i have not experience in a situation like this, but sm
Posted By: you need to leave on 2008-09-11
In Reply to: I think my spirit is broken also (sm) - JustamomMT
he's controlling you, you probably already know that. as i was growing up, i saw my dad control my mom, he abused her (i didn't see it, but could hear it and see the after results), he mentally abused her, degrading her nonstop. i wished for years that my parents would divorce. they never did. they've been married almost 37 years. he's better, but he still is controlling. she can't have a conversation with him about anything as far as money. i felt so sorry for my mom all those years and i still do. i love both my parents, but sometimes i don't think my mom will ever be free from his controlling until he dies. i'm not wishing death on my mom at all, but he's always been the type that wants to know where she is if she's late, and as long as i can remember, he's always acused her of having a boyfriend, even til this day. they are in their 50s and he needs to grow up.
i guess i'm sorta giving you perspective from a child's point of view (even though i'm not a child). and today, i often doubt myself and hope i don't ever act the way he does, and i don't want to parent my kids the way he parented me. i felt like a little slave sometimes.
you need to do yourself and the kids a favor and leave. i think you'd be so much happier. when he's gone for days at a time without you knowing where he is, don't you think he's probably with another woman? you have to stand up for yourself and your kids. you don't need that kind of person telling you you aren't any good. he's doing that on purpose. he's probably already ruined your self esteem and the kids will be affected by this. my self esteem is really low. my dad told me as i was growing up i was always too fat. he is much better with me today, but i still worry i'll do something he won't approve of even though i'm almost 37 and i've been married for 14 years. many times i think i need to go to a counselor.
anyway, please, if you can build up the courage to leave, you need to. if you have any family or friends you can discuss this issue with and get support from them, do it. i have a friend who was in a loveless marriage for about 10 years. they got a divorce. she didn't even have a job, but she made it. the dad doesn't see his kids much because he lives in another state. but she is strong and you can be strong too.
keep up posted on what happens. also turn to God. he's there with you. we all go through struggles in life so that we can turn to Him for comfort and to also make us stronger.
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Your comment about his reading your mind after 10 years caught my attention. I've been married for 23 years, and have known my husband for 27.
Also, I'm the youngest of 7 and the only girl in my family. I have three sons, and I'm an assistant scoutmaster with a boy scout troop. I've lived all my life in a circle of males. Don't ever expect them to read your mind. I know there are plenty of men who are sensitive and can anticipate the feelings of others. In a very wide generalization, well... most men aren't that good at it. They actually appreciate it when you clearly state what you want.
My other words of wisdom about relationships with men... the silent treatment is useless. Don't bother. It's just a respite from arguing for most of them. Speak up. Try to stay calm when you do. (This is MY problem! I'm very passionate when I argue!)
I'm sorry you had such a bad time. Maybe it's time to sit down and have a good talk together about things. Better yet, maybe some counseling would help. In the heat of an argument, alls sorts of things are said. Maybe we mean them when we say them, but later, in calmer moments with hindsight, we wish they were unsaid. Establish goals with your husband, and then move forward together. Get help doing this, if you need it.
My experience
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Sorry that was your experience, BUT -
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My experience.......
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Sorry you had this experience with a pit...sm
But I don't believe it is a breed thing. I believe you were unfortunate to have happened to get a pitbull who did this. If your dog hadn't been raised with the cat I would say well that is just a dog being a dog but to be raised together and get along that is weird. But there are other dogs who are capable of attacking. I had a stray mix breed medium size dog. It didn't have any pit in it. I saw it kill a cat in my mother's yard. Brutally killed it. But it wasn't a mean dog to us. It also would try to attack our bealge pups. So I know other dogs are capable of killing animals. The pitbull can do more damage though than most dogs. But I have seen pictures of lab attacks on owners, Dalmation attacks on a child, many others. Any dog can do this. Personally I have a neighbor who had a little chihuahua and it was there little doll. They adored this little dog. Well someone who lives a mile to a mile and a half down the road has a Dalmation. It climbed the fence in its yard and went a mile or more down the road where the little chihuahua was outside peeing and mauled it to death with its owners watching. I mean they said the dalmation just attacked when it seen the little dog no provacation. So I know what other dogs can do too. But most won't. I hope you never have this problem again with any of your dogs. You had a most unfortunate incident with your pitbull and I believe this has rightfully left a bad taste in your mouth for the breed. But try to think of it like this. There are good people and bad people. There are good dogs and bad dogs. We have serial killers and rapists but we also have good people out there. Dogs are not different. Don't look down on the whole breed because of one bad experience. There are so many kind pits out there who have never hurt a living thing. Really.
