husband driving you crazy
Posted By: Nature on 2009-03-06
In Reply to: What should I do? - sm
Well, you could be like me and a lot of other women...no husband...all alone. I have all the time to myself I want and care to have. I was married once, and we worked together on the ranch and loved it. I like the suggestion that you go on a weekly date, or biweekly. Men do not know how to set these kinds of things up, so I will be on your shoulders to do this. Be creative and include things you both like to do. Wish I had that option.
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Unemployed husband driving me crazy sm
If my chair so much as squeaks, he has to open the bedroom door and see if I am really working. If the phone rings, he picks up the phone in the bedroom to listen in. This is getting way out of hand.
I asked him to stop doing this but he got really mad and said I should have nothing to hide. I don't have anything to hide but he is really really working my last nerve!
I am about ready to flip out. 
How long are my hot flashes going to last? Driving me crazy!!!!!!!!!!
driving
I'm the last dinosaur - I don't think teenagers should be driving their own cars. She needs to be spending her time on school and music, maybe working 8 or 10 hours a week at a job if she can handle that as well.
A car is a tremendous responsibility and she will have her entire life to paying ins., gas, etc. Give her a couple more years without that responsibility.
Frankly, unless she has to drive to school or work, I wouldn't let her have her own ccar. Not because she isn't mature enough, but because the roads are filled with angry, distracted drivers and I would be afraid everytime she was gone.
Senior year is early enough for her to have her own car.
I know no one else will agree with this, but I wanted to say it. As a former teacher, I believe this is part of the reason the rest of the world does a better job educating their young people. No one else in the world expects their high school students to work for money for a car - their kids are in school as full-time students. Look at their test scores compared to ours and look at who is populating our graduate and professional schools.
Driving to NYC
I'm leaving Saturday morning to go to NYC to see an off-broadway play with my daughter and her friend (my daughter's 13th birthday), and I was wondering if there was anyone in the areas between Upstate NY/Pennsylvania/New Jersey (my route) here that might be able to tell me how the roads are and how the weather in general is. We have a lot of snow here (some places have over 6 feet) and I'm a little worried. I've never driven to NYC before so I'm a little worried about the weather. TIA.
TEEN DRIVING
I just dropped you an email.
These floaters are driving me ...
crazy!! Have any of you had these and if so were they able to be treated and how? Seems like today in my right eye they are worse (I know they can go back and forth). I hope someone out there maybe has an answer to this irritating problem. Thanks.
I hope he is not driving because if he is -sm
it is only a matter of time before he is in an accident, hopefully only a 1 car accident. If is is driving he is not only endangering those in the car, but those on the road driving around him. Point that out if you have not already, very irresponsible and foolish of him IF that is the case. My DH is similar with docs, though he will go the eye doctor, but anything else he has to be dying, I am surprised he is not dead (Had a horrible case of pneumonia a few months before I met him, was out of work for 3 week, temps of 104/105, hallucinations, horrible sweats, etc, crawled in to see the doc at their office a few times, the only thing that saved his life was his girlfriend of the time, though why she never called 911 or took him to the ER is beyond me, he needed hospitalization, total miracle he lived). Mine acts like a big baby most of the time too. If you don't have life insurance on him, get it now while you can, then you will be okay if needed. As for SS disability, it will take a while to get that if he gets to that point, and even then he needs to see doctors and get doctor reports to have that submitted to SS so they can approved disability--but if he has a fixable problem then there is no way he will ever get it. Try to guilt him into to or else just get him in the car somehow and get him to the ER.
Tell him that his criticizing you is driving you away!
My DH has issues with my weight, too. Well, he's not perfect either. He's just as overweight as I am, so why the double standard? I told him if I didn't have to work so much and handle EVERYTHING else that I do (and then I listed everything for him), maybe I'd have time to exercise. He's doing more around the house, and I am making an effort to increase my activity level and eat better. He also had to stop pushing food on me, which I think he equates feeding me as an expression of love. Don't worry about the weight. You can still curl your hair, put on some makeup and wear a little slinky something. Cripes, this is the only time I've actually had boobs! It's not so much the weight that bothers them as the attitude. When you get in a rut wearing elastic waistband pants and a ponytail to work at home in, and you stay in them all the time, you don't feel as feminine as you can. Know what I mean? Forget about the underwear and give him a real woman!
