i've always thought there was a fine line
Posted By: sm on 2007-12-05
In Reply to: How horrible. The cowards always kill themselves - aftering murdering others too...(kam)
between homicide and suicide. It seems like if one is prone to either, they are prone to the other.
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There is a fine line hear.....
Your terms "pestering us" in reference to your children is wrong. It sounds like there is verbal abuse and child neglect going on in your home (baby hungry and dirty). You might want to watch what you post here as this is now in black and white that you have not been properly taking care of your children. I want to support you, but it doesn't sound like even you (the poster) are interested in taking care of the children either. GROW SOME NADS!!! If I were you, I'd seek help from social services in your state.
I've got to share this! Was looking on line and saw Jennifer Lopez sm
and I must say, she is the most gorgeous pregnant woman I have EVER seen. Check this People Magazine shot out. HOpefully it works. She is adorable!!! They are saying it's multiples in there since she did in vitro. She's not that far along yet pretty big, in my opinion. She's just soo pretty..
http://www.people.com/people/gallery/0,,20153347,00.html
well, i spose you've thought of
clipping sharp edges off nails, and getting a cat scratching post. I got a $10 post at WalMart that looks like it has rope around it, and my cat loves it to death now. I had to spray her with a water bottle or clap my hands and yell when she tried to use the furniture. When i got the post, and caught her trying to use the furniture, i then would carry the cat to the post, and pretend i was clawing it myself. (i know, it sounds whacky, but it worked!) when i first saw her use it of her own volition, i praised her greatly and she never tries to use the furniture now. You might even put a fairly large rough piece of wood (that she can stand on), ie with bark, in a box (cats love boxes too) and your cat might decide to use that instead. We burn wood for heat and sometimes the cat will jump in the wood box and sharpen that way. I spose you could crate her while you're away until she is 'retrained'.
Yep, I've thought of all that but knowing her
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I always thought it was. I'm Jewish and ex-husband Catholic. I've even
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It doesn't matter "where you stand." What works for you is fine. What works for me is fine.
Comparing ourselves as to frequency is ridiculous.
That's fine for you
Don't knock anyone other's way. It's not normal to have irregular periods. It's hard enough to keep track of my own (which I do, PCOS and all), so why not jot it down so I know my daughter(s) isn't going through something just chalked up to being a teenager when something might be wrong? People know if they haven't had a BM in a week; that's certainly not normal. However, that is easier to make a mental note of than periods. Sure, it's not something anyone wants to talk about over the family roast and potatoes, but it's something that needs attention. Jotting a letter down is far less invasive than asking how many pads are saturated in a day or something (which I would certainly anyway do if there was a problem).
We are nurses (hubby and I) and we like to keep on top of things when they are out of whack. I'll take the reins on this one when this is an issue for us.
That's just fine with me!
Just reading that list put me in the Holiday SPIRIT! Now between your cookies and that egg nog with laying under the tree (no not under the table, under the Christmas tree), you are all definitely getting me there... now to walmart for Charlie Brown music and to put money in Salvation army (I know type-A again). LOL. Anybody got more cookie recipes, there's a lot of pauses in between dictations here.... Thanks again! :)
It's probably just fine to eat...but..sm
if you're concerned you can always create homemade alpo or fancy feast and put in in ziplocs and freeze it....It's better than the stuff in the can and my animals love vegetables and real meat mixed with their dry food. Just an idea.  Cat
As far as I know, he's fine. sm
My dad does not take care of himself. He's physically fit, but he smokes, been smoking since a young teen. He eats whatever (fried foods, hamburgers, etc). My dad doesn't go to the doctor. He has a family history of cancer and heart disease. His mom died in her 40s of cancer. I think he's afraid of getting cancer/heart disease. In his mind not knowing is better. He's the type where if I'd say "Dad, I'm concerned about your health, I wish you'd quit smoking", he'd smoke even more. I'm afraid my parents will not live to be old people. Neither one of them eat well and they both smoke (no offense to anyone who smokes). My mom's dad has had a heart attack and her brother has had a heart attack. My dad had a really rough childhood, and I think he needed some counseling, but that would never happen. He's very head strong and hard headed. Thanks for listening. I'm very happy with my family (hubby and two boys), so I try to focus on being a better parent than my dad was to me growing up.
Their dad is fine - where would you have them go? (sm)
People amaze me when they think kids should be ripped out of an imperfect home and thrown to the wolves....do you not think these children would be sad, upset and terrified and scarred for life to be torn from their family? They are not being abused or treated badly. There is no reason to suggest taking the kids from their parents that is just ridiculous!!