Not everyone's experience will be the same as yours. sm
Not every teenager who smokes pot ends up like your son. I am sorry you had to go through so much, but as far the OP's son I think you are totally overreacting. When you consider how many teenagers try pot or smoke pot, your son is definitely the exception to the rule.
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I have no experience but my DH has. He is 50 and
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use your own experience
to discuss the issues in specific but not personal terms -- unless it just seems that you should take it further for their benefit. Unfortunately i think some kids take it as license to do as they want. i would never lie, but reveal your own experience on a need-to-know basis, in my opinion.
My experience....sm
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That's not everyone's experience...
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My experience
When I was in my 20s I was in a relationship that was all about sex and it was great. I was really attracted and lusted after this man. He could just talk and I would melt. This was someone who I had nothing else in common with and couldn't imagine settling down with. Now in my late 30s, I am with someone who has the same life goals, we are really soul mates and I love him so much; however, the sex really isn't that great. I kind of go through the motions of it. I can't stand that I feel that way and would never tell him that, but it is just the way it is. We have been together for 9 years and I wouldn't be with anyone else. I have never had a relationship where there was LUST and LOVE, it's either one or the other. I know some people do have that and I consider them very lucky!
My experience
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My experience.....
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Do some research and nightshade vegetables and immunosuppressive disorders and you will probably see a lot of reports on these things. But, this is a big issue in our home and I have read many many times that these things tend to flare conditions like you have and others.
Hope this helps.....
My experience...sm
I didn't use puppy pads because I felt like it was encouraging my puppies to go potty in the house. When they were little I would carry them to the door when I took them out of the crate in the morning and repeat over and over in a positive and reassuring tone, "potty outside". I would keep a close eye on them and if it looked like they were sniffing around looking for a place to potty, I would calmly and gently pick them up and carry them to the door and use the same words - potty outside - and take them out. When they were finished I would praise them and bring them back in for a "good boy treat". My second puppy kept having accidents in his crate during the night, and he was a little slower to get the door idea. They are 4 and 2 now and they have been really great as far as going to the door if they want to go out. If I don't happen to see them go and don't hear them scratch on the door, they will come to me and let me know they need to go. It's funny how you can just tell what they need with their expressions and mannerisms. I love my dogs!
My experience
I had a tubal after my 3rd baby, when I had a C-section. I have to say it was extremely painful afterward. And then when my periods came back after nursing...oh my heavens...I ended up severely anemic, having to have iron infusions for 6 weeks, then having to undergo an endometrial ablation...so that's my experience. I agree with the other posters, please go into this with your eyes wide open and with all the facts beforehand. IMHO, a vas is much, much easier on the man and I do believe that it has no side effects to their precious manhood.
Needless to say I'm sure, but I regretted my tubal. After my DH saw what I went through, he felt really guilty because I had asked him to have a vas while I was pregnant with oiur 3rd and we knew he was our last. In hindsight, he says he would have done the vas in a minute had we known all the complications for me. Good luck in whatever you choose!
All I know is from experience,
I had a boy child that I had circmcised. I later had 2 male g-children, both were not circumcised at birth. Both children had horrible pain, inability to urinate almost with the skin almost reaching over the top of the penis and finally at a later age had to be hospitalization for circumcision. I have read articles saying the smegma contributes to cancer (don’t know if cervical cancer or male cancer). Have it your own way- just know what had to be done with male children in my family. Oh, not only that but I really think an uncircumcised penis is terribly ugly with the excess skin.
Anyone out there experience - sm
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Not from experience........... sm
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I'm sorry for your experience.
I learned of vaccine-related sarcoma in cats a few years ago while researching vaccinations in general. I don't vaccinate any of my animals since my cocker spaniel developed adenocarcinoma of the breast within weeks of receiving her rabies shot, which supposedly was coincidental. She also died within a few months of mastectomy.
Most people would never think to question their vet about this topic, so you're providing an invaluable service by educating us.
I wish you and your cat the best of luck!
My experience.......
