting this p-ing match
It's pretty funny really, because I never thought agreeing with another poster would get anyone so fired up. I have friends and family that I can depend on, but there are things I expect my husband to do for me that I would not expect from a friend or even my family.
I think if I would end up widowed, I'd have no problem being alone. I really don't know that I would want to get back into the whole dating thing again. I only stated that when being married works, it works well.
However, I get a definite hostile vibe from you, which I really don't understand. I don't know you, I don't know your situation and if you say you're happy, that's fine. Just don't try to make me feel like an incomplete human being because I say I'm happy being married.
Yes, me since 2006, so I'm starting
to be an old pro at trying to make ends meet. Hang in there. I doubt it can get any worse????
I've been the main support for DH and me since 2006. I'm tired of doing it but have to keep going. A lot of times, I would love to take off work for a day and/or just "retire" but it's impossible. I am now working 7 days a week instead of the 5 days just ot make up the difference in pay checks.
We're all in the same boat this year. It can't get any worse, I hope. At least, hubby's pay did take care of the mortgage and taxes for this year but we have no idea what will happen next year. He doesn't even know if he will have a job to go to, but is looking into other possiblities 'cause around here, there are no jobs.
I think the honey is starting to help....at least (sm)
it is temporarily soothing. Thank you all for your suggestions
Im starting WW today !!! I have done it before and it works. (not OP)
deal with too well and gained some back (emotional eater). This time I am going to concentrate on the mind as well as the body. I am excited!!
To the OP - I know its an old saying, but You gotta Love You first. Ill keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
I almost always have a cup of coffee right before starting work!
Sometimes I even have another one mid-shift for a pick up!
My sedums are just starting to flush
with bloom color. My Plumbago is in full bloom, but not sure if you can grow that as a perenniel there. Little pink groundcover is blooming, possibly rock cress. The coleus looks great. Impatiens still going strong. Pentas and salvias are beautiful, as is the white vinca. Many goldenrods are doing well. But I'm down here in NC, zone 7b.
Tell me point A to B, where starting and where ending?
Almost certain other routes I know he could take.
Yep - I think it is consistency and starting early! (sm)
I am not 100% opposed to spanking them if they were to just refuse to listen to me, but it doesn't come to that. It did a few times when they were very young and I taught them off the bat that they were not going to win. I'm the mom!
American Idol is starting soon and I
am hopeful this year it will exceed what we saw last year. I have been a faithful watcher ever since it first came on several years ago. I am disappointed to hear that perhaps some of the contestants might be able to do other things, such as playing guitar, piano, etc. as part of their act. This started as and should remain a singing contest. I always make sure my getting off time corresponds to the time AI starts. Sooooooooo excited.
I'm actually starting to think that is could be hard water.
It's very strange. Some days, my hair will feel thicker, and then some days it will feel really thin. This has never happened to me before! It literally just started this past fall after I turned 26. Maybe it's just stress, although I don't have that much. I do take a multivitamin every day and have for the past several years. I also tend to eat really healthy and drink a ton of skim milk! I'm starting to think that maybe it is just stress. Also, I'm wondering if it could be hard water in my house causing it when I shower. When I first noticed this around October, it was while I was washing my hair in the shower and I started pulling strands of hair out like never before. I guess that is really something to consider. I do live in a much older house.
Age of starting depends on a lot of things sm
My husband's cousin started when she was 10 while my niece, who is 6 months older than her, did not start until she was 13. Family genetics make a difference; if her mother was younger, she would likely be younger. Body fat makes a big difference also. DH's cousin is not fat but a little chunky while my niece is very slim. My own DD is 11 and has not started yet and is built more like my niece.
As far as what to have on hand, I would ask her mother what they have at home so she has what she is used to there.
Glad he's starting to act like a human being. :D nm
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The recommended starting dosage for adults is 25 mg (sm)
3 to 4 x daily with a maximum of 150 mg daily. The medication is prescribed for depression, but with alot of those antidepressants, they are also prescribed for their sedative effect, and thus also prescribed for insomnia. Pamelor has been around a long time, and in my last 10 years of transcribing, don't recall any physician prescribing it as a sleep aid. The usual standard now seems to be trazodone, starting dose 50, but may increase in increments of 50 mg up a max of 300. I am not questioning your doctor's reasoning for prescribing this, I just find it unusual. I would not be concerned about increasing the dose you are taking. Most medications, in order to cause deliterious and life-threating potential, need to be taken 30x the normal prescribing dose. Hope you feel better.