If their Dad is fine then enough is enough sm
The Dad has to protect these kids then from the fallout of what the Mom has chosen to do if it is truly what the original poster has outlined. He shouldn't let them hear any conversation that has to do with a "booty call" - that is not language meant to be in children's lives, sorry but if he's that great, then the posting person should get together with him and map out a plan for the fallout from the mother's foolish move and the words "booty call" should never be used in these children's presence. Just reading that post cries out for help for these kids, the words are very volatile and crying for help. Read the post again and one can't simply expect these kids are not going to hear some pretty grown-up stuff over this ordeal. Poor kids don't need to be in the middle of this. Not suggesting throwing them to the wolves, normal thinking would be a caring family member protecting them, not the cops or the state, for Pete's sake, read it again. "Booty call" - not Parents Magazine talk!
Went through it fine without anything...
just some OTC Estroven, which worked well for me. I'm 48, started peri around 44, have gone over a year without my period...done! Some hot flashes and mood swings, nothing I couldn't handle. My doc wanted to put me on BCP, gave me a script, but I didn't bother filling it. Had my levels checked, doc said congrats, you had a fairly uneventful menopause. I don't like to take drugs of any kind....too many women out there are taking a handful of pills just to try to get through the day; not my style. There is something to be said for eating right, exercise and a healthy, happy frame of mind. I don't want to take a pill to be happy, take a pill to sleep, take a pill to lose weight because I have no self-control with food. To each her own...natural worked for me.
It will probably be fine
I agree with what the above poster says, about separating them and making the introductions gradual. You might find that you cat loves having a friend. Of course, he will act like he hates her when you're around, that's a kitty act and they're really good at it. But when he thinks you're not looking, he'll probably play with her and really enjoy the company. Good luck.
In between fine but those flares....
like woke up Friday morning just a big ache. I got very upset 1 time and that night almost had to go to the ER, in that much pain, worse than any childbirth have ever been thru. Talking about the memory, thank goodness doing MTing have lots on auto because in every day life have to write myself notes or would forget everything. Took half tablet of pain pill today but then could hardly finish my paper and can't do that when working, would be zzzzzz at the computer.
Had 1 just recently - that was fine
within the past 4 months, so next step??
That's all well and fine but it goes both ways
Then Christianity and even the mention of God should be kept out of all forms of government, local to federal.
I guess only Muslims can be terrorists. Was McVeigh Muslim? Stop generalizing.
Oh, and what is a mosk?
I'm sure if I was an American Muslim I would be welcome at a mosque.
I'm sure you'd welcome a Muslim with open arms into your congregation.... after he goes through the metal detector.
Okay, I'm done.
Ceremony was fine...
I just thought maybe something interesting would pop up. Just nothing exciting, in my opinion.....
If her numbers are fine
I would not worry. If the drugs are toxic and make her feel worse, then it really is about the quality of her life. Take care.
Got mine fine but sm
Yahoo is very, VERY glitchy. Sometimes you will get 25 emails from several months ago. My blog on Yahoo 360 has disappeared about three times. Blog comments also come and go.
If you are using your Yahoo email for business, you might consider switching over to Hotmail. They have just upgraded to Windows Live Hotmail and it is very similar to Outlook Express.
JMHO.
Really? I'm 50 and it works fine for me; however, sm
I do use a good moisturizer before applying. I also have to use a bit extra of cream make-up to conceal redness and then apply the Bare Minerals.
I think the letter is fine (sm)
until it reaches the "Bullying is..." paragraph. I would have left that section out. At that point, it appears you are attempting to psychoanalyze these children, which is strange (and arrogant).
Thanks honey! We would be fine without my job thanks
to living right and not beyond one's means. And BTW, bon bons are fattening, you won't catch this MT with seat spread! Well, this has been fun, but my work day is done and Christmas vacation has begun! So, toodles to you all. Very Merry Christmas!
it will be fine without the vanilla. nm
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BTW my FIL recovered just fine - sm
and that was almost 9 years ago.....he whined for about 2 years that he was dying though, have no clue how my MIL lived with it. He will be 79 in March and doing very well.
I think that is just fine. Plus, I have found...
that most old people like my child, although I find old women to be less tolerant than old men. I wonder why that is. Maybe because they are the ones who spent the majority of the time with their own children? I certainly did not think anyone whould watch my child for me, just maybe not be so quick to judge, especially those who have never had children of their own.
You'll be fine and so will she.
