hubby just called our 5 year old a dumba__
Posted By: fill in the blanks on 2008-10-27
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He was in the living room making a fire and my son kept touching things he told him not to and i heard him say, "I said quit touching the wood, dumb__" I came out of the bedroom stomping down the hall and took my son back here with me. I am in tears, I can't believe he would call him that!!!! am i over reacting??
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Hubby called - didn't get one but his friend did
They are going out again next weekend. I know what you mean about the jerky - I love it!! In fact, we are hoping he gets a deer because we were going to make jerky for Christmas gifts!
I have a friend who called me to say her 34 year old son dying
this past week. I was shocked but this is a kid who has never hardly worked, looked to his mother for most things- she is on retirement and sucks the life from her. He is in ICU with cirrhosis, liver and kidney failure, started on dialysis yesterday. He has sat at home, not working, something wrong with all the jobs, but now he did have a girlfriend who worked part-time. My friend tells me he sat on the couch just drinking until he could not get up but continued just drinking, not eating, everything tasted like cardboard, he said. Well you know who was taking him the beer, right? The mother of course. Last Thursday my size 4 girlfriend had to carry her son (who was 60 something lbs) out to her car and rushed him to hospital, he stopped breathing, been on vent since. This is a mother who does the above, gives all she can and runs herself out to help her boys (34 and 34) but she thinks she helps. She has almost helped him into his grave - oh he is still very, very ill and may not make it. BTW, the girlfriend is now at the hospital begging for gas money to go back and forth to see the boyfriend and yet the mother has no real income of her own. She feels like she is an excellent mother also. Really sad to see this and so irritating at the same time as she really does not get it, the damage she is doing (has done).
Vet called before and after surgery, and assistant called this
this afternoon. I cant wait to see her. She has only been gone for 1 day and as one lady stated, the house is empty. Working from home, I have become quite attached to her and her to me. Thanks for all the well wishes and Boo Boo Kitty thanks you too !!
Bigger issue - a 16 year old living withi a 29 year old and liability
Are you still not responsible for him until he is 18, how can he tell you where he will live? Unless he emancipates himself and he does something wrong, can they go against you since you are his mother and legally responsible for him? I worry more about him living with a 29 year old sister rather than returning a house key to me that is a bigger issue.
My 14-year-old is going to be a mother-in-law (so funny) if you google it and 11-year-old daughter
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Won $2,000 on slot machine on New Year's Eve. What a way to start the year. nm
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Set my budget a year in advance, save all year and
nm
What a difference a year makes! Last year, sm
we had the same problem. Fines everywhere for watering.
Paid $60,000 on principal last year and this year
planning on another $30,000 after my taxes paid for the year. We are getting our house paid down very quickly.
55-year old woman has birthday sex with 12-year old
DAYTON - Gloria Murphy gave children celebrating her 55th birthday alcohol and then had sex with a 12-year-old boy at the party on Thursday, Jan. 29, according to police.
The boy got into Murphy’s bed at 5440 Rawlings Drive, where the married woman had sex with her adolescent neighbor, according to police and Montgomery County prosecutors.
Two of the children at the party ran home at about 6 a.m. Jan. 30 and told a parent they saw the boy and woman having sex, according to 911 audio.
The parent then called police at about 6:15 a.m., according to a police report and 911 audio.
Murphy did not force the boy to have sex, but since he is younger than 13, it is considered rape, Lt. Patrick Welsh said. No other children were involved in the sexual encounter, but some other children at the party consumed alcohol, according to police.
A 17-year-old would have the same goals as a 20 year old (sm)
Only the 20 year old is hopefully more responsible and based on what you say about his character, would be a better choice than someone her own age.
I have a 9-year-old son that sounds just like your 10 year old...
Lately he has been so negative about everything...trying to make him have a good summer and whenever I take him somewhere, he is just a brat when we get home...I think they are called tweens at this age...not quite teenagers but have the attitude like one---LOL
We skipped it entirely last year, and THIS year?