It's best to find them homes when the girls are not at home. We had an unexpected visitor 7 years ago when a kitten came up to our house(only pregnant). She had her 6 babies and we had to really screen people; way too many people who really didn't want the responsibility of spaying, neutering, or shots, just wanted something for the "kids", like they were toys, so it took time to find good homes, but I let people pick them up when the children were in school or away. It was easier on them. I just described the people, why they wanted a kitten, and that I felt they would take really good care of them, and that seemed to suffice. I think they knew it would be harder watching them be taken away. But, we still have mama cat (spayed) and one of her "babies", now 7 years old! LOL
My own experience
As has been noted, your mileage may vary...I had natural for the first (29 years ago), if you consider being given several doses of Demerol natural. Frankly, my own experience was that the delivery was not that bad. Labor was what hurt and by the time I got to actually push, it still hurt like Hades, but the mind set is at least a little better since you know you're almost there.
In earning my P2 status, I made it a point to request, nay, demand, an epidural. Delivery was in a naval hospital. Again labor was what hurt. With both pregnancies, I was one of those who had what some refer to as "back labor". In any case, they didn't put in the epidural until I was well on my way anyway...If I recall correctly (this one was almost 21 years ago), they put in the epidural around 7 and I delivered at 9-ish. There was a lot less pain, but I still don't know that I would consider it pain-free exactly.
Being something of a sissy-girl, I would definitely have the epidural again as my recollection is that it was a lot lot easier and more tolerable with massive quantities of medication shoved into my spine!! Again, speaking just for myself, I had no sequelae whatsoever from the epidural. I didn't even have pain in the injection site, and have not had any recurrent unexplained back pain since.
My experience
My first daughter was late by almost a month. Labor was very long, all in my back, and exhausting. I ended up having a C-section with general anesthesia.
Fast(?) forward 15 years and I have my 2nd daughter. I wanted a VBAC mostly because I didn't want surgery again. My Ob agreed to give it a go. I only had one requirement - NO epidural. I was terrified by the thought of a needle in my back and had heard many horror stories of epidurals gone wrong. He didn't comment much about my statement.
So, this baby was late, too, by 2 weeks. They decided to induce me with Pitocin after breaking my water. The contractions did not build naturally. I went from no labor to hard contractions with the start of the drip. I was out of bed, trying to walk, trying to do anything to lessen the intense pressure and pain from the contractions. My OB was a wise older guy who came in to see me and shook his head. I was rocking back in forth in the rocker, breathing (panting?) through the contractions, and he offered me his opinion on epidurals. He said as a matter of course the body fights pain with tension which is counterproductive in childbirth. He said with an epidural, you can relax, rest, and let your body do the work. It didn't take much convincing at that point. I agreed.
The anesthesiologist was up in minutes and, although the nurses warned me about her sometimes grouchy demeanor, she was professional and quick about the procedure which was no biggie and I am anti-needle and was scared witless. In moments, I had tremendous relief. I went from sweating and rocking and gritting my teeth to dozing and flipping through cable TV. Unfortunately, my previous uterine incision was not as strong as my will and I was taken to the OR for a C-section a few hours later. I still say it was the best decision I made. I have no ongoing issues with back pain related to the epidural.
My experience
I had two children naturally ... the first was posterior (face up) and a very long and painful labor, but I was so tired by the time I delivered I didn't notice the pain of delivery (even though they had to turn her with forceps).
My second labor was easy in comparison, but they made me start pushing before my body felt the urge, which was painful, and after a certain point the doctor saw that the cord was around her neck (three times) and then pulled her on out rapidly between contractions ... Ouch! So, the delivery was more painful with my second.
A couple months ago, one of my daughters had her first baby with an epidural ... it seemed so casual, like she could have been sitting in the waiting room or something. She said the delivery was not painful either, and she was totally fine afterward. I couldn't believe how easy it seemed!
My biggest concern with an epidural would be infection, but I know they do more of them than not now.
I would say be as informed as you can ahead and then just make the final decision when they ask you (as it seems you have to get it by a certain point in the process).
Which ever way you go, good luck and I wish you a healthy baby. : ) It's such a miracle!
you are right, you do not know the situation...
and I did not go into complete detail, but at all the churches I was a giver of time, money, and self. I never said anything to members that would have hurt them in anyway. I was told by one pastor that I was a dying plauged horse that needed to find a field and die because he asked why he could not keep any men in the church and when my husband and I very lovingly explained why he got mad and what happened next got very ugly.
