i know it is wearing on you but the recommend amount of timeout is 1 minute for each year of age.
Posted By: that is all their little minds can handle or they on 2008-08-25
In Reply to: What would you do? - at the end of my rope
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- i know it is wearing on you but the recommend amount of timeout is 1 minute for each year of age. - that is all their little minds can handle or they
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Such a minute amount but what I was
saying anyone who has a huge amount on their card really cannot stand to take a chance with not paying on time- I am sure would not have a problem having it written off- they love me because 2nd time I have paid off totally and always on time (not this small amount though) and the last time over 10 thou paid off. I will probably call them anyway.
My 7-year-old girl is now wearing a size 6 ladies shoe...sm
I'm afraid to try to guess how much that foot is going to grow before she gets to high school! She's also 2 heads taller than the kids in her class.
I know the timeout rules all too
well, but truthfully, I needed the timeout. It took me a good 20 minutes to compose myself to the point where I was ready to address what he did. I figured he was safer sitting on that chair. By the time it was done, he sat for about 30 minutes. According to the timeout rules, it should have been 8 minutes, but sometimes we adjust the punishment to fit the crime. Then he sat for another 10 minutes while I lectured him calmly about the what-ifs.
For that small amount, can't you take
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Would never give this amount sm
withot consulting my spouse. I think it's kind of sneaky on his part, that's a large amount to keep from your wife. I would be fuming and think you have a right to be flaming mad. I don't know about the cheating aspect, she probably found an ear to bend and drives him nuts but he won't admit it. She found herself a Santa and he's probably sorry he did it. See how it goes. Next time he has an appointment, if it were me, I'd hang around the parking lot, but that's me, I'm not sure it's something you would want to do. I certainly would!
Re the amount of effort
OMG - I had two teenagers who were 19 months apart. Yes, it was hard and sometimes I just had to turn my head and pretend that was not my child. The effort and sacrifices are great, especially at prom time and when they start driving. I am glad I had mine young. I think it helped me get through it. I do believe that kids/teenagers are going to get in trouble for something. That's their job and it is a way of life. I just tried to put myself in their place when I was that age (I did much worse things actually). That is also another reason why they could not get by with much. I had done it all and knew what to expect. Even so, no matter what my kids ever did and whether I trusted them or not, I always let them know and told them I loved them more than anything all the time (even if they had hurt me). I gave them my all and taught them to appreciate it. I put them through college and they put themselves through grad school. I was not sure the youngest would even graduate high school. They always knew I loved them with all my heart and I believe most of the time that pays off. One day all that effort and sacrifice will be worth it.
Yes. The formula is you say, "You have X amount for
When she runs out, she does without until her budget allows more entertainment money.
It isn't about the money, though. Her issue is with learning priorities for needs versus wants.
You've waited a little late if she's 22. My boys budgeted their money as mid teens and as young men do great.
Kids usually learn spending habits from parents - by example or by allowance.
Apparently they are setting a certain amount you can use and if you go beyond that they can
either disconnect you for a year or charge you for the extra that you use. This is Comcast. I expect all the internet companies will follow suit so many are saying the internet as we know it is now going to change and become more expensive to use and we will only be allowed a base amount of usage for our flat fee we pay and beyond that we may have to pay extra for however much more we use in increments. Time will tell what happens I guess. What can you do.
a question of amount of effort
If I had to do it over again, yes.
But I am having a hard time seeing where the amount of sacrifices I made is paying off in these "teenage years."
I think the payoff for being a good enough parent just might be raising "good enough" kids who become "good enough" parents, so you don't end up raising your grandkids....(and end up with a second chance to get it right).
Two months is quite a short amount of time....
You need to take your time and keep YOUR options open! You may meet Mr. Right while you're seeing this guy. In two months, you probably don't even know his favorite color yet. Don't rush these things. If he is the one, he will figure it out and not want to see anyone else. Good luck! I hope this works out for you.
Maybe good money for the amount of hours sm
but no enough for what actucally goes into the job.
Smaller total amount of more feedings?
Have you tried feeding him more than 2-3 times a day and just putting a smaller overall amount in the dish? He might think he's actually getting more.
Do you have dirty dishes or excess amount
of trash that needs to be taken out?
We did lose some money, but not a huge amount
We have three different ones that we've been keeping an eye on.