Wow! You should be very proud of 38 years of full-time mothering!
The way I see it, you have two issues here. I think you acknowledged both in your post. One issue is letting go of your youngest child, your only daughter. But the other issue is the what-do-I-do-with-myself-issue. You've been raising children for 38 years, and now YOUR life is going to change. That's probably the biggest part of this transition, in my opinion. You have to be about your own business now.
I went through all of this myself. There were days when I wanted to feel sad and lonely in my now-quiet house. But there were days that were so much fun, because I could simply do whatever I wanted and not have to worry about kids at home. Gradually, the fun days came more frequently, and that situation was the norm for me.
It's like any life transition. You have to get used to it. And getting used to thinking about yourself first is a big transition for any mother, especially one whose been mothering since 1970! You deserve the time. And your daughter deserves the opportunities you've given her. You'll still be close, but in a more adult way. It doesn't have to be the way you describe your relationship with your grown son. With your daughter, you may still have very detailed conversations, but yes, you are going to have to get used to there being long stretches of time between those conversations and visits. But you will get used to it.
And I'd like to disagree with the poster who didn't like the idea of a young woman traveling the world. I think that's exciting and wonderful. She'll learn so much from traveling. It really makes me bristle when people say that women shouldn't go places or do things because it's "dangerous". Every moment of life on earth has some sort of danger attached to it. And yes, some things perhaps are more "dangerous" than others. But I know people who limit their experiences in an effort to avoid danger, and I just think it's sad. I don't consider myself a risk taker, but there are just too many wonderful things in the world. Life is as precious as any valuable gift you can imagine. And like a valuable gift, it should be used and not locked up for display purposes. I hope your daughter has amazing experiences in her life, and I hope she comes back to you and shares her excitement with you. And while she's doing those things, you go right ahead and get out there, too! Go do something for yourself or with you husband! Ballroom dancing sounds like fun!
I transcribe for a PT and she is doing fine - sm
my checks have actually got up a little lately by maybe $20 or so every 2 weeks. I don't think she is going anywhere.
You'll be fine....
This is not unusual. You are young. I'm 38; hubs 35. We've been married for 17 years. You'll have times when you miss the single days, but you'll also have times when you're glad you have your better half. This is all normal. You are not crazy.
What you can do though is ask him if it would be okay to be uninhibited and spontaeous at least once a month. Maybe one month you pick something you'd like to do (like go out and have a beer) and the next month it's his turn.
I think the doom and gloom of this profession and the economy has people wondering "is this it?" Well, yes, to a degree it is, but life is so short! Party it up! Have children a little later or now, whichever suits you.
I, however, do not see anything wrong with your feeling the way you do. We all would love to run for the hills at some point, but we need a stay point as well. It's all healthy human nature!
You will be fine. I got married sm
right out of highschool (6 weeks) and have been married 36 years come July. I remember in the early days having feelings like that. You love your husband, you have a good marriage and your feelings are normal. Whatever you do, don't give it up looking for greener pastures! Too many marriages give it up for reasons that you are stating...which are not reasons to throw in the towel and they are sorry later.
Way down the road when you mature a whole lot more, you won't regret it.
My advice is that she will be fine with MIL visiting.....
Fine. But that wasn't my point.
There's no need to jump all over someone who wants to help. I applaud the unselfishness.
I think it is perfectly fine, as you have to wear it, not him!
I did not pick out the exact ring, but definitely discussed the cut and style I wanted. My feeling is if a man truly cares about the woman he would want to get her the ring SHE wants, not the one he can afford or the one he picks out. I'd be more worried about that to be honest. JMO
my computer updated just fine--sm
with the downloaded windows update, but my smartset alarm clock did not. This is the SmartSet I am referring to, not my computer. thanks though.
FedEx or UPS will be fine if you pack it
It is how they come to you if shipped! lol
Sounds like you handled it just fine
especially pointing out that Suzie probably felt the same as she did by being left out. That's all you can really do. You could probably bring it up again in a day or two once she isn't upset about it, but kids will eventually take in the finer points of friendship by observing the adults in their lives. I'm sure MIL was only trying to help make DD feel better and didn't realize that there was a life lesson in play.
are they going to fine nice homes for them?
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My sister-in-law did just fine with her pregnancies.
First of all, congratulations! I'm no expert, but I would say just so you listen to your doctor you should be fine. My sister-in-law is morbidly obese and has had 2 very healthy, very beautiful, intelligent children. She doesn't have diabetes from her weight or any really serious health problems from it at this point, so I'm sure that helped her too. She has been thinking about getting the Lap-Band procedure too. She tried LA Weight Loss and worked her tail off but only lost about 15 pounds in the end, so the Lap-Band might be a good option for her too.