In the last church I was in I was basically running the church for him because he was too busy working his other job and such, spending church money on things other than what he was telling the congregation, etc, and when I told his fiance privately in a very loving way after much, much prayer that she needed to think about her children, as child services was getting ready to take them, he found out and called me every name in the book and told me that if I ever stepped on the property he would have me arrested. He told the congregation I left on my own and he had nothing to do with it. There are many more details that go with this situation, but I will leave it at that.
One church we were stuck in the middle of a church split and were on the wrong side of the split.
I will not go on. But I have tried to be a dedicated church member, doing every thing I could to fit in, do as I was told, sing and lead 3 worship services a week, at the church every time the church opened, lost friends, etc. trying to do what I thought God was instructing me to do and every time I ended up getting so deeply hurt that this last split has made it to where I get physically sick even thinking of going back to church. It is called "spiritual abuse" and unless you have gone through it you have no idea what it is like. I am glad you have a church you like and treats you correctly, but until you have been through what I have seen, heard, and been through you have no idea.
There are many a pastor out there who are independent and get corrupted by the power they have from the position of being a "man of God" and it is scary what can happen.
I will leave it at that, but there are times where Christians need to look at their actions and words and make sure they are inviting people to want to become Christians instead of making them want to run as far as possible in the opposite direction. Just my 2 cents.
Very sad situation......(sm)
I really do feel bad for you because of what has happened. Your sister should have offered to pay 'something!' And since she did not offer, I know that makes things difficult to forget about, but I'm sure that you would have been able to move on. She took it to an entirely different level when she put her hands on you. She should have stayed away and gave you time to cool off & herself time to cool off instead of showing up to ignite the fire. I know it makes you feel bad, but please do not blame yourself for what has happened. Regardless of the quad theft, she was the one who made the choice to physically attack you. She is the one who did something wrong, not you. She will hopefully learn a lesson that actions such as that have consequences.
Give yourself & her some time to cool off. Eventually the situation will calm down. It will probably take awhile, but don't let it take too long...time is precious. My older brother (only sibling) died in a mva a few years ago. We disagreed on everything most of the time. I always think back to those 'little arguments' and I think about how much precious time we wasted on trivial things, when we could have been enjoying our relationship. I would do anything to have him back now. Just a thought. Hope things get better for you. Stay positive. Do your part to try to re-establish peace, but do not feel guilty about what happened because it was not your fault. Hopefully, in time she will come to her senses and will be the one to suffer with the guilt of what she did.
same situation here -
However, we DO have a charter school available but it's a 45 minute round trip, have to pay an arm and a leg tuition, and STILL have to support the public school with our property taxes to boot.
Our migrant student to teacher ratio in our district is current 1 teacher to 6 students. Regular class ratio is 1 teacher to 31 students. Nice huh.
Not exactly the same situation
but a hospital I worked at went belly up and we went to work that morning and by 2 p.m. we were out of jobs. Not only that, but this was on a payday and our checks were not there and were not going to be coming. Then on top of that I find out that while we all thought the owner had been keeping up on our insurance he had not been and for the previous 2 months we didn't really have insurance, so all the tests and stuff I had during that time I had to pay for. And there was no Cobra to keep it going because there was no company anymore. It was a nightmare, and I already was juggling bills and I just got into a state of despair where I would quit even answering the phone. It took quite a bit to dig myself out of that pit, and still my credit sucks probably worse than yours- I couldn't even get a secured credit card 6 months ago. Dont know about now.
I'm in the same situation
I'm postmenopausal for 4 years now and started having trouble with the sleep pattern during menopause. I thought it would go back to normal after the menopause completed, but according to my doctor, it can take 10 to 15 years for some women.
When I get too badly sleep deprived, I take generic Benadryl - Walgreen's antihistamine, Wal-Dryl - 50 mg and I'm sleepy within 30-40 mins. and usually sleep through the entire night, 6-7 hours. Normally, I will take a 500 mg generic acetaminophen with the 50 mg antihistamine because I have shoulder and neck pain from transcription posture. That is the same as Tylenol PM but much, much cheaper.
If you read the labels, the sleeping pills that they charge $15 or so for, have the same medicine as the $3.50 antihistamines.