When amount of this for social security people and when?
Do you have a link for this info, pls.
Try Alton Brown's suggestion for the amount of
grounds to use. As he points out, you can always dilute. Here is the article:
http://www.foodnetwork.com/recipes/alton-brown/true-brew-recipe/index.html
a small amount of chocolate is 2-3 squares, not more.
Portions sizes are always very small, see below...
The Look of Normal Portion Sizes
1 oz. meat: size of a matchbox
3 oz. meat: size of a deck of cards or bar of soap—the recommended portion for a meal
8 oz. meat: size of a thin paperback book
3 oz. fish: size of a checkbook
1 oz. cheese: size of 4 dice
Medium potato: size of a computer mouse
2 Tbs. peanut butter: size of a ping pong ball
1/2 cup pasta: size of a tennis ball
Average bagel: size of a hockey puck.
a small amount of chocolate is 2-3 squares, not more.
Portions sizes are always very small, see below...
The Look of Normal Portion Sizes
1 oz. meat: size of a matchbox
3 oz. meat: size of a deck of cards or bar of soap—the recommended portion for a meal
8 oz. meat: size of a thin paperback book
3 oz. fish: size of a checkbook
1 oz. cheese: size of 4 dice
Medium potato: size of a computer mouse
2 Tbs. peanut butter: size of a ping pong ball
1/2 cup pasta: size of a tennis ball
Average bagel: size of a hockey puck.
a small amount of chocolate is 2-3 squares, not more.
Portions sizes are always very small, see below...
The Look of Normal Portion Sizes
1 oz. meat: size of a matchbox
3 oz. meat: size of a deck of cards or bar of soap—the recommended portion for a meal
8 oz. meat: size of a thin paperback book
3 oz. fish: size of a checkbook
1 oz. cheese: size of 4 dice
Medium potato: size of a computer mouse
2 Tbs. peanut butter: size of a ping pong ball
1/2 cup pasta: size of a tennis ball
Average bagel: size of a hockey puck.
great post! - only a difference in amount of melanin
the only difference I see is the amount of melanin in the skin........BEST of luck to you - Enjoy it while you feel it!!!
It's ALL good!! 
We didn't even spend half that amount on each of our kids.
Of course, our kids told us about their spoiled rotten friends who all got electric guitars, multiple gaming systems, flat panel TVs for their bedrooms, cell phones, mp3 players, etc. Then the little boy from across the street came over and told me what he got for Christmas, which wasn't much at all. I felt so bad for the little guy. If I had known they didn't have much, I would have bought for his family instead of my 25+ family and friends who don't even need anything. I refuse to buy into it all for my own kids. If they want all the electronics, they can work and save up for it, and then only with my permission. No unlimited Internet, no texting, no M, R or T rated movies and games. I just don't believe children need all that junk. DH and I grew up just fine without it.
I find it best to take a 15-20 minute nap....sm
when I find myself super-sleepy during the day. It's just enough to perk me back up and works better than caffeine or cold water.
I take a 20 minute nap and that helps when I get like this.
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Can I vent for just a minute?
My mother-in-law called last night to say that we have some relatives in town for the weekend. They are staying with a relative that is not related to my husband's family. She asked if we would like to get together Sat. evening and order pizza. This is what we do every time family visits, unless I offer to cook. My MIL tells everyone who listens " I love to cook, I just don't have anyone to cook for." My wonderful FIL passed away 16yrs ago. My MIL works Mon.-Thurs. in a family owned business that she and my husband run. The business is closed on the weekends. My sister-in-law is a school teacher so she is out of school right now. I am not asking for a huge meal, but I know we could throw together something nice but easy quickly. BTW, for Easter dinner we are going to Outback. I can't have everyone here becuase we just pulled up all our carpets to put down hardwood floors, so most of our furniture is in the garage. I did suggest to my MIL that we do KFC since we always do pizza. Her response "I don't like mashed potatoes." Just felt like venting a little bit ( I don't say anything negative about my MIL to my hubby) mainly becuase she is a very good MIL and a wonderful grandmother. (Sigh) I feel better now. 
Wait a minute...
This bride is 65, second wedding, and I assume wearing white? I wonder. Also I believe etiquette says a bridal shower is not proper for a second wedding and probably especially not for a couple in their 60s ! which poster mentioned. Also, etiquette says the bride and groom or family should pay to put the guests up at the hotel if they have to come from out of town which poster also mentioned.