I am not alone! The news is driving
me nuts! But I am like a person with a sore tooth and your tongue can't leave it alone. I should just quit watching. They throw out these headlines and never follow up. The reports involving children are really getting to me. How many times have you seen a missing child story only to have the camera pan to the cross street signs, the block number of the house and then, of all things, "here's her best friend, Ginny, who lives right next door, and says she is really missing her friend tonight", and then they post the child's name on the screen. If the parents don't have anymore sense, you would think the TV station would. They have practically made themselves the pedophile home shopping network. And yes, I have actually written to all the major Houston stations and only one bothered to write me back, the NBC affiliate. I don't know if they stopped doing this, but I just saw one yesterday on ABC, so that had no effect on them. Oh, well, enough of my soap box.
haha! My 5 year old wants to know: Who's driving and what are ALL the
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Mine also, and I go very fast driving over them
and hold my breath or pray pretty much. Years ago my sister had gone over a bridge traveling to Tennessee just before it collapsed and I never forgot it.
On the news today they said something like 70,000 bridges in the country are in disrepair. I say put our taxes to better use! Do something constructive for a change.
Scary stuff.
I was driving home from work..sm
got the tail end of the report, mostly just that he'd been taken to the hospital, but the somber tone of voice made me realize pretty quickly that he had died. VERY sad day for me, I've always been a fan.
This mother saying too big a town for driving through yet
I honestly can understand this as when my children first started driving we were living in a huge city and all the freeways around, not some small town where everyone knows everyone and I bit my nails to the quick. The mother probably just wants the child to get more experience under his belt before he tries such a trip and the son is lying to her and making this trip regardless. He and the girl both sound like they are too much into each other for things like school right now. It happened to me- son just did not want school after high school. Sad when it is handed to you on a silver platter.
i stopped night driving when I was 48....
I live in a huge metropolis where everyone on the road is nasty.....gave up night driving at 48 due to problems seeing with the red, green, orange-yellow traffic lights PLUS headlights and rear lights.
I also have just given up driving all together...people are too nasty on the road.......I never did like driving, let my permit expire when I was 16 - never had a huge interest in driving.....just me is all.......
My children drive and all my friends drive so there's no problem whatsoever *lol*
Those low-mounted driving lights that - (sm)
illuminate both sides of the road are really helpful on dark country roads at night, and in the rain, too. They help me see puddles of deeper water, especially those along the side of the road that can get you spun around if just one front tire hits them. They're also good if you're watching for deer, pedestrians, etc.
I've learned a few tricks that help improve night driving vision:
First, if your windshield is pitted, replace it. The pits diffuse bright lights and make it hard to see.
Keep your headlights, tail-lights & turn-indicator lights clean so they'll be as bright as possible.
If I've been doing a long drive from daylight into night, especially if headed into the sunset, I'll wear sunglasses that are as dark as possible during bright daylight. Once the sun sets, I'll switch to more lightly tinted ones and wear them for as long as I can to help get my eyes better adjusted to the dark.
Once it's pretty dark, I usually take a break at a service station, and in addition to the slight rest I get from topping off the tank, I also take that opportunity to get my windshield as clean as possible - inside and out.
Next I'll wipe off my driving glasses, and finally, use some "Clear Eyes" eye drops in my eyes.
Finally, a sort of "last resort" trick I use to improve my vision right after passing an oncoming car with very bright headlights is to close one eye for a few seconds as the on coming car is within a certain distance. That way the iris in that eye doesn't have to readjust as much as the one that was blinded by the oncoming headlights.
All of those things make driving at night a little easier.
I must be the only one who LOVES driving at night.
When I was a kid, I did a lot of long-distance driving with my dad, and we were on the road a lot at night. I always loved that. It seemed so cool to be out on the roads at night when most of the world was tucked into their houses. It always seemed like an adventure. And then, I'm an avid backpacker and have been known to solo. I love the woods at night and the sounds of owls. It's lovely at night when it's quiet and dark.
Within the last 30 minutes I walked in the door following a 3-hour ride, mostly on the PA turnpike. It's not late, but the days are short now. I purposely left as the sun was going down, because I love watching the pinks and oranges of sunset. The moon is full tonight, and I saw the moon rise tonight, too. Che bella luna! It was just beautiful.