This 40-year-old got dumped for a 30-year-old
http://www.gqmagazine.co.uk/CoolNewStuff/Photos.aspx?StoryID=53859
This year will be our 35th year
The first couple years it was literally 5 or 6 times a day every day (more on the weekends). Over time it gradually slowed down (once a day) and over the past few years its been 2 or 3 times a week. Not sure that is average or not. There were times were I felt it was too much and him not enough, then there were times where I wanted it more and he didn't. Guess everyone goes through a phase. I guess because of how long we've been together, now it's just comfortable - nothing exciting about it. Just a routine. I have to make it exciting in my mind and pretend I'm someone else.
I don't know what it is, but you are correct...after awhile the lust and infatuation wears off and you get in a routine. I guess for us it was that we really didn't know each other when we married (we dated for 3 weeks then eloped). Once I got to know him it was too late. Now 35 years later it is just comfort (and amazingly we never once used birth control and never had any kids). My mom still tells me she's amazed at the frequency of our encounters that not even once did I even have a "close call" with getting pregnant.
But 35 years once or twice a week and 3 or 4 times on weekends. Not sure if that is normal.
then what would be 80-100 be called?
Well, I, for one, am not 60 yet tho getting *there*, look 45 (with no procedures/surgery), and my family history is such that they lived long long lives (paternal side)....and I plan on working another 15+ years......
back in the days, 50-75 years ago the elderly then didn't live to ripe very old ages, really.......
what you have is called a
dependency issue- you do not feel well, your hubby has hobbies not at home (could it be another woman or women?), you are not secure. You feel like you have to rely on someone seemingly not there for you.
Well, they just called
and said both were negative. Thank God. What a scare.
So, when your SIL CALLED, what did you tell her?
Your SIL is not a blood relative, but as your brother's WIFE, she is entitled to her inheritance.
When my husband dies, I surely am going one of HIS HEIRS, even if he does not write a testament.
But I will make sure that he writes one and gives ALL TO ME AND MY CHILDREN, nothing to sisters, LIKE YOU!
I am so interested in this, your case, because I hate it when legal heirs are cheated out of their inheritance.
So what did you tell your SIL when she called?
You got your and their inheritance, so give it back to them.
Was it really $ 750.000.-- ?
Give them half of it.
My sister took the whole amount of my mother's money, but AT LEAST she told me about it, later, after she bought her apartment. I forgave her for this, because she told me.
PLEASE STOP MAKING UP EXCUSES AND I REALLY HOPE THAT YOU GET INTO CONTACT WITH HER, YOU CAN IF YOU WANT AND GIVE THEM THEIR MONEY.
Why do they have to be called old
f.... Did you ever stop to think maybe not everyone in life desires to retire? I can retire but want to continue working. It is not always a money thing. Also, when you said appt mixup happened 10 years ago and then you said staff overworked due to rising job cuts, what does the one 10 years ago and relate to each other?
I'm the one who usually gets called, rather than
the main reason is that my brothers & sisters all have *real* jobs, and can afford the long-distance rates. On the other hand, as an MT, I usually can't afford it. But it makes sense, because I'm always here, and it's almost always an okay time to call me.
I also tend not to call people anymore because for some reason, my phone-kharma is truly the WORST! In the past, when I've called friends or relatives at home just to chat and say hi, it just never fails - at the moment I called:
* They were having a huge fight.
* They were having sex.
* A pet just died in the kitchen.
* A relative just died in the living room.
* The house is on fire.
Even worse, if I call their cell, turns out they're:
* In an ambulance racing to the hospital.
* They're on the toilet, or throwing up into it.
* They're in labor.
'Ooops! Did I get you at a bad time?'
Everyone on here has what is called
FREE WILL. No one makes you accept a low paying job, no one makes you sit around with no work, you would have to prove fired because of offshoring. Everyone can turn down a job if they want but apparently the majority here accept what is dished out to them. What you just said does not hold water.
Not everyone knows about why he was not called
MJ when the person made the 911 call, in fact out yesterday heard lady talking on the phone and thought it very disrespectful that the person referred to him not as his real name, she said it twice, why would they not say MJ instead of guy (or gentleman)forgot which one they said. I heard TMZ was first to report first of all. That was who got the first shots of the ambulance leaving the house so maybe they had others checking out, following on motorcycles the ambulance and got the shot that way. There were shots of Princess Diane as she dying in the car after her accident so guess paparizzi (spelling?) most everywhere.