This old gal is obviously not Miss Manners, herself.
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I usually use about 1/2 bag if minute rice..sm
but this is the first time I have used the recipe on the dry onion soup box!! It just sounded so good that I thought I would give it a try and just add the rice since my hubby likes rice in his meatloaf. Hope it comes out okay!!
As of 1 minute ago, here's what they agreed on
If you make at least 3000 but don't pay taxes, you'll get 300. If you pay taxes, you'll get 600. Plus, you get an additional 300 per child. Each couple that pays taxes will, therefore, get 1200, plus 300 per kid, as long as they make under 150,000.
Yahoo news had the wrong numbers posted this morning, but everything has been decided on now and above is the info.
Wait a minute...
Excuse me, but my son just turned 8 and this girl is almost 8. I have since found out that she did this to another boy last year (not as hard) and my son also said she will walk up to him and hyperextend his finger back and twist them, as well as flicking him with her pencil when she gets mad. I know of yet another student that had problems with her last year (an older boy) who felt bullied by her.
To me it just seems there is a pattern here that is only getting worse. It could have been his eye. Would you say it was no big deal then?? Where is she getting this behavior from?
And yes, I think she needs special help in the classroom if she has behavioral issues. This is way different than kids fighting over a ball on the playground. This is a private Catholic school and they don't have the funding for extra programs for behavioral and special needs. In addition, their code of conduct that they recite everyday after prayer and the pledge of allegiance is that they will "uphold the sanctuary for themselves and others."
Have I done without as a child? Let me think a minute. YES
My family was borderline poverty striken although I was not aware of it. My grandmother used to pay our house note and my aunt came in and picked up bills that were due and paid those. I remember my grandmother buying us groceries. My mother never had what you could consider a really good job. No drugs, no alcohol, nothing like that but not enough to really support a family, not much help from my father (although he did pay child support). Being as only 2 children, mother was able to make each feel loved and wanted. My mother's kids were not born back to back so bonding was able to be in force. This mother is talking about doing illegal things and hopefully the courts will step in about the children. I do not think she has the basic common sense to take care of this brood. All she thought about were her needs, not the needs of all these other children. She had enough at home before she started. I read she had to pay $100,000 for the invitro. That could have bought an addition on the home so they could put in more bedrooms for all these extra mouths to feed.
Wait a minute. She's only 7-8 weeks old...sm
You've only had her a week, and you expect her to be housetrained already? And you're already thinking about giving her up because she isn't? WOW!
Boy are you in for a surprise - if you keep her, that is, which at this point I'm not sure is the best thing for her, unless you're willing to adjust your expectations and do a bit of a 'crash course' in puppies/dogs. And please be honest with yourself, because if you don't keep her, it's much easier to find her a home while she's still young.
First of all, it's totally unrealistic to expect no 'accidents' from such a young puppy. She is *very* young. In fact, it sounds like she's doing remarkably well for being so young!
It isn't *physiologically* possible for a puppy to be 100% pottytrained until about... 4 months of age, if I remember correctly. They don't have the muscle control to hold it more than... 4 hours, I think it is? (I'm going by memory, so I'll have to look that up.)
So, my next question is, how long does she have to stay in the crate w/o a potty break? Because it is extremely unusual for dogs to soil their living area - unless they either have no choice and can't physically hold it anymore, (or if they came from a puppy mill/pet store where they had no other choice but to go in their cage and so get in that habit), OR if her crate is so large that she can go in one section and then go off to another section and be away from it. (If that's the case, you can use a crate divider.)
But as young as she is, she probably just can't hold it for more than a couple hours at a time. I had a great site for potty training stuff. Let me find it and post again later. It does s/l you're doing everything else right as far as keeping her on a regular schedule. For now, I'd suggest that she commes out of the crate for a potty break at least every 2 hours, or immediately if you see her start to sniff around in her crate or otherwise act like she's going to go in her crate.