I have a dependable car, and if I were in trouble, I know basic mechanics, have a cell phone and AAA. I also know that most people are good people, and so that's how I choose to live my life ... counting on the good and appreciating the beautiful things. It makes me happy, and I'm well aware that the time is approaching when my eyesight, joints and muscles might not allow me to enjoy the simple things like driving at night or setting up my tent along a trail somewhere. So I'm doing it while I can!
While driving, some guy got really mad at me one time - I guess I cut him off? (sm)
I have no idea - but he followed me for miles on a busy road and kept pulling in front of me and slamming on the brakes, pulling up beside me and flipping me off, running up at the back of my car - scared me to death. No cell phone back then to call the police!
One day a few years back I was driving
to work (when I actually left the house to work) and I saw a man shoveling snow in his driveway, dressed like a normal man, but wearing a pair of red pumps. I almost crashed into a parked car doing a double take. He was tall and husky, built like a man, so I know it wasn't a woman. I got to work and told everyone and I don't think they believed me.
I went to 2 different high schools and when it came to driving....sm
the 1st high school a lot of the parents gave their kids brand new cars for their 16th birthday and paid for everything. A lot of those kids would wreck their cars and didn't care because they had no true repercussions.
The 2nd high school I went to after we moved was in a more economically depressed area. The kids that did have cars, generally had older used cars, had to work part-time to pay for the expenses of it and rarely got into accidents.
I drove a family car and while I was a senior in high school I took a full load of high school classes, 12 hours of college classes, worked 15 hours a week to pay for gas, insurance, upkeep, and was in marching/concert band, and made straight A's because I was determined to do all of this.
No way...driving cross country just as..
we do every year. DH and I take the month of May off for vacation and drive a Ford Explorer. Yes I have a large vehicle and no I don't feel guilty about having it It comes down to being economical in other ways. We use a credit card for the whole trip for gas and hotels, etc and get a 5% rebate. The vacation money is already put away in the bank so when we get back I just write a check for the bill. We have some of the highest gas prices here in the west and always figure it is a treat to head east and watch the prices drop a bit.
I have two teens of driving age who both have their own cars. sm
My older teen is 19. She pays for her own insurance, but is on my policy. I will pay for my 17 year old until he is 19. I got them both used cars, and now if they want to sell them and get another one, that's up to them.
I am randomly tested for my bus driving - sm
duties. I get one day notice then have to show up at the testing place with a few other drivers and we either get alcohol testing (breathalizer) or a drug (pee) test, or both. If you test positive, you are immediately fired. I don't have a problem with that as I am responsible for other people's children and certainly would not want some alcholic or stoner driving my kids.
They see someone driving a nice car who paid for food sm
with food stamps, and this is where we began. They have no knowledge of income, housing, if that person owns that car or not, etc, etc. It is all jealousy and rage against a system they do not understand. As I said in the beginning, if you want to change it, then start by trying to change the regulations.
It depends on your vehicle and driving conditions...sm
In most cases you do not need to change it every 3000 miles unless you do a lot of strenuous driving (i.e. mountains or towing things). Your manufacturer of your vehicle can tell you what they recommend. A lot of the newer vehicles have sensors that advise when the oil needs changing based on how dirty it senses it is. The sensor on my Saturn usually alerts me between 6000-7000 miles that the oil needs changing. On our Kia they recommend changing it only every 7500 miles unless rigorous driving has been done, in which case they recommend changing between 3000-5000. Our Ford recommends changing the oil every 3000-5000 miles but it's also the oldest vehicle in our driveway.
Not wanting to stop for gas and then driving on fumes SM
in hopes of reaching the pumps in time! 
Well, my significant other and I went away today and I was driving. Now he is a very aggressive
driver and I am much more cautious so it did not go well. I just dont pass everything in site with one foot on the gas and one on the brake. What a pain to have a passenger like that in the car telling you this and that and I would have been way up there by nowetc. Not much fun. I dont like to drive by the seat of my pants.
We cut back on driving, and the demand dropped.
Goes to show there is no reason for it to be that high anyway. If they think they can charge that much and get it, they will.