My ex-hubby had it done.
He wasn't too keen on the idea either. He confided later that it was goofy stuff that bothered him--like what happens if there's an earthquake while he's on the table?
Anyway, he was tender for a day or two, but some Tylenol took care of it.
Actually I ended up having a tubal ligation done after we split up. That was pretty easy, too. They did it with a laparoscope, and used silicone squeeze clips on the tubes rather than cutting them. Easy peasy.
My hubby had one at about 46.
DH had anterior cervical laminectomy 2-3 years ago.
It was scary for me, and it was the only time they kept him overnight. They sent him home after rotator cuff and (of course) knee arthroscopy. The bad thing about Friday surgery is that the office isn't open if you have a question that doesn't seem like enough of an emergency to call about. They made DH a hard cervical collar ahead of time. Be sure they give you 2 sets of the cushion inserts for the collar, because you will want to be able to wash and air-dry one, but not have her without one. Do ask about whether she is to sleep with the collar on. Because DH had a plate put in, after the fact we were told that supposedly the collar was just to remind him to be careful, but he was sleeping with it on for about a week, I guess. Getting up and down out of bed was scary, especially because he wanted to sleep on his side. Very scary to get into that position, but once he was in it he could finally sleep. I was appalled how apneic he sounded at night. He always has a little problem, but with the collar on he was having pretty long pauses. He is a big guy and at risk for that anyway. The scariest thing for me when DH had this and the shoulder surgery is that he is 6 foot 2 inches and big. Me? 5 foot 6 inches and average weight. Thank goodness his mom was there for the shoulder surgery, but I think we did it alone for the neck surgery AFTER he stayed one night in the hospital. Oh, and because of the anterior approach, swallowing was hard for quite a while. Speech also was affected, maybe it was with hoarseness? Can't remember. Due to swelling, his throat was not totally normal again for 6 months after surgery.
You might rather be fat but my hubby
cooked some brown rice yesterday with garlic, red and green peppers, Kokoman sauce and other ingredients he just throws together. This was along with some turkey wings with a sauce that I spooned on the rice and cabbage with peppercorns. I cannot find a restaurant that can come close to his cooking. He never tastes and always hopes that I like it. I am 1 lucky girl. He is very mindful of eating healthy and we very seldom have red meat, once in a great while but his lemon chickens, marinated meats and other things make me really disappointed to eat out and then have inferior food. He says I can do the same. No thanks..... I will not shame myself. When he is gone from home (he drives and away) he fixes salads with his own dressings and OMG, I am just sitting here with a smile on my face. I am sure no one can compare with his foods!!
Hubby
I wonder if he is not looking. One of my daughter’s friends is having a birthday party Sunday. His mother drove by our house to drop off an invitation. We both talked for a while. She is a really an attractive lady. She looks like she could probably model swimsuits. Anyway, she had invited me to go jogging with her because I mentioned I was interested in getting into an exercise program. I am 60 pounds overweight. I also mentioned job burnout and told her I had been thinking about getting out of MT and the medical profession totally and going into something else. She told me that there maybe some job openings at the company she works at because they are expanding. She is also the supervisor of the collections/credit department there and told me of all the wonder benefits the company offers and told me that if I decided I wanted a change, she would put in a good word for me. Later I told H that she was nice. DH said, “I think she wants me (him)” I told him he was full of himself. Bad part is, 8 years ago I would have been jealous but now if he did run off with someone else, I think the sweetest revenge for me would be to let the woman keep him and give her full custody of MIL.
hubby
May be you 2 need to spice things up again. Like go out on dates, etc... It sounds like alot of your gyn issues could be effecting the way you look at sex. I would definitely talk to someone about it. May be there is a pill you can take!! :)
My hubby had 1 and did not like
He is a really neat guy and took so much time just cleaning after 1 use. I know some just use time and time again without cleaning but that is just not him, wants his spic and span each and every time.