BTW, she should have stayed with her mother and littermates until *at least* 8 weeks of age, which tells me you didn't get her from a reputable breeder if they let her go so young. That's a shame, because a reputable breeder would be available to mentor you and answer any and all questions you might have along the way (for life), like about crating and pottytraining. A rep. breeder would have also asked you a lot of questions and would not have let you have one of their pups if it would not be the right breed for you and your family, or if you're maybe just not cut out to be dog owners. (That kind of screening saves everybody a lot of heartache, rather than getting the puppy and then not keeping it, having to find it a new home, etc.) But that's neither here nor there at this point. I just always recommend a reputable breeder, rescue, or a shelter. It makes me angry that people will sell a puppy to someone and then just "leave them hanging" so to speak, because it's the puppy that suffers. Okay, enough of my ranting.
I'd have dumped the vet the minute she mentioned the
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It's 30 minute circuit training SM
on very easy machines. It's actually fun and everyone is friendly.
Only problem is, you don't really lose a lot of weight, if that's your goal, and, at least where I live, it costs $40 a month. What with rate of pay dropping, I had to quit.
If you don't need to lose a great deal of weight and just want to stay in shape, it really is good.
There is one from the 10 Minute Solutions group.
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And you can get thrown off this board for just what you said a minute ago
that being correcting me about how I structured a sentence. I was talking about a situation outside of this board and outside of work this morning and you are calling someone to task about my being rude? In a nice way I can correct and usually do. I can see where your name comes from.
Larege amount of horses at packing plants/feed lots
coincidentally happen to be TBs. They are a huge throw-away market. Once they are done racing, unless they are one of the incredibly lucky few to be adopted out to knowledgable homes for other careers or are of breeding quality, they usually don't wind up in too good of a place afterwards. I'm a nobody, and I've had 3 of these throw-aways land in my lap. Yes, there are some responsible owners/breeders who ensure these animals are taken care of for the rest of their days, racing career or not, then there are an awful lot of others who see them as the cash crops they are and nothing more.
PJ wearing
How many of us stay in our PJs all day?
Ive been at home now for about 5 or 6 years - I cannot seem to break this bad habit of mine!! I think it is beginning to wear on me. I miss "having to" buy new clothes and looking nice everyday...now, I cannot seem to find a "good" reason to get fixed up for the day home by myself!!!
Anyone else go through this!!!
PJ Wearing!
Almost every day unless I have an appointment of some type! No makeup and hair in a ponytail! It does feel good, though, I have to admit to "fix up" every once in a while and sometimes I do miss it but not enough to put forth the energy most days.
I would recommend it 100%.
http://www.inciid.org/article.php?cat=womansupport&id=437
Take it from someone who had HPV and infertility issues. Procedures done for HPV related cervical problems can lead to infertility. The vaccine can prevent the HPV virus while Paps can only detect it after it's already there. I think it is a wise choice to do both.
Can anyone recommend...
A reasonably-priced cell phone company?? My husband has a calling plan through Verizon and we get 100 minutes for $25. He hardly ever uses his cell phone, yet the bills have been in the $70s and $80s every month, and they do not provide a record of the calls being made, to prove that he is not making $80 worth of calls a month.
I am done with this, and want to find a company that has reasonably-priced plans for people who don't use their cell phone much. I think I'm really getting ripped off here. For those of you who feel you are getting a good deal with your cell phone company, who do you use, and what are you paying? Thanks!
I don't recommend everyone just
jump on the medication wagon. I believe prayer is a strong influence, but if you have done all of that and you have issues that are effecting your every day life and they are chemical...why not take a medication? If you have heart disease you take a pill. If you have cancer you take meds/surgery/whatever. If you are diabetic you modify your diet, exercise AND likely take meds. Mental health issues are always touchy. For years I was ashamed of being depressed and denied myself the diagnosis and even treatment which had a far worse effect on me by causing my depression to get worse and become suicidal because I felt like a failure because I could not just "suck it up" like everyone told me to do. It is not easy to live with these disorders. Accepting them and finding ways to have a better life while dealing with them is important. Meds are not for everyone. I don't like chemicals in my body...I got my tubes tied so I wouldn't have to take birth control. I never take pain relievers unless prescribed and if so...very scant amounts.
Medication is not a bandaid. It is a tool to recovery.
I say consult with your doctor and do what you feel is best for yourself. Do not allow others to sway you to take them or not take them. It is your body. Not all meds work the same on everyone either.