I was 18 and driving my Mustang on Main St. listening to the radio.
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I am thinking of driving to another state for a few days by myself to do some sightseeing. Has
anyone that has done this felt lonely on a driving trip by yourself. I have done bus trips and trips overseas with groups when the husband doesnt want to go but never drove by myself unless I was meeting someone I knew somewhere. I just wonder if it would be lonely in a hotel and sightseeing on your own. Any suggestions.
Angel story - Was driving with my kids to Florida from NC (sm)
We always say a prayer before starting on a trip like that, asking for God to send his angels to protect us. My children were about 5 and 8 years old. I got onto the interstate and before getting to the next exit, my car started bumping really bad, like I had a serious flat or something. I pulled over, got out and looked. It looked fine. I got back in, drove some more, a few minutes later, it happened again, much worse, the whole car was shaking - hard - not just like an out of balance car, but seriously shaking, almost like the brakes were on and the car was still trying to move. I took the first exit and saw a repair shop right there! I asked the guy to look at my car - it looked fine. He test drove it. Nothing. He told me it seemed fine, didn't charge me a dime, and I went on my way. A few miles down the road right in front of a rest stop was a huge pile of 2 x 4s and 2 x 4s scattered all over the road. I never had that problem again with my car, ever and never knew what caused it. But I believe that we were being protected by angels from being there when the 2 x 4s started falling, who knows what might have happened.
I totally relate..my daughter AND my mother are driving me insane.
It's funny you should mention Melodie Beattie as I went online today to look for support groups and someone mentioned that book. When I saw the description of "copendency" it fit my daughter..in EVERY category, and I know that I, of course, fell into the "enabler" category. Between my daughter calling 15 times a day and my mother..I am ready to move away and let someone else deal with them for a while. In a way, my mother is like my daughter..she also calls for money. Ironically, she does not like my daughter because of what my daughter has put me through. Funny how she doesn't realize that she does the same thing..emotional manipulation..guilt trips. I just want to be mentally free from them, and for this, I am getting help. They have drug me into depression, along with them. They are both bipolar and I think I am almost there with them, because one minute I feel so happy and positive..and then they call..and I'm depressed. I pray for strength..Thanks for your kind words. I can't help them anymore but I can save myself.
I'm in lower NY state. Driving and parking in the city is atrocious. He
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Question. Do many of you have problems with streets, turns, etc. driving at night in strange areas
you are not familiar with. I am not thrilled by night driving in unfamiliar towns.
Tell me if I am crazy
 There is a man (very good looking I might add) who goes to our church. He is newly single, having been divorced about 3 months. I am single, having been divorced about 4 years. We have known each other since I was about 14 or so. He is about 11 years older than me, which is not a problem (for me anyway) We have a lot in common, having both been single parents, both of us raising only 1 child, boys. I REALLY like him. He is smart, funny and just an all around good guy. He is not perfect, I know that. But he has had some ATROCIOUS luck with women. Ditto me with guys. He has come to church off and on, not steady but from all apperances he is back to stay now.
Question: should I let myself like him? I am kinda shy, and lord knows that I am not Miss Teen USA but I think I am a pretty nice person. He is pretty flirty towards me (in a NICE way) but I am scared that I will run him off if I flirt back but at the same time, I don't want him to think I am a snob.
I have had him fix my computer (he is a computer whiz) and I baked him a cherry pie and that went well. I need all the advice that I can get (prayer would not go amiss either!)
crazy... I would have given her the man I have for nothing
:)
crazy
That is crazy. Any realtor would have NEVER given them the keys until closing!! You have a good case against them. I would definitely call the office and complain to his boss. What happens if they don't show up at closing. You are out whatever they ripped up. WOW!
That's just crazy.
They will be adults some day and never forget how immature he was when they needed him to be a calm leader.
That's crazy!
I would write a letter to the bank and cancel my account with them. That is wrong that they cashed a voided check. Can't fault Wal-Mart for wanting their money, but the bank should be paying that $40, not you! Not saying its right, but the other place probably doesn't look at the mail-in checks very closely but just send them through to the bank. Bottom line, the bank should have caught that.
I think I'm going crazy.