I have used, my hubby believe it or not
was able to pull off an entire hair 1 time like that. It is really good for sparse hair and it does cover, comes in all colors and different sizes. He was going to a hatless place (because of his hair loss, he wears his hat all the time) but used that day and no one knew. Great stuff!
What would I do without hubby.
I feel guilty, but I didn't think I'd still be working at this age. My mom was a housewife, even though she had a college degree.
ex-hubby
That's funny - I did the same thing, although my son had NO contact with his father from the time he was 3. When he was getting married, (at 26), I asked him if he wanted me to contact his father. He said his "real" father would be there (my now husband who raised him) and that he didn't want some guy who with one squirt was labeled his "father" to be part of his life.
Afterwards, when he called and wanted to contact my son, I got his phone # and told him I'd have my son contact him if he wanted to. My son wouldn't even let me give him the phone #. Another bunch of time went by and he called again - how he keeps getting my phone number is behond me - first he found me in Connecticut, then Colorado and then Texas (he's in NY). This time he accused me of not giving his phone # to my son and I said I tried, but he didn't want it. He didn't believe me, of course, but I then got rid of my regular phone and got Vonage and I haven't heard from him since. But Ive never been sorry that it worked out this way. Serves him right for being a lousy father.
hubby
ONe thing i have learned is men ALWAYS think it is greener on the other side and come crying back because its not. So what if you have gained weight I am sure he has to. Do you believe he is being faithful to you? Maybe this is his way of feeling guilty for something he did while traveling. Try counseling. It worked for us. We all need to leave our hubbys for a week with the kids and ALL our jobs and let them see how tuff it really is. They feel since we work at home we have the freedom to do everything with time left over!! COME ON! I wish you lots of luck. I would tell him if you really loved me you would deal with me the way that I am. Yes I can try to change but is that really the root of the problem here. Sounds like an excuse! Sorry, but being organized and gaining weight should have nothing to do with if he still loves you or not. Tell him didn't he take the same vows as you did "Till death do us part"
My hubby is
incredibly wonderful. We will be married 20 years in October. We renewed our vows at 10 years (Just the 2 of us at a small chapel, well of corse a minister) and for 20 years the children want to be with us. There is a running joke in my family....My parents say that if we ever divorce, he can come "home".
hubby
ago and demanded my husband see his doctor. He went on Prozac and things were oh, so much better for a long, long time. Now he is off the Prozac, as he was tired of the side effects. We are back to the same crap as before, and I am so weary of it. I don't know what to do. I'm praying for wisdom. He just seems like he hates us all, that we are nothing but a pain in the a$$, and we all tread lightly because of his garbage. Unfair. Hugs to you.
That's where I'm from too, and hubby
was born in WV, but his dad moved them to Indiana when my hubby was very little. DH's dad was the first one in the family not to be a coal miner.
Hubby is a big packer fan, which sure makes my dad happy. The Packers are the only team I'll watch. Brett is adorable. I'm glad he has a super wife (since I can't have him :o>).
your hubby
I feel for you... and the signs seem pretty classic from here suggesting that he most likely has another lady. Cell phones may not work "out there" but somewhere along the way he eats, drinks, sleeps, etc and there are pay phones if nothing else. Your acceptance of his excuses give him the room to do as he pleases and his beating you down keeps you from thinking straight/catching him in his own game. Sounds like you need to dry those eyes and open them to take a good look at reality - then deal. It hurts and bites, but until you deal, nothing changes. If you really want to teach your kids about better relationships, show them the strength to stand for what is true and right.
How old is your hubby?
Mine's in his mid 50s. We had the same problem. Doc took a blood test and found very, very low testosterone, put him on replacement, and a month later he's got energy again! not just for sex, either, but work, yard work, repairs. Wonderful stuff, that, if it's used right!
My hubby and I...
still have long, passionate kisses...our kids complain all the time about it...*Geez Mom, Dad...that's sooo gross* We are always touching when we are together, whether it's holding hands, arms around each other, or just my/his hand on his/my leg...you have to keep the fire going or it will most certainly fade!
your hubby/his son
Just wondering what kind of "help" you were asking for from your FIL?
I know you were frustrated but just because he had not yet gotten hold of you doesn't mean he wasn't working something out to be able to help his son.