Believe me...I have prayed and prayed and prayed and finally it was God who allowed me to forgive myself for being so ashamed of my disorders and that is when I decided medication will always be a part of my mental health regimen. I almost killed myself. God saved me...I prayed to God before I committed the horrible act and asked him "to please watch over my children and do what is right for them and not let them suffer the pain that I was going through." Well...that is why I believe I am here today. God did what was right for my children...He sent me back to them. I refuse to believe anything else. I am very blessed to be here today.
Why do they recommend this? nm
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Can anybody recommend
Here's my criteria:
I like funny or adventure books, usually about 40-ish to 50-ish y/o women. I have read all the Hot Flash series. I don't like mysteries or true crime. I like Mary Kay Andrews, Jill Berg. Just looking for some relaxing reading. Any suggestions appreciated.
i would recommend something different,
like calorieking.com It focuses on the nutrition as well as weight loss. but you don't have to deny yourself anything, ie carbs. you do learn the way to change your eating style in a permanent way so you don't bounce back and forth with the weight. you can do a free trial offer on line; if you like it, subscription is $55/yr. and their site has LOTS of info, recipes, forums, etc. i did that the first year and learned alot; didn't work at it consistently and lost 15 lbs still. now i am just doing the food/exercise journal with their best little calorie book, for way less $ and that is working for me. but rather than 'diet' (i hate that word!)you want to make changes that are something you can live with, permanently.
I would recommend
Into the Wild for the 17-yo and One for the Money by Janet Evanovich for you. Another great book is the Last Lecture by Randy Pausch.
I can't believe you would waste a minute of time obsessing about this.
Unbelievable!
Guiding Light since it was a 15 minute show
 I'm old.
Wait a minute, so no gift, meaning nothing?
nada? No money in a card either? I can't believe what I am reading. LOL.
Here is how it works.. for a shower they usually want a gift off the registry which just about everyone has these days. If not registered then about a 30-50 dollar gift depending on how close you are or gift card, etc.
And for weddings, wrapped gifts are always tacky mostly because they are awkward, much harder for the bride and groom to take care of at/after the wedding (have someone collect the gifts and deliver later?, collect themselves which is tacky, receive yet another item they don't need and/or want), and so ALL brides and grooms expect MONEY.
Weddings are very expensive. Mine was over 10000 a while back and if all 60 or so couples brought me a "gift" I would have been VERY upset. Sorry but it's true.
I think most people who bring gifts are the ones who don't want to spend much or don't want people to know what they spent but that's just my opinion. Otherwise, why wouldn't they just put the money in a card and give them something they can really use?
Even if you don't have much money, 25.00 is better than more crystal champagne glasses or yet another picture frame that so doesn't match the decor.
Okay, done. Sorry......I was on a roll.
LOL
If it was my child, I would be at that school in a hot New York minute.
Regardless of what is or is not wrong with the child, that comment from the teacher is totally uncalled for and extremely unprofessional. A teacher should know better, period, end of discussion. And I agree with tnmt, ask for a meeting with the principle and teacher.
TY for replies/advice - see "wait a minute" below for
update. I plan on talking to principal and teacher today and go from there.
our kids have a 2 minute walk from school and
they have already been heckled by meaner kids, they even threw a beer bottle at my 5 year old. I stood behind a fence one day and stepped out in front of him just as he was rounding the corner and told him that if he ever even so much as talked to my kids again I would follow him home and tell his parents exactly what was going on. I told him that I would also talk to the principal, who I know on a first-name basis as i am VP of the PTO. I put the fear of God in that child but I still do not trust him or his little band of siblings he walks with. I almost fear other children more than I do strangers!
The 5-minute Chocolate Cake for 1 Person
The person who sent me this says it really works.
5-MINUTE CHOCOLATE MUG CAKE
4 tablespoons flour
4 tablespoons sugar
2 tablespoons cocoa
1 egg
3 tablespoons milk
3 tablespoons oil
3 tablespoons chocolate chips (optional)
A small splash of vanilla extract
1 large coffee mug (microwave-safe)
Add dry ingredients to mug, and mix well. Add the egg and mix thoroughly. Pour in the milk and oil and mix well. Add the chocolate chips (if using) and vanilla extract, and mix again. Put your mug in the microwave and cook for 3 minutes at 1000 watts. The cake will rise over the top of the mug, but don't be alarmed! Allow to cool a little, and tip out onto a plate if desired. EAT!
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