It's snowing and starting to stick in Birmingham!
My 4 yo is in layers of clothes with socks over her little hands lol! I asked her to wipe off a leaf (over my waist high off the ground) to see what snow tasted like...she said it tasted like yellow! LOL! I told her not to get any more snow from that bush! This really beats Winter Storm of 1993 when we got snow, but had no electricity for 6 days! Like the OP, I have tried making trip plans for my little one to see snow and it has never worked out, so this is the first time for her :) She is having a blast...I like it too!
Hope you get your snow down south!
I'm starting my own line of kid's soaps, hoping it will take off
:)
Starting the first week in November, so tomorrow
there are two radio stations in town that plays Christmas music 24/7. I like Christmas music, but I think it's a little early to listen to it all day every day. Although, my daughter watches Christmas videos all year round.
Computer starting to freeze up every now and then. Any suggestions? It is
only 3 years old and not sure what is causing this.
All of Adam's songs are starting to sound exactly
alike. I think he peaked too soon & that's all he's got. The same predictable screams in every song... I think it's really getting boring.
I think Lakesha started out strong but is starting to fizzle
I really don't have anybody giving me that spark this year. I like Melinda, but the wide eyed wonder thing was starting to get annoying. I'm glad Simon said something last night. Like I said, I think Lakesha started out strong, but she's just lost her edge and may be one of those upsets to go around now or next week, since she was considered an early favorite. Sanjaya was bad last night.. urgh, he was off on the voice, but really, if not for the drama of Sanjaya, there wouldn't be much reason to watch this year. I think what's his name.. the bald one.. Phil? He sang well last night, but he kind of creeps me out. I doubt anyone is going to really catch on or do big things after the show. It's going to be one of those fizzle out years.
Normal. I think jealousy is involved & also that his hormones are starting
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I'm starting to hate this southern weather, seriously. It was in the 90s this week. I don't kn
keep my tanks out. The other night I went to bed in sweats and woke up drenched in sweat. EGAD!!
I used to live in Upstate NY/VT and I miss those winters something terrible. Don't go on and on and on about how lucky I have it, because believe me, I MISS THOSE WEATHERS!! I owned my own John Deere snowblowers and LOVED every minute of it. I loved being snowed indoors. I loved making snow angels. I loved actually being able to eat soup and not sweat like a hog.
I miss it, miss it, miss it. I'm really beginning to resent my husband who has never left the south. I fell in love with him and we've never left. He won't even go up there to visit. He'd live in the Miami keys if it weren't for me. I haven't seen snow in 10 years! Please, someone send some my way.................
South AL is where I live - look up Orange Beach..
Burn Notice starting it's new season on Thursday
that is one fine man.... yummy...oh, yeah, love the show, too.
Have you ever had trouble with your
bones just aching and thought something else and come to find out you did not have enough calcium and once supplemented, the pain stopped? Has anyone been so deficient in calcium that this actually happened? Thanks.
Trouble is.
That I think they believe her that they cannot do anything without her. I think she just loves to bully. It gives her some sort of power or something. I think that is why she kept insisting she look after my kids while I work. Normally I am a submissive type that is a target for bullys but when it comes to my precious girls, I draw the line. I have become better and taking up for myself and especially my babies. She had some ugly things to say about me too from what I understand when I told her no that the girls and I were happy with the child care they were receiving at the daycare.
I have been wondering, if I called the CPS if they would make the parents put the children in a regular daycare or something better then what they are getting. She still feeds that 2 year-old and insists that the DIL still feed that 2 yo baby food because Aunt does not want and is not going to cook. DH told me that when I left the room that she told the little boy that he was going to get a dose of Tylenol because she needed to get some sleep. It is a shame that she treats him like he is a burden.