I'm 48 and I was wondering when all that started too. I will get 2 periods, then skip 2, etc, etc. I am mean as a snake sometimes and then can't stop crying other times. I hate this. Sometimes I feel like my head is just going to explode. I've never taken any kind of mood-altering medications, they kind of scare me, same with HRT but geez am I going nuts?
You live where it's cold or warm? Driving gloves? Some nice body scrub/shower gels? nm
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I will pray for you and I would say no you are not crazy
but cautious - which you have to be. I would let him make all the moves and not be afraid to come off as 'snobby' - you have earned the right to be reserved - you are a single mom raising your son and that is your priority. He will respect that - you want to give him a little time anyway - 3 months is not very far out from divorce. Praying! :))
What do you think? I know this may sound crazy, but here goes. sm
I am in my mid 30s and currently having orthodontic treatment done. The doctor is so sweet (great looking too!). I find him staring at me whenever I come in there, unusually so. He's very, very attentive to me when he sees me. Fast forward to yesterday. I paid all of treatment within 3 months using insurance and cash (close to 5,000) and I received a letter today. He told me that he was so impressed with the way I set goals to pay my treatment in such a short time. Then he went on to say he was "looking forward to getting to know me better."
Okay. I was a little shocked. Is this normal? I've never had this happen before. It was a personal, hand written note.
Anyways, just wondering what your thoughts would be on this. He is the kindest, gentlest doctor I've ever been around. But, that's besides the point.
Just wanted to share this with you all. Not really looking for advice. Just thought it  was weird.
Okay - this is going to sound crazy
But if you are an MT and this is MT business - you might consider contacting the AAMT - which is stationed in Modesto, Calif - even if you are not a member you'd think they could be halfway helpful. I'm familiar with the Sacramento area and could tell you places to stay away from there in Stockton and Sacramento but not familiar with Modesto. Sorry and best of luck!!
He would be totally crazy ...
If I kept him in for 2 to 3 months!! We have a large deck and in the one corner of it is a dog house and he has totally torn off the lattice in one whole section (to the dismay of my husband, to put it mildly) because he wants to be with my neighbors dogs.
If I cut this off, it will basically be the entire section of pad right in the middle of the paw which I think would take the brunt of his walking. It is on his back foot.
Eating ice like crazy!?
I'm in a phase of craving cold water and ice like crazy these days. Anybody know what that means, besides perhaps anemia? I was anemic a while back, but got that taken care of and don't see any reason I should be again. I've been cutting back on sugar and dieting a little bit, wondering if that could be it?
Whatch'all think?
SNAP OUT OF IT???? That's crazy . .sm
The people who said that to you don't care about you, and have absolutely no compassion. I took a grieving class at a local hospital when my dad died years ago. It was the best thing I ever did. With a job and very, very young children, it was hard for me to take the time to grieve. Don't push it aside, you need to let the moment hit you and work through it. It's harder to grieve when you push it back. . . Check your local hospital, also, it was an awesome support group and helped tremendously. God Bless You. Don't let ANYONE tell you to snap out of it or get over it. You NEVER "GET OVER IT", you will always, always miss her.
LOL! And they call ME crazy!
 You silly girl!
WOW. Yes what a crazy wedding
Glad you have been demoted to program passer outer. LOL. Butterflies and 65 and 68 years old. CRAZY. Keep us posted about he reception. I am sure that should be a hoot too.
Enjoy yourself. It is almost over. LOL.
BTW - I am going to a wedding Sept 1st. They are going to have a pig roast. How about that?? I am from NJ and never been to a wedding like that before. Should be very exciting. Can't wait.
Exactly why I never go to the crazy sales.
People go insane during the holiday shopping season.
Crazy idea...
In addition to your original idea, mention to your granddaughter that when a big girl goes poop on the potty she can have a Poopy Party. Then, have cupcakes and party hats on hand for the next time she does go on the potty. If you are creative, you could make up a song, etc. Doesn't have to be all out, but the idea of a party might get her attention and cooperation.
After the first time, you would not have to make such a big deal again, but maybe just offer a few Skittles M&Ms, or stickers, etc. to help reinforce the positive aspect of going on the potty.
Just a thought. Good luck.
How to drive them all crazy
I put random numbers and/or letters on the presents not to be revealed until Christmas morning, so no one knows whose is whose. Gives me lots of chuckles year after year!
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