Also, since I started walking again about 6 weeks ago, I'm sleeping better.
Obviously you have never been in this situation before
Even though the agency may guarantee anonymity, it usually isn't too difficult to figure out who "blew the whistle." I have seen people harassed and threatened in similar circumstances. If this were a child who couldn't speak up for himself/herself, I would be calling Social Services in a New York minute. But that is not the case here.
It's up to the people involved to decide what to do. You made a suggestion, I pointed out some of the hazards involved in following your suggestion. Two sides to every story. 'Nuff said.
I have a situation regarding my DH's job...
Long story short, my DH has a 2-hour commute (roughly, depending on Atlanta's traffic) to and from work each day. Now, this is only temporary, as when our DD graduates in May, we're moving out closer to his job.
Last night, he asked me what I thought about him taking an apartment on that side of town for 2-3 days a week, like Tues-Thurs, coming home on Friday-Monday. We have 3 kids, the youngest being 8, who is very, very close to his daddy (the other 2 are 20 and 17, so would probably relish the idea of Dad being gone overnight). Not to mention the fact that I work at home and don't have a lot of contact with the outside world (y'all can feel me, can't ya?).
I guess my question is, am I being selfish to say absolutely NO to this idea, or what? I felt like crying when he brought it up; just the thought of him being away for 2-3 nights a week makes me sad. We have a very close relationship, spend all of our time together when not working, and I just am not sure how to feel about this.
Of note: I am not the least bit worried about him *acting up* while he's away. We have a super-strong marriage and are completely devoted to each other and our family. What would y'all do?
We are definitely in about the same situation
My husband and yours must have been separated at birth! lol They sound just alike concerning their sons. I do think that my hubby feels sorry for his son because him and his mom split. I guess that's why he babies him so much. And his son is so jealous over me. I can't talk to my husband, touch him or anything without his son pouting or trying to get his Dad's attention. I want children of our own but I am afraid that because my stepson is so jealous that if his Dad shows attention to someone else that he would act out and hurt them. He's been hiding things of mine and I know he took 100.00 that was on my desk I had laying out. I searched the house over for it and never found it. He just probably tore it to pieces and threw it in the trash because he thought it was mine since it was on my desk. It's crazy. But thank you for your post. At least I know now I'm not the only one who has had any problems like this.
Wow, I'm in almost the same situation as you.
I have been in contact with my high school sweetheart for the last few years. I now live in a different state. We have both regretted marrying the people we did. We both have 2 children fairly young, but we are hoping we can be together sometime in the future.
Anyone ever been in this situation?
Yesterday, my son went on a field trip with the school to a local amusement park. It was a 1-hour drive. He begged me to take his Nintendo DS. I finally gave in and said only 1 game. I was chaperoning the field trip but was required to drive myself there and could take my son home with me, rather than riding the bus home. When my son realized it was time for the buses to board the kids going back to the school, he said a girl in his class had his DS game (not the unit, just the game). We looked for his class, but they must have already boarded the bus. I told him to make sure he asked her for it first thing the following morning.
When he got to school today, he asked the girl for it. She said she gave it to another one of his friends in their class. That boy said he put it in my son's desk. Then another girl in the class said she found a DS game this morning under her desk and that she gave it to the girl that borrowed it originally. Of course, that girl said that never happened. Now my son has no game. He just got it about a month ago and paid $35 for it out of his own money.
First of all, I have already told my son he will not be taking his DS on the bus anymore, period. I don't care if it's an 8-hour drive both ways. He's not taking it. Here's my dilemma: What do I do about this girl? Do I just let it go? I would really like to call her parents and let her know what she did in the hopes that they will take this opportunity to teach their child about responsibility and courtesy. She asked to borrow my son's game. My son was kind enough to lend it to here. She should have returned it to him directly, not give it to someone to give it someone, etc. I don't know this girl or her parents. I'm not sure how well they'd take my parenting suggestion. I'm not looking for them to replace the game (as much as I think they should, I will not ask that).
I told my son he needs to take responsibility for his carelessness in not getting the game back when they got off the bus. He knew he would not be getting back on the bus and likely would not see the girl the rest of the day. I should mention these are 4th graders, so they should have had some clue here.
Okay, so do I call the parents or just chalk it up to a lesson learned?
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