The only way you could get in trouble with the IRS sm
Is if that person worked ONLY for you. A lot of people try to pass their full-time housekeepers off as IC because they don't want to bother with the taxes. Those are the people who get into trouble. That person is an employee, not an IC. But if they work for other people as well, they are an IC and responsible for their own taxes.
If you have that much trouble trying to....
communicate when you're trying to buy something off her, imagine how bad it will be if there are problems later and you are unhappy with the product. I would just go to some other place.
I'm not sure I want to know what trouble that may be LOL - NM
NM
I have told people starting to leave the restroom without washing
"Oh, wait, ma'am, there's soap in THIS dispenser." as if she might have thought ANOTHER dispenser was empty. Just about gets em everytime. They'll begrudgingly come to the sink and wash their hands and I play it off like it's nothing. Sometime, I'll say, "Don't you wish they would fill the soap dispensers more often?"
We have berber and it catches dog toenails and loops are starting to come undone. Won't use
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It's weird, but I'm a brown rice fanatic and weight starting to come off (sm)
I bought a little rice cooker because me and my guy were hungry some nights after working out and we got hooked on rice as kind of a lowfat, low cost, no frills snack. I've gone crazy for it for some reason and eat it sometimes 3 times a day. I guess it's the complex carbs, but it's also seemed to reduce my craving for simple carbs; I'm eating less bread, much less soda, and craving fewer sweet things. I make a batch and keep leftovers in the fridge and reheat if I have a snack attack. I figure, it's better than most of the alternatives (processed, high fat, etc.)
potty trouble
Just like when a pacifier mysteriously disappears, you can hide the pullups and act like you ran out. She may suggest buying more, but conveniently, the store will be out of her size. She won't tolerate going in panties nearly as well as the pullups at her age. You may have more laundry, but if you stick to it, she'll come around. To avoid the pullups at night (so she doesn't catch on), use rubber sheets and avoid late drinking. Continue with the praise, rewards, and all the other methods simultaneously. If she's able to hold her poop that long, with the right foods, she'll be less able to put it off (of course, I don't mean give the poor thing diarrhea). It's just that children tend to be on the constipated side according to my pediatrician, so that might be partly why she can go so long. Make sure she eats plenty of veggies and put her on the potty at the same time daily, preferably in the morning after breakfast or warm milk, cocoa, etc.
Potty Trouble
Was reading the board tonight and just wanted to share my experience with you about my son (who is now 18). He was also a very independent, smart, could do anything kid, but refused to potty train. However, he really wanted to go to "school". After explaining that they did not let kids into school who still went to the bathroom in their pants, he informed me that he would starting wearing his big boy pants and going to the big boy potty once he started school and by gosh that is what he did. Stubborn as all get out! Your daughter sounds a lot like him...used to hide to have his bm and could have cared less about wearing dirty diapers or pull-ups (I cannot remember, but I don't think they were available yet). Anyway, I got a lot a grief from many friends and especially family about this. He was my first child and it really stressed me out, but he took care of it on his own in good time. I am not sure whether you can try something like this with your daughter such as a special place that she might like to go or the all time favorite...a bribe. Whatever happens, it will work itself out in the long run. Just remember not to get too stressed about it and take it all in stride and do not worry about what other people say. My son is now a terrific young adult who has been wearing his big boy pants for a long time and has suffered no severe mental setbacks that I can tell ( ) from all the pleading and begging his father and I did. Sorry so long, but I worried so much about this and frankly I could kick myself now since there were so many other huge issues that we would be facing later on. She will get it....hang in there.
What do you do when your child gets in trouble?
Spank/Swat
Time Out
Natural Consequences (ie, if they won't stop throwing food, then lunch is over, or if they run away while you're out, it's time to go home)
Re-direction (ie, trying to get your child to focus on something else)
Other (possibly a combination of methods or something else entirely)
When I had trouble, it felt like a really...sm
sharp, hard pinch along my sternum. I was given Motrin. I did have a workup first before the doctor decided on costochondritis - EKG, treadmill, echo. I do have mitral valve prolapse.