I remember once my aunt wrote a letter to my grandpa about how she thought he showed a preference for her brother and how upset she was about it. (She had seen her brother at my grandparents' house on a holiday and was so resentful that she had not also been invited.) My grandpa was so hurt by the letter. My aunt had assumed something happened that did not (the brother had just dropped by for an impromptu visit). She let her emotions carry her away, and really hurt her father.
It sounds like part of you might be blaming your FIL for your husband's behavior. That's not good. Your husband has to take full responsibility for his actions and you need to stop making excuses. I have a bipolar brother. He has been battling his problem for 15 years. Sometimes he tries to take his medications and make progress in his life and sometimes he sits and whines about how bad off things are and wants everybody to cater to him. Guess when he gets the best response from his family? Even though your husband has a mental illness, he is still responsible for getting treatment and not making the lives of everyone around him miserable.
If your FIL wants to help his other son, whether or not you think the guy should be hung from the highest tree or not, that is your FIL's decision.
Hubby and I do EVERYTHING sm
around here including remodeling. The only thing I hire out is twice a year I have someone come in and do the heavy spring cleaning because I have some medical problems that keep me from doing it. I can type three hours and pay for it. Matter of fact tomorrow is the day! YEAH.
I would love to be able to afford someone to do alot more of it but can't and hubby wouldn't let somebody else do it if we could afford it! Too picky!
She already told me she called and they said SM
she can't until March because they already had a claim. They would be cancelled if they claimed it. It does cover it, though.
The ones from that site are called - sm
New Lifestyle, the Chocolate and Chocolate Mint are great. Vanilla is okay, Strawberry not so great. I bit the bullet and ordered 2 months worth, in the past I have gotten 2 weeks worth and alternate with Total Soy shake powder which I get at BJs which is the only way to get a good price on these things in bulk. But the NL shakes are only available from that website unfortunately. Cost about the same as Omnifast, Medifast, etc. but from reports taste a whole lot better.
Cats definitely need something called
xx
Update. I called the CPS
It is so hard to do that to your own family but the way she treated those kids is disgraceful. The lady that took the call said that they probably won't remove the kids from the home but they will check out the situtation and give the parents an alternative route to childcare and not to use the grandmother.
That's what they called him on the news!. nm
LOL
don't like being called "ma," too
I correct my son when he calls me that - he is only two. He shifts from "mommy," to "mom," to "ma."
She called just as I was going to post
She called to tell dh that there was no hay seed available at a distant coop or a local coop. I said he found some at a feed store. She said okay. She said she knew he was over at her place but she was too lazy to go over there so that is why she called. She did gab a while to me but the only men she spoke of going out there were men interested in her property, not her. She said some wanted animals but she did not want that because they get out, the jump on her cars. One man wanted to plant like DH is doing but he would have 15 to 20 guys helping him and they would drink and she turned him down. She has 2 young daughters to worry about. She knew dh would do everything himself. I told her, well, he may have me and our two little girls come and bring him cokes or food. She said Great that her girls would love that.
She has known dh for a while. DH and her ex used to be friends. Dh would help her ex care for their animals when they were gone. Her ex tried to get into a business with dh but thank goodness dh turned him down. He was a crook big time. It is a wild wild story about her ex. She did say that she remembers when dh and I were dating that dh would come over, he was so in love with me, talked about me all the time and that he just could not believe he had someone like me. She said she remembered feeling grateful that he was such a great guy and he deserved someone great too.
Well, I have got to go as I was planning on working extra today. I have typed this really fast and have no time to edit so please excuse any typos.
Oh, yes, I remember what they called
winters, years ago, hardly have any now. We have both gas and electricity both here and I just try my best to keep the costs down. I told the people in my home where I moved from they could accept my own budget bils as they were in the 70-80 range, unlike the new home I moved to.
Yes and when she called all females, then
you would have mothers of boys up in arms, calling the teacher biased/racist/feminist/
segregating, whatever- it never ends. If you are having the males and females in class TOGETHER, then you cannot send 1 group out and have chit-chat with the others. If a child goes to all girl school, would not have the problem of talking in front of the boys.
It's Called Christmas!
It's Called Christmas!
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