Take care and make sure to give yourself lots of pampering while you "grow" a whole human being! Congrats again and Happy Thanksgiving. :)
okaay - dad does not sound fine
I, for one, did not suggest that kids be taken from the home. I suggested the dad take himself and the kids out of that situation. If you will see my prior post, I am sympathetic to this man's desire to stay in the marriage, but when is enough, enough? Do you not think that the kids "feel" what is going on? When they argue, dad or mom is sad, depressed, etc? Maybe daddy should get a playmate and see if mommy like it - okay, that is not a good idea, but this is just an unreal situation - unreal because the woman is willing to travel to another country - okay, not like France or Canada but to EGYPT of all places - place herself in danger of not ever seeing her kids again - for what? A man? OMG, I know kids will suffer from being taken from mother, but what situation is better? If other than this, she is a good mother and takes good care of kids, then she will keep kids and your brother will have to make that tough decision to leave and have to leave kids and do visitation and all that, but who wants to have a sham for a marriage? Unless they get serious counseling or maybe find God or whatever, this marriage is doomed, only a matter of time.
So corporate cheating is fine
You said - However, it does NOT justify lying, cheating, stealing insurance dollars and benefits just because you don't like it.
What do you call it when someone pays their premiums for years, they are told they are covered, then the insurance company decides they don't have to pay? Sounds like what you just described above. But it happens every day, and its supposedly OK, because its business, I used to do medical billing, outrageous how many claims were denied because the ordering physician didn't do a precert, the insurance company decided it was unneccessary, or some other little loophole. The providers didn't get paid, the patient ended up in collections,,,and IMO the patient was lied to, stolen from, and cheated out of his insurance dollars and benefits.
BTW, I do make my own money. I'm just not too pleased at handing large chunks of it to an insurance company, knowing they will diligently seek reasons to deny a claim, even if I play by all their ever changing rules and memorize my policy. And that includes the entire insurance industry, be it medical, LTD, life, auto, or homeowners insurance.
Does your city have a fine if you get caught?
Does your city have a fine if you get caught? I don't know about mine. I don't think there's one, but I could be wrong.
ALBANY, N.Y. -- The New York state Legislature has given final passage to a bill that would charge $250 for pet owners who don't pick up after their dogs in some parts of the state.
Dog owners currently have to pay $100 if they don't pick up the poop. The change would apply to the five boroughs of New York City, Albany and Yonkers.
The Assembly passed the bill Wednesday and the Senate had already passed it.
A spokesman for Gov. David Paterson said the governor will review the measure.
It should be fine as long as it is cooked.
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I have Dish Network and I saw it just fine.
Even recorded it. Too bad I don't know how to send it to you.
Point is the owner thinks it's fine so why not?!
Same for dogs or cats or birds or snakes.
Having a pet is a personal choice and it should be kept on personal property or areas specifically designed FOR having pets.
A dark rustic plank would probably be fine;
just don't do walnut! That's what my brother & his wife chose, and although we think of walnut as hard, theirs scratches terribly.
I house I'm drooling over has very rustic dark wood floors. If you had a big dog I might suggest tile as another idea, but with a small dog, nah.
Of course not! A small gift is fine for the 2nd time IF you were sm
invited to the "festivities," (showers, wedding, etc.)
Get her a fancy pen for when she writes thank you notes to all of those who are supporting her for the second time! LOL
It is fine for them to stay home alone that evening (sm)
They will have to understand that previous plans have been made. It sounds like they really just don't want to have to do quite so much driving on Christmas day and so to spend the night before makes it easier. Either way, they get to wake up with your family on Christmas morning, which will be a wonderful treat for them. I think they will be fine to just stay home - they have chosen not to go with you - that's their choice. It's really not a big deal.
He just got a $175 fine a few weeks ago for not having a duck stamp (nm)
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It works fine if you live in a dry climate,
but it is a nightmare if you live in a humid climate like we have in NC. Sheets don't dry, they just get covered in pollen.
My 4 siblings and I had chicken pox at the same time and we're fine. sm
My daughter also had them at 4 months and she is now an honor student in high school. Don't beat yourself up. How attached are you to the pediatrician? If he is always that rude, perhaps you could trade him in for a better model.
RE: Has anyone every had positive prenatal testing for Down and then found out everything was fine?
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