Arm hair trouble
It seems like over the last several years the hair on my forearms has gotten darker and darker. I'm so self-conscious about it, I feel like it makes me nice and mannish looking :(
Here's my question: would it help to put hydrogen peroxide on my arm hair everyday? Bleaching is such a hassle for a large area like that, and I don't have the money now for laser removal. I think hydrogen peroxide lightens hair, but would it make a noticeable difference on my arms?
anyone have trouble with their neighbors...????
beginning to wonder if there could be anything worse to have to put up with. I have been dealing badly with these people for almost 2 years now and am in the process of remodling to sell out and find a better spot to live. my neighbor is going down hill quick. what used to be the all american suburb, has turned into trash neighbors...sorry had to vent!!!!
Well, guess I am in trouble then because
my housekeeper who has been with me exclusively for the past say 15 years or so only works for me. No taking out of taxes, all under-the-table, how if she never does taxes, pray tell, will the IRS know???
I'm in a world of trouble, then
because all my grandparents with the exception of my maternal grandmother deceased before I was born. I am now in my 60s and have actually made it this far without knowing any of their history. What is a lady to do?
Daughter In Trouble
I wish you, your daughter, and your family well. I mean that sincerely. You need advice from an attorney -- not from a lot of us speculating on a web site. I worked in child abuse for many years before MT work. It is doubtful (my opinion only) that you will be successful in bringing charges against this young man because of the age of consent of your daughter. She was not raped; she had sexual relations with him willingly. IF you are successful - please be prepared for the price you are going to make your daughter pay. She will have to testify at his trial and the defense attorney will make her look like the worst XXX in the world. It will be horrible for her - at best. Please think long and hard about what you are about to do to your daughter.
I would keep the lines of communication open and drop it. You will be so sad if you put your daughter through this only to find that -at most- the boyfriend will receive probation. Remember my words, "Being a winner does NOT mean you win." Sometimes the cost is very, very high Mom.
Been There As A Prosecution Witness 1,000,000 Times and now an MT because of it.
Lilly
Trouble concentrating
Just wondering if anyone else suffers from SAD and has trouble concentrating this time of year. I am losing my motivation to do anything (besides eat). Any helpful suggestions would be appreciated. The shorter days are really starting to affect my drive. I'm usually very energetic and upbeat. Just have the blahs.
Second at 36. I didn't have much trouble sm
keeping up with them. They make you young again, take you back to playful times. I agree, have always looked 10 years young than my age.
Most of my friends had kids much earlier, had no education, no idea which way was up. Somehow, they all turn out ok. Something to be said for your mothers, and older mothers, too.
In my expeirence, the older mother know much more about the ins and outs of applying for financial aid and college than do the younger mothers. Been there, done, that, and all of that. Worked for mine. Graduated NYU in 2005 and is well onto her way to great career..
What would you do? School trouble.
We moved here to Texas about 2 years ago and have never had any to deal with the kids and school behavioral issues before, but my 14-year-old daughter apparently just had her 5th tardy to a class (she's a talker and I can easily see how's she's distracted getting from locker to classroom) and was given a choice in school today of ISS (in-school-suspension) or take swats.
Swats? I had no idea they still spanked kids at school. Didn't that stop happening about 20 years ago? I talked to one mom earlier and apparently in Texas it's still legal and she didn't think twice about it and said her own kids had been paddled in school and she thought it was just fine.
It's not that I'm trying to get my daughter out of her punishment, but apparently since I didn't sign a "paddling permission" slip, she has to choose the school suspension thing. Though she brought the slip for me to sign tonight if I choose. She apparently actually wants the swats because she says that's what all the other kids do and (quote) it doesn't hurt. She says she doesn't want to miss class anyway and it's dumb to miss classes if she doesn't have to.
While I agree with her on the missing class part, I can't help but wonder what the point of a punishment of a paddling is IF it the kids say it doesn't hurt AND they choose it instead of in-school suspension. It seems so barbaric. Do they really think smacking the kids with a piece of wood is going to keep them in line? I suppose it worked when we were kids but I thought our society was past that now.
So I'm just wondering what you all would do (need opinions). As I said, I talked with one mom tonight that said just go ahead and let her be paddled, it's no biggy. I asked my daughter if she thinks that will keep her from being so chit-chatty and not making it to class on time and she just shrugged her shoulders. How can the kids be so calm about the whole thing?
I hate parenting sometimes! So do I sign the "no paddling" slip or